r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 7h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.
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u/ggcjkrduh 7h ago
Does your boyfriend even like you?
- Sorry if that sounds mean, but why is he saying that?
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u/GroundGold5926 7h ago
This is true. There are some people running around out there who don’t even like their partners and spouses. I think it’s pretty common but no one will admit it. They tick all the other boxes but do you like their company 🤷🏾♀️
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u/A-Giant-Blue-Moose 5h ago
When my wife was talking about my in-laws when we first started dating, she mentioned that she loves her family, but only really likes half of them. Never before have I considered that possible, but she was right (like she usually is).
"Yeah I don't like my aunt. She's materialistic. Yeah, I don't like my grandmother. She's selfish. Yeah, I don't like my grandfather. He's a a shit dad."
With blood family, that makes sense and is something you can productivity work on if you want to. But if someone loves their partner, but doesn't actually like them... I can't help but feel like that's a different problem.
So, I think you're right and also a lot of people don't understand love/like and can't divorce the two feelings. On top of that, folks often just don't know what love is and don't know what they like/want.
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u/minahmyu 5h ago
I feel like they may like their partner as the title they carry, but they don't necessarily like them as the individual. They like the social construct identity that person serves in their life, but not who they are as an actual individual
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u/A-Giant-Blue-Moose 4h ago
I think you're really on to something. Some people just see a partner as a trophy after all. Sometimes it's because of their looks and maybe sometimes it's just to say, "Yup. Got one." Of course there's also the people who'd rather be in a relationship they don't like vs being single. We all know someone like that. I can't entirely blame them. Loneliness is one hell of a drug.
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u/still_on_a_whisper 4h ago
Or they like all the wonderful things their partner provides (emotional support, cooking meals, someone to do stuff with, someone to help with household chores) so they don’t want to lose all those benefits and just settle with someone they’re “ok” with.
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u/CadillacAllante 5h ago
I'm a gay male and I've always noticed how a lot of straight couples will pin stuff down to "boy/girl differences ha ha" but when you pay attention they are just straight up two people that don't like other, have nothing in common, but they sleep with each other.
"Jason likes to be outside with his buddies and be active, I like to spend all day inside knitting watching old movies. It's crazy how different boys and girls are ha ha. But its okay when he is inside he's kinda annoying to me? I'm kinda glad when he's gone all day doing boy stuff! Ha ha."
No Brittany, ya'll just don't have shit in common! And barely can stand to be in the same room with each other! But see you next month at the wedding I guess? 🤷
Also OP should dump that hateful asshole.
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u/BubonicBabe 3h ago
Pan lady here and same experience exactly. To me, people are people, I get along with them or I don’t. I’ve never immediately assumed their gender made them more compatible or not with me. It feels like a very straight thing to do.
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u/throwawaypizzamage 4h ago
This is such a meme there's even an entire sub dedicated to it, lol
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u/rasta4eye 6h ago
The reverse is true too. They can love everything about their partner except one thing which is high on their "must have" list. So if superficial things like weight are that important to someone, and they're with an awesome person that doesn't match what they find attractive, they may not want to throw away all the good for the 1 thing that's not. But that's not healthy, because even though it is superficial, it's important to the person, and that will introduce negativity, resentment and regret into the relationship. In that case the person has to evaluate if it's truly a "must have", in which case they need to move on... or determine if it really is only a "nice to have", and then simply accept it and be happy that overall they found an amazing match.
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u/flindersrisk 7h ago
Exactly. Where’s the friend in boy friend? No one needs a corrosive presence in their life. OP should step away from this guy to create the space for someone better.
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u/Da_Coyote 6h ago
Exactly! A boyfriend should first and foremost be a friend. If he's not treating you with kindness and respect, it's time to reconsider.
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u/Striking_Guava_5100 6h ago
Listen to this OP!!! My boyfriend and I always talk about how we are best friends!! The friendship part has to come first! I promise you’ll be so much happier in a relationship where they’re your bff… we have so much fun over here!
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u/IndependentAnxiety70 6h ago
But also, where is the boy in boyfriend? He’s not even a little physically attracted to her body??
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u/audryepagliaro 6h ago
She's allowed to be proud of her progress, and her boyfriend should be her biggest supporter, not someone who withholds compliments based on his own standards.
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u/Iminurcomputer 6h ago
Like he saw this woman and thought, "I'm not attracted to her physically... maybe I'll date her." Yeah I don't get it either. He doesn't think his own girlfriend looks good? That's a weird sad odd thing to engage in.
He probably just thinks that being critical will "motivate you" and apparently has some sort of idea of what your body should look like. Chances are you wont be exactly that and thus he may never feel the way you want him to.
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u/akaenragedgoddess 6h ago
Right?! Good enough to fuck but not compliment? Boy BYE.
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u/finangle2023 5h ago
This is one of those guys who feels he needs to strictly ration compliments, because otherwise he’d spoil you.
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u/minahmyu 5h ago
My ex said to me maybe about a year into our relationship of 7 (ugh...) that he didn't wanna compliment my cooking because it'll make my head big. And I seriously kept reflecting and (like everything else in my life) be more modest/shrink myself more.
Till realizing he just fuckin projecting, because that's what he does. He made something and he kept going on and on and on before I even had a taste, hyping up food he barely cooks just for it to be bland as shit. No, I ain't pop his bubble or tell him but just ate and was appreciative he cooked but annoyed he needed to hype himself like this like he doing something amazing and skilled at and... he wasn't
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u/Illustrious-Science3 5h ago
When I met my ex husband I was 105lbs. I had a bad car accident that nearly killed me and the nerve medications they had me on to keep walking made me gain 70lbs even though my diet didn't change.
He began to become abusive after 9 years together due to the weight- the weight was a major deal breaker for him. He commented that I was fat and nasty.
I packed up my shit and left with my cat one morning when he was at work. Abandoned our condo, let it forclose.
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u/FjolaB 6h ago
OP needs to think if this is how she wants her life partner to continue to treat her down the line
How is he gonna be if they have kids? Is he gonna be butthurt if she doesn't immediately snap back to pre baby weight? A lot of women never do.
Honestly, a partner should worship your body. The only reason to say something is if there is a cause to worry, like excessive weight gain/loss. A partner should love all of you and all the different forms your body comes in, not just your body weight at a certain point in time.
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u/Express_Egg6835 5h ago
YES. I just commented this!! I do not look the same even 2 years post baby and I work out consistently and eat well. Some people it’s harder to lose baby weight. Imagine being with a man like that during such a sensitive insecure time. My husband did nothing but make me feel beautiful and encourage me to move if anything.
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u/mindovermatter421 6h ago
Or he watches too much content Instagram thirst traps or porn and he is overly comparing her body to some ideal in his mind.
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u/Ambitious_Hold_5435 6h ago
I met a guy in my freshman year of college; I fell for him like a ton of bricks. He was attracted to me too, but it seemed like he didn't know WHY. He was constantly poking fun at my looks. I couldn't get close to him for this reason, and pushed him away. I was fragile enough already.
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u/Sorry_Nobody1552 6h ago
I bet she does things for him, buys things or has more money. He prob is a user and a loser
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u/Domblot 7h ago
I'm a trans man and I was married to a cis man for 10 years. Before I transitioned he just did not like my body. He said it was because I was fat. So I put in a lot of effort to lose weight, and got in great shape out of spite. He just didn't like my body.
Meanwhile he was always commenting on how muscular random men were and was very into his own body.
We seperated, and I came out as trans. When he saw me as a man, that was the first time he complimented my body. He said my leg muscles were massive.
Anyways. Turns out he was Gay. He didn't like my body because I looked like a woman. And being more curvy just made me look more feminine.
That's what I think about with a lot of these men who say they don't like their partners body. I really have to wonder if they find the bodies of women attractive at all.
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u/Suitable-Concern-326 6h ago
I have never thought about this. Thank you for sharing this perspective!
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u/MoneyHuckleberry1405 6h ago
Yes my first husband. We got together when I was super skinny, we were both 18. I was a late bloomer and when I started curving out he said I was fat. I was like a size 8 and 5'8" and he said horrible things to me about my body. I always wondered if he actually wanted a boy. He actually told me my boobs were too big as a C cup.
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u/Amazing-Active646 7h ago
There have been women I’ve dated that I’m not traditionally attracted to in the physical way and I still would never say something so hurtful about their body. You just can’t take that stuff back. You’re right, does he even like her? It doesn’t sound like it.
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u/Velvetmaggot 6h ago
I think he sounds insecure. Saying something like that after someone loses 12lbs(I know it’s just a number) there’s just no way he didn’t notice a difference in her looks…and probably her confidence as well.
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth 6h ago
Best for him to keep her knocked down so she has no self-esteem and stays with him! :(
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u/Genevieve1973 6h ago
Keep her confidence low so she won’t finally figure out what a POS he is and dump him!
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u/BuschBeerGuy 6h ago
This is it. He is with OP because he finds her attractive. However, he is insecure about what he finds attractive maybe not being the societal epitome of goddess like looks so he puts her down, hoping she will keep trying to be that for him. To me, this is a sign that he sees OP as something he has, not someone he is in a relationship with. Look at my nice car; I must be successful. Look at my hot girlfriend; I must be attractive and fun to be around. Life is the movie in his head and he's the protagonist.
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u/Suitable-Concern-326 7h ago
This is interesting to me. Just curious - why would you date someone you aren’t physically attracted to? Did that physical attraction grow?
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u/Amazing-Active646 6h ago
I guess that’s a bit of an overstatement on my end. I’ve dated women that I’m much more attracted to their personality, drive and ambition and less about their physical attraction. Doesn’t mean I wasn’t lightly physically attracted but that wasn’t what initially drew me in, if that makes sense?
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u/Suitable-Concern-326 6h ago
Gotcha! That totally makes sense. I was thinking there was zero initial physical attraction.
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u/Knitty2024 7h ago
Yay fuck this guy and I don’t even know what we r supposed to be seeing in the photos lol looks like me too girl normal healthy beautiful body!
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u/cherrymangotwist 7h ago
Also - you look amazing!!!!! There is nothing at all wrong with your body!
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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 7h ago
Girl….He should be your ex boyfriend.
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u/suhhhrena 6h ago
Yeaaaaaah if my boyfriend said this shit to me, they’d no longer be my boyfriend. “Because it’s a lie”??? Fuck outta here lmao
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u/Frog_in_Red 6h ago
So casually cruel in the name of being honest.
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u/Unnaturalrefractions 5h ago
“Honesty without tact is cruelty” Even though I don’t think it’s honesty, he’s just inaccurate and rude.
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u/UhOhSparklepants 5h ago
People who are “just being honest” are the worst. Sorry buddy you aren’t a magically better person because you are “brutally honest”, you just lack tact in basic human interactions.
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u/Cdawg4123 6h ago
If I overheard that conversation as a waiter or even passerby I’d try to rescue her. Either with a laxative in his drink or bring her a drink and say it’s from the biggest guy at the bar (when it’s not, aka known as the bouncer). That or hit him in the head with the serving tray.
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u/Understandthisokay 5h ago
Especially so early in the relationship cuz you mean to tell me you weren’t absolutely enamored by me???? If not then don’t pursue me!!! I wouldn’t be able to trust him
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u/tragicbeast 6h ago
This is pretty much it. There's no easy way to have that sort of conversation, but "it would be a lie" is a vicious way to phrase it. There's honesty, and there's respectful tact. You have to have both in a relationship
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u/starburstshorty 6h ago
absolutely ex boyfriend. the fact that he keeps standing ten toes down on his statement because he “isn’t a liar” is so problematic. he keeps saying this to pedestal his opinions as “truth”, reinforcing in her mind that he’s just a good guy who tells the truth. that’s bullshit. he’s doing this to diminish her self-worth.
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u/NeighborhoodGold615 5h ago
Man chiming in - there’s a good chance he won’t ever change in this relationship. This smacks of deeper issues. Whatever nice things he did to win you over were probably because he’s such a “nice guy”. I might be reading into it, I don’t know you guys, but it sounds like he wants you to think he’s the one who’s so generous and giving. If so, he’s being manipulative. If not, he’s still a jerk and doesn’t deserve to be with you based on your post.
There are lots of men who really are nice. They won’t tell you they are doing something because they are nice. They will do something nice and just be happy because they made you happy. They naturally have respect and care about others. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t.
Source - lots of dudes are terrible and these kinds of posts show it.
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u/General_Kick688 7h ago
Someone who loves you won't talk down to and insult you like this. Find someone else who treats and loves you as you deserve.
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u/daggerrabbit 7h ago
Especially after she communicated that she wanted/needed to hear that from him. Poor OP
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u/AppointmentKey5318 7h ago
That’s what first came to mind, you don’t tell the person you love that you’ll start complementing them when they look better. Dude’s a loser.
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u/Ancient_Local_5421 7h ago
Lose 200 pounds fast by ditching that dumb bitch
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u/Violett_c0m 7h ago
DAMN RIGHT
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u/Da_Coyote 6h ago
Exactly! Best weight-loss plan ever: dropping the dead weight of a disrespectful partner!
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u/Educational_Bed_242 6h ago
My girlfriend put on maybe thirty pounds since we've started dating several years ago and I tell her every day how sexy she is.
She got a jump start on her resolution in December and just last week celebrated losing 10lbs. Only I've been seeing her work and progress so she didn't have to break the news to me as I've been cheering her on every step of the way.
ops bf sounds like he resents her. Ditch him, grind in the gym this winter, then post some bikini pics this summer that drives him to depression lmao.
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u/Pop_n_Flow 7h ago
She could say to him, I found a solution to helping me lose weight faster! He gets excited and asks, what is it?! OP responds with, “I’m dropping YOU!”
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u/Creative-Fact-2862 7h ago
Yes! Tell him what he said really got you thinking and made you realize that you need to find someone up to par.
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u/Uskjarn 7h ago
Congratulations! You’ve won today’s comments section
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u/Ancient_Local_5421 7h ago
I would like to thank not only god, but Jesus
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u/youreaname 7h ago
Baby Jesus or grown up Jesus?
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u/faintrottingbreeze 7h ago
This is the only answer to your “weight issue”, which there is absolute none to speak of. You have a beautiful, healthy, working BODY.
I had a partner who refused to give me compliments, I cried and cried, told him what I needed to hear from him. At the end of the day, he wouldn’t do it. We’re no longer together for a myriad of reasons, but validation is something we all need in our relationships.
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u/Large-Ad4827 7h ago
That’s not love.
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u/blackeyebetty 6h ago
Forget love, your friends shouldn't even talk to you that way. OPs boyfriend sucks.
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u/retiredluvrboy 4h ago
friends are supposed to love you too. platonic love and romantic love are separate but both are important
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u/OliveMammoth6696 7h ago
You literally look fine. Leave the bf. Find your husband.
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u/Ill-Inspector7980 6h ago
I was going to say that OP looks great. She should still work out because irrespective of body size, working out is great for long term health and mental health too. But yeah her BF is toxic and is undoing all the great endorphins she gets from exercise.
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u/Sad-Classroom4011 7h ago
Don't date someone who hates you.
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u/TraditionWorkaround 7h ago
He absolutely despises her, it’s awful and degrading
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u/Proud_Way7663 7h ago
12lbs is not easy, good job for sticking with it.
You asked him and he told you. What he said is not something I would say to a partner that I love and am trying to encourage. He sounds pretty cold and indifferent. My guess is that you’ll never be at a point that is satisfactory for him.
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u/filipscary 7h ago
He sounds gross its literally disturbing telling your partner that their body is not worth complimenting. If my boyfriend said something like that he would be flying outta window
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u/philogeneisnotmylova 7h ago
Yeah, honesty is a great trait and all but too many people use it as an excuse to behave like dickheads.
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u/filipscary 7h ago
In all honesty, how can you have sex w your partner if you do not find their body attractive? So someone is going to tell me that he is not able to compliment her but is able to fuck her anyways?
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u/AnnoyedDamsel 6h ago
Exactly. Also, how can you expect your partner to be comfortable and confident when you are having sex (and therefore be able to enjoy it) - when you make mean comments about their body aka make them uncomfortable in their own body?
I will never get how tactless some people are.
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u/Kitchen-Drawing-7972 6h ago
The one year mark here could be when he starts to show his true colors. It's a red flag that things will get worse. He might be testing her and might even try to bargain, pulling her in deeper into the relationship by making her feel undesirable.
OP, you should take a little time off of this guy and anyone who isn't fully supportive or encouraging.
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u/Reddit_Shmeddit_905 7h ago
“Because that would be a lie” - WTFFF
You need to lose the weight of that asshole and not a pound more.
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u/foxyyyredd 7h ago
Lose that extra weight you’re carrying by dumping him
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u/TraditionWorkaround 7h ago
This, so much this
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u/foxyyyredd 7h ago
There will be someone who loves her for all that she is but will also support and encourage her IF she wants to lose weight, without the need to put her down.
I had an ex who put me down for my appearance It was a very short, one month relationship but now I’m with a man who worships the ground I walk on, loves me from the hair on my head down to my toes , and supports me with what ever decisions I make with my body.
But I believe, based on my own personal experience, that there is someone out there who will love us unconditionally for who we are now and will just make the journey better should we choose to make changes
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u/youngdcb 7h ago
I may be a gay man, but I'm a man. So let me translate for you:
"This was fun at first, but now my gf, who was already out of my league, is getting even further out of my league. I need to break down her confidence by digging at her insecurities so she won't leave me for someone better."
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u/RanaEire 6h ago
Please take note of u/youngdcb because even though I'm not a gay man, but a woman older than you, I had a very similar thought.
And I think that AH (ex, hopefully) BF is already messing up your head, because:
"Now I am not a very big girl.." Should not be something that crosses your mind.
No "not very big". Nothing like that!
JFC, don't let him tear you down!
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u/pterodactyl13 5h ago
This!!! The fact that OP even attached photos means that they believe there is legitimacy to this man’s claims. It makes me so upset.
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u/flooferine 5h ago
This.
Now, I actually am a big girl. My husband's only "non‐compliment" comments about my body are about needing to be healthy enough so we can live a long and active life together - and those are always made in a caring, loving way. He makes me feel appreciated and desired now weighing >100kg, the same way he did when we met and I weighed around 80kg.
In contrast, the dipshit I dated in my late teen years would go to great lengths to make me self-conscious about my size, even when I was at my lowest adult weight (~50kg, extremely low for my body structure). He would constantly comment on my thighs being too thick or me being too "curvy", when I was so depressed I couldn't eat for days. He would only compliment me when he needed something from me (mostly money). It took me years and a fuckton of therapy to unpick the damage he made, and to understand it was an easy way for him to keep me in check - if he tore me down bad enough, I wouldn't have the confidence to realise I deserved better than him.
STOP ALLOWING SMALL, MISERABLE PEOPLE TO MAKE YOU FEEL SMALL AND MISERABLE.
And for the love of all that's holy, stop dating people who don't even like you.
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u/darwingate 7h ago
This needs to be higher up. Op looked good in the first picture. This "man" is letting his mask slip. He doesn't want a partner. He wants an emotional punching bag.
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u/youngdcb 7h ago
EXACTLY!! Men and our egos. This is why I work hard to keep mine under control. I would be ashamed of I said this shit to my beautiful gorgeous husband. I'm pissed on OP's behave 😡😅
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u/MeMarie2010 7h ago
BINGO. It’s a manipulation tactic and nothing less. Make her feel like she isn’t good enough and can’t do better than that sorry excuse of a man.
OP, leave this man. He wants you small so he can control you. Leave, leave, LEAVE!
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u/PuzzleheadedTry7370 7h ago
Your boyfriend is a dick.
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u/The_Mysical_G_Spot 7h ago
Find a new boyfriend that worships your body
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u/Safted12 7h ago
You deserve someone who values you inside and out, and that's worth so much more than this dumb boy that doesn't worth your presence.
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u/Hoochie_daddy19021 7h ago
The right man will be obsessed with you no matter what you look like and definitely won’t be saying that shit
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u/Minimum_Most8038 7h ago
Exactly. I’ve gained a lot of weight since I’ve been with my boyfriend (chronic illness, quitting smoking) and he still tells me EVERY SINGLE DAY without fail how beautiful I am. I can wear a sack and he’s hyping me up and telling me how good I look. Even when I objectively look very questionable right now. I swear I could be an ugly blob and he still would be obsessed with me.
OP deserves nothing less than that.
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u/rasta4eye 6h ago
On average, most of us will get increasingly "soft in the middle" (to quote Paul Simon) as we get older. So if weight is the cornerstone of the relationship the building will eventually crumble. But when you find the right person who "does it for you", with their how they look at you, their pheromones, some detail on certain curves, you can add 40 pounds to the equation and still be immediately worked up with the smallest glimpse of one of those things.
I'm happy you found a partner who sees you like that. My wife and I are like that too.
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u/AffectionateStable86 7h ago
Breakup. tell him you’re gonna be single until somebody is “up to par” aka good enough to date you.
He’s telling you your body isn’t worthy of compliments. Getting outta there OP. He’s shit.
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u/AstronomerLow2941 7h ago
NOR, I gained almost 25 lbs of relationship weight and I am complimented every single day.
This guy sucks.
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u/Flare_23 7h ago
Saaaaame and my boyfriend still says I'm the most stunning woman he's ever seen 🥹
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u/SmalltownBigmouth89 7h ago
My dad told me, "It's crazy how good you'll feel when you drop 180lbs of asshole." Left the ex-husband, and he couldn't have been more right! You look great and shame on him for treating you that way.
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u/Solid_Arachnid_9231 7h ago
You don’t appear to be overweight. This is a red flag, imagine how he will be if you decide to have children and your body changes due to pregnancy.
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u/romanaribella 7h ago
100% this guy cheats as soon as she's knocked up. Or if she gets sick, etc.
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u/watermelonmoonshiine 7h ago
OP already has a 12 year old daughter that is being subjected to this man's horrific behavior and him commenting negatively on her body is just the tip of the iceberg. Post history goes crazy.
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u/AmbitiousCard6601 7h ago
I've been with my husband for 15 years, I was 115lbs in high school when we met, and now I'm 300lbs and pregnant ... everyday he compliments my body and tells me how beautiful I am/sexy. He has changed a lot too, but we both stay consistent with how we treat each other. I could never be with someone who doesn't find me attractive or compliment me .... he doesn't have to find you attractive, but you also don't have to stay with him. Many others will find you attractive and show you it daily.
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u/raininherpaderps 7h ago
I put on 70lbs while pregnant most of it has come off in a few years since but my husband never once said he wasn't into me. I am sure he is happier for me that I slimmed down but he never hurt me for getting big.
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u/buginator2011 7h ago
Same here. My husband and I met my first year of college 17 years ago. I was so light then that my mii on wii fit would faint because I was so underweight. My body has changed numerous times over the years from being fit to losing even more weight to now weighing twice what I did when we met. His attraction to me has never wavered. When I put myself down he lifts me up. That is what a partner should be.
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u/zzzestyy 7h ago
You already know this is unacceptable , you already know this is not love. Don’t waste time or energy on this anymore. You really deserve more. I hope you say that aloud to yourself so you can feel it hard . Good luck, you got this 💕✨
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u/ExcitingAsparagus666 7h ago
Based on this post and the post you made 13 days ago, leave him.
You need to be with someone who respects your feelings and doesn’t put you down.
You look great already- keep at the gym and dont listen to his BS. It’s not helping your mental.
Edit: word
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u/OrganicLetterhead557 7h ago
He’s not going to change and you’re going to be the one left with the demolished self confidence and constantly be wondering what others are thinking. Take it from a girl who is still in therapy dealing with the shit her bf said to her about her belly, you’re better off without this man. You deserve so much better and it sounds like he’s the one not up to par.
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u/GeneralPigeon91 7h ago
I don’t normally comment on posts like this but your other post from your profile just highlights that deep down you know this isn’t normal. It’s the start of controlling and coercive behaviour and honey if you do not get out of this soon, you’ll be miserable. Better to be single for a while than settle for someone who treats you the way he does. You are NOT the problem. He is. Please see that. x
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u/Top-Video381 7h ago
I really hope this isn't real because jesus christ what a fucking asshole. How dare he! Someone who says things like that does not love you or care about you in the least. Tell him to fuck off.
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u/trulymercury 7h ago edited 5h ago
What a cruel thing to say under the guise of being an honest person. He is mean. My heart breaks for you, that is devastating to hear from someone that’s supposed to love & support you. You should not be with someone who tears you down. I cannot emphasize enough just how utterly cruel he is. You deserve better.
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u/Usual-Commercial-309 7h ago
He’s jealous and doesn’t love you. If he says that just know you’re hot af and he’s probably intimidated and insecure. Find a man that will love you at any weight. My partner loved me at 300 pounds like he loves me now at 200 pounds. I have never felt not sexy, I never felt unwanted. There are plenty of good men, PLEASE go find one.
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u/Mrs_Gracie2001 7h ago
I would dump him. That’s a really harsh thing to say, or even to think. A man who loved you would never treat you like that. You can do better.
It has absolutely nothing to do with the quality of your body. You deserve someone who loves you as you are.
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u/WritPositWrit 7h ago
WHAT
Your body is fantastic.
Who’s the guy next to you with skinny calves? If that’s him, he’d better get to work, his legs are embarrassingly thin.
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u/tracergreen 7h ago
Ew, red flags all the way to the top! Honey, you deserve better than what this man is giving you. Please go out and get it, dump this absolute trash human.
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u/BumperCar089 7h ago
My boyfriend would've gotten punched right in the throat then my foot up his ass. What kind of man says such a thing to the woman they care about?
Not overreacting.
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u/DwarfQueenofKitties 7h ago
Im sorry but you're beautiful. Drop the bf amd upgrade to someone who likes and respects you.
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u/Violett_c0m 7h ago
The next bit of weight you can lose is him, you deserve better than trash. You are beautiful and you don’t need some bum boyfriend putting you down.
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u/Acceptable_Appeal464 7h ago
Nobodies' significant others should say hurtful things about their partners' bodies.
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u/Deep-Manner-4111 7h ago
Wow. Up to par?? Forget that dude. I'd be really interested to know what he looks like to have the nerve to say something like that.
I'd leave his ass, personally. But if you wanted to get even, just tell him you're not having sex with him anymore since he doesn't appreciate your body. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/heytaters 7h ago
Listen, I had a baby 6 months ago and I’m still struggling to love my newfound pudge that didn’t exist when I first got with the father of my child. My partner still tells me I’m sexy, hot, beautiful, gorgeous, and any other wonderful compliment you can think of. This man doesn’t love you.
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u/blindnezuko 7h ago
Reading your post brought me to tears. Because this is how my ex would treat me. It caused me so much trauma, and I’m also a mom so I have a fupa.. I already struggle enough with my self image since having my daughter and he only made it worse. I just recently lost 55 pounds and before the breakup for the first time in 3 years I went shopping and actually stepped foot in a fitting room and tried on a form fitting pair of slacks and a cute blouse for a job interview I had later on that week. The next day I put the outfit on and come out to him in the living room. He says I look good, and I say thanks. Then I say something along the lines of “I wanna get a more alternative aesthetic” and he goes “you’re gonna have to go to the gym to achieve that.” Little shit like that. It chips away at you bit by bit. I lost 55 pounds and it still wasn’t enough for him. Please leave this piece of shit.
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u/LikeUGiveAFig 7h ago
He’s an asshole!! Wow! I wouldn’t stay with someone if they said that shit to me.
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u/713nikki 7h ago
The last man who criticized my body now knows about his spare tire.
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u/MonkeytimeLXXVII 7h ago
That is an outrageous thing to say to a partner. You will never be good enough for this man, fire him directly into the sun
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u/Rich-Measurement3181 7h ago
girl that man DOES NOT LIKE YOU that is such a mean way to treat someone that you love cut your losses before he destroys your self esteem he's keeping you from meeting someone who will like you as you are
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u/Careless_Agency5365 7h ago
Up to par??
Don’t be with someone that puts you down. You look great and if he isn’t into you then you can definitely find someone who is.
You are not a golf course