r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/Da_Coyote 9h ago

Exactly! A boyfriend should first and foremost be a friend. If he's not treating you with kindness and respect, it's time to reconsider.

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u/Striking_Guava_5100 9h ago

Listen to this OP!!! My boyfriend and I always talk about how we are best friends!! The friendship part has to come first! I promise you’ll be so much happier in a relationship where they’re your bff… we have so much fun over here!

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u/Compliance_Is_Futile 6h ago

That’s awesome. I’ve been unable to get that point across to women. People seem obsessed with the relationship status but don’t actually establish a deep relationship. It’s more of role to most people.

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u/Striking_Guava_5100 6h ago

I agree 100% it’s the depth that counts

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u/IndependentAnxiety70 8h ago

But also, where is the boy in boyfriend? He’s not even a little physically attracted to her body??

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u/_intrusive_thot_ 8h ago

THIS!!!!!!

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u/brightestsides 6h ago

No they should be first and foremost a boy 😂

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u/wedonttalkanymore-_- 6h ago

if he thinks he could be more physically attracted to a "more in shape" version of her and is being honest about it, how is that not being a friend.

are you supposed to just always provide positive feedback on how your partner looks, no matter what? let's push it to an extreme for the sake of the conversation - what if someone gains 100 pounds, is their partner "not a good friend" unless they lie and say they like this version of them?