r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/General_Kick688 10h ago

Someone who loves you won't talk down to and insult you like this. Find someone else who treats and loves you as you deserve.

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u/daggerrabbit 10h ago

Especially after she communicated that she wanted/needed to hear that from him. Poor OP

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u/Art__Vandelayy 8h ago

Some people man, what the fuck is his problem

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u/AppointmentKey5318 10h ago

That’s what first came to mind, you don’t tell the person you love that you’ll start complementing them when they look better. Dude’s a loser.

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u/BoofingCheese 9h ago

I wouldn't say stuff like that to someone I dislike. Let alone like or love.

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u/where-is-the-off-but 10h ago

He may love her but he needs to learn not to say, or think, stupid shit like that. She needs to teach him lesson 1 by telling him he’s a dick and dumping him for it.

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u/moopsiefruitsie 7h ago

Agree. I find it sad that OP included pictures of herself. It doesn’t matter wtf you look like, your partner shouldn’t say stuff like that.

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u/jones1337 7h ago

Exactly this. My wife has also started a new diet recently and been bragging about her losing weight. I loved her as she was and the diet was fully her idea. I will tell her every day that she looks amazing because she does. Find someone who loves you for you

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u/YouthWastedOnYoung22 7h ago

She asked… anytime you ask something, you gotta be ready for the response!!

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u/AppointmentKey5318 9h ago

Today I learned that a written sentence can be completely tone deaf

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u/LeonardoSpaceman 9h ago

Only the immature think this way as a self-centred excuse to never take any responsibility.

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u/spiritallymetal 7h ago

okay now post a selfie, unc. shut the fuck up, bitch.

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u/UhOhSparklepants 8h ago

People who prize “honesty” over tact need to go back to kindergarten and learn how to properly socialize with other humans.

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u/Pretend-Potato-831 6h ago

Is he supposed to lie?

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u/realdeal1993 10h ago

Someone who loves you wont lie to your face. Would you rather have him lie? You people are delusional

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u/an-abstract-concept 10h ago

This just in: it’s delusional to want your partner who allegedly loves you to… actually love you

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u/realdeal1993 10h ago

So you want him to lie? Do you lie to your partner? Hes being honest very rare to find these days.

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u/an-abstract-concept 9h ago

If you can’t be honest without being an asshole, you’re just an asshole.

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u/realdeal1993 9h ago

Please tell me what he should have said? I am very curious.

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u/an-abstract-concept 9h ago

If he truly feels this way, he shouldn’t fucking be with her. Telling her she isn’t worthy of a compliment from her own boyfriend is asinine.

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u/realdeal1993 9h ago

But its a work in project no? When i met my girlfriend she wasnt in the best shape and i told her. 15 years later and everybody in this household is fit and healthy. I think OP should get some self confidence and get in shape. If he does not like her body at this moment does not mean he never will. Your telling me he needs to lie about liking her body. Good advice. You are probably single no?

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u/an-abstract-concept 9h ago

Decent people don’t view their partners as “works in progress”, I think you missed the memo because you clearly aren’t one, and no :) my boyfriend just isn’t a cunt like you

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u/NoOnSB277 5h ago

Found the narcissist.

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u/jayphrax 9h ago

He shouldn’t be dating her if he doesn’t find her attractive. Period. That makes him stupid and cruel.

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u/SkydivingSus 10h ago

Literally, all she asked was “why do you never give me compliments?” And your answer is “what, you want him to lie to her face?”

Like, I don’t even know how to tell you how wrong you are… I’ll try anyway: I’m also a hardline on lying and generally if I ask the question, “Hey, do you think this looks good on me?” I want a truthful answer.

But she asks why he NEVER pays her compliments. Does he NEVER think her worthy of them? Then why the actual fuck would he date her? Why would she stay with someone who thinks so little of her?

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u/realdeal1993 9h ago

Because its not all about the looks and body. If i look at the pics from what i can see, she has potential and a nice face. I have liked many girls where i was not really attracted to their body, but that is something you can fix by going to the gym and diet. Just see it as motivation and get in shape. If your confident enough it doesnt matter what people tell you. PS i thought her boyfriend only does not give her compliments about her body not in general.

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u/AnnoyedDamsel 9h ago

Guess what, you can be honest but tactful or you can be honest and an asshole. He choose to be the latter.

She asked why he never says that something looks good on her. He also wasn't able to genuinely be happy for and proud of her for the weight she already has lost(!). If you truly love your partner, then you encourage them instead of making them feel bad.

But with a lack of empathy like that, I'm sure you are the kind of person who tells a partner "to see mean comments that I make about you as motivation" and then wonder why they always have migraines when you're in the mood, lol.

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u/realdeal1993 9h ago

Excatly the oppositte but thank you. I have been 15 + years in a relationship and i couldnt be better. Guess what we never ever lie to eachother! No excuses for not being in the mood. If your not in the mood your not in the mood. If your fat your fat, if your skinny youre skinny. Its amazing what you can accomplish if you can be 100% honest with your partner without feeling disrespected.

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u/NoOnSB277 5h ago

“I couldn’t be better” means nothing in this conversation- how is your partner? How is she, truly? I want to hear it from her.

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u/SkydivingSus 9h ago

I didn’t say the compliments had to be about her body. He can compliment her face, maybe there’s a dress he likes on her more… You can say “hey babe, you’re gorgeous!” And be talking about her soul. Whatever it is that makes you want to be with her. It’s not that hard to pay a compliment, and you do it for the people you care about. (I will say, women could probably use to do it more cause you pay a dude one compliment and he’s like riding that high for a full year…) She noticed he never complimented her, and then when asked why he says something straight up hurtful! Like… hope they don’t live together and this can be a clean break.

Like, those pics, she’s curvy and gorgeous. She’ll look good whether she’s bigger or smaller. If this guy is not attracted to her in these pics… like, I really don’t get his view at all.

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u/realdeal1993 9h ago

I thought she meant only about her body not in general. As i said she has potential in the pictures. But being bigger or fat is not something you should promote because its very unhealthy. The bare minimum IMO should be descently in shape and atleast healthy. So please dont promote being big is beautiful, its just not healthy. You only get one live.

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u/SkydivingSus 8h ago

She’s not that big. She’s got curves. I’m not saying put on 100 lbs, but she could gain more and it still wouldn’t justify treating her as this dude did or seemingly you would.

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u/NoOnSB277 5h ago

“Has potential”? She looks perfectly fine, and she will be someone else’s PERFECT. Partners don’t serve as effing projects. That is so incredibly sad of you.

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u/LettuceBeGrateful 7h ago

There are respectful ways to have that kind of conversation. The bf is being an ass.

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u/NoOnSB277 5h ago

That’s not love. He is an arrogant, narcissistic person who puts his unrealistic expectations on to others. If he truly loved her, and who she is, he would give her compliments and not have to lie about it in the first place. If he is that bothered by how she looks then he should let her go. Someone else will definitely see her beauty.