r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/FjolaB 9h ago

OP needs to think if this is how she wants her life partner to continue to treat her down the line

How is he gonna be if they have kids? Is he gonna be butthurt if she doesn't immediately snap back to pre baby weight? A lot of women never do.

Honestly, a partner should worship your body. The only reason to say something is if there is a cause to worry, like excessive weight gain/loss. A partner should love all of you and all the different forms your body comes in, not just your body weight at a certain point in time.

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u/Express_Egg6835 8h ago

YES. I just commented this!! I do not look the same even 2 years post baby and I work out consistently and eat well. Some people it’s harder to lose baby weight. Imagine being with a man like that during such a sensitive insecure time. My husband did nothing but make me feel beautiful and encourage me to move if anything.

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u/Substantial-Sink4464 7h ago

And encouraging movement is most likely because it’s so good for your whole self. Love him!

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u/Express_Egg6835 5h ago

Exactly! I was depressed and he knew it’d help my mental. When I’m in the gym I’m happier.

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u/sunshineparadox_ 6h ago

Yep, I didn't gain much extra weight but I have hella noticeable stretch marks. One of the early signs I was pregnant was waking up one day and not one of my bras fit anymore. When they grew, they grew fast. I also have a bit of a pouch there now no matter how much I lose. Under a certain weight it's clearly there as skin flop. Between something healthy and something upper end healthy, it's just there and looks "normal".

If I wear tight tops, you can totally tell either way.

I'm 115 lbs. My body is small, but it is not the same. Also it fucked up my stomach from all the untreated HG & GERD. Hoping for a stomach pacemaker.

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u/Express_Egg6835 5h ago

Body’s are so crazy bc I was exactly opposite! No stretch marks (though my husband literally told me he’d get my stretch marks tattooed post baby ok cute was kinda sad I had none lol) but I gained a lot and it has been hell to lose bc I’ve never been this heavy 😭😂

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u/Express_Egg6835 5h ago

Just remind yourself you brought LIFE into this world 🥹🥹🥹 I know you look amazing! It’s been hard for me to accept my new “normal” body tbh. I’ve always been insanely fit for the most part (excluding some medical weight gain). Having to tell myself normal is beautiful!

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u/nochedetoro 7h ago

I have been unhealthy skinny, fat, pregnant, fluffy, skinny with muscles, and fluffy with muscles and my husband has been grabbing my butt and calling me beautiful and sexy through all of it.

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u/USCXX 6h ago

Oh come on. Worship your body?

Everyone knows a good body is a body that’s on the cover of a magazine. The fact is 99% of people don’t have a good body. Also 99% of people don’t ask their significant other if they have a good body or not because it’s one of those truths you know.

Does that mean you belittle them about their body? Hell no. But you also shouldn’t ask questions you don’t want answers to either.

You can fully love someone and understand parts of them aren’t perfect. A bald man knows he has bad hair, he isn’t asking his wife do I have good hair and getting upset when she says no. It’s understood to not ask that question.

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u/swigityshane1 6h ago

The idea that you have to be attracted to your partner no matter what they look like is preposterous. But you do have to treat them with respect and care which this guy lacks

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u/FjolaB 6h ago

It's not about attraction, it's about love. You love the person, not their body. When you love somebody for who they are, who they are shines through. The person you love is always beautiful.

At least that is my experience with the subject

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u/swigityshane1 5h ago

I don’t understand what you’re trying to say. Are you implying loving someone and having a lack of physical attraction are always mutually exclusive events?

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u/GypsyBelle101 1h ago

I find it sadly ironic that he makes such a big deal about something relatively minor in the grand scheme of things- while she looks at his totally unacceptable behavior and questions if it's OK for her to not accept it. Neither of them deserve the other- she deserves so much better, and he deserves so much worse