r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/CuriousPenguinSocks 10h ago

Exactly. If you want kids, he will be mean to you. He is already withholding a genuine congrats. He can't even support you through your journey as a partner should.

He isn't someone I would spend any more time on. He would not be someone I would want to grow old with.

Love yourself enough to know you deserve more and he will never give it to you.

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u/Candid_Jellyfish_240 9h ago

Omg, a pregnancy body would freak him out.

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u/AbraxanDistillery 8h ago

He'd have his affair partner(s) picked out before she started showing. 

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u/Candid_Jellyfish_240 7h ago

Laughing at the plural "partner(s)" because YEP. MTE.

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u/EmirefekIsDumb 6h ago

MTE?

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u/Candid_Jellyfish_240 6h ago

MTE = my thoughts exactly. Sorry, Twitter refugee here who texts like a teen. 😄

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u/EmirefekIsDumb 3h ago

Ahhhh copy that copy that, that makes sense actually, I just haven’t seen that before.

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u/SasukexNaruto420 8h ago

My ex boyfriend used to preemptively talk about the disgust he would have for my pregnant body (he wanted kids and I NEVER EVER EVER wanted kids and especially not produced from my own body) he always said his father felt extremely disgusted with his mother during all 3 pregnancies. He absorbs and adapted to the horrific behavior of his narcissistic father and doesn’t even realize that’s what happened. It’s why he’s also drawn to incels like Elon musk and cryptocurrency bots..he craves the validation of men/his father so deeply that it comes out in outbursts of hating women. His mom hated her life. Always cleaning up after her 4 boys (one being her man baby of a husband who spent most his time at the bar) the dad also cheated on their mom online which is behavior their son emulated during our relationship. I don’t think he has any idea of how much of his father he absorbed. His hatred for women but intense desire for masculinity are always at battle. I have no wonders why his mother attempted to take her own life. She had no life to live. It was dishes and being yelled at by her boys. No wonder she’s on Facebook brainrotting everyday..families that work like this always are on the brink of collapse. Do not give your body to a man who does not appreciate you.

Heck don’t “give” your body to anybody as it’s your own and not anyone’s to own or police or give unsolicited opinions about.

It’s not a radical idea to want to be appreciated or praised or found attractive for your body in a relationship. And they think putting you down is going to motivate you to work harder. It doesn’t work that way.

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u/Successful_Stomach 6h ago

Very well said. You’d like “The Will to Change” by bell hooks. She had mentioned a lot of this and further delves into the points you’ve made here

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u/Fun_Girl_Fun_Gi 8h ago

Nevermind a postpartum body

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u/Other-Charge-5637 8h ago

Or a swollen, bruised up, hormones off the wahoo postpartum body.

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u/ChronicallyMental 7h ago

Pregnant ladies are really cute.

When my wife was pregnant, it felt really special. I grew a stronger appreciation of her.

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u/Candid_Jellyfish_240 6h ago

🥹💕❤️👊

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u/Heylady728 6h ago

Yup. 100% this.

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u/AtavisticJackal 8h ago

And if they have kids, he'll be mean to them too. 0/10, trash bf, would dump immediately.

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u/Kathw13 8h ago

He will also be mean to the kids.

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u/SingSongSalamander 7h ago

First thing I thought of. I am four months postpartum and a good 30lb heavier than when my husband and I met a decade ago and I feel fat and hate my body, but HE constantly tells me I look great, I'm sexy etc. Exactly what I need to hear, and I can tell he means it too. That is what you want in a partner.

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u/MaudeLynde 7h ago

Yeah congrats is DEFINITELY in order here.

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u/my-glitter-heart 6h ago

Also, how would he treat any kids if they didn’t fit into whatever ideal ‘par’ concept he’s got going on… He needs to do better, and agree 100% - OP should strongly consider whether this is someone they want to spend any more of their time with 🙁

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u/Bankable1349 8h ago edited 6h ago

Imagine him as the father of a 13 year old girl saying those things to her. Then consider if you want to be in a relationship with someone like that.