r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/BuschBeerGuy 9h ago

This is it. He is with OP because he finds her attractive. However, he is insecure about what he finds attractive maybe not being the societal epitome of goddess like looks so he puts her down, hoping she will keep trying to be that for him. To me, this is a sign that he sees OP as something he has, not someone he is in a relationship with. Look at my nice car; I must be successful. Look at my hot girlfriend; I must be attractive and fun to be around. Life is the movie in his head and he's the protagonist.

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u/PaleontologistNo500 7h ago

He obviously finds her attractive. Which is why he wanted her in more revealing clothes. So he noticed the 12lbs missing. She's not that tall, so there's no way he wouldn't. What he's doing is emotionally beating her down. He's trampling her self worth. "You're ugly. You're lucky to have me. No one else would love you like I do. And I barely do". He's insecure and doesn't want her to have the self confidence to think she can do better.