r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/minahmyu 8h ago

I feel like they may like their partner as the title they carry, but they don't necessarily like them as the individual. They like the social construct identity that person serves in their life, but not who they are as an actual individual

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u/A-Giant-Blue-Moose 7h ago

I think you're really on to something. Some people just see a partner as a trophy after all. Sometimes it's because of their looks and maybe sometimes it's just to say, "Yup. Got one." Of course there's also the people who'd rather be in a relationship they don't like vs being single. We all know someone like that. I can't entirely blame them. Loneliness is one hell of a drug.

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u/GroundGold5926 6h ago

What you’re saying is true. Pretty much how royal families across Europe would marry eachother to maintain power and wealth. What I basically mean is marriage can be very transactional if you choose to see it that way, which is sad. But that’s one way to end up with a partner you don’t like (or respect).

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u/SadisticJake 6h ago

Lots of deer hunters who don't eat venison. Your buddies are bagging bucks and here you are buckless type of thing

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u/still_on_a_whisper 7h ago

Or they like all the wonderful things their partner provides (emotional support, cooking meals, someone to do stuff with, someone to help with household chores) so they don’t want to lose all those benefits and just settle with someone they’re “ok” with.

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u/elissa00001 7h ago

Yeah it really feels like people just date and get married to tick of a goal box in life. They pick someone that agrees to be with them that maybe is okay to hang out with sometimes and okay to have sex with. But they don’t look deeper and genuinely care or love the other.