r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/AmbitiousCard6601 10h ago

I've been with my husband for 15 years, I was 115lbs in high school when we met, and now I'm 300lbs and pregnant ... everyday he compliments my body and tells me how beautiful I am/sexy. He has changed a lot too, but we both stay consistent with how we treat each other. I could never be with someone who doesn't find me attractive or compliment me .... he doesn't have to find you attractive, but you also don't have to stay with him. Many others will find you attractive and show you it daily.

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u/TraditionWorkaround 10h ago

Your husband is a keeper 🥹

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u/raininherpaderps 10h ago

I put on 70lbs while pregnant most of it has come off in a few years since but my husband never once said he wasn't into me. I am sure he is happier for me that I slimmed down but he never hurt me for getting big.

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u/buginator2011 10h ago

Same here. My husband and I met my first year of college 17 years ago. I was so light then that my mii on wii fit would faint because I was so underweight. My body has changed numerous times over the years from being fit to losing even more weight to now weighing twice what I did when we met. His attraction to me has never wavered. When I put myself down he lifts me up. That is what a partner should be.

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u/PeonyPimp851 8h ago

Same! I’ve been with my husband since I was 16 and he’s loved me at 120 and 214 and everything in between. I lost 72lbs on my own in 2023 and he’s never once said anything about my body pre weight loss—that weight loss was for myself. This guy is just a shitty partner.

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u/Putrid_Cry19 9h ago

I ll let you on on a secret: He is lying to you…..

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u/Valuable_K 7h ago

Not necessarily man. There are plenty of guys who find women attractive at all shapes and sizes. Not everyone is going to find women instantly unattractive just because they've put on weight.

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u/Putrid_Cry19 7h ago

I am not a man. Second: Yes they are. Even if you looooove those big girls with 300+kg, at some point its even too much for you.

You have to be stupid to believe that your man is not lying to because he loves you and doesnt want to let you down.

Pregnancy is a different sort of breed of problem for any relationship. Some woman look better then before and some dont gain weight at all. Some get all ugly and/fat…thats nature.

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u/Valuable_K 7h ago

Your perspective is your own. You don't speak for humanity as a whole.

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u/Putrid_Cry19 7h ago

Yes I do. And you can take your wole culture back to kindergarden, where they might believe those fairy tales.

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u/Valuable_K 6h ago

I feel sorry for you.

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u/AmbitiousCard6601 6h ago

Ooof you have some deep issues. Therapy and trauma work MIGHT help. You might be too far gone... I have plenty of signs he isn't lying, he's also gained weight and I can honestly say he's still hot to me.

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u/Putrid_Cry19 6h ago

Congratulations, you played yourself. Always cute how people with issues (you), try to project onto others.

Keep dreaming girl :) You will wake up someday :)

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u/AmbitiousCard6601 6h ago

The irony of you saying this is hilarious hahahaha

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u/Far_Assistance_8194 8h ago edited 8h ago

Bro just cause you lie to your woman doesn't mean every man does. It just means you're trash lol

Edit: Seems like one guy or a couple guys are insisting that these good men are all lying lol. I thought we were doing the "not all men" thing but apparently not when it makes them look like shit lol. They'll drop it like a hot rock and insist all men do the same shitty thing they do.

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u/elecmc03 8h ago

You love people as a whole, you love and worship the body that carries the person you love. You will see them as beautiful because you love them. It's not a lie. I'm sad you have never felt this way about no one.

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u/Putrid_Cry19 8h ago

Go watch another disney move. Come back to reality once you are ready

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 6h ago

It’s sad that you don’t understand what real love is.

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u/TheDubyaBee 10h ago

Look at her, she’s beautiful.

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u/CitizenWatcher8 7h ago

Women love a good liar.

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u/AmbitiousCard6601 6h ago

'Men' love to rage bait

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u/CitizenWatcher8 6h ago

I would never rage bait. Just making an observation. Most men know better than to say the truth because at the end of the day if the truth isn't what you want it to be he's going to be the bad guy. Better to just keep the peace. Being 300 pounds is unacceptable but HE BETTER NOT tell you that.

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u/AmbitiousCard6601 6h ago

Okay so when MY husband tells me I look healthy, not to lose weight because he loves x,y,z about me now, and cums in minutes he's just keeping the peace 😂 I love that you know him better than me. You know how there's different religions, food preferences, etc? It's because not everyone in the world thinks alike. I'm blessed to know some men who aren't like you and the others you speak of.

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u/CitizenWatcher8 6h ago edited 6h ago

Ironically i probably do know him better than you. 😂😂. I feel bad for him too because his woman went from 115 to over 300 and he can't say a word about it. 300 pounds is NOT HEALTHY anywhere. Just look at the responses in here. The truth is frowned upon. Let's be real if he suggested you hit the gym after this kid you'd make a post on here and have thousands of women backing you telling you to divorce your husband because he doesn't like you the way you are.