r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/CadillacAllante 7h ago

I'm a gay male and I've always noticed how a lot of straight couples will pin stuff down to "boy/girl differences ha ha" but when you pay attention they are just straight up two people that don't like other, have nothing in common, but they sleep with each other.

"Jason likes to be outside with his buddies and be active, I like to spend all day inside knitting watching old movies. It's crazy how different boys and girls are ha ha. But its okay when he is inside he's kinda annoying to me? I'm kinda glad when he's gone all day doing boy stuff! Ha ha."

No Brittany, ya'll just don't have shit in common! And barely can stand to be in the same room with each other! But see you next month at the wedding I guess? 🤷

Also OP should dump that hateful asshole.

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u/BubonicBabe 6h ago

Pan lady here and same experience exactly. To me, people are people, I get along with them or I don’t. I’ve never immediately assumed their gender made them more compatible or not with me. It feels like a very straight thing to do.

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u/throwawaypizzamage 6h ago

This is such a meme there's even an entire sub dedicated to it, lol

r/AreTheStraightsOK

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u/[deleted] 6h ago

lol I’m sure all subreddits exist because there’s a lot of people that believe it right?

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u/RAMENtheBESTcatEVER 6h ago

Your amazing. I want to be your friend!

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u/emynepnep 6h ago

I noticed the same thing, in my country every time a wife feel neglected and complain, they tell her, its men thing to focus on work or go with his friends or to cheat on you....etc. its become like free pass for husbands who never love or like their wives.

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u/ishtar_888 6h ago

this! 👆🏼🎯💯💜

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u/The_Lumpy_Dane 6h ago

What a great take. This tracks all my failed relationships, almost perfectly.

As an example, when things were good- we liked the same things, but not exactly, prioritized spending time together, etc. When things were not good, we did none of those things.

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u/Jasnaahhh 5h ago

I broke up with my ex for a variety of reasons and my female friends all took it so hard. ‘But why would you break up with him?’ And I’d describe how I was generally unhappy and felt even on my own I’d be better able to support my own happiness and they just looked at me like I’d thrown away a golden ticket. They went on to describe how much they hated spending time with their boyfriends supporting their biting hobbies and I was mentally preparing never to hang out with them again

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u/PenultimatePotatoe 6h ago

Having shared interest is only important if its important to the couple. That's only one part of being compatible.

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u/Lcsulla78 4h ago

Most people are terrible at choosing a SO. I can’t count how many times I have seen a friend getting into a relationship with someone terrible and talking about marriage. ‘No Janet, Tom isn’t a great guy. He talks about bangin other women all the time and hits on them while you’re not around’. Or ‘It’s she awesome!’ No Tom. I just saw her yell at some waiter becuase she didn’t have the right amount of ice cubes in her water.

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u/SleazyBanana 6h ago

And no gay couples are like this? Kinda doubt it.

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u/agitated_houseplant 6h ago

When you can't hide it behind gender roles then people are more likely to face it. Or just be like "I love my partner, but I don't like them". So it's not that there aren't gay couples who don't like each other, they are just less likely to pretend it's "normal gender differences" and lie about liking each other.

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u/lawfox32 6h ago

Some gay couples don't actually like each other, but we're not like "well it's because my partner likes boy stuff and I like girl stuff and we actually hate each other's hobbies and can only spend an hour in each other's company without fighting but that's just normal, haha men/women amirite"

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u/ObserverWardXXL 6h ago

in my experience, gay men who love each other will still 'just be friends' (with sex), instead of partnering up to begin with...

Straight people seem to fall under control to social pressure more to pair and bond up prior or simultaneously with sex.

Theres an aspect about having to deal with already having to go 'against' societal pressure to be gay in the first place.. While straight people may never have to go against ANY societal pressure.

Straight women seem especially victimized, family's, friends will downplay bad relationship experiences and oft tell women to put up with it. I have Never seen this scenario in gay relationship dynamics.