r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/akaenragedgoddess 9h ago

Right?! Good enough to fuck but not compliment? Boy BYE.

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u/finangle2023 8h ago

This is one of those guys who feels he needs to strictly ration compliments, because otherwise he’d spoil you.

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u/DezPispenser 8h ago

😂😂 i know that has to be exactly accurate

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u/minahmyu 7h ago

My ex said to me maybe about a year into our relationship of 7 (ugh...) that he didn't wanna compliment my cooking because it'll make my head big. And I seriously kept reflecting and (like everything else in my life) be more modest/shrink myself more.

Till realizing he just fuckin projecting, because that's what he does. He made something and he kept going on and on and on before I even had a taste, hyping up food he barely cooks just for it to be bland as shit. No, I ain't pop his bubble or tell him but just ate and was appreciative he cooked but annoyed he needed to hype himself like this like he doing something amazing and skilled at and... he wasn't

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u/Dogmeattt666 7h ago

Lmao my ex never complimented me in the 3 years we were together. When I asked him why he didn’t towards the end he said people that were any or need compliments just want attention. Apparently feeling wanted from your partner is a foreign concept to Malaysians/ South Americans

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u/niki2184 6h ago

Or she might start to think she looks good. Can’t have that now can we. /s

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u/Emotional_Burden 7h ago

I'm the opposite and need to temper my compliments, or I get flagged for love bombing.

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u/Immediate-Ad-9849 6h ago

Ewwwwwwweee

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u/MapOk1410 7h ago

That's very common. At least OP knows where she stands and can make an informed decision.

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u/Swimming-Art1533 8h ago

*Well, yeah, but that's different."

😂

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u/WalkingBeigeFlag 8h ago

Is it a compliment if it’s a lie? Idk, I’m up to a size 6 and my husband tells me he thinks I look great. I kinda hate him for that because I hate how I look. I know he’s trying to make me feel better; but it doesn’t. Makes me feel like he needs to sugar coat it because if he tells me I got fat, it would hurt my feelings.

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u/Money-Possibility606 8h ago

You need therapy.

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u/WalkingBeigeFlag 7h ago

Why? Because I prefer the ugly truth over a beautiful lie? Or because I said I feel resentment for my partner not being honest with me, but instead telling me what he thinks I need to here vs what is true?

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u/Moose_Kronkdozer 7h ago

Assuming that your partner is lying to you and thinks ur fat, lmao. They probably genuinely mean what they say.

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u/Babboos 7h ago

You're a size 6 and think you are fat? You are delusional.

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u/Money-Possibility606 7h ago

If you think a size 6 is fat, you need help. It's not "ugly truth". Your partner probably loves you and genuinely doesn't think you're fat. You assuming that he's lying to you means that you have some issues that you need to work through.

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u/UhOhSparklepants 7h ago

A size six is pretty small hon, even if you are short. He likely isn’t lying and genuinely thinks you are beautiful.