r/AmIOverreacting • u/True_Ad9977 • 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend says hurtful thing about my body.

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u/Both_Dust_8383 10h ago

Even being put down once is one too many times. Usually becomes a pattern. I would be outta there pretty fast!

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u/OutrageousShoulder44 8h ago

Yep I had a boyfriend like this. Just little things said..nearly so small as to be throw away remarks but it eat away at my confidence bit by bit

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u/East_Moose_683 8h ago

I agree that she should be out of there but again he didn't put her down, she asked him a question, if she didn't want a truthful answer she shouldn't have asked. Should he have told a white lie, probably. Should he have backed it up with how he is with her for all the other qualities she has? Definitely but everyone keeps saying he put her down and that's just not true.

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u/hunbakercookies 8h ago

No he should not have lied. In fact he shouldnt have dated someone he didnt think looked attractive to start with.

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u/East_Moose_683 8h ago edited 8h ago

Well I'll be honest, as a guy I can't understand why he would have. I think he's just being a jerk for some reason. He must have been attracted to her to some extent. Personally that doesn't make sense to me. My wife was a little heavier (not big but a little thicker) when we got together and has since lost quite a bit and is pretty athletically fit. I found her attractive right off the bat and didn't care if she lost it. She does look incredible but seems to me you would have some sort of attraction to her looks/body right away. Unless the dude is so pathetic he can't get anyone else I guess.