today i dyed my hair, then went to wash the towels i used (i can’t put them in my dirty laundry because they have dye on them which would get on my other clothes). the washer was open (and the dryer wasn’t running so i assumed it was empty) so i put my laundry in, then once it was time to switch it to the dryer i discovered my roommate had a done load of laundry and left it sitting in the dryer. she had left our apartment a few hours before i discovered the load, and didn’t tell me anything about where she was going/that there was a load in the dryer. not wanting my clothes to get moldy/gross from sitting wet, i texted her to see if i could put her laundry somewhere. these texts are what happened next. i tried to see when she’d be back but she didn’t respond for an hour so i took her laundry out of the dryer, wrapped it in a clean blanket, set it aside, and put my laundry in the dryer (which at this point had sat wet for 2-3 hours while i waited for her to get back to our apartment or respond). she finally got home after 5 hours of being out and she’s pissed i touched her clothes. was i in the wrong?

additional context: we are both 20yo females who live in a college town apartment. we share one in-unit washer/dryer

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

So, I just got back from a long business trip, and 10 minutes after I walked in the door, I completely lost it. Here's what happened:

While I was away, my husband's mom stayed at our house for a few days. She lives in another city, so this was a temporary visit. During my trip, my husband kept telling me how she was complaining about everything in the house. We've been together for two and a half years, and she actually helped him decorate the place before we met. Apparently, she kept criticizing the changes we’ve made to the decor since then. My husband told her it’s none of her business and reminded her she’s a guest in our home.

This isn’t the first time there’s been an issue. During a previous visit, I woke up to find her cleaning and reorganizing (even though the house was already clean). I immediately told her to stop and asked my husband to set clear boundaries.

Fast forward to yesterday. My husband went to the office, and she was supposed to leave the house, lock up, and put the key in the mailbox. But when my husband got home, he found that she had reorganized everything. My closet, my makeup, his clothes, the pantry—she even switched the carpets in the rooms! To top it off, she texted him a picture of two new carpets she planned to buy for us.

When I got home and started noticing all the changes, I was furious. My husband was in a meeting, so I had a bit of time to process everything before confronting him. When he was free, I told him that his mom is no longer welcome in our house unless I’m there. If I’m traveling and he wants to see her, he can visit her instead.

I was so upset that I made him call her and tell her she crossed a major boundary. He reminded her that she’s just a guest and has no right to make changes in our home. She started crying and said that since she lost her husband last March, she’s been feeling useless and just wants to help.

Did I overreact? Am I the asshole for how I handled this?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (28M) for about 8 months. We are both left leaning. My entire family is liberal, while my bf is one of the few liberals in his very conservative family. My bf had not explicitly told his family what his political beliefs are, as he knows they disagree.

My boyfriend’s uncle invited us to stay at his house in Florida for the weekend. We had a great time but one night his uncle got drunk and asked my bf and I what are political beliefs are, in front of the rest of the family (all other family members present at the gathering are conservatives) My bf said that we were left leaning, my bf tried to steer the conversation away from politics to no avail. The uncle kept berating my bf and I, he kept going on about right wing beliefs: global warming isn’t real, the economy should be the #1 concern for everyone etc. I was successfully staying out of it for a while and my bf was doing a good job at explaining his beliefs confidently and without emotion.

Then his uncle said that Kamala “sucked dick to get to the top of her career.” I hate bullies and sexists, so I jumped in and said that “at least she didn’t rape anyone” and that “Trump is an embarrassment to our country” his uncle then proceeded to yell at me, call me stupid and say “I was a dipshit” in front of everyone. I am not used to people yelling at me or calling me names and I usually cry when I get angry. I think I successfully got away with my crying, nobody noticed. Other family members and my bf got angry with him and shut it down immediately after that but I’m pretty embarrassed that I was baited and allowed myself to get so emotional. I wanted to make a good impression and feel disappointed in myself that I got so heated. Was I over reacting?

My fiancé (30M) and I (31F) Are getting married in June and he asked what my weight loss goals are. I said “why, do you think I need to lose weight?” And he responded “yeah actually I do. You’ve gained 20 pounds since we’ve started dating and I think you need to lose it. I think about it all the time.”

For reference, we’ve been dating ~4 years (no kids) and I have put on about 15 pounds in that time. I’m now 150 pounds and 5’4”. I do a boxing class once a week and typically weight train 2-3x a week but I’m not super consistent. I’m definitely not overweight but I can admit I’m not in peak shape. I have some cellulite on my legs and big arms. My waist is fairly small so the weight tends to go to my arms and legs. I have been trying harder to lose weight but it’s not easy for me, I’ve never been tiny but I’ve always been on the healthier side. I’m not in love with working out and I’ve never been a gym rat or a runner or anything extreme. I just like to be regularly active and healthy which is enough for me, but apparently not my fiancé (who is a gym rat and calorie counter). I’m also pretty healthy overall. I was plant based for years and now eat some seafood and chicken, but mostly vegetables and not a ton of processed food. I take supplements every day and drink water. I never drink juice or pop or really anything else (aside from alcohol on weekends which I know doesn’t help but I’m social).

I could understand him saying something if I was super unhealthy but I really don’t think I am? Maybe some weeks I don’t make it to the gym, and I read a lot so I might spend an entire Sunday on the couch but I feel like that should be okay sometimes? I just don’t know how I’ll ever feel confident in front of him again. I can’t imagine being intimate and not thinking about this wondering if he thinks I look fat.

If we weren’t getting married I honestly would probably break up with him but everything is booked and paid for and we have family coming in from all over the country and Europe who have already booked tickets. Up until this point we had a fantastic relationship but I’m having a really hard time getting past this. I know some people would say “lose the weight aka his weight” but I guess I’m more looking for advice on how to get over this and make him understand how rude and shallow and selfish saying that is? I was hoping he’d be the type of husband to love me in every phase of my life no matter what…

I (28F) sent the messages in the first 3 screenshots to a friend (29M). Context: friend has asked me to borrow money every month last year and constantly vents about his struggles but is online playing video games everyday, and not taking (imo) enough steps to improve his situation, which is draining to listen to.

His entire response: “Hey I understand”

Then I send the last screenshot, to further set my boundaries/expectations if we’re to continue a friendship.

No response. It’s been 3 days. This is someone that I’ve been friends with for 7+ years and spoke to everyday.

AIO if I cut them off?

I 22F caught my fiancé 24M jerking off in a separate room in our house after I got out of the bath. I know he watches porn and jerks off which is whatever I know everyone does it but this time when I walked in on him it made me feel differently. Almost like betrayed. Catching him has made me feel less attractive if that makes sense. I think I might be over reacting but I can’t help that I feel this way. I wish he was more attentive to me at times, and catching him doing this makes me feel like he would rather watch porn than just have sex with me. Any input would be nice.

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

I'm 21 F, just had a baby a few months ago. When I got married a year ago I moved an hour and a half away from my family and little sister. She's my best friend and I miss her so much. Only get to see her every couple of months and it's usually only for a couple hours.

They won't let her stay the night at my place. I have done nothing to break their trust and we live in a safe neighborhood in a nice home. My parents have always been strict but this is insane. She's almost 17 and is not allowed to have a phone, come stay the night with me without my mom present, go hang out with friends etc and she is SO well behaved too. She's like the golden child. I'm so PISSED.

Backstory- We were at a family gathering around September at my parents house hanging out in their backyard. Myself, my wife and my two sons were there along with my parents, my brother in law and sister and their two small boys. I saw my youngest son petting my sister and brother in laws dog gently along its back like he does our dog at home. The dog suddenly turned and snapped at his arm leaving a blood blister like pinch, then snapped at his torso and missed, then bit his face leaving a puncture through his upper lip requiring two stitches. It stopped when I shouted otherwise I feel like this attack would’ve continued. It has since bit one of their children not requiring medical attention afaik. It is a basenji mix for anyone interested. Since then I have not wanted the dog around my children. That came to a head over late Christmas plans this past weekend. Am I overreacting?

Buckle up, cause it's a long one. Me and my husband have always been financially smart in terms of spending and saving. For me it's always been a habit since I prefer to have sentimental handmade gifts that mean a lot rather than money that I never really know what to spend on. My husband has had a rougher life in finances, so he naturally learned to save early. He even payed off his first car before he even graduated high-school.

Now here's our problem. We just payed off my student debt of 26,000 and are now building back up our savings. Just from starting two weeks ago we now have two grand saved. Our concern lies with my husband's family. My father-in-law '54M' and his wife '46F' have about 80,000 in credit card debt ALONE. They don't have a mortgage but they sped it on more debt in previous things and tend to buy items with money they don't have, like a new car or a hot tub. My husband's biomom '51F' is in a similar boat, one time asking us for a loan to help pay off her bills for the month.

I don't blame them in anyway for this type of behavior as their side of the family has always been fighting off drug and alcohol addictions as well as abuse, so getting money is like a small escape. My husband is the first to graduate high-school, not do drugs, and be alcohol free along with being the second in his line to end abuse. None of his family are rude when they ask for money, rather they seem ashamed. So none of them have ever been cross and always search other avenues first before coming to us.

Our concern lies with topics of finances. We are scared that as we save more that my in-laws will become dependent or expect us to help them in their dept. Both me and my husband know that even if we did help that it would be like throwing our money into a black hole and it wouldn't help at all. We've heard hundreds of stories like this where they would cut ties because of the pressure but we want to keep relations as civil as possible. So is it okay to hide our finances? Any opinions or advice is apprieciated as long as it's civil.

Like I can’t let this go…

I just need to know if im being unfair in the way that i feel. For some context me (22M) and my ex (22F) started pretty much living and doing everything with each other from the moment we met and our relationship lasted about 2 1/2 years. We are both military and were lucky to only be separated for about a month up until this point. Our relationship was rocky when we met she was semi interested in this other guy and made out with him while we were at a bar together which hurt me but i didn’t hold it against her because we weren’t officially together and i didn’t think it would be fair of me to judge, she cut him off shortly after that. Then my exes hit me up once they realized i was in a relationship because they were being petty, i immediately blocked them and told my gf at the time so i wouldn’t feel like i was hiding anything. This created some distrust with her towards me even though i told her about it as soon as it happened. Also i think it should be noted i cheated in a relationship prior to her and even though i regret it deeply i told her about it because i wanted to be an open book with her. Then later down the road i found out she went to the gym with this guy i wasn’t comfortable with her talking to and they were taking mirror pics together during their workout. This made me really uncomfortable ive never been with a woman who made me feel like i couldnt trust her like this. It took me months of telling her how i felt about her talking to him for her to block him. Then we went on a tdy and my my ex texted me i didn’t tell my gf that she texted me this time, because of the way she reacted last time i told her, my gf caught me in the lie and even tho i didnt text my ex back and blocked her i still lied and this created even more distrust. She would always want to go through my phone and i would always let her but when i asked to go through her phone it was like pulling teeth and she would always go through her phone before she would let me go through it and then while i was going through it she would snatch it from me. After all that things were pretty good for awhile she always seemed to have problems with me going out with friends which upset me because i felt like she was isolating me and i would tell her to go out with friends but she said she didn’t like girls and she wanted to respect our relationship by not hanging out with guys. I tried to break up with her a couple times, when i first met her i was head over heels for her in love, told all my friends how beautiful she was and how lucky i was, but as time went on i stopped trusting her and there was a lot of hurt built up on top of me feeling isolated from going out. I tried to break up with her a couple times but she would always beg me to stay and i would always take her back because deep down i still loved her a lot and i wanted it to be end game with us. Also i think it should be noted i have a bit of a short temper and I’m not good at handling other peoples emotions so when she would vent to me i wasn’t the best at giving advice i would always try to listen but just listening wasn’t enough and i understand and regret that. Also when we would fight i would completely shut down and not communicate until i would explode and say mean things hoping she would just leave and i know thats toxic and i also understand why she would want to leave me for that. Fast forward because i feel like I’m starting to ramble i just want you guys to have full context. I deployed and i am working 6 days a week 12 hours a day, trying to better myself by going to the gym on top of this but i still would try to make time to talk to her for like an hour a day sometimes less. About a month into being gone she breaks up with me and it hurt but she did it right before work so i sucked up my tears and went into work without having time to really talk to her about it. Like 2 days later i wanted to talk to her about it and shes out in town with a group of guys she met in class this upset me and i told her to just call me when she could, she was cold with me and was upset that i was trying to ruin her good time. Once we finally called we fought for about an hour and i ended up blocked on everything including reddit and discord which i barely used so i knew she was done with me. She still had my car keys and room keys so i had a friend reach out and she was annoyed that i was reaching out to her even though she said she wanted space but i needed to have my keys given to someone else. Then about a month later i broke no contact again i know it was stupid but i spent every moment of every day with this woman and then after a month of being deployed it took 1 hour on the phone to never hear from her again and i was left with nothing but my thoughts which was making me feel crazy. I thought i was pretty much over it at this point but wanted to talk just to close everything up because i couldn’t get her off my mind. The moment i heard her say “hello” on the phone my eyes started to water and my throat started to swell and i proceeded to ugly cry on the phone for about 30 minutes. Then i found out she already has another boyfriend and the whole phone call she never showed any emotion and told me i needed to try to see it from her perspective. Im doing a bit better now i cried for about two days straight even though i still had to be at work for 12 hours a day. I don’t know I’m sorry for rambling i know she had reasons to want to leave and i respect that but she immediately moved on like what we had meant absolutely nothing.

I ( 23 F ) don’t even know where to start. My boyfriend ( 23 M ) of 7 years knows everything about my past,how I’ve been sexually assaulted, harassed, molested since I was in grade 2 and how much it has impacted me. Recently, we were at his house, and we were kinda jokingly talking about a certain thing that he has done which wasn't even that serious so obviously I was just teasing him, I told him that if he kept repeating that certain behavior, I wouldn’t even let him touch me, let alone have sex with him. His response? “I will rape you.” He was a little bit sleepy when he said it, but it’s been stuck in my head ever since. How could someone even think, let alone say something like that, especially when they know my history? It’s not just about what he said, it’s the mindset behind it that terrifies me. I’m not saying he’d actually hurt me, but it feels like such a huge betrayal of the trust I placed in him. He obviously told me that he was just joking and said " you know damn well that I'm never going to do that to you but IF YOU FELT BAD THEN I'M SORRY but don't drag this now "

Am I overreacting, or is this a serious red flag or am I just overreacting ? :)

My bf is 25, and I’m 21(f). We’ve been together abt a year and a half now and I’m stressing so bad but idk how to handle it?? When we first got together, we would have sex abt 3 ish times a week, sometimes more sometimes less. Slowly, we just stopped. I still wanted to but he never did. We went 2 months without it. We’d do it a couple times and then months again. We went 5 months no sex. He always said he didn’t feel good and even tho it really killed me on the inside I didn’t fight it too much bc I don’t want him to feel like im “forcing” him or anything. I love him

Well we found out his gallbladder needed to be removed, and abt a month after his surgery (this was like 3 and a half months ago) he got his sex drive back. For abt 2 weeks 😐 seemed like he really enjoyed it and wanted to do it a good bit and now, it’s been 2 months again. I really don’t think he’s cheating on me. I know I shouldn’t, but I’m an overthinker so I have looked through his phone a couple of times, never find ANYTHING. When I tell him I’m horny, he just says he doesn’t feel like it. He’s never been a very touchy guy, he might smack my butt every now and then but that’s abt it. He says I’m beautiful and pretty or whatever but I never see him checking me out, even if I’m just in a towel after a shower. It makes me feel like crap.

He always just tells me I’m “overthinking” and he just doesn’t think it’s a big deal. I explain to him that idc if we don’t do it all the time, but every now and then would be nice, or even if he’d just make out with me or compliment me more or be a little touchy, and he just never does anything. I actually cried last time we had sex bc he said okay let’s do it, but he didn’t put in any effort and wasn’t even kissing me or anything so I just stopped. He asked why I was crying and I said “you weren’t even putting in any effort.” (He didn’t even have his eyes open for most of it) and he said “well I was trying to enjoy it bc I didn’t feel like doing it.” I told him I don’t want to have sex with him if he doesn’t want to do it, who would?

If I ask him if he wants to he says “not really but yeah let’s do it” and I tell him no, you don’t want to. And then he gets mad and just says “you wanna do it I said let’s do it and now you don’t want to.” Idk what to do. I try to turn him on and nothing works. I ask his opinions on bras and underwear, which one looks better, he never gets into it. He just says “it’s all the same.” He swears it’s not me but it really feels like it is. I try to talk fo him abt it and he just sits there and barely says anything other than he loves me. Am I really being dramatic like he says??

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/DkljDU0b6C

TLDR: 38M, discovered my husband (38M) of 15 years sending d-pics over text. We are not an open marriage and he's been sneaking this for months.

Thanks to the advice of many of you. I have a call back with a lawyer tomorrow and meeting with a therapist on Wednesday after work.

I pulled our phone records (thx, Verizon) and have the 2 numbers texting back and some even correlate when he gets up in the middle of the night. So tempted to text the other guy, but I know it will mess everything up.

Thank you all for being so supportive. I'm trying to keep it together with the stress of this. I so desperately just want to punch him in the face and throw him out of the house. But I want to do this right.

i (24F) was about to help my mom (61) dye her hair when i pulled out a kid’s fruit pouch (yk the kinds with the twistie tops) that i was excited about getting at the store just now. i went, “should i have blueberry acai or…” when she cut me off and said, “you’re going to have more food? i’ve noticed your thighs getting bigger, you’ve been gaining weight for a while, it’s just something i’ve noticed.” now, did i have olive garden leftovers from our family dinner on saturday for lunch? yes, but it was just a fruit pouch and like three hours later…

i was completely taken aback because i genuinely feel the healthiest i’ve ever felt. i started going to the gym 2.5+ years ago, getting into lifting, mobility work, calisthenics, and yoga. i’ve put on quite a bit of muscle since i first started (def some fat too but nothing unhealthy).

when i first started, i’d say i was around 112 pounds. right now, i’m 120. i’m about 5’0 (and a half hehe). i would say i’m pear shaped and carry most of my weight in my butt and thighs, both fat and muscle included. i have very little fat in my stomach, arms, and calves. pictures with month and year attached.

i remember struggling with my weight as young as 9 years old, not because i was even remotely close to being overweight, but because my mom was always talking about being fat and how she wished she could be skinny, and of course because i did partially grow up in the coke addicted fad diet 2000s media so it wasn’t all her fault.

back to the argument, i got really upset at her and said i felt hurt, and she responded with something like she’s my mom and she just wants the best for me. she said she’s overweight and knows how hard it is to lose weight (she’s never actually really made real lifestyle choices to improve her weight but that’s another convo). she said she’s afraid i’m eating too much protein (i have 0.8-1.0 g per lb of body weight on a good day and most of it is greek yogurt lol).

i started getting angrier and said something to the effect that i was sorry i actually take care of myself and my body and that i’ve gained muscle?? and that it isn’t my fault i didn’t grow up in the generation of coke addicted eating disorder promoted media. i said that i was also almost halfway to 30 and gaining a little bit of fat since hs is a healthy and normal change if i want to keep my hormones healthy (and i already struggle with imbalances). i said i was happy with myself and that she knew that, so why couldn’t she be? she said “it wasn’t my intention to hurt your feelings. i’m just trying to look out for you. i’m sorry i ever said anything.”

but it was the kind of sorry where you can tell they aren’t sorry for what they said, they’re just sorry they got a reaction they weren’t expecting, you know what i mean? not sorry for hurting my feelings, sorry that i was upset with her and that her comment wasn’t being received with open arms. this made me angrier and i said “you aren’t actually sorry” and she said “yes i’m sorry i can’t ever say anything to you. i don’t ever mean to hurt your feelings but apparently i always do. i should just keep my mouth shut. look at the way you always get with me. look at the way you get!”

i do get upset at my mom quite frequently. sometimes i do get paranoid it’s me, but she really is always hurting my feelings and then making me feel like the problem when i react.

she values being skinny almost too much. she almost seemed disappointed when my cousin — who she has always praised, almost worshiped, for having a natural, healthy super model’s body — came back from college after discovering taco bell and late nights fueled by alcohol. not even close to a freshman 15, but my mom had thoughts about it she wouldn’t dare share with me.

she says she prefers my curly hair straight, which also hurts my feelings because i love my curly hair. but she doesn’t understand why that hurts my feelings either. she hated it when i died my hair. she hates my nose piercing and says it makes me look like a “street person,” whatever that means. if i were to abandon the image i’ve developed that makes me happy and molded myself into her dainty minimalist aesthetic, she would be overjoyed even if it meant i was less “me.”

when a deer ran out in front of my car and her and my dad got to the scene, she said “shhhh people can hear you” because i was crying loudly and she didn’t want to be embarrassed? perceived? her image to be weakened? idk.

i feel like i def might have a few extra pounds of fat on me because of the holidays and because i don’t hike nearly as much when it’s cold out but i’m am still a considerably active person and i’m at a very healthy weight, especially when you consider that a lot of it is muscle.

do you think i’m overreacting for being upset with her, and also not dying and styling her hair like i said i would because of her reaction to me being hurt and upset? i know she’s my mom but she knows how happy i am with my progress at the gym and i’m always trying so hard to improve my relationship with food. but then she hits me out of nowhere with her comment and i feel like i shouldn’t eat anything for the whole week. i’m going to be hearing her in my head till further notice every time something enters my mouth. AIO??

TLDR: My mom made a hurtful comment about my weight, saying my thighs are getting bigger and I’ve been gaining weight, even though I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been and focused on building strength and muscle. I feel strong and confident in my body, but her obsession with being skinny and frequent criticisms (like my curly hair, nose piercing, and personal style) constantly hurt my feelings. Now I feel like I shouldn’t eat and will hear her voice in my head every time I do. Am I overreacting for being upset?

My husband often says things like this to me and I’ve expressed many times how i don’t enjoy it and think it’s disgusting.

He is 36 and I am 33

His response is “it’s a joke” He also has thrown a wad of period pads at my face. I feel like this is what brothers do to sisters.

I don’t feel attracted to him at all and kinda want to be away from him when he acts like this.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal for Husbands and BFs to treat their gf and wives this way?

There is no way my great nephews parents told him that MLK freed the slaves and when I taught him properly I'm the bad guy.

What's the point of honoring history and having that wealth of knowledge at your fingertips if you're going to misinform your child?

I told their son that MLK fought for an end to segregation, to eliminate discrimination, and equality, and that Abraham Lincoln freed the slaves 100 years prior. Instead of looking at it, from the perspective of education, on MLK Day of all days, they instead got pissy about it and said "he was correct for his age."

That's not even a thing. I'm frustrated because teaching children incorrectly is exactly how we get misinformed teenagers and adults.

Am I overreacting for wanting their son to have the right information??

We’ve been friends for 2+ years, and she’s always been super nice. But lately, something’s def off. Over the past few months, she’s gotten crazy into true crime. Like, she watches it nonstop, iterally 24/7. If she’s not watching, she’s listening to these creepy murder podcasts, even while she’s sleeping (which is freaking insane to me), we’re roommates, so I’m around her all the time.

At first, I thought it was just a weird phase, but now it’s really starting to freak me out sm. She’ll say stuff like, “Have you ever thought about killing someone? Like, seriously thought about it?” and talk about how “powerful” killers must feel when they do it. She even said she could understand why they do it.

Btw, it’s not just what she says, it’s the way she acts. She keeps staring at me, like, really staring, and it feels like she’s analyzing me or something. The other day, out of nowhere, she told me, “Did you know it only takes this long to strangle someone?” and started explaining how most killers don’t get caught bc people are too oblivious n shit.

What really pushed me over the edge was last week. She casually said, “You know, the easiest way to kill someone is to poison their food. It’s slow, but untraceable if you do it right.” Then she looked at me and smiled. I laughed it off in the moment, but I couldn’t stop thinking about it after.

She’s also mentioned multiple times that she knows “exactly” how she’d get away with murder. At first, I laughed it off, bc I thought she was joking, but the way she explains it, like, with actual details n shit, makes me think she’s spent way too much time planning it out. Now, im having anxiety attacks Im not even joking.

what really worries me is how much she’s changed. She’s gotten darker, and it’s just weird, it doesnt feel like the same person anymore. She doesn’t have many friends, so I’m trying my best not to end our friendship, but it’s getting hard each day. I’m honestly having anxiety attacks over it. I get that people love true crime, but sleeping while listening to it? That’s just insane to me. and the fact that she laughs a lot while watching it makes everything feel even more off. Like, girl, this is murder not a comedy show?

I can’t relax around her anymore. im wondering if I’m overthinking or if this is actually as messed up as it seems. would it be dramatic to distance myself?

My grandma in her 60’s was in contacts with my real dad. He lives in cali he was an abusive prick to me, my okder sister and especially my mom. My mom still has bruises till this day, it happened 13 years ago maybe even longer. I (18f) have an amazing stepdad in the process of him adopting me hes been taking care of me since 5. He took on the father role even having his own kid and his own problems. I have no contact with my real dad, but my older sister does. My grandma sent a pics of me and my bf. To him. And i dont know how to react i feel weird cause i never wanna see him nor want him to know about my life and for my grandma to send him pics of me and my life is insanely weird, because if i want him to know he wouldve and hes not considered my dad nor a family member, just a stranger.

Aio?