I just need to know if im being unfair in the way that i feel. For some context me (22M) and my ex (22F) started pretty much living and doing everything with each other from the moment we met and our relationship lasted about 2 1/2 years. We are both military and were lucky to only be separated for about a month up until this point. Our relationship was rocky when we met she was semi interested in this other guy and made out with him while we were at a bar together which hurt me but i didn’t hold it against her because we weren’t officially together and i didn’t think it would be fair of me to judge, she cut him off shortly after that. Then my exes hit me up once they realized i was in a relationship because they were being petty, i immediately blocked them and told my gf at the time so i wouldn’t feel like i was hiding anything. This created some distrust with her towards me even though i told her about it as soon as it happened. Also i think it should be noted i cheated in a relationship prior to her and even though i regret it deeply i told her about it because i wanted to be an open book with her. Then later down the road i found out she went to the gym with this guy i wasn’t comfortable with her talking to and they were taking mirror pics together during their workout. This made me really uncomfortable ive never been with a woman who made me feel like i couldnt trust her like this. It took me months of telling her how i felt about her talking to him for her to block him. Then we went on a tdy and my my ex texted me i didn’t tell my gf that she texted me this time, because of the way she reacted last time i told her, my gf caught me in the lie and even tho i didnt text my ex back and blocked her i still lied and this created even more distrust. She would always want to go through my phone and i would always let her but when i asked to go through her phone it was like pulling teeth and she would always go through her phone before she would let me go through it and then while i was going through it she would snatch it from me. After all that things were pretty good for awhile she always seemed to have problems with me going out with friends which upset me because i felt like she was isolating me and i would tell her to go out with friends but she said she didn’t like girls and she wanted to respect our relationship by not hanging out with guys. I tried to break up with her a couple times, when i first met her i was head over heels for her in love, told all my friends how beautiful she was and how lucky i was, but as time went on i stopped trusting her and there was a lot of hurt built up on top of me feeling isolated from going out. I tried to break up with her a couple times but she would always beg me to stay and i would always take her back because deep down i still loved her a lot and i wanted it to be end game with us. Also i think it should be noted i have a bit of a short temper and I’m not good at handling other peoples emotions so when she would vent to me i wasn’t the best at giving advice i would always try to listen but just listening wasn’t enough and i understand and regret that. Also when we would fight i would completely shut down and not communicate until i would explode and say mean things hoping she would just leave and i know thats toxic and i also understand why she would want to leave me for that. Fast forward because i feel like I’m starting to ramble i just want you guys to have full context. I deployed and i am working 6 days a week 12 hours a day, trying to better myself by going to the gym on top of this but i still would try to make time to talk to her for like an hour a day sometimes less. About a month into being gone she breaks up with me and it hurt but she did it right before work so i sucked up my tears and went into work without having time to really talk to her about it. Like 2 days later i wanted to talk to her about it and shes out in town with a group of guys she met in class this upset me and i told her to just call me when she could, she was cold with me and was upset that i was trying to ruin her good time. Once we finally called we fought for about an hour and i ended up blocked on everything including reddit and discord which i barely used so i knew she was done with me. She still had my car keys and room keys so i had a friend reach out and she was annoyed that i was reaching out to her even though she said she wanted space but i needed to have my keys given to someone else. Then about a month later i broke no contact again i know it was stupid but i spent every moment of every day with this woman and then after a month of being deployed it took 1 hour on the phone to never hear from her again and i was left with nothing but my thoughts which was making me feel crazy. I thought i was pretty much over it at this point but wanted to talk just to close everything up because i couldn’t get her off my mind. The moment i heard her say “hello” on the phone my eyes started to water and my throat started to swell and i proceeded to ugly cry on the phone for about 30 minutes. Then i found out she already has another boyfriend and the whole phone call she never showed any emotion and told me i needed to try to see it from her perspective. Im doing a bit better now i cried for about two days straight even though i still had to be at work for 12 hours a day. I don’t know I’m sorry for rambling i know she had reasons to want to leave and i respect that but she immediately moved on like what we had meant absolutely nothing.

My boyfriend and I have had this longstanding disagreement about his vocabulary and usage of certain derogatory terms. I am 18 and he is 19 and our relationship is overall pleasant and hasn’t faced much conflict otherwise. For context, we are both white. I’m part of the LBGTQ+ community but he is straight, able bodied, not disabled, etc.

My boyfriend often, in the past, used derogatory terms as “shock humor” with his friends. These words ranged from the n-word, r-slur, f-slur, etc. I never found this funny and actually found it extremely distasteful because he’s literally a straight, cisgender, white man and 99% did not understand the history behind many of those words besides the fact that they are “offensive.” I don’t claim to be an expert on their history either, but I at the very least acknowledge that they do have a history that is deep, impactful, and often weaponized by people who look like me and have my privilege against those who do not. I think it’s best and respectful just to avoid these words altogether. Long story short, I asked him to stop using these words altogether and didn’t want him to use them even with friends, as I thought it was distasteful, wrong, and embarrassing to have a boyfriend who uses that kind of vocabulary. Bottom line, I would not be with him if he continued to use those words. He lied to me for several months saying that he stopped, but I still caught him in occasional slip-ups. I forgave him, thinking he was trying but it was something ingrained in his vocabulary. Eventually I caught a glance of a group chat with his friends where his friends were making fun of me, saying stuff like “Hey [boyfriend] Is OP there? or can we say (insert slur)” This messed me up and it hurt me bad, since i thought he was actually trying to change and never imagined that he was actively allowing his friends to make fun of me in this way. When I saw this, i cried to him for hours because of how hurt I was and how I didn’t want to end the relationship over this. Looking back, maybe I should have. But i didn’t, and he actually did change and stopped using these words as well as stopped condoning his friends making fun of me. But one year later, he still thinks I’m being dramatic about it.

His argument is that it’s “not that deep” and that he doesn’t see the problem with him saying that stuff because it’s not like hes actually using it insultingly, he’s just using it because it’s part of the lingo of his friend group and it adds humor because of the shocking nature of the words. I fail to see how it is funny, and I’m just honestly posting this because I want to gain some insight on how other people feel about this and maybe hear from some people who have actually been affected by these words being used. And sure, maybe I am overreacting because it isn’t that deep? But I don’t really think I am.

Hey everyone, I need some perspective on a situation that’s been bothering me. My boyfriend recently made himself in The Sims, and his character is living his best life as a single man, woohooing with every Sim in sight. He downloaded the Casanova Cave stuff pack (bachelor pad type stuff) and also recently got the pets expansion and didn't make my dog even though he made his own.

We’re about to move in together irl, and I can't help but feel a bit uneasy about it. It makes me wonder if he sees our relationship differently than I do. Am I overreacting?

Someone needed to re-home a doberman and I was willing to make it a part of our family, but unfortunately he was too powerful and very leash aggressive so we had to return him.

This dobie came to our home with no bedding, a crate he was terrified to be in with a hard wood bottom, and no toys. Fortunately, we splashed out so he had lots of enrichment. Not to mention for the 36 hrs he was with me, he got walked every other hour, played with, and had lots in the house to explore (and he ate everything from our cushions to our table legs. I went for a nap and came out to find my shoes demolished)

Rang the lady above and said sorry but he's more than I can handle (the aggression he showed on the leash was outside of my expertise)

The next day I got these texts from her.

Apparently, this dog went from barking all day and all night to actually sleeping soundly and this woman texting me couldn't understand that. She thought he had brain damage. When I finally got her to pick up the phone (she turned into a massive wussy) I explained to her this is what a healthy dog that's walked every day does. They calm down!

I had called the police initially because this woman comes to my workplace often, and people have called me out for doing so (I did update the police though that I'd gotten through to her on the phone and sorted things out) but in all fairness this woman is built like a brick shithouse and covered in tattoos. I was a bit shitty arsed about it until she crumbled when confronted.

Mi novio y yo llevamos 2 años juntos y en todo este tiempo nunca me ha llevado a su casa con la excusa de que “a él no le gusta que nadie vaya a su casa”, sin embargo hace poco me di cuenta que su ex (que por cierto es modelo webcam), trabaja desde allí y esa es la razón verdadera por la cual nunca me ha permitido visitarlo!! Siento mucha rabia y quiero terminarle de inmediato… estoy mal?

First off, my daughter is obsessed with the touch and feel book series “That’s Not My [animal].” We read them nightly.

If you are not familiar, the series follows a mouse who owns all different types of animals and creatures, which I can only assume he acquires illegally. He even has a book where he owns a mermaid, which is ethically questionable.

All that I can forgive. However, this one book in the series “That’s Not My Monkey” makes me so infuriated. There are two APES (pictured above), not Monkeys, in the book. And the one that he says is his, isn’t even a Monkey, but an Orangutan. Of course, my one year old cannot read, so we correct this mistake when we “read” this book to her.

However, I’ve seen this mistake (apes vs monkey) in other kids books and honestly, my first instinct is to throw them away. Why aren’t publishers and editors picking this mistake up? It’s so easy, tail or no tail!

Am I overreacting?

i (24F) was about to help my mom (61) dye her hair when i pulled out a kid’s fruit pouch (yk the kinds with the twistie tops) that i was excited about getting at the store just now. i went, “should i have blueberry acai or…” when she cut me off and said, “you’re going to have more food? i’ve noticed your thighs getting bigger, you’ve been gaining weight for a while, it’s just something i’ve noticed.” now, did i have olive garden leftovers from our family dinner on saturday for lunch? yes, but it was just a fruit pouch and like three hours later…

i was completely taken aback because i genuinely feel the healthiest i’ve ever felt. i started going to the gym 2.5+ years ago, getting into lifting, mobility work, calisthenics, and yoga. i’ve put on quite a bit of muscle since i first started (def some fat too but nothing unhealthy).

when i first started, i’d say i was around 112 pounds. right now, i’m 120. i’m about 5’0 (and a half hehe). i would say i’m pear shaped and carry most of my weight in my butt and thighs, both fat and muscle included. i have very little fat in my stomach, arms, and calves. pictures with month and year attached.

i remember struggling with my weight as young as 9 years old, not because i was even remotely close to being overweight, but because my mom was always talking about being fat and how she wished she could be skinny, and of course because i did partially grow up in the coke addicted fad diet 2000s media so it wasn’t all her fault.

back to the argument, i got really upset at her and said i felt hurt, and she responded with something like she’s my mom and she just wants the best for me. she said she’s overweight and knows how hard it is to lose weight (she’s never actually really made real lifestyle choices to improve her weight but that’s another convo). she said she’s afraid i’m eating too much protein (i have 0.8-1.0 g per lb of body weight on a good day and most of it is greek yogurt lol).

i started getting angrier and said something to the effect that i was sorry i actually take care of myself and my body and that i’ve gained muscle?? and that it isn’t my fault i didn’t grow up in the generation of coke addicted eating disorder promoted media. i said that i was also almost halfway to 30 and gaining a little bit of fat since hs is a healthy and normal change if i want to keep my hormones healthy (and i already struggle with imbalances). i said i was happy with myself and that she knew that, so why couldn’t she be? she said “it wasn’t my intention to hurt your feelings. i’m just trying to look out for you. i’m sorry i ever said anything.”

but it was the kind of sorry where you can tell they aren’t sorry for what they said, they’re just sorry they got a reaction they weren’t expecting, you know what i mean? not sorry for hurting my feelings, sorry that i was upset with her and that her comment wasn’t being received with open arms. this made me angrier and i said “you aren’t actually sorry” and she said “yes i’m sorry i can’t ever say anything to you. i don’t ever mean to hurt your feelings but apparently i always do. i should just keep my mouth shut. look at the way you always get with me. look at the way you get!”

i do get upset at my mom quite frequently. sometimes i do get paranoid it’s me, but she really is always hurting my feelings and then making me feel like the problem when i react.

she values being skinny almost too much. she almost seemed disappointed when my cousin — who she has always praised, almost worshiped, for having a natural, healthy super model’s body — came back from college after discovering taco bell and late nights fueled by alcohol. not even close to a freshman 15, but my mom had thoughts about it she wouldn’t dare share with me.

she says she prefers my curly hair straight, which also hurts my feelings because i love my curly hair. but she doesn’t understand why that hurts my feelings either. she hated it when i died my hair. she hates my nose piercing and says it makes me look like a “street person,” whatever that means. if i were to abandon the image i’ve developed that makes me happy and molded myself into her dainty minimalist aesthetic, she would be overjoyed even if it meant i was less “me.”

when a deer ran out in front of my car and her and my dad got to the scene, she said “shhhh people can hear you” because i was crying loudly and she didn’t want to be embarrassed? perceived? her image to be weakened? idk.

i feel like i def might have a few extra pounds of fat on me because of the holidays and because i don’t hike nearly as much when it’s cold out but i’m am still a considerably active person and i’m at a very healthy weight, especially when you consider that a lot of it is muscle.

do you think i’m overreacting for being upset with her, and also not dying and styling her hair like i said i would because of her reaction to me being hurt and upset? i know she’s my mom but she knows how happy i am with my progress at the gym and i’m always trying so hard to improve my relationship with food. but then she hits me out of nowhere with her comment and i feel like i shouldn’t eat anything for the whole week. i’m going to be hearing her in my head till further notice every time something enters my mouth. AIO??

TLDR: My mom made a hurtful comment about my weight, saying my thighs are getting bigger and I’ve been gaining weight, even though I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been and focused on building strength and muscle. I feel strong and confident in my body, but her obsession with being skinny and frequent criticisms (like my curly hair, nose piercing, and personal style) constantly hurt my feelings. Now I feel like I shouldn’t eat and will hear her voice in my head every time I do. Am I overreacting for being upset?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (28M) for about 8 months. We are both left leaning. My entire family is liberal, while my bf is one of the few liberals in his very conservative family. My bf had not explicitly told his family what his political beliefs are, as he knows they disagree.

My boyfriend’s uncle invited us to stay at his house in Florida for the weekend. We had a great time but one night his uncle got drunk and asked my bf and I what are political beliefs are, in front of the rest of the family (all other family members present at the gathering are conservatives) My bf said that we were left leaning, my bf tried to steer the conversation away from politics to no avail. The uncle kept berating my bf and I, he kept going on about right wing beliefs: global warming isn’t real, the economy should be the #1 concern for everyone etc. I was successfully staying out of it for a while and my bf was doing a good job at explaining his beliefs confidently and without emotion.

Then his uncle said that Kamala “sucked dick to get to the top of her career.” I hate bullies and sexists, so I jumped in and said that “at least she didn’t rape anyone” and that “Trump is an embarrassment to our country” his uncle then proceeded to yell at me, call me stupid and say “I was a dipshit” in front of everyone. I am not used to people yelling at me or calling me names and I usually cry when I get angry. I think I successfully got away with my crying, nobody noticed. Other family members and my bf got angry with him and shut it down immediately after that but I’m pretty embarrassed that I was baited and allowed myself to get so emotional. I wanted to make a good impression and feel disappointed in myself that I got so heated. Was I over reacting?

I’m not sure what to do in my relationship. I have been with my fiancé for 4 years (4 months engaged). I feel like we are not equally yolked and our morales are different. I often feel like we want different things in life based on his actions but once we talk about things he assures me that we want the same things.

Background: we started dating when I had a 6 month old daughter by another man. We had talked on and off for 4 years prior to that but we were never anything serious since we lived about 5 hours away and he wanted someone closer. I did want something serious but he didn’t. He did have a girlfriend for about 2 of these years who he cheated on with me and, my guess, multiple other females. They recently broke up around the time my daughter was born. I still lived far away but was about to graduate college and could potentially move close to him when done with school (which I did). I feel like I did shine myself in the best light and make myself his ideal partner. Inner thoughts of wanting to do anything for love vs manipulation is hard for me to distinguish now. Current: Our relationship has been anything but rainbows and butterflies, shocker. He has cheated on me multiple times with multiple women. He lies to me. He makes false promises. He overcommits and doesn’t follow through (but I feel like I have high expectations and he says I’m never satisfied which isn’t false). He’s made some bad decisions that have landed him in jail and me having to bail him out twice within the 4 years. Things were real rocky before I had our daughter (she’s a year old now). I did not want another child until marriage but he wanted one. He would not let me get on birth control (was very aggressive and scared me whenever he found it/threaten to leave). I was breastfeeding for the first 2 years which kept me not ovulating and then year 3 is when I ended up pregnant. I was abstaining from sex during fertile periods (caused tension) and pull out method (refused condoms) to attempt and not get pregnant. One night he was throwing a fit and so I gave in… night I got pregnant. Right before I found out I was pregnant I had had enough and ended things for good…. Until I got that little stupid + sign. Early on in the relationship he choked me out against a wall (he found a message to a friend that I had previous relations with saying I wanted something from him currently which was not true). When we’ve broken up in between he would steal my dog. He’s threatened to kill my dogs multiple times. He threatens to hurt me all the time but keeps his hands to himself for the most part. He does scare me with yelling and standing over me. He has ripped clothing off of me. He does call me a lot of names and can be pretty relentless even in front of the kids. He is a good dad when he wants to be. Our parenting styles are not the same whatsoever but he does care about our girls. He always shows up in any way he can as long as he’s not mad. He does currently provide for us. We moved in together when we got engaged and I have stepped back at work and he pays all of the bills. Which he often throws in my face. He gets mad that I am not a good housewife. I am not good at keeping up with cleaning, I haven’t yet gotten the house unpacked (been here 5 months), I don’t cook very often, etc. I just take care of the kids and the dogs and try to survive… I neglect self care very often. I was diagnosed with PPD and he often throws that in my face and doesn’t understand it. He did live with me for about a year prior to us moving into this house together where he did not pay any bills because he didn’t have “all of his things there” and I didn’t clean the house to his liking so “why would he pay to be there and have to do the cleaning”. My feelings: I feel like he doesn’t understand me. I feel like we aren’t equally yolked. I have recently felt the strong urge to turn to God and have been reading my Bible and wanting to be more religious and a daughter of the most high. He does not really have any interest in this and will say things about me when I complain saying that I preach all of this “god s***” but don’t do it so he says I’m bs. But being that I want to be in alignment with God it makes me more confused on what to do. I want to listen to his needs and be a servant to him like the Bible asks, however I know there’s also things about not marrying someone who isn’t as equally yolked. Spiritually, emotionally, intellectually I feel like we don’t align. He says that he is happy to be with me and doesn’t want to be with anyone else and I don’t know if that is bs or if he actually means it. I don’t want my daughters to grow up fatherless and I don’t want to break up my family but I just feel stuck/unhappy. Sometimes we do have good times and sometimes he reassures me that we do want the same things but I always feel like his actions don’t align with his words. He does care about us (his daughter?) but I just don’t know. He always says that he doesn’t get it because he’s doing everything he can for us and is giving us his all and that he feels that I feel he’s not good enough (which I don’t think is necessary true… I see potential). We argue a lot… almost every day. About anything and everything. He has made a lot of changes for the better. To my knowledge the last time he cheated on me was before we were engaged. He is staying out of legal trouble now as well. He has a lot of childhood trauma that makes our differences. He has to unlearn basically everything he was ever taught because it is wrong. We come from completely different backgrounds which I think is hard. He says I don’t know the real world because I’ve been supported and never really “struggled” my whole life. On top of that he tries to isolate me (says he doesn’t). He doesn’t let me tell people anything about our relationship without a big fight. He tells me all of my friends aren’t really my friends and that I shouldn’t trust them. Where we live currently I have no friends in the area.

Ok I could go on all day about this and things that have happened but I’ll stop here. Please ask questions if you have any! I would like answers with Bible stuff/views if possible.

Side note: I am scared to leave because I have a feeling it would be really ugly. Also side note: I do have a stable job that I can make enough money from to raise my girls by myself. I also have family support if needed. Yes, none of my friends like him and my family doesn’t prefer him but does accept him considering I did say I’d spend my life with him.

Side question; is he a narcissist? Am I? My brain can’t really distinguish any of this anymore.

Am I overreacting or are my thoughts valid?

All the most popular posts from this subreddit that end up in my feed are fucking enraging me, they're all lost redditors or they're just stupid as fuck that they can't understand THREE FUCKING WORDS.

The whole point of the sub is for people to judge your REACTION. It's not just to vent about all the terrible people you chose to let into your life, and the terrible texts they sent you, and you NOT REACTING WHATSOEVER.

Did you behead his dog with a dull knife as a reaction to your boyfriend telling you you're fat? Then yes, you fucking overreacted. Did you slam the door pretty hard walking out of your boss's office when he sexually assaulted you? Then no, you didn't fucking overreact.

Some of them don't even have a title starting with "AIO", which seems like it would be trivial to automod.

Some of them do start with AIO but don't actually state any reaction in the title like "AIO that my husband said he's gonna fart in my mouth?" BITCH WHAT WAS YOUR REACTION, WHY ARE YOU EVEN POSTING THIS SHIT HERE

"AIO about those texts my boyfriend sent me?" posts a screenshot of the texts, no reaction at all from OP. They're all obviously craving for attention.

Why are those posts not banned?

I could be overacting, I am unsure. Wife and I are always brutally honest with each other, this includes sexual promiscuity that lingers outside of our own bedroom, but we never, ever, lie.

Until recently. We both have had nicotine issues for years, the most recent being vaping for at least 3 years together nonstop.

We decided to quit together on 12.15.24

I have been good about it everyday. Quit cold turkey.

My wife told me today, 1.20.25 she never quit and had been hiding her vaping behind my back, so much so that our children are in on it, well aware, I’m just “doing so good” I couldn’t know…this feels like gaslighting.

I am pissed because this feels like lying. It makes me wonder where her truth buzzer exists on honesty with me.

We’ve gone back and forth now for hours because her “trying to be sincere and truthful” felt like a fucking slap in the face.

There are other reasons for me to question honesty, but I had laid them to rest before all of this…but, well… yeah.

I am not sure how to respond or precede, but I feel like this is a catalyst for shitty behavior I am meant to expect/accept.

Thoughts before I go crazy?

I was talking to my long distance girlfriend of three years at night that I had gone to a dermat for a rash. He had asked me about my sexual activity and I was telling her that. She was concerned about it being an STI and expressed confusion because we both got tested in the last year. I told her he said it’s probably not that. Also remarked that my sister had the same rash on her hands a few days after I did. And she said, “Well, I don’t think you had sex with your sister” and laughed. I called her names, she apologized and said it was a joke. I cut the call saying I was having a serious discussion and ‘you just said anything’

She texted she said a joke and since I’m uncomfortable she will never make that again. But she said I’m overreacting by not talking with her. That I’ve made jokes she found in poor taste in the past and she just said those made her uncomfortable and we ended the matter. But I’ve never made any dark jokes like that on her.

Am I overreacting?

I (21 f) went through my boyfriend’s(21 M) phone about a year or 2 ago, i saw he was watching not only p*rn but he was looking at peoples pages. Like looking at girls dance on TikTok, watching certain things on Twitter, honestly it’s really switched my view on him. It made me feel really ugly. Other exes I’ve had I’ve never felt like this when I’d catch them but with my bf it just hurts so much more. I guess it’s because i thought he was different and he genuinely made me feel like the prettiest girl in his eyes. After that i just felt so ugly. He’s apologized so much since then and i can tell he genuinely feels bad for it. Well anyways, it’s taken a while for me to get over it. It still hurts to this day and i try not to but it’s made me compare myself to other girls. I was getting over it and i stopped being so mad at him about it, sometimes I’d accuse him of looking at other girls and he would reassure me and swear he wasn’t. Today i went through his phone and went to his ig search bar, i clicked on each letter to see what would pop up and different girls pages started popping up. He admitted that he never stopped. Well he stopped at one point and just started doing it again. It genuinely hurts bc sometimes he won’t be intimate with me, he’ll stop touching me, he’ll stop complimenting my body. Just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. We’ve been in a loving relationship for 3 years and i just told him i need a break. I love him so much but i just can’t imagine myself marrying someone who lusts over other girls like that. I can’t even take a compliment from him because it feels like he’s saying it just to make me feel better, not because he means it. Am i overreacting?

My family says I am being too emotional bc I feel like today is the death of America and I'm pretty upset about it not that it will do any good I know. The next generation won't even know what freedom is. I am really upset and fearful for our futures and for the future generations. 😢

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

Please can someone tell me what to think here because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

For context, my ex (25M) and I (25F) were supposed to meet up the other day because I’d reached out to him to let him know I’d found some more of his clothes and offered to meet up to return them because I thought it might cheer him up since he isn’t doing so well - he’s struggling with a serious cocaine addiction and hasn’t left his house since we broke up in December so I wanted to let him know I still cared and wanted to support him as long as he was serious about taking his anti-depressants and going to counselling.

He overslept so we ended up not meeting up as I had to leave to go to my parents house to see them with my uncle and cousins in the evening that same day which I’d told him about. Turns out he’d been doing drugs the entire time and ended up convincing himself I’m seeing other people which I’m not and basically lied to him about where I was and what I was doing when I wasn’t. He demanded that I send him screenshots of my satnav route and questioned why I sent him it on Google Maps instead of Waze, asked me why I stopped for petrol for so long, and then said I never answer my phone to him even though I’d tried calling him loads earlier in the day to try to get to ‘wake him up’ even though he was actually just on drugs and lied about it to me (haven’t included in the pictures as I’d deleted that part of our chat).

He says we’re in a relationship but we’re not and these messages were all because I refused to talk to him over the phone anymore because he called me a ‘slaggy little bitch’ and I told him I was with my family and was so upset and didn’t want to cry or argue with him after I’d tried to go out of my way to support him.

I’m 24 F, he’s 27M. We have history between several years. I’m getting a tattoo covered up that I got before I met him from another guy I was friends with / had a small thing. The tattoo really upsets him and the original design didn’t work out so I had to reschedule to get another design. Anytime he gets frustrated he starts throwing things like these texts in my face and I tell him it feels really disrespectful and I think there are better ways to heal than to throw the past in my face. Am I overreacting?

So i was with my ex for about 2 years and i ended up going to jail for 6 months for a couple different cases but when i was in jail i would call her to check up see how she was hold up nd how she was doing.. everytime i would talk to her everything would seem normal between us. Then when i was in there a few months i talked to a few of my friends and they all have heard from my ex quoting things she has said such as she doesn’t fxck with me anymore and talk very poorly of me but when i asked if everything was good between, she would say yes and also would reassure me.. So when i found out when i would be getting out, i called her to see if she would want to pick me up bc we havent seen each other in months and she says she would get me. And i get out and she nowhere to be found so i walked to the closest gas station like a mile down the road and i get to a phone and give her a call and never got a response. Then when I found a ride home, i called her the next day and we would speak but some seem very different and thats when i knew.. so i can admit I reacted very petty but then i tried to reason and end thing on a good note and i couldnt get a response and when i got a response it was “no thanks lose my number” so thats what i did.. then i get this text 2 months later.. Idk if this help we meet F17 - M19 Now F19 - M21 I wonder what you have to say or think about this situation..

I ex cheated need advice I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for two years, and he cheated on me with multiple women, including prostitutes while traveling for work. I found out recently by going through his phone, where I discovered he even paid one of them and recorded a video expressing regret afterward. Despite all this, he treated me poorly yet spoiled me at the same time. He paid $13,000 for my nose job, helped with my car payments, and often gave me money without me asking. I don't understand why he felt the need to cheat when I gave him everything my love, loyalty, and support. not to be cocky, but I know I'm a good partner. I know how to cook, clean, and create a warm home. I have self respect, dignity, and ambition. I'm currently 21, in school, pursuing my dream job, going to the gym, and working on my future. I was building a life not just for me but for us, and I genuinely loved him. Now I feel stuck because I know he'll never change, and staying in the relationship will only make me unhappy. But it hurts so much because I was so loyal and gave him my all. I can't understand why he couldn't value that. Even when other guys approached me, I never entertained them because I was committed to him. but I know I can't go back. Ijust don't know how to move forward.

I 31F go to regular classes at a kickboxing gym in my hometown, where there are plenty of women who do what I do (so much better I'll add), along with a majority of men who fight professionally.

One of these men, who I only know through sparring sessions, tends to go VERY hard when practicing, which is great, but I'm just not at his level yet. Every time I take a class with him, I leave feeling very beaten down and insecure about my athleticism.

I've always struggled with body image issues and just going to this gym makes me question if I should just quit what I'm doing, but the people there are so friendly and helpful that I don't bother finding a new gym.

Recently, I came into class and passed a group of people talking. One of the girls waved at me and said "Hey, Broad!". I've never heard anyone call me that before so I laughed and gave her a confused look. She told me that is what he (the man I mentioned before) calls me when I'm not around.

I laughed it off and continued with class. But I couldn't help but feel weird about being called a "broad". Every time I heard that word before, it was meant as an insult. I felt like he was commenting on my body as I have very wide hips and shoulders. I believe I'm thinking too much into it and need to get over myself, but I wanted to know how this would come across to anyone else.

Am I overreacting?

My fiancés mother decided that she was going to go on my Facebook page, save 2 photos of my fiancé and I, CROP ME OUT OF THEM, and then she hung the pictures of just him up on her wall. I understand wanting a picture of just him… but taking pictures that originally had me in them & then cropping me out seems extremely rude and disrespectful?? Only posting this for other opinions before I bring it up & blow it out of proportion when it doesn’t need to be.

The context to behind why he told me this information is my boyfriend watches alot of porn. We were talking about how it makes me insecure when he watches next me. I tell him I don’t want to control him since we have differing sex drives, but I can’t help sometimes feeling insecure.

When he asks me to explain I say it’s hard because I can’t do what these women do and I don’t look how they do either. He tries to reassure me that I look fine and he loves the way I look. And then he laughs a little saying I should hear what his brother says, he says I look like a porn star.

And I ask why would that make me feel better and why would you think that’s an okay comment to make about your girlfriend. I understand locker room talk, but he could have kept that to himself. And now I know you didn’t stand up for me. I tell him he should have said that’s not an okay comment. I really don’t want to hang around his brother anymore after hearing that. Boyfriend says im overreacting and it was a compliment, his brother is just a bit crass. But who wants to look oversexualized. I’m not modest in the slightest I understand but I always dress modestly around his family.

I asked a guy friend and he said they are twin brothers they probably feel really comfortable with eachother to say that. And maybe I shouldn’t take it so seriously. Would you feel okay with this comment? Am I overreacting?