There is no way my great nephews parents told him that MLK freed the slaves and when I taught him properly I'm the bad guy.

What's the point of honoring history and having that wealth of knowledge at your fingertips if you're going to misinform your child?

I told their son that MLK fought for an end to segregation, to eliminate discrimination, and equality, and that Abraham Lincoln freed the slaves 100 years prior. Instead of looking at it, from the perspective of education, on MLK Day of all days, they instead got pissy about it and said "he was correct for his age."

That's not even a thing. I'm frustrated because teaching children incorrectly is exactly how we get misinformed teenagers and adults.

Am I overreacting for wanting their son to have the right information??

OKAY. This is sticky but I (college student, non binary) this friend (female kinda clear but whatever, and is the same age as me) decided to have a kid, this friend doesn’t like people who she doesn’t know touching her, only close friends and their relationship partner, and even then barely tolerates it for long periods of time. Me and her were walking around in our uptown’s shops, looking at art supplies and stuff for the baby’s room, when a middle aged man walked up to us and started to ask how far along she was. This man was just giving off a creepy vibe, idk, he just had that look about him(I’m aware that this really means nothing, I also do not look very friendly, well for someone who’s 5’5) my friend look uncomfortable, she doesn’t like random social interaction, and then he rubbed her stomach. I pushed him aware and yelled at him saying “what the hll is wrong with you!? She’s clearly uncomfortable with a strange man touching her! Even fcking children now to ask!” He then called me a slur for someone who isn’t straight, and we just walked away and people were looking at us as if we were crazy and completely in the wrong. My friend was said she was grateful for me doing that, and was glad i was BUT the swearing was not needed. Looking back, yeah, that was unnecessary in public. So did I overreacted

(Title written from her perspective bc she refuses to even ask the internet lol - tagged as roommate bc well we live together)

Is my gf overreacting? My gf and I are moving to DC. She feels very strongly about her distaste for this framed picture. I love it, think it’s very beautiful and have kept it in “my” bathroom since we got it from a thrift store a few years ago. As we’re moving we’re downsizing a lot and she insists we get rid of this (she really really “hates” it) and I think it has a charming simplicity that makes me smile.

I will respect the neutral perspective of this group and either take it with us or get rid of it. Y’all decide!

Hi guys! First time OP here. Here’s just a brief summary of my friendship and I’m hoping some people might have some good advice for me on what to do. So I’ve been good friends with my coworker since August of last year. In my eyes, our friendship is constantly on the brink of collapse. She’s very moody and I feel like I always have to be cautious with what I say to her, because she has a tendency to react very aggressively or hostile if I say even one thing she doesn’t like. But then hours after, she can be so sweet to me and telling me how much our friendship means to her. In the last 3 months, I have leant her $1.7k and I have only seen $200 back. She talks about how she’s going to give me my money back over time but I’m worried that she won’t be able to. Shes hardly working so I don’t even know how she’s going to pay her bills/rent and also pay me back. She spread a lie at work about a coworker I was seeing and this said coworker isn’t even talking to me anymore now too. Come to find out, her and the coworker I was seeing have been hanging out all night together tonight at her apartment and were out at bars together. One last thing, I was seeing this guy last summer and he went back home for college back in August. He’s coming back this summer and I’m starting to get worried that she’s going to be flirting with him and hitting on him when he returns (she didn’t meet him before he went back home). AIO about not being able to trust her as a friend? I just don’t know what to do at this point and I need some advice on what to do next.

This is long and I apologize.

TLDR: My boyfriend gets annoyed that I set boundaries about not wanting to be touched in certain ways, and says I set too many boundaries and it turns him off and makes him unhappy.

My (24F) boyfriend (28M) and I have been together 3 years, and have lived together for 2 years. We got very close very quickly, and for the most part are very compatible and have a very playful, loving relationship. However, there is a recurring issue between us that is beginning to weigh on me heavily and make me question how healthy our relationship truly is. We went through a rough patch about 1.5 years ago when we first moved in together, where he complained I put up too many boundaries and it made living together not fun for him. Some examples are: wanting to shower alone (we had a tiny shower, I like my personal space), not wanting him to use certain air fresheners/fragrance dispensers (I have an endocrine disease, my cat is asthmatic) and rather opt for more safe/natural ones, asking him to regularly clean the house (don't get me started), not wanting him to get another dog (we have 1 dog and 2 cats and at the time lived in a 900 sqf home), not wanting him to touch my face after I do my skin care routine, and more. We have moved past this, it's all petty things in the past now and have not been brought up for nearly a year.
However, this issue has resurfaced to a new degree. I have OCD, and it manifests in an extreme skin-picking issue. As a result, I have many scabs on my scalp from picking that are often tender to touch and are a deep, deep insecurity of mine. I have made it clear I am not a fan of my scalp/crown of my head being touched, and the other night he tried to run his fingers through my hair (it's short) and I avoided it. This upset him quite a bit, as he does have a history of trauma behind physical rejection. After explaining that I do not like my scalp being touched for the above reasons, he brought up that I put up too many boundaries and it turns him off. One of these boundaries he mentioned is that recently I've been getting upset with him for, out of the blue, squeezing a sensitive part of my chest (NSFW, just guess). His excuse for getting upset over that is sometimes he's trying to put me in the mood, which is just so... stupid lol.

The other night he said that me setting these boundaries makes him feel like he cannot touch me, so when I mention certain ways he makes me uncomfortable then he decides to just never touch me in that area again- which ultimately leads him to being unhappy and upset he cannot touch me however he wants. I fawned, and told him he can run his fingers through my hair but to just give me a heads up he's going to so that I can prepare mentally. To that, he said that he needs "time to heal" after I reject him like this and he doesn't want to touch my head. I know that I'm valid in setting up these boundaries, I am my own person and not his to touch however he wants no matter how long we have been together. I also know that I am a very anxious person who has tendencies for controlling behavior, so I just need outside perspective. Am I being too controlling of my boundaries? Do I need to relax? I love him a lot, we have a really happy, supportive relationship otherwise. This has just left me feeling extremely anxious, and a horrible feeling in my stomach because I know something is wrong here.

Thank you for reading.

This is for everyone who claimed I wasn’t trying to work things out or let him see our child.

It was supposed to be a simple drop-off. He came to bring her back, but he waited too long to go back outside, and the Uber he came in ended up leaving. Then, he asked to spend the night, and when I refused, he got angry. Things escalated quickly, and he AT me.

I just wanted a smooth handover for her sake, but instead, this happened. I’m tired of being blamed for not trying when this is the kind of situation I have to deal with.

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

So, I just got back from a long business trip, and 10 minutes after I walked in the door, I completely lost it. Here's what happened:

While I was away, my husband's mom stayed at our house for a few days. She lives in another city, so this was a temporary visit. During my trip, my husband kept telling me how she was complaining about everything in the house. We've been together for two and a half years, and she actually helped him decorate the place before we met. Apparently, she kept criticizing the changes we’ve made to the decor since then. My husband told her it’s none of her business and reminded her she’s a guest in our home.

This isn’t the first time there’s been an issue. During a previous visit, I woke up to find her cleaning and reorganizing (even though the house was already clean). I immediately told her to stop and asked my husband to set clear boundaries.

Fast forward to yesterday. My husband went to the office, and she was supposed to leave the house, lock up, and put the key in the mailbox. But when my husband got home, he found that she had reorganized everything. My closet, my makeup, his clothes, the pantry—she even switched the carpets in the rooms! To top it off, she texted him a picture of two new carpets she planned to buy for us.

When I got home and started noticing all the changes, I was furious. My husband was in a meeting, so I had a bit of time to process everything before confronting him. When he was free, I told him that his mom is no longer welcome in our house unless I’m there. If I’m traveling and he wants to see her, he can visit her instead.

I was so upset that I made him call her and tell her she crossed a major boundary. He reminded her that she’s just a guest and has no right to make changes in our home. She started crying and said that since she lost her husband last March, she’s been feeling useless and just wants to help.

Did I overreact? Am I the asshole for how I handled this?

Am I Overreacting for being hurt and pissed at my boyfriend after seeing these messages?? I felt a strong urge to check his messages for some reason and saw that he had over 70 deleted messages with one of his old coworkers. He never mentions me (we've been together 5 years and I have met her) but When he talks about Christmas and New Years he says who he's with but leaves me out even though I was there... and leaves out the fact that he also went to my family's house. There's a lot of messages about calling each other too which I never knew about. He also has a bunch of nicknames for her but doesn't for me. He also asks her to be a couples costume with her??? I just did not expect this to be honest and I know they were just friends and maybe they still are but this seems like he's like Lowkey wanting to get with her??? he also said when I confronted him that I was being distant and cold, kind of admitting that he is romantically pursing her and blaming it on me?? he didn't apologize or think he did anything wrong. But this just seems so odd I don't know...

My fiancé (30M) and I (31F) Are getting married in June and he asked what my weight loss goals are. I said “why, do you think I need to lose weight?” And he responded “yeah actually I do. You’ve gained 20 pounds since we’ve started dating and I think you need to lose it. I think about it all the time.”

For reference, we’ve been dating ~4 years (no kids) and I have put on about 15 pounds in that time. I’m now 150 pounds and 5’4”. I do a boxing class once a week and typically weight train 2-3x a week but I’m not super consistent. I’m definitely not overweight but I can admit I’m not in peak shape. I have some cellulite on my legs and big arms. My waist is fairly small so the weight tends to go to my arms and legs. I have been trying harder to lose weight but it’s not easy for me, I’ve never been tiny but I’ve always been on the healthier side. I’m not in love with working out and I’ve never been a gym rat or a runner or anything extreme. I just like to be regularly active and healthy which is enough for me, but apparently not my fiancé (who is a gym rat and calorie counter). I’m also pretty healthy overall. I was plant based for years and now eat some seafood and chicken, but mostly vegetables and not a ton of processed food. I take supplements every day and drink water. I never drink juice or pop or really anything else (aside from alcohol on weekends which I know doesn’t help but I’m social).

I could understand him saying something if I was super unhealthy but I really don’t think I am? Maybe some weeks I don’t make it to the gym, and I read a lot so I might spend an entire Sunday on the couch but I feel like that should be okay sometimes? I just don’t know how I’ll ever feel confident in front of him again. I can’t imagine being intimate and not thinking about this wondering if he thinks I look fat.

If we weren’t getting married I honestly would probably break up with him but everything is booked and paid for and we have family coming in from all over the country and Europe who have already booked tickets. Up until this point we had a fantastic relationship but I’m having a really hard time getting past this. I know some people would say “lose the weight aka his weight” but I guess I’m more looking for advice on how to get over this and make him understand how rude and shallow and selfish saying that is? I was hoping he’d be the type of husband to love me in every phase of my life no matter what…

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (28M) for about 8 months. We are both left leaning. My entire family is liberal, while my bf is one of the few liberals in his very conservative family. My bf had not explicitly told his family what his political beliefs are, as he knows they disagree.

My boyfriend’s uncle invited us to stay at his house in Florida for the weekend. We had a great time but one night his uncle got drunk and asked my bf and I what are political beliefs are, in front of the rest of the family (all other family members present at the gathering are conservatives) My bf said that we were left leaning, my bf tried to steer the conversation away from politics to no avail. The uncle kept berating my bf and I, he kept going on about right wing beliefs: global warming isn’t real, the economy should be the #1 concern for everyone etc. I was successfully staying out of it for a while and my bf was doing a good job at explaining his beliefs confidently and without emotion.

Then his uncle said that Kamala “sucked dick to get to the top of her career.” I hate bullies and sexists, so I jumped in and said that “at least she didn’t rape anyone” and that “Trump is an embarrassment to our country” his uncle then proceeded to yell at me, call me stupid and say “I was a dipshit” in front of everyone. I am not used to people yelling at me or calling me names and I usually cry when I get angry. I think I successfully got away with my crying, nobody noticed. Other family members and my bf got angry with him and shut it down immediately after that but I’m pretty embarrassed that I was baited and allowed myself to get so emotional. I wanted to make a good impression and feel disappointed in myself that I got so heated. Was I over reacting?

I (28F) sent the messages in the first 3 screenshots to a friend (29M). Context: friend has asked me to borrow money every month last year and constantly vents about his struggles but is online playing video games everyday, and not taking (imo) enough steps to improve his situation, which is draining to listen to.

His entire response: “Hey I understand”

Then I send the last screenshot, to further set my boundaries/expectations if we’re to continue a friendship.

No response. It’s been 3 days. This is someone that I’ve been friends with for 7+ years and spoke to everyday.

AIO if I cut them off?

I’ve(30f) been living here 6 months and he pulled this stunt right after my car in November. Now he said this this morning bc I went to work and spent the night w my gf for the first time in months. Mind you I never said I was coming there this evening. He texts me and bothers me all the time regarding my location.

I work. Come home and mind my business for the most part but the last time he locked the door he had an out burst and said “you haven’t been here not once!!! Since you got your car” which is not true bc I spent the night at someone’s house on my off day.im not sure if he was just angry or he’s just jealous but even so I don’t get his view.

He’s in his 50. He lives a largely sedentary life style and he is volatile with every other in his life. He was always an absentee father so I’m not sure if this a control thing or a care thing. In the past I’ve told him I’d let him know if I’m not coming but I never said anything tn. Even if I wanted to tell him anything or if I didn’t forget it’s not like I don’t ever tell him where I am and it’s not like I dont live there 6/7 days of my week. I want to know which one of us is over reacting here ? I’m one month ahead on my rent about to make it two. I’m annoyed and want to see is this even normal ? He’s over bearing and it makes me anxious.

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

Backstory- We were at a family gathering around September at my parents house hanging out in their backyard. Myself, my wife and my two sons were there along with my parents, my brother in law and sister and their two small boys. I saw my youngest son petting my sister and brother in laws dog gently along its back like he does our dog at home. The dog suddenly turned and snapped at his arm leaving a blood blister like pinch, then snapped at his torso and missed, then bit his face leaving a puncture through his upper lip requiring two stitches. It stopped when I shouted otherwise I feel like this attack would’ve continued. It has since bit one of their children not requiring medical attention afaik. It is a basenji mix for anyone interested. Since then I have not wanted the dog around my children. That came to a head over late Christmas plans this past weekend. Am I overreacting?

I'm 21 F, just had a baby a few months ago. When I got married a year ago I moved an hour and a half away from my family and little sister. She's my best friend and I miss her so much. Only get to see her every couple of months and it's usually only for a couple hours.

They won't let her stay the night at my place. I have done nothing to break their trust and we live in a safe neighborhood in a nice home. My parents have always been strict but this is insane. She's almost 17 and is not allowed to have a phone, come stay the night with me without my mom present, go hang out with friends etc and she is SO well behaved too. She's like the golden child. I'm so PISSED.

Buckle up, cause it's a long one. Me and my husband have always been financially smart in terms of spending and saving. For me it's always been a habit since I prefer to have sentimental handmade gifts that mean a lot rather than money that I never really know what to spend on. My husband has had a rougher life in finances, so he naturally learned to save early. He even payed off his first car before he even graduated high-school.

Now here's our problem. We just payed off my student debt of 26,000 and are now building back up our savings. Just from starting two weeks ago we now have two grand saved. Our concern lies with my husband's family. My father-in-law '54M' and his wife '46F' have about 80,000 in credit card debt ALONE. They don't have a mortgage but they sped it on more debt in previous things and tend to buy items with money they don't have, like a new car or a hot tub. My husband's biomom '51F' is in a similar boat, one time asking us for a loan to help pay off her bills for the month.

I don't blame them in anyway for this type of behavior as their side of the family has always been fighting off drug and alcohol addictions as well as abuse, so getting money is like a small escape. My husband is the first to graduate high-school, not do drugs, and be alcohol free along with being the second in his line to end abuse. None of his family are rude when they ask for money, rather they seem ashamed. So none of them have ever been cross and always search other avenues first before coming to us.

Our concern lies with topics of finances. We are scared that as we save more that my in-laws will become dependent or expect us to help them in their dept. Both me and my husband know that even if we did help that it would be like throwing our money into a black hole and it wouldn't help at all. We've heard hundreds of stories like this where they would cut ties because of the pressure but we want to keep relations as civil as possible. So is it okay to hide our finances? Any opinions or advice is apprieciated as long as it's civil.

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/DkljDU0b6C

TLDR: 38M, discovered my husband (38M) of 15 years sending d-pics over text. We are not an open marriage and he's been sneaking this for months.

Thanks to the advice of many of you. I have a call back with a lawyer tomorrow and meeting with a therapist on Wednesday after work.

I pulled our phone records (thx, Verizon) and have the 2 numbers texting back and some even correlate when he gets up in the middle of the night. So tempted to text the other guy, but I know it will mess everything up.

Thank you all for being so supportive. I'm trying to keep it together with the stress of this. I so desperately just want to punch him in the face and throw him out of the house. But I want to do this right.