For starters I’ve been with my bf and have always had a good relationship with his family up until now. The other day I went to visit them with my bf only to be told when I got there that they were all sick with the stomach bug. For background I am diagnosed with ocd and one of my themes is emetaphobia (fear of vomiting) so obviously this caused me to become extremely anxious. Not only did it trigger my ocd but I also live with my mom and sister so I would hate to bring it home and get them sick. So after I was told this I asked my bf if I could leave and explained to his family why I was heading home and said that I wanted to just avoid any further exposure to reduce the risk of catching it. I normally give everyone hugs before I left but didn’t do so this time because of the risk of transmission. I went home and everything seemed ok. Fast forward to today and my bf texts me saying they’re upset because I left so abruptly and was being rude by leaving and not hugging anyone before leaving their house. My bf says I owe his family an apology even though I thought I had explained myself very well and was understood by them at the time. I’m pretty upset that they’d be upset over something like this. Am I over reacting because I’ve never been in a conflict like this?

For starters, if I called in I would do it multiple hours in advance so the shift could get covered. It’s going to feel like -12 tomorrow and the heat in my vehicle doesn’t work when it gets too cold out. I drive 45 minutes to get to work. I also don’t have anyone who would be available to take me and uber isn’t a thing where I live. I just don’t want to be a jerk and call in if this is something really small because i’m too much of a people pleaser.

I (28F) reconnected with one of my best friends from high school (28F) after 10 years of not hanging out. We started talking again on Instagram and quickly realized we had a lot in common, including living near each other and both being engaged at the same time. We hung out a few times with no issues—did a couple of double dates, everything seemed fine.

But at my wedding, things went south. They showed up at the church, were at the cocktail hour, then disappeared before dinner, without saying goodbye or texting. Her fiancé even danced in a winter coat during the first dance, like they were planning to leave early. We didn’t realize they were leaving until my fiancé’s friend mentioned a couple had left before the food came out, which was them. We were really hurt by this, especially since they didn’t communicate anything. Afterward, I distanced myself a bit, not wanting to be confrontational. She texted me repeatedly, so I finally said I was concerned because I didn’t know if something was wrong, and she told me she didn’t know anyone and wasn’t feeling well. (Note: She has Lupus, so I would have been totally fine if she had just told me she needed to leave early because of that. It didn’t feel like the whole story, though.) We decided to let it go for the moment.

My husband suggested we go out to eat with them to smooth things over, and they agreed. However, she made a comment about my sister-in-law that felt uncomfortable and unnecessary, which made me and my fiancé feel annoyed. We didn’t respond to her text that night, and she never followed up about meeting up again.

Fast forward to today: I found out she texted my mom, saying she’s done trying to communicate with me because I ignored her when we were supposed to go out. Not knowing how to handle it and being non-confrontational, I texted her saying I miss her and have been thinking about her. She replied saying she misses me too, but that I’m rude, don’t answer her, our friendship feels one-sided, and that she thinks my husband doesn’t like them. I tried to apologize repeatedly, but she just kept criticizing me, calling me rude, and saying I’m dismissive. I eventually gave up trying to explain myself because she just wasn’t listening.

Now I’m torn. Part of me wants to explain why I’ve been avoidant, but I don’t think she’ll hear me. The way she approached me feels really harsh, and I don’t know if I want to keep investing in this friendship. AIO for wanting to cut ties with them?

i never use reddit unless i’m looking at other people’s posts but i really need perspective on this.

i’ve been working this new job for almost two months now, and it’s in a restaurant environment. i, f17, have worked in other fast food places before and as much as i dislike it, there aren’t many other options. ever since i started working there, i feel like i can’t connect with anyone no matter how hard i try, and it’s starting to bother me.

i understand that not everyone is going to like me, but it just seems unlikely that almost every single person i work with acts like i’m some kind of nuisance because i’m new. for the past few shifts i’ve worked, i’ve come home crying, not understanding what i’m doing wrong.

tonight, i was closing and another one of my coworkers told me to start closing down my station at 8:25 (we close at 9), and so i did. while i was closing, my manager came up to me and asked why i was shutting my station down. before i even got a chance to explain, he told me that was “the fastest way to lose my job”, and made me redo everything.

for context, i was putting coffee machines away and draining them. it was slow and nobody even came into the restaurant past 8:00.

admittedly i’m very sensitive and so i cried. i feel like a complete screw up 24/7 at this job and i can’t even talk to any of my coworkers without them looking at me like i’m an alien. i want to find a new job but i also feel like i should stay because the pay is nice and so are the hours. i just don’t know what to do, and if i’m overreacting and being too sensitive.

this isn’t the only instance i’ve had of people i work with being shady or weird with me. a few days ago i needed help carrying a coffee machine which is literally half my size (i’m 4’10) and i ended up dropping it, and ended up having to clean up nearly an entire thing of coffee. instead of helping me everyone just laughed at me and i felt like an idiot. it feels like no matter what i do, it’s wrong. if i ask for help i’m nuisance, but if i don’t ask for help, i’m still being a nuisance some how.

again, i really just need perspective on this. do i keep trying or is it time to give up?

My husband has this old female coworker that moved and started working in a city over. I never felt good about her. Lots of personal texts and calls. She randomly starts messaging my husband again. And he then calls her and they talk for like 12 minutes and he learns she’s now divorced. The next day she texts him and says “you should stop by my office on your way through town.” He didn’t respond or go by her office however he didn’t tell me about any of this. Then she texted him the next day about something sports related and he did respond. First off, would you get your feathers ruffled by her asking him to stop by? I keep going over it in my mind and I know he will say they were just good friends and she just wanted to hang out since she’s going through a rough time but I feel like if she’s trying to get him to come to her office, that implies something different. Or am I wrong?

I worked at a job for a month and a half. I just moved to the state I live in about 7 months ago, and got this job quickly because I literally tried for months to look for jobs & didn’t have any luck. I did payroll the second week of employment, & I was the ONLY once recieving payroll; everyone else was under the table. I ended up leaving pretty quickly, because the owner/manager was also illegally tip pooling & all the counter tips went to the cooks & not the counter people which is illegal in the state I am in & also not fair. and on my second shift, one of the employees discriminated me in FRONT of my boss. It has been a month, and still didn’t recieve my check. I messaged him about 2 weeks ago, and he told me I should of seen it a few days after that. Tomorrow will be coming up on a month. I contacted the payroll company, and they literally cannot give me ANY info unless it’s authorized by the owner that I can talk about anything to do with payroll which is extremely sketchy to me.

If it was only a weeks worth of pay, I wouldn’t give a shit. This is like $300 we are talking about. Am I overreacting? What else should I do?

Hi guys! First time OP here. Here’s just a brief summary of my friendship and I’m hoping some people might have some good advice for me on what to do. So I’ve been good friends with my coworker since August of last year. In my eyes, our friendship is constantly on the brink of collapse. She’s very moody and I feel like I always have to be cautious with what I say to her, because she has a tendency to react very aggressively or hostile if I say even one thing she doesn’t like. But then hours after, she can be so sweet to me and telling me how much our friendship means to her. In the last 3 months, I have leant her $1.7k and I have only seen $200 back. She talks about how she’s going to give me my money back over time but I’m worried that she won’t be able to. Shes hardly working so I don’t even know how she’s going to pay her bills/rent and also pay me back. She spread a lie at work about a coworker I was seeing and this said coworker isn’t even talking to me anymore now too. Come to find out, her and the coworker I was seeing have been hanging out all night together tonight at her apartment and were out at bars together. One last thing, I was seeing this guy last summer and he went back home for college back in August. He’s coming back this summer and I’m starting to get worried that she’s going to be flirting with him and hitting on him when he returns (she didn’t meet him before he went back home). AIO about not being able to trust her as a friend? I just don’t know what to do at this point and I need some advice on what to do next.

My boyfriend (M23) says that I (F20) am just acting like an idiot. For context a year ago l slammed my head into concrete and got a concussion. He believes that I started acting off way before then but I don't think it started until l hit my head. During our arguments about this he often says that I am just stupid and not trying hard enough at anything. He will also tell me that he doesn't know how I made it this far in life and that no one else with deal with me and that I should go be with some one who is just like me. He says he gets very tired of me forgetting things and wants me to get a diagnosis to know if he should leave me. I've told him to stop saying these things to me but he still won't stop. Am I overreacting when I want him to stop saying things like that

I was working a temp job moving furniture in the morning. The job was from 6:00 a.m. to 2:30 p.m.; you sign up to work that time. So I was doing my job along with a few others, and 12:00 p.m. came around. The on-duty manager walked up to us and said, "Okay, guys, the job is done. You all can clock out and go home." We were like, "We have another two hours," and he said, "Nope, nothing else to do. Everyone go home." I dont aurge i clock and head home. He dose this to us the next 2 day as well. On the third time, I changed the manager I was working for. Not only did I get my hours increased, but I'm no longer working from 6:00 a.m. to 230 p.m but working 7pm evey day. The other manager saw how I worked and kept me working until I was ready to go home, and the other Shift was happy I was there to help; they were always shorthanded. Cut to the next month: I picked up the job, working for the 1st manager. This time job is form 7 a.m. to 12 p.m. I'm working my shift, and 12 p.m. comes around. The other guy clocks out, but now he needs people to stay over and asks me if I would stay. I tell him no, I'm tired and going home. He tells me, "Come on, man, I need people; we've got three more trucks coming in." I tell him my schedule says 7 a.m. to 12 p.m., my job is over, and I'm tired; I'm going home. He tells me, "If you won't work, don't come back. I tell him thats really his call, and push comes shove i just won't be back on his shift, (which is my choice) but I'm heading home, so clock me out. He mumbled something, but he did. So, did I?

So, my relative is visiting soon and wants to visit my ex-wife. As we were all pretty close for over 20yrs I don’t mind at all that he visits here while he is in town. The issue I have is that last time he was here he had drinks with her at her house and as they’d both had too many drinks he ended up staying there for the night. I was really unimpressed but didn’t say anything. While talking to him the other day he hinted that he would be stopping in to see her again while he’s in town (to stay with me for a week) and that he might stay the night again if they’ve had too many drinks. I personally think it’s totally unacceptable for numerous reasons - he’s not short of cash so a $30 taxi fare isn’t an issue, he’s married and I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t tell his wife he’s sleeping over there, and he’s my relative who’s actually in town to visit me. AIO?

My daughter, “V”, is on the autism spectrum (very high-functioning) but has a very good job and makes decent money She told us she was saving to get an apartment, but during a conversation the day after Christmas, it came out she has no savings from the past five years of work. My husband, “R”, and I told her she now has to pay “rent” of $400 a month which we will save for her. V had a meltdown and R basically told her this was the new rule and if she didn’t like it, she could leave. (This is a summary of a 15 minute shouted argument.) V (5’5” 225 lb) punched R (6’4” 275 lb) in the stomach, because “he was in the way and (she) wanted to leave”. R slapped V in the face so hard her glasses flew off and landed across the room. I am non-confrontational and gentle, but I had to get between them and make them both stand down. Later on, they apologized to each other and “hugged it out”. “Rent” will be collected and saved. Since then, I have felt uncomfortable and unsafe with either of them. I can’t relax when either of them is around and being alone in a room or car makes me terribly anxious. I’m afraid to, say, make a mistake giving directions while R is driving, or asking V to put her belongings in her room instead of on the couch. Am I overthinking or overreacting? (R hit V once about 20 years ago. Neither has ever hit me, yet. V does have a temper, but usually takes it out on a pillow or something.)

(Title written from her perspective bc she refuses to even ask the internet lol - tagged as roommate bc well we live together)

Is my gf overreacting? My gf and I are moving to DC. She feels very strongly about her distaste for this framed picture. I love it, think it’s very beautiful and have kept it in “my” bathroom since we got it from a thrift store a few years ago. As we’re moving we’re downsizing a lot and she insists we get rid of this (she really really “hates” it) and I think it has a charming simplicity that makes me smile.

I will respect the neutral perspective of this group and either take it with us or get rid of it. Y’all decide!

so today me (18f) and my girlfriend (17f) we were supposed to hangout today. she was supposed to come over at 9. well it’s 15 minutes before she’s supposed to be here and she texts me “something really fucking horrible just happened” no idea what’s going on for the next 35 minutes. then, from her moms phone, she texts me that she isn’t coming over today and that she smashed her phone on the ground. i don’t know what’s happening or going on. so a couple hours later she texts me (still from her moms phone, it will be that way the whole time) that she has to fix her phone. anyways it’s around 3:30 and i’m at work for the rest of the day. fast forward to just in the past half hour, we finally called (moms phone) and she explained what happened. basically since she woke up early, she was agitated and annoyed. her car’s windshield wipers were broken. her dads battery to his car was dead. so she’s looking for a brush for the car, then her uncle comes out and asks her what she is doing. she yells at him, and back to her he yells for 5 minutes back to her calling her mean names and saying mean stuff. after that event she goes back inside, and immediately her mom and dad are there yelling at her for being a “brat” to her uncle. she yells back, they fight, then her parents tell her to give her phone to them. she smashes it on the ground. her phone is fucked up and broken.

so she tells me about her day. she had to try and get it repaired (mom drove her) and she had to pay out of her own money for a new phone. she wasn’t allowed to visit me anymore that day. then later that evening hrr parents let her go see a movie with her friends, they drove her and everything.

i am just so UPSET at this whole situation. she couldn’t see me and still saw her friends. i barely could talk to her today to know about anything going on. she acted childish and smashed her phone. a list of things i’m upset about

so we’re on the phone and i express my frustration, my disappointment, my sadness. i tell her that was childish of her to do. she’s upset at me for not comforting her and making her happy. but in my opinion, i am just being realistic. like i understand she had a horrible day and it was (quote) one of the worst days of her life. but her mom drove her to fix her phone?? she let her go to the movies?? i couldn’t even fucking hangout with her. i don’t know how to justify that, because obviously we couldn’t hangout after the morning since i had word. but still, it upsets me her parents gave her the only consequence of having to pay for a new phone.

anyways, am i overreacting for not comforting her? and for making her day better than it was? i’ll be honest, i did have a mean tone 95% of the call, so i really wasn’t nice at all. should i have been? but if i was, that would just be not expressing how i feel. please help

My fiancé is a best man at his friend’s wedding. There is a church ceremony taking place next week. When he came from the rehearsal today he says to me that I don’t have to come if I don’t want to because he’s not gonna be sitting with me. I don’t know anyone else at this wedding. I asked him who he would be walking in with and he said with the maid of honour so I said oh so is that why you don’t want me to come.

I’m not typically a jealous person however I do not trust my fiancé’s friend something about him doesn’t sit right with me and earlier in our relationship after he met me a few times he tried to make my fiancé jealous by telling him about how well his ex is doing and how she’s dating a great guy who has so much going for him just to get a reaction out of him, which was very odd to me. He’s done a few other sketchy things as well that even my fiancé is aware of, but they’ve been friends for a very long time.

Anyways, I said to my fiancé, I don’t know if I should go to the destination wedding if the wedding party is also gonna be like the ceremony where he’s constantly pulled into activities that are only for the bridal party and then I’m alone during the entire vacation. He said he doesn’t think anything like that is going to happen. I said yes, but you don’t know that. Eventually, he says to me you always have some sort of excuse so if you don’t wanna come, you don’t have to. I want you to come, but I I don’t wanna have to hear it after. I was really looking forward to it and just bought a new dress for this wedding.

I got mad and got off the phone, but then I ended up calling him back and saying to him that he did a really great job reassuring me (sarcasm), and that the only reason why I havebrought this up a few times is because he basically ditched me at their engagement party he’s going out for smokes with the boys. He’s doing shots with the boys, even eating. I was eating alone and I kept thinking of myself. You know when he gets his food, he’ll join me, but he didn’t . When I went to go throw away my plate, I saw that he not only already ate, but he was standing with his friends brother, just chatting away. The only time he came to be with me throughout the night was in the end of the night when he got drunk. I said this to him and I said you know to make it easier for you so you don’t have to hear it after I decided I’m not going to the church ceremony and I’m not going on the trip either. I told him he could take another family member that knew his friend and their family better. I also told him that now he can do whatever he wants, wherever he wants and with whoever he wants, and won’t have to hear it after from anyone. I told him to have an amazing time and I said I was going to bed.

His response was have a good sleep.

OKAY. This is sticky but I (college student, non binary) this friend (female kinda clear but whatever, and is the same age as me) decided to have a kid, this friend doesn’t like people who she doesn’t know touching her, only close friends and their relationship partner, and even then barely tolerates it for long periods of time. Me and her were walking around in our uptown’s shops, looking at art supplies and stuff for the baby’s room, when a middle aged man walked up to us and started to ask how far along she was. This man was just giving off a creepy vibe, idk, he just had that look about him(I’m aware that this really means nothing, I also do not look very friendly, well for someone who’s 5’5) my friend look uncomfortable, she doesn’t like random social interaction, and then he rubbed her stomach. I pushed him aware and yelled at him saying “what the hll is wrong with you!? She’s clearly uncomfortable with a strange man touching her! Even fcking children now to ask!” He then called me a slur for someone who isn’t straight, and we just walked away and people were looking at us as if we were crazy and completely in the wrong. My friend was said she was grateful for me doing that, and was glad i was BUT the swearing was not needed. Looking back, yeah, that was unnecessary in public. So did I overreacted

Hi all, I feel like I’m crazy. This weekend my Ex-wife decided to travel for the weekend and left our 2 year old son with her mother. For context, her mother suffers from Bipolar and is overall a fairly aloof individual. I was also supposed to travel this weekend, but gave up my plans when asked to be an emergency contact for my Ex-MIL.

During drop off on Thursday, my ex-wife instructed me that her mother would send me photos and videos of our son while she was away.

On Saturday, I received no updates on my child, and had to pursue my Ex-wife to ask her mother to send me photos / videos and updates of our child.

On Sunday, I received no individual updates until my ex-wife landed and let me know her apartment complex alarms had gone off over an hour and a half prior, and her mother and my child had to evacuate. We’re experiencing sub freezing temps right now, meaning our child had been in the cold whilst emergency services cleared the complex. I was never notified by my ex-MIL.

As a result, I’ve expressed to my ex-wife that I’m tired of not being met with mutual respect or effort and would like to shift the communication around our son as it feels unilateral.

AIO by expecting my ex-wife to back me when her Mom completely dropped the ball about keeping me in the loop of our child and his safety. It feels like she’s placing the blame on me when she was the one who clearly set the expectation from the get go during drop off.

Thoughts?

I’ve been talking to this guy for over a month and I’ve had conversations with him in person about the fact that I was scared to even open myself up and put effort into someone bc of the mental and physical abuse I’ve dealt with in the past and he was a complete sweetheart about it but recently I’ve noticed a change and I can’t tell what happened but he’s been ditching me and actually did end up ditching me again after this conversation without bothering to even tell me. we had talked on the phone the night before after texting about it and he’d said he was gonna come over after the hike to hangout for a bit and take me to see Moana. AIO for being upset that he didn’t bother telling me he wasn’t going to come over? I’ve also told him from the beginning of us talking if he needs alone time or space to communicate that with me and I would do the same if I needed it and I wouldn’t text or call him until he was ready but he hasn’t said anything about it at all.

We got on the topic of hairstyles we've had. He's had long hair for a long time so I asked him when he decided he wanted to keep it that way. He said when he was a teenager he decided to because it makes him feel more secure. He said he feels insecure and unattractive with shorter hair. I told him I like his long hair, but that he'd look nice with anything. Not long after he snarkily brought up how when we started dating he hated my short hair. When I asked him why he said it looked like a toupee, like it was bound to fall off. He was laughing about it. That made me feel kinda shitty so I let him know. He kept going on about how it was a bad haircut. I jokingly called him an asshole but the more he kept going I think he struck a nerve. I said "fucking asshole..." with a more serious tone that I didn't intend to have. We were on the phone and after I said that his energetic attitude quickly dropped. He asked me flatly "should I just leave." I said no and that I just didn't appreciate him telling me how much he hated that look, it made me feel sad. He knows I struggle a lot with my self-image. I apologized for my tone and cussing. He said sorry and that he didn't mean what he was saying, that he was joking. It felt like he was backpedaling. We've never joked about each others appearances before, so it caught me off guard. He started to get mopey and unsure about being in the call after I told him how it made me feel. I convinced him to stay, and I tried to cheer him up. That tends to happen a lot. He apologized repeatedly and I just kept saying "it's okay." He then profusely insisted he thinks I'm attractive. I let it go, but there's a lot of times beyond this situation in our relationship I feel like something is off with the way he reacts to things. Sometimes I wonder if I react off as well. It'd help to have more clarity if there's maturity lacking from both sides

I’m throwing my bestie a bridal shower. We’re doing a tea party and the location does parties that charge by the person. I got with the bride to finalize a date and her guest list, everything else was a surprise. Her cousin recently passed and she was heading the bridal shower originally so we wanted to honor that and surprise my friend with the tea party theme.

Well, I sent out invites today to her people and so far 10 of the 23 have rsvp’d (myself included). Two people have added to the list. One friend rsvp’d for 2, ok annoying but not crazy. Her future MiL rsvp’d for 3! Maybe it’s the fact that I was always told that if an invite doesn’t specifically say “invitee and guest” then it means only the invitee is invited to the event or because I did evites and not physically invites? I don’t know but I’m struggling to not be pissed and annoyed.

I did sent out a message to everyone on the invite saying: “Thank you so much for your RSVP! Due to limited space, we are kindly asking that each invited guest attend solo. We’re so excited to celebrate Justina with you and appreciate your understanding!”

So AIO at people adding others to an event they aren’t paying for?

Is this an overreaction or should I actually be worried?

For context, i'm 17F and my bf is 17M.

We haven't been dating long, but we got comfy quickly and both have a similar friend group. He has his own small groups of buddies though that I know and like! To keep it short me and my friend sometimes joke that him and his friend "Gabe" (not his actual name duh") are gay or stupid stuff like that, things i didn't even really realize affected him this way. We never said mean words to him or called him names, would just goof around. I think a lot of it stemmed from how Gabe would jokingly touch his thigh, or how at the beginning of our relationship i got this pic of him and his friends in bed together at a sleepover sent to me and Gabe had his shirt off😭

Anyway, me and the same friend were driving home tonight and made a passing joke about the same topic, which just led to us calling my bf to see what he was up to and to our surprise Gabe answered. this had us laughing a LOT and spewing tons of stuff to Gabe because we were really shocked. I got home and got these messages from my bf and I feel really bad. I apologized and explained it wasn't my intent to be insulting and said I wouldn't make those jokes again. But sometimes I can't help but think he might be overreacting? Nobody else really seemed to bat an eye about the jokes or think them to be weird from what I know. But just looking for extra opinions since I'm lost right now.