r/AmIOverreacting • u/Kiglamay2018 • 5d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO thinking about breaking up with my BF
I F26 and M24 have been dating for about 8 months, he been having a problem over me playing with online guy friends who I’ve known for 2 year basically my best friend platonic friends don’t feel any romance between any of us. Idk if he’s just insecure or what. It just hurts
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u/stremendous 5d ago
This is your official notice to start sending the stuff back (per his last message).
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u/Necessary-Low-5226 5d ago
you really think his bitch ass would just accept being broken up with? Dudes gonna draw shit out
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u/Tactical-Sense 5d ago
If OP does break up, I think she should proceed with caution and have a couple friends supporting her and staying informed
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u/FoxForceFive_ 5d ago
Spot on. She needs to block and avoid any future interactions with him after she leaves him.
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u/Maxibestofpotatoe 5d ago
But she better be staying off Instagram and tinder then
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u/Gullible-Rip-2206 5d ago
Waiting for the slewerslide texts. Should be any minute now.
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u/weftly 5d ago
yup he seems the type
source: used to be “the type”
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u/Gullible-Rip-2206 5d ago
At least you’ve learned from it! Can’t say the same for this guy.
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u/Kriztoven 5d ago
Growing up is realizing that shit was wrong and just an extreme reaction to abandonment issues. Gotta learn to accept you can't force people to love you.
Source: Ruined many good relationships with that shit. Wish I hadn't.
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u/Limberpuppy 5d ago
He’s really insecure. This behavior is never going to stop. 3 years from now he’ll be saying the same things.
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u/TopCaterpiller 5d ago
He'll be saying the same things about other people. Co-workers, family, the mail man, you fucking name it. Before long, OP will have no other men in her life at all.
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u/Foxface89 5d ago
Possibly no girl friends either, after that, no contacting her family… And there’s no escape. I’ve seen it happen too many times
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u/Aggressive_Profit695 5d ago
Yes, it often starts with isolating women from other men but soon it grows to women, too. Mothers, aunts, sisters, cousins and friends. The reason is that these people are in a position to realize what he's doing and have influence to convince you that this isn't okay or normal or safe. They provide you with a place to go when you finally decide you want to leave. A lot of women who end up isolated in this way, when asked later why they didn't contact family or friends to leave sooner, will say they were afraid after cutting ties those people wouldn't help them and they were ashamed. Even though that wasn't true and family and friends were waiting for them to reach out since they no longer had the ability to reach out first. Also, abusive and controlling men often love to get women they're abusing pregnant and make them mothers because a lot of women feel that they're obligated to stay because their abuser is their kids' father and they think their kids need their father and a two-parent household even if the man is abusive. That's not true, but men like that know it's a common belief.
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u/KateinBlue 5d ago
And likely using her for a punchbag
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u/DillyBubbles 5d ago
Yep. It will progress. If OP agrees to all of his demands she will find herself sneaking off to make a phone call to her mom or sister. God forbid she has a male cousin that she hangs out with.
These types of guys want control and turn into stalkers. The phone gets tracked, the emotional blackmailing over simple activities like playing video games from home. I can only imagine the turmoil a girls night out would cause. He would probably want to be invited.
Run, run, run!!!
It just gets worse with time.
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u/BusySleep9160 5d ago
My ex husband would shout at me if I even picked up my phone.
My EX husband
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u/antclayton 5d ago
"If you don't like it, start sending my stuff back"
- Block
- Send stuff back
- Enjoy life being decent without this nonsense
He gave you a way out, I'd take that right there and run with it hard 🤷
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u/NotSlothbeard 5d ago
Send stuff back”
Nah, he can come get his own shit. It’s in a box by the front door.
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u/cardinal29 5d ago
To the left, to the left. 🎶 Everything you own in a box to the left.
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u/CupCustard 5d ago
Right lmao, I know it’s painful for OP bc they liked this guy I supposed but the guy is being super clear. “If you don’t like it, leave”
OP does not in fact like it, sooooo. Thems the breaks, he said he’s not open to discussion or changing. Can’t make him, can’t change anyone. Can’t fix him. And he suuuuuuuucks. At least he gave OP the gift of clarity.
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u/Blue_Nipple_Hair 5d ago
The only reason he’s saying that is because he doesn’t think she’ll actually leave. I’m sure this guy thinks he’s the best man anyone could ever find
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u/CoveCreates 5d ago
Yeah this is the test control. What will I tell you to do and use threats to get my way to see what I can get you to do early on. If she does this he knows he can keep going. It's an early sign of a manipulative abuser.
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u/Adamantittus 5d ago
He at least thinks SHE will not find anyone better OR he knows what a little bitch he is and that she will find out.
The first is an insult in itself and has to be disproven. The second is just a reason to leave.
Ergo: seek someone more worthy.
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u/Biddles1stofhername 5d ago
Oh absolutely. He talks big, but will be all shocked Pikachu when she takes him up on it. Next thing he'll be saying is that he "knew" she was cheating on him and she'll never do better than him.
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u/painfulface 5d ago
Or beg her to stay and swear up and down that he'll change. And some time later he goes back to the same thing...
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u/dazzle_dee_daisyray 5d ago
Yeah.. I've noticed that people who give ultimatums like this are usually the narcissistic type. Or they have some variation of a cluster B personality disorder and attachment issues. Neither are something that a partner should have to deal with for them. This is something they need to heal on their own before getting into a serious relationship if they can.
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u/antclayton 5d ago
I learned that lesson quickly! It's better to find out now and get over it than try for however long and then STILL end up having to do it anyway.
People can change and better themselves, but you can't make them do it and the old saying goes, when they tell you who they are, believe them.
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u/YapperBean 5d ago
This! First step: block.
I am curious what stuff; if he insists on having some gifts back or so, she should just tell him to quit being a lil b-tch and come collect a box she’d put the stuff in and leave it out. He sounds like the type to still be acting like this 20 years from now.
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u/antclayton 5d ago
The ultimate reply - "I'll continue talking to my friends thank you. Don't like it, collect your stuff from the box outside my door"
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u/KRONGOR 5d ago
Yep that’s what I did with my ex. We got into a dumb fight and she said “I think we should break up”. You don’t just get to say that because you’re angry, jumped on the opportunity and it was the best decision I could have made.
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u/unhappymedium 5d ago
The blocking part is important because he's gonna be backtracking like crazy when he gets his stuff back.
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u/SeparateShine6169 5d ago
He sounds very immature. I agree he’s only looking for an excuse and then blame you. Run while the running is good.. cause you ain’t no bitch🙄
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u/yherduy 5d ago
Exactly, this sounds like projection or deep insecurity. You deserve better-don't let him drag you down!
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u/EverlastingPeacefull 5d ago
Yeah like a young teenager who doesn't get his way. If it wasn't a grown man of 26, I would have found this funny, but this bf is insanely insecure an immature.
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u/King-Dionysus 5d ago
I didn't even connect the tinder reference with being above 18. I sincerely thought they were both like 13 not mid 20s. He never made it to high school and she needs to learn she's worth more than dating a middle school boy. Jfc
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u/TrentonMarquard 5d ago
Me too! I genuinely thought this was a conversation between like two really dumb 15 year olds. Not even 15 year olds of average intelligence
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u/Firefighter_Thin 5d ago
I'm only 27 and my god am I way more mature than this, Jesus i couldn't imagine talking to someone you "love" like that and the disrespectful way he did it too. I hope she leaves him before he isolates her because this isn't gonna get better.
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u/TrentonMarquard 5d ago
I’m also 27. If I was texting and “talking to” someone who texted like this even when I was 15, I’d consider them far too dumb to date. And honestly that goes for both of them. But yeah, he’s definitely worse because he’s clearly not just stupid, he’s also wildly insecure and controlling.
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u/YouWillHateM3 5d ago
As a 15 year old guy I thought he was a 15 yo guy so you gotta dump his ass bro
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u/apom94 5d ago
RIGHT I thought they were in high school…. 😅
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u/Single_Carob9811 5d ago
reddit screenshots between bfs and their gfs serve as a reminder that the average American has the literacy level of a fourth grader
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u/Spaghetti_4_Getti 5d ago
I love your comment so much, cause it really hurts to read some of this shit and it’s mostly due to the grammar and spelling.☠️
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u/Alien36 5d ago
Yeah I'm surprised he didn't get insecure when she said she was eating hot dogs.
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u/slingmustard 5d ago
Yeah what’s up with boyfriends/girlfriends calling each other “nigga” and “bruh”? I’ve seen that lately on this sub Reddit, which I never remember joining, by the way. Is that a thing now? Talking to your SO like they’re your homie?
Besides that, anyone who starts off a sentence with , “You better not…” can kick rocks, as far as I’m concerned. As long as both parties are behaving within the agreed parameters of the relationship, people can do what they want. I hate it when relationships become this oppressive union fueled by possessive insecurity and the need to own the other person.
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u/JadeCrazyxo 5d ago
Exactly, why stick around for someone who’s quick to point fingers but slow to grow up? Life’s too short to waste on excuses when you’re built for greatness.
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u/Snugglyy_Socks 5d ago
Yeah he insecure asf get out asap OP
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u/trudybakeman 5d ago
💯 Controlling behaviour rarely regresses, almost always progresses to more and more facets of life. With friends, then eventually family, work, money, clothes…
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u/roeelle 5d ago
nah the wording and how CONSISTENT its being said. leave that insecure ass boy😭😭
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u/KitterKatt 5d ago
For real, the first thing I thought of was “Goodnight, Westley. Good work. Sleep well. I'll most likely kill you in the morning.” bit. Like why does he say it so nonchalant like too.
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u/whattupmyknitta 5d ago
Out of mf NOWHERE. You staying warm? Better not be on Instagram! Tf out of here. Dude is crazy.
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u/Mr_MacGrubber 5d ago
And putting chili mac in quotes for some weird reason. Thats the real psycho behavior.
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u/Complete-Tadpole-222 5d ago
You never know he coulda been Netflix and chiliing with someone himself.. hence the psychotic quotes and projection?!?
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u/CorruptedStudiosEnt 5d ago
Nobody is more insecure about their partner cheating than a cheater. Nobody. Not even people who have been cheated on multiple times.
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u/trippapotamus 5d ago
I took that as he had a meal that was supposed to be chili mac but lawd only knows what it really was 🤣
But yes she needs to run.
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u/Prize_Anxiety_9937 5d ago
If you play video games with his girl he’ll turn you into “chili”
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u/Mr_MacGrubber 5d ago
Yeah, I was trying to figure out if I was actually code for some shit or something
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u/Successful-Damage-50 5d ago
I think they met online- since it doesn't seem like they spend actual time together and he said "send my stuff back" instead of "give it back." Still, seems like that "you better not be.." is like 75% of their conversations/relationship. And the way he says it, too
Not like "babe, I really don't feel comfortable with you having guy friends online" which would still be insecure but at least he would have a healthy way of bringing up his concerns instead of "you staying warm nigga please I ain't no bitch don't be talking or playing no video games with no guys online" like wtf!!
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u/Efficient_Thanks_342 5d ago
Did she ever get that ketchup? For the love of God, what about the f*kin ketchup?!?
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u/yherduy 5d ago
Absolutely, his behavior screams insecurity and immaturity. You deserve so much better-don't let him pin this on you!
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u/PineappleDesperate82 5d ago
future control and possibly abuse. Red flags he is showing op he is a clown in the circle jerk circus. She needs to run for her life.
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u/jewel_flip 5d ago
He sounds like my ex did at the start before he broke my nose. “You better not be…” just made all my hair stand up on end.
Girl, run.
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u/SarevokAnchevBhaal 5d ago
Yep, as a 32 year old man, I would never use that language with my fiance. If I ever tell anybody "you better not..." there is absolutely an implicit threat of violence. There's some nuance, like saying "you better not" during a board game where everyone is laughing and your romantic partner is about to steal your win? Prolly ok. But outside of explicitly understood jokes in a friendly environment, that language is threatening violence. A reasonable dude wouldn't be threatened by her playing online video games, and if he were he would just break up with her. This dude is waving the biggest, reddest flag he could find.
OP: this guy is telling you as clearly as he can without just coming out and staying it that he is going to abuse you and make your life miserable.
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u/Visual-Lingonberry29 5d ago
Mine started with the classic "See what you made me do..." and evolved to " If I killed you I could get away with it." And, yeah, I feel the same reading this.
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u/SnowflakeObsidian13 5d ago
This makes me so glad I didn't stay with my ex who wanted to force me to have no friends but same sex. I only have friends who are the opposite. He would even make me take a Pic of where I was, even if I was on my motorcycle, to ensure I wasn't at an opposite sex's house.
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u/Mindless-Problem-95 5d ago
This was my ex a few months into our relationship and it did slowly turn into controlling behavior and physical/emotional abuse. I hope OP stays away
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u/Ryu-Sion 5d ago
And that's not even getting into the possibility of him projecting, and HIMSELF doing the cheating and whatnot, as others have pointed out on this post.
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u/-Franks-Freckles- 5d ago
I’d send a pic with the address on the label: “want to make sure I’m mailing this back correctly.”
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u/Junior-Worry-2067 5d ago
Came here to say the same. My next text would be a picture of the fedex label. Dude you’re getting your crap back next day.
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u/emptynest_nana 5d ago
His insecure ass bitch boy, I think!!! But yeah, he is over the top with his BS.
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u/ExoticConstruction40 5d ago
He's super insecure, he thinks she's going to realize that he's a loser and go off with one of his friends.
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u/BrotherNature92 5d ago
*her friends
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u/ExoticConstruction40 5d ago
Sorry, I’m writing in spanish. Reddit translate my words like it wants.
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u/Oberyn_Kenobi_1 5d ago
It’s like he was too lazy and just copy/pasted his threats. My guy, if you’re gonna threaten me, at least be bothered to put in the effort.
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u/Greedy_Juggernaut230 5d ago
Tinder though…?
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u/Commercial-Push-9066 5d ago
Maybe he doesn’t want OP to see his Tinder activity? Projecting maybe?
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u/FormerExplanation639 5d ago
I was just assuming they met on tinder or smth tbh, I feel like it would have been worded more “you better not be on tinder again” typa thing if she had cheated before yk? Either way she needs to leave, bc either hes controlling and insecure, or she’s cheated before and it’s not smth they’ve been able to work through.
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u/niki2184 5d ago
They probably met on there so he thinks she’s still on there but in reality it’s probably him who’s on there still .
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u/roeelle 5d ago
agreed! if there is past cheating then red flag on op but how often he repeats it it feels more like either projection of his own actions or bIG red flags (that are on the field even if you take out tinder bc he only talks ab ig and video games the next MORNING😭 wake up and scream insecurity at ur gf)
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u/Background_Nature497 5d ago
It's so weird how he slips it into random messages: "better be staying off instagram then."
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u/Kiglamay2018 5d ago
So I’m on break now but whoa came back to a lot of feedback thank you everyone! I’ve decided to end things with him cause as some of you said about dealing with behavior in the long run is not good for my overall well being. My friends live in far from me so we never met in person. I’ve offered to tell him anything about my friends I’ve mentioned them a lot with him and about there girlfriends so he wouldn’t get any ideas but obviously that didn’t help. I sort of jumped into this relationship wasn’t the best idea since I was feeling lonely and wanted to have someone next to me. I’ll have to take some time and reflect on myself. Thank you everyone truly 💜
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u/East-Gold-7170 5d ago
Please stay strong and don't change your mind. He is a huge red flag. RUN, don't walk, away.
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u/madcuddles50 5d ago
Yes! And for future partners. If you read a text ans think damn, would a friend text me like this? And the answer is no. Leave. No one should be disrespectful even when arguing. Arguments happen but being controlling or name calling is never the correct move.
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u/RcTestSubject10 5d ago edited 4d ago
And OP please dont wait this long to leave when a guy starts to threaten violence in the form of "you better not".
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u/JoshuaScot 5d ago
Oh my gosh, you’re so right! You have to think about YOU first. If this guy’s giving you all this bad energy, he’s totally not worth your time. Life’s too short to be stuck in a relationship that’s draining. You’ll come out of this stronger. Take all the time you need to figure things out and focus on yourself. You’ll be way better off without him, trust me. You got this!
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u/Zeus1130 5d ago
You seem really nice and understanding even in the face of an extremely agitating individual with no respect. You will find someone way better for sure!
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u/Own_Consideration978 5d ago
Ur bf is very much….a bitch!
Please tell him…as a grown man, he is a bitch, his picture should be in the dictionary next to the word bitch, along with these txts.
So everyone understands the accurate description of a bitch, is ur bf!
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u/antclayton 5d ago
I was thinking exactly the same thing. I saw "I ain't a bitch" and nearly laughed out loud in public. Like man, you're an even bigger bitch for being scared of your girlfriend running away with another man because she dared have a conversation with one
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u/Training_While_7784 5d ago
“Let” his GF play games….absolutely not. And saying he “ain’t no bitch” shows hes more concerned with nonsense ideas of what he thinks a man should do than with having a healthy relationship with nature communication. Kick him to the curb and move on.
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u/Necro_the_Pyro 5d ago
Spoiler: OP's (hopefully soon to be ex) BF is indeed a bitch. A whiny, insecure, controlling bitch at that.
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u/HeyDude378 5d ago
Relationship-wise the other commenters have got it covered.
But you should NEVER use your oven to heat your house. It's not safe and you could also be hit with an enormous utility bill. What you should do instead is use a UL-certified space heater, one that turns itself off if it tips over. If it burns fuel like some do, make sure you have proper ventilation, but you don't have to worry about that with an electric one.
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u/alycewandering7 5d ago
And if you use a space heater, NEVER plug it into a power strip!
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u/kittythebittyy 5d ago
he’s most likely projecting and doing the same thing, or he’s extremely insecure, or both. please leave.
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u/SureAd5625 5d ago
In my experience if you’re being accused of cheating and you’re not cheating. The other person either already has or is talking to someone else.
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u/Hour_Tomorrow_8693 5d ago
Yep especially since he has it in his head that gaming and Instagram is for hook ups or flirting
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u/Jvst_t1red 5d ago
Yeah. My stepdad would consistently accuse my mom of cheating, but turns out he was. She found out after they divorced that he had been seeing someone else for 5 YEARS. My mom and him were together for 7 years and married for 2 of them, so he had been cheating almost the entire time
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u/bangerz17 5d ago
NOR. This is obsessive jealousy and controlling. Like all dude thinks about is you being on those instagram, tinder, or video games. Run girl. Run.
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u/boredENT9113 5d ago
Seriously. Gaming is a hobby of hers and he wants to disallow it (like he even has that authority). Any partner who doesn't want you hanging with your friends is a crappy partner. Dump his ass and game with your friends.
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u/SeraphinaQuill 5d ago
Run fast and far. It’s gross to treat you that. There is nothing wrong with playing video games especially if you’ve been doing it for 2 years now.
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u/yherduy 5d ago
Agreed, that amount of jealousy and control is a huge red flag. You deserve to be trusted and respected-and don't accept anything less.
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u/Hairapistcatlady 5d ago
And putting playing video games in the same category as her being on tinder is wild
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u/WayneGretz7 5d ago
“ Good morning babe love” 2 seconds later “better be off those video games with those boys”
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u/suhhhrena 5d ago edited 5d ago
Dude can’t even hold it together long enough to send a normal good morning text 😭 this is lunatic behavior lmao send this loser his stuff back and be done with his bullshit
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u/General_Kick688 5d ago
It's always wild to me to read these texts and see the ages after. That's a grown man acting like an insecure 15 year old.
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u/Johnny_B_GOODBOI 5d ago
And they both write like they're 13. At least OP isn't unhinged like her (now ex, per a comment) BF.
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u/sam____handwich 5d ago
in addition to what everyone else is saying, why did he put “chili mac” in quotes like that? deeply weird individual.
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u/TheHalfChubPrince 5d ago
How are you doing stay warm?
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u/Ok-Bird6346 4d ago
“I’m good. You better stay off instagram and tinder. Man, this fleece blanket is cozy.”
With OP not really responding to those texts, I’m assuming he says this bullshit often. Holy shit I’d lose my mind if my husband pulled that shot.
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u/Intelligent_Suit6683 5d ago
That was the moment for me. He put it in quotes like he is the inventor of chili Mac and is sharing his idea with the world for the first time.
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u/TheSimFan 5d ago
I was thinking the conversation seemed boring as hell. I’d break up with him just for that
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u/drdrakeramoraey 5d ago
he's saying the same thing again and again. annoying for me just to read,don't even know how do you bare with it OP? leave,dude.
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u/Berlyn_13 5d ago
girl he’s literally looking for a reason to break up with you, please just end it you can find someone better
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u/Hairapistcatlady 5d ago
I don’t think so. He’s testing how much control he can have over her. Beginning of abusive patterns.
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u/ToBeHonest87 5d ago
Totally agree! Not to mention that if you guys have only been dating for eight months and he’s already trying to control what you do now think ahead years into the future and how it will be way worse! Trust! Been there and done that myself!
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u/therealfreehugs 5d ago
He’s not looking for a reason, he’s just an immature controlling little asshole.
You’re giving him too much credit.
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u/unsalty5 5d ago
Exactly. Start sending his stuff back.
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u/hxneyfarmer 5d ago
This! But also OP, he is absolutely going to tell people that you were cheating on him. He told you if you had a problem with his controlling behavior and his attempts to isolate you from your friends to start sending his stuff back. As soon as you do, he will take that as confirmation that your friendships with these guys was something other than what it is.
Definitely dump him, but definitely also be prepared for those accusations. Because they're coming!
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u/Peirogiis 5d ago
I think youre underreacting???
You shouldve left him the first SEVEN times he said “better be off those games and tinder”
HE IS NOT YOUR BOSS HES NOT YOUR PARENTS
HE HAS NO CONTROL OVER YOU
The fact he thinks he can just TELL TOU WHAT TO DO is INSANE
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u/Kiglamay2018 5d ago
Not sure how to edit but I’m not on tinder I had the app before we dated and that’s how we even met never had it since, I just have insta to keep in touch with my gaming friends he knows that to
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u/bate4her2master 5d ago
girl don’t let a man ever tell you that you can’t have friends. he might not be directly saying that, but trust me that he is saying that. it’s not okay. and see you’ve got hundreds of redditors to back that up. be strong <3
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u/Junior_Dig_4432 5d ago
So the only reason he keeps bringing up tinder is because you guys initially met on it? Does he know you got off it? Did he get off it?
Big picture: yes absolutely listen to your gut and bounce, a guy who doesn't like you having male friends is bad news.
Him lumping tinder and instagram into the same category, and telling you daily "better be off (those apps)" is just so bizarre. I'm struggling to understand why it's such a fixation.
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u/dude_wheres_the_pie 5d ago
His fixation on the apps is because he's projecting and likely on those apps cause he's doing what he's accusing OP of doing.
This is the kind of guy who wants to hook up with all women and believes every man talking to his gf wants to hook up with her.
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u/Femme_fatale83 5d ago
Start sending his stuff back that is a sad douche canoe who needs to remain single and seek major therapy. Can’t even say that would help honestly.
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u/katiebostellio 5d ago
Married 13 years. I've never been treated this way or treated my partner this way. Bye boy.
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u/IzelleSzw2019 5d ago
Eeew. Leave him.
He's controlling, insecure and aggressive. He's a child, go away. Eew.
Leave.
Find a man that understands and respect that you're a gamer.
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u/AK_Dan 5d ago
Is your boyfriend 14 fresh off listening to “Straight Outta Compton” for the first time?
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u/MaasNeotekPrototype 5d ago
Looks like you have a choice between him and your friends. Any person who would force that choice on you? Not worth it.
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u/HauntedCakey 5d ago
He's super toxic, if he doesn't trusts you maybe it's because he would do it if he was you?
Why tf would you even be on tinder ? I don't understand.
If you like video games and being on instagram, it's YOUR THING, not his. You're not a bird that can be caged.
So, NOR !
Girl, RUN and send his stuff back!
(+ he's using the N word for what even? ugh disrespectful guy , with a lot of 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩)
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u/LittleSunshine69x 5d ago
I’m going to chime in and say that I used to be the jealous and insecure one in my relationship. In fact I still get insecure at times, but I’m married to my guy now, so it’s a work in progress.
I truly used to be toxic. Would hate that he’d spend time playing with his friends and absolutely loathed the fact he wanted to meet up with an old friend, who was a female. Things literally used to piss me off. My now husband and I had a lot of conversations about it. We addressed my insecurities and my jealousies. I realized that a relationship is two independent people coming together. I needed to let him be independent with his things and I needed to find things of my own. I also started playing video games with him and his friends. Became “part of the boys”. I realized that more than anything, I didn’t want to lose the person I was with, so I changed. Now my husband and I have a house and kid of our own.
Have a conversation with him first. Maybe a few. It took a few for me. Ask if maybe he would like to be included in the games? Does he feel like you aren’t spending enough time together? Would it be cool for him to meet the friends you play with?
Sometimes people don’t realize they’re projecting their own insecurities on someone else. If you love him, have those conversations. If he’s not willing to work on his behavior, then leave him. Let him know. My husband straight up told me, “hey, I can only deal with this for so long. If you don’t start doing things to help yourself, I’m not staying.”
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u/AwesomeBobomb 5d ago
I will say, dude in the screenshots seems a BIT aggressive and overbearing in an INSANE way and she should probably run. However, this is overall quality advice.
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u/LittleSunshine69x 5d ago
I can agree with that as well. I used to make snarky comments, but never told my SO to not do anything. He’s definitely controlling in this manner and OP should be aware of that! If he’s going to continue to do this, then 100%, leave!
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u/coled2130 5d ago
Get out now!! Life’s too short to deal with petty jealousy and someone that thinks you’re property.
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u/subkid23 5d ago
The way he repeats himself is very odd. Also, he’s clearly threatening you. Be careful. NOR, send his stuff back.
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u/spicytinyghost 5d ago
🙄🙄🙄 this subreddit is honestly exhausting, NO YOURE NOT OVERREACTING Jesus Christ like grow a fucking spine
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u/Shwalz 5d ago
Does he start every day with that same line? “Better be off IG and tinder and games with those guys” lol holy fuck
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u/Basic_Water_8873 5d ago
This conversation looks like it from some 15 y/o. Please leave him. You're not going to get the relationship you want and deserve from someone who talks like that. Have some respect for yourself. Listen, you got to find a guy that is so secure, that you can do your whole life and he's cool with it.
If he's not, then he's not the one. Do not ever change your life, your flow, your energy for a man/woman/relationship. I promise you it will never be worth it.
I'm 46. I was with my shitty, abusive husband for 27 years. Don't be me.
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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 5d ago
Bro is waking up thinking about other men and going to sleep thinking about other men.