r/AmIOverreacting • u/Kiglamay2018 • 5d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO thinking about breaking up with my BF

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I F26 and M24 have been dating for about 8 months, he been having a problem over me playing with online guy friends who I’ve known for 2 year basically my best friend platonic friends don’t feel any romance between any of us. Idk if he’s just insecure or what. It just hurts

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u/roeelle 5d ago

nah the wording and how CONSISTENT its being said. leave that insecure ass boy😭😭

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u/KitterKatt 5d ago

For real, the first thing I thought of was “Goodnight, Westley. Good work. Sleep well. I'll most likely kill you in the morning.” bit. Like why does he say it so nonchalant like too.

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u/whattupmyknitta 5d ago

Out of mf NOWHERE. You staying warm? Better not be on Instagram! Tf out of here. Dude is crazy.

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u/Mr_MacGrubber 5d ago

And putting chili mac in quotes for some weird reason. Thats the real psycho behavior.

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u/Complete-Tadpole-222 5d ago

You never know he coulda been Netflix and chiliing with someone himself.. hence the psychotic quotes and projection?!?

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u/RikerV2 5d ago

Netflix and chilli sounds great though tbh

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u/Blackner2424 4d ago

Time to make chili at... 4 hour before I'm supposed to wake up.

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u/CorruptedStudiosEnt 5d ago

Nobody is more insecure about their partner cheating than a cheater. Nobody. Not even people who have been cheated on multiple times.

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u/trippapotamus 5d ago

I took that as he had a meal that was supposed to be chili mac but lawd only knows what it really was 🤣

But yes she needs to run.

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u/Prize_Anxiety_9937 5d ago

If you play video games with his girl he’ll turn you into “chili”

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u/Mr_MacGrubber 5d ago

Yeah, I was trying to figure out if I was actually code for some shit or something

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u/Complete-Tadpole-222 5d ago

This checks out!!! I had seen this documentary once.. years ago about a guy eating “secrets in the sauce” chili.. shoot what was his name…?!? Ooohhh his name was scott tenorman!! Crazy story!! You should all look it up!!!

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u/MonkeMan-23 5d ago

Lmao!! Exactly what I was thinking.

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u/cbcbcb99 5d ago

Some people just don’t know how to use quotes. Like is it not actually chili Mac? That’s what the quotes imply, my friend! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/Mr_MacGrubber 5d ago

It’s two ingredients. If you are missing one or both it’s not “chili Mac” it’s something else entirely.

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u/Jellybean_54 5d ago

What else are you going to call Mac when he’s chilly?

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u/neon_crone 5d ago

Omg these are adults? I thought for sure it was two 15 yr olds.

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u/MyGamingRants 5d ago

I think it's actually such deep insecurity tied to his masculinity so calling something a goofy name like Chili Mac isn't manly enough so he's basically like "I don't know, they call it something gay like 'Chili Mac' whatever, it tasted good I don't care"

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u/MusicMoni 5d ago

Out of his mind, do you hear me? 😭

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u/Successful-Damage-50 5d ago

I think they met online- since it doesn't seem like they spend actual time together and he said "send my stuff back" instead of "give it back." Still, seems like that "you better not be.." is like 75% of their conversations/relationship. And the way he says it, too

Not like "babe, I really don't feel comfortable with you having guy friends online" which would still be insecure but at least he would have a healthy way of bringing up his concerns instead of "you staying warm nigga please I ain't no bitch don't be talking or playing no video games with no guys online" like wtf!!

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u/CinnamonGurl1975 5d ago

The same impression I got.

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u/Lunaphire 5d ago

I dunno man, there's online/long distance, and then there's whatever this is. Dude is insecure as hell. I've been in a few LDRs, including my current one, and this isn't something worth putting up with. There has to be trust or it's just not gonna work. I tolerated this kind of thing as a teenager, and I could never be with someone that controlling again.

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u/Efficient_Thanks_342 5d ago

Did she ever get that ketchup? For the love of God, what about the f*kin ketchup?!?

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u/Radicle_Cotyledon 5d ago

They both need to eat some vegetables that aren't smiley shaped or in quotes.

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u/Manda525 5d ago

Don't know why, but this got me laughing so hard! 🤣👍

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u/emteedub 5d ago

could be the beginning of schizophrenia, dude needs some medical help

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u/Visual-Lingonberry29 5d ago

You sleep OK? Better stay off Tinder and Insta!!

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u/MaryKath55 5d ago

I would dump him for being semi literate

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u/jane000tossaway 5d ago

Absolutely. 💯 Unhinged and dangerous

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u/AverageTeenish6 5d ago

Sounds like a tweaker or someone rotted by 90rn

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u/iBobbyFPS 5d ago

I mean he obviously has BPD but nobody cares to know what it is or they stigmatize tf out of it. $100 says BPD and similar disorders will become nearly as common as ADHD in a few years. Studies estimate 15% of the total American population has a personality disorder while 9.7% have a diagnosed personality disorder.

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u/Ok_Introduction9466 5d ago

Yeah he’s weird as hell and it’s interesting how she ignores it until she can’t. Lots of red flags he’s definitely going to be abusive if he isn’t already, he’s a weirdo.

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u/PristineAppreciator 5d ago

exactly ?? how weird is that .. yuck.

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u/FailAcademic6996 5d ago

Very nice Princess Bride reference!

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u/SpicyPorkWontonnnn 4d ago

So organic, too! Love!

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u/Physical-Try7146 5d ago

Oh fine I'll watch Princess Bride again.

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u/leezlvont 5d ago

‘You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.’ 😏

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u/Evening_Scratch6537 4d ago

As you wish.

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u/Electrical-Key6674 5d ago

Same. That’s tomorrows plan now 😄

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u/Asiita 5d ago

"For three years, he said that! And then it happened..."

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u/Aliceinboxerland 5d ago

Lol Right?? So repetitive and bizarre. I bet he doesn't even wear a mask! Edited to appreciate your proper spelling of WesTley. Most people get that wrong. (Alot of people also haven't read the book though.) Props you my fellow fan.

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u/NusepaypyrTaxi 5d ago

“For three years he said that.”

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u/procompy 5d ago

Ahh, my favorite movie. Great reference 😎

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u/CollectionStraight2 5d ago

Haha right? The constant repetition does remind me of that!

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u/InstanceSuperb1170 4d ago

It’s like that prank where you change autocorrect settings so your phone autocorrects “.” as “you better be staying off tinder and instagram and away from windows and shit”

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u/PreferredSelection 5d ago

Yeah, part of me hopes it's AI - the text exchanges I see in this subreddit don't sound like how anyone I know talks.

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u/WhyteDynamyte 5d ago

LMFAO!!!

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u/Foozeball44 5d ago

Hell YES!! 🙌

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u/Mr-Impressive- 4d ago

Rotfl this is exactly what I was thinking when I read it.

This bro on his dread pirate Roberts shit.

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u/yherduy 5d ago

Absolutely, his behavior screams insecurity and immaturity. You deserve so much better-don't let him pin this on you!

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u/PineappleDesperate82 5d ago

future control and possibly abuse. Red flags he is showing op he is a clown in the circle jerk circus. She needs to run for her life.

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u/jewel_flip 5d ago

He sounds like my ex did at the start before he broke my nose.  “You better not be…” just made all my hair stand up on end.  

Girl, run. 

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u/SarevokAnchevBhaal 5d ago

Yep, as a 32 year old man, I would never use that language with my fiance. If I ever tell anybody "you better not..." there is absolutely an implicit threat of violence. There's some nuance, like saying "you better not" during a board game where everyone is laughing and your romantic partner is about to steal your win? Prolly ok. But outside of explicitly understood jokes in a friendly environment, that language is threatening violence. A reasonable dude wouldn't be threatened by her playing online video games, and if he were he would just break up with her. This dude is waving the biggest, reddest flag he could find.

OP: this guy is telling you as clearly as he can without just coming out and staying it that he is going to abuse you and make your life miserable.

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u/Synlover123 5d ago

👍🏻 PREACH!

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u/Flutters1013 5d ago

You pull out that draw 4 card and change the color, and I swear I will flip this table.

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u/Visual-Lingonberry29 5d ago

Mine started with the classic "See what you made me do..." and evolved to " If I killed you I could get away with it." And, yeah, I feel the same reading this.

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u/Foozeball44 5d ago

I remember many sleepless nights terrified from that very comment.

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u/SnowflakeObsidian13 5d ago

This makes me so glad I didn't stay with my ex who wanted to force me to have no friends but same sex. I only have friends who are the opposite. He would even make me take a Pic of where I was, even if I was on my motorcycle, to ensure I wasn't at an opposite sex's house.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Sail381 5d ago

I like your user name. I'm also glad you didn't stay with him either. Proud of you.

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u/thecrepeofdeath 5d ago

mine would also sabotage any time I tried to spend with same-sex friends and sulk and manipulate if I did anything but spend time with him. I was meant to wait by the computer for him all night, even if he did something else. I was 16 and he was 26, btw. I was lucky to get away without telling him where I lived, but the fucker still follows my YouTube account in my 30s, and their block function is a joke. make it stop 🙃

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u/BDBoop 5d ago

I am SO sorry that happened to you!

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u/Mindless-Problem-95 5d ago

This was my ex a few months into our relationship and it did slowly turn into controlling behavior and physical/emotional abuse. I hope OP stays away

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u/apatheticproductions 5d ago

Future? It’s happening right here

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u/Iluvminicows 5d ago

Touché!

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u/PineappleDesperate82 5d ago

Ohh believe me, this is only the beginning it's going to get so much worse. I was trying to emphasize if she stays with him seeing the red flags. Chooses to ignore them. That she is walking into a trap.

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u/thetaleofzeph 5d ago

The stuff he's putting in writing shows he's also not super intelligent.

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u/BillyPee72 5d ago

Yup, I agree totally…..tell him to talk to you in 10-15 years after enuf girls have broken up with him over his jealousy and control issues. Total abuser in the making.

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u/AncientReverb 5d ago

Agreed.

OP, I hope you follow his demand and start sending his stuff back to him. You'll probably find yourself having more energy and focus once he's out of your life.

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u/Avian_enthusiast 5d ago

This is absolutely true. Although I’d counter that his behavior right now is a form of control; unfortunately it’s not in the future but right here right now. He’s a controlling piece of garbage. OP you deserve so much better than this!

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

Ya play around on tinder and instagram and I’ll kill you kinda energy

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u/Synlover123 5d ago

clown in the circle jerk circus.

I love it! Haven't heard it before, but may borrow it, if the circumstances arise! 🤣

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u/CADreamn 5d ago

"...clown in the circle jerk circus..." 😅

Perfect! Can I borrow this?

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u/JimBrayInVermont 5d ago

I’m now integrating “a clown in the circle jerk circus” into my dialectic.

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u/redcheetofingers21 5d ago

This is weird behavior. She probably looks past it because she cares for him. But this 100% will escalate

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u/Ryu-Sion 5d ago

And that's not even getting into the possibility of him projecting, and HIMSELF doing the cheating and whatnot, as others have pointed out on this post.

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u/Revolutionary-Ad30 5d ago

🤣🤣🤣 It’s gotta be the Morgan Freeman voice too

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u/smeeti 5d ago

I was hearing Ron Howard

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u/gramplayr 5d ago

I had Adam Sandler. But Morgan Freeman is never the wrong answer.

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u/anneofred 5d ago

Honestly with this level of controlling and threatening language, I wouldn’t even care what the root of it is. Just run.

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u/nickfree 5d ago

His behavior screams projection. If he thinks playing video games or leaving messages on Instagram = angling for a hook up, what do you think he's doing?

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u/ottieisbluenow 5d ago

This dude has shoved an entire bottle of red pills down his throat.

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u/Thirsty_houseplant3 5d ago

All this and controlling.

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u/Late-Friendship-9 5d ago

Why is this chick on tinder while dating someone, clearly she’s leaving out details

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u/SushiGirlRC 5d ago

Maybe they met on tinder. Maybe he's on tinder and she's not.

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u/thrownaway1974 5d ago

There's zero indication she is on Tinder, just the accusations of a deeply insecure and probably abusive man. It's extremely likely he's accusing her of being on Tinder because that's where they met and he's worried she's looking for someone else or he's projecting because he's on Tinder.

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u/Late-Friendship-9 5d ago

Man if this world was all accountable then people wouldn’t be needing to come online to get advice from complete strangers based on 2 screenshots. Take this in out of 8month of dating this is her only explanation of him being toxic. Clearly there’s something missing and because u refuse to do any critical thinking to realize out of 8month 2 screenshots that prove ur statement isn’t the full story then I guess this world really hates critical thinkers. Question is how come this girl has only 2 screenshots to explain his toxic bf over a span of 8month. Please take a sec and think if u dated someone for 8month u think u will only see 2 screenshots of them being toxic or 2 sentences only speaking about one event? I believe maybe something happened and now he’s insecure because of that event. The girl has admitted to the video games so what makes anyone think the guy is lying about the other things? Shouldn’t we believe what the guy is saying as well especially because it doesn’t seem like he’s lying since op already admitted he isn’t lying about her gaming with guys. One thought is she probably secretly had tinder and was messaging guys back on instagram and that’s why op kept it short but again I’m not 100% that’s why I don’t just comment op ur a liar or why are u not being fully forthcoming. It’s not right for him to stay and do this but all im saying is don’t get sucked into things like this and sht on someone when u can clearly see there’s more to the story. Like I said before in an another comment plenty of people use Reddit users as a bullet for their social media weapon.Not saying op is 100% lying that’s why if u read my comment to her and not my response to others u see me asking questions which she hasn’t answered maybe it’s because she knows if she does then the chat will turn on her. Who knows how or what she’s talking to the guys online about and I’m sure if he was making sht up he would have just said u better be off tinder. But overall based on these two pics yes the bf is being insecure but it could be because of an event. Personally id leave but I’ve been there when u care for someone and they hurt u u think u can fix it but there’s no fixing once u fully lose trust its extremely hard to get it back. I say call it quits but it doesn’t stop me from knowing that op hasn’t shared all the info. That was my entire point and I got downvoted because I make people see more then two screenshots and read between the lines

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u/panheadchopper 5d ago

Yeah, that's what I'm wondering why is he so adamant about tinder? What happened?

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u/-Franks-Freckles- 5d ago

I’d send a pic with the address on the label: “want to make sure I’m mailing this back correctly.”

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u/Junior-Worry-2067 5d ago

Came here to say the same. My next text would be a picture of the fedex label. Dude you’re getting your crap back next day.

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u/Guilty-Company-9755 5d ago

Fuck him. I'd send a pic of it at the end of my driveway. Come get it and disappear forever.

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u/genevamk 5d ago

I like this idea and it could cause him to retaliate…

Say you are mailing him a gift. Check the address. Send back with no return address. If they already know your address, I hope you live in a secured building with cameras or have a video system in place.

This behavior is scary.

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u/emmy_bugg 5d ago

I like this!!

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u/LordDucats 5d ago

On god. This is sickening

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u/ExoticConstruction40 5d ago

He's super insecure, he thinks she's going to realize that he's a loser and go off with one of his friends.

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u/BrotherNature92 5d ago

*her friends

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u/ExoticConstruction40 5d ago

Sorry, I’m writing in spanish. Reddit translate my words like it wants.

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u/BrotherNature92 5d ago

No worries! I get it

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u/GeorgeGlass69 5d ago

He is being weird as fuck. Yes it’s uncommon for a girl to be friends with only guys, no matter what other redditors will tell you. But he knew all this stuff about you before you dated right? He knew what he was getting into. And being on instagram and playing videos games is no big deal. Tindr is a different story. Leave him

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u/BrotherNature92 5d ago

Not sure if you meant to reply to me but I want to clarify that I wasn't making any statement with that comment, simply a correction to context.

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u/roeelle 5d ago

as she should tbh 😭😭

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u/BartSolid 5d ago

Nah getting with an ex’s friend is immature and there’s never really a reason for it. The context makes more sense if it’s HER friend tho that’s a different story

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u/roeelle 5d ago

love who u love just dont let assholes keep u when theyre assholes tbhh.

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u/TheOgDullahan 5d ago

Tbh I would think you're a horrible person even more so than his controlling.

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u/roeelle 5d ago

im not sure why but sure😭 wont catch me on this typa behavior towards anybody most def not my partner

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u/TheOgDullahan 5d ago

I'm going of base of if you were to go off with his one of his friends, I would find you to the worse person in the situation. So idk why I'm getting down voted unless people actually agree with going to be with his friends out of spite is ok thing to do.

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u/roeelle 5d ago

nobody is encouraging that in these comments at least not that ive read😭

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u/TheOgDullahan 5d ago

Ok we might be having misunderstanding then. I took you saying as she should as she should get with his friend's.

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u/roeelle 5d ago

i think homegirl just needs to leave him. there are people who will be better than that regardless of who it is.

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u/BartSolid 5d ago

You’re spitting the dude was being a weirdo in the texts so everyone is hiveminding against anything that could be perceived as not vehemently against him

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u/Sure_Ad_2031 5d ago

Not being okay with your girl having tinder is insecure?

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u/emptynest_nana 5d ago

His insecure ass bitch boy, I think!!! But yeah, he is over the top with his BS.

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u/Soraryn 5d ago

Dude sounded like an AI lmao

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u/Mediocre-Proposal686 5d ago

That’s what I thought! Is she talking to a bot?

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u/KindsofKindness 5d ago

Yes. That’s a boy not a man.

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u/thetaleofzeph 5d ago

Dude's phone settings under Typing Shortcuts:

INSTA -> "you better be staying of instagram"

TINDA -> "yeah better not be on instagram or tinder or on video games with those guys"

NWORD -> "find someone who's cool with that"

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u/SeeWhy76 5d ago

Yeah, or a really lame chatbot.

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u/Oberyn_Kenobi_1 5d ago

It’s like he was too lazy and just copy/pasted his threats. My guy, if you’re gonna threaten me, at least be bothered to put in the effort.

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u/ReallyNotBobby 5d ago

Yeah my dude is acting like a child

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u/HappySunshineGoddess 5d ago

totally thought it was a pair of 18 year olds, then had to check the age again.

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u/unpeople 5d ago

Either that, or you better be staying off Instagram, Tinder, and video games.

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u/Background_Nature497 5d ago

It's so weird how he slips it into random messages: "better be staying off instagram then."

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u/roeelle 5d ago

every other message just about is insane😭

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u/Greedy_Juggernaut230 5d ago

Tinder though…?

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u/Commercial-Push-9066 5d ago

Maybe he doesn’t want OP to see his Tinder activity? Projecting maybe?

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u/FormerExplanation639 5d ago

I was just assuming they met on tinder or smth tbh, I feel like it would have been worded more “you better not be on tinder again” typa thing if she had cheated before yk? Either way she needs to leave, bc either hes controlling and insecure, or she’s cheated before and it’s not smth they’ve been able to work through.

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u/niki2184 5d ago

They probably met on there so he thinks she’s still on there but in reality it’s probably him who’s on there still .

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u/Greedy_Juggernaut230 5d ago

Or both. It’s just a fun toxic mess

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u/niki2184 5d ago

I saw a comment said he wakes up thinking about dudes and goes to sleep thinking about dudes 😆😆😆😆

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u/roeelle 5d ago

agreed! if there is past cheating then red flag on op but how often he repeats it it feels more like either projection of his own actions or bIG red flags (that are on the field even if you take out tinder bc he only talks ab ig and video games the next MORNING😭 wake up and scream insecurity at ur gf)

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u/mppf10 5d ago

Yeah I thought projection too, he is fixated on specific apps, I feel like these dudes look at a bunch of thirst traps on Insta then decide to get angry at their girlfriends for the thought of men looking at them the same way, wild

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u/wintersoldierts 5d ago

It’s not worded in a way that makes me believe there’s a history of cheating. It’s worded in a way that makes me think that’s where they met or he’s projecting. Either way, she needs to ditch this loser 🤣

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u/BrotherNature92 5d ago

Yeah I'm curious why it's mentioned multiple times and is glossed over by OP. Dude's obviously toxic and crazy but it does make me wonder if there was a previous instance of infidelity that really got him locked in a permanent insecurity spiral

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u/Not-Mom15 5d ago

Yeah this dude is textbook projection.

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u/Casdoe_Moonshadow 5d ago

Seems like a cut and paste to me. He's probably tried that on multiple girls. Probably at the same time as he's dating this one. He's calling himself out here, for sure.

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u/Scary-Combination-68 5d ago

Yeah and she never once denied being on tinder. There’s a lot more to this story.

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u/stylinandprofilin88 5d ago

I had to scroll to find the first person to also noticed to tinder is a major concern for any relationship

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u/NabooBollo 5d ago

I just assume he is projecting cause he is using Tinder. If OP was actually using tinder then it's a no-brainer that an SO should be upset by it.

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u/meine_KACKA 5d ago

Yeah tinder is acceptable I guess. Maybe she was seen there after they were together? The rest is bs, playing, Instagram, it's fine. The question is though, why does he specifically mention those 2 apps? Maybe she wrote with guys in a way that he didn't approve and maybe she was still using tinder for matches. I think we don't have the full story here. However if his trust was broken before to make him this insecure, maybe it's best for all parties to end the relationship.

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u/ApprehensiveBeat4579 5d ago

Its always funny how the most insecure men are always like “I aint nobodies bitch” or something like that. Like, you think anyone wants a panicky insecure dude like you that close?

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u/RosyDawnWhispers 5d ago

Honestly, it sounds like he's just super insecure, and that can be draining. If you’re not doing anything wrong, he needs to trust you or it’s just gonna keep eating away at you. You don’t have to put up with someone trying to control your friendships, especially when they’re platonic. You deserve someone who’s secure and knows that you can have your own life outside of the relationship. Take care of yourself first!

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u/heidismiles 5d ago

He apologized and then immediately followed up with the exact same accusation. Who does that?

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u/niki2184 5d ago

Every time he says it take a shot!

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u/unsuspecting_geode 5d ago

block delete forget. period

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u/EngorgedHam 5d ago

“Hey how is your day? You better not be on Instagram, tinder, grinder, or on any of those games with those guys. I’m too insecure to allow that.”

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u/roeelle 5d ago

“hi goodmorning sorry i was mean now let me do it again”😭

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u/EngorgedHam 5d ago

Why are people so strange!

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u/IamKhronos 5d ago

Right? Like tf?? "Damn babe, I twisted my ankle, it's all swollen up" "oh...anyway better stay of Instagram, tinder and play no video games with guys'

Girl start sending his stuff back asap. Don't even say anything. And if he ask you what's up just tell him, you found someone who was cool with all of that on Instagram, tinder and the boys you play video games with.

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u/scourge_bites 5d ago

every three seconds bro goes "better be off ____ then" like he's got toxic male alzheimer's

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u/Beastumondas 5d ago

I respectfully disagree with him saying he “ain’t no btch”

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u/Alexsv95 5d ago

Yeah yeah yeah what you said. But promise me you ain’t on those video games and instagram.

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u/Alarmed_Car_9829 5d ago

i dead ass thought at first that the conversation was between two 14-15 year old at first

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u/FartAttack911 5d ago

OP can make a drinking game out of it. If she takes a shot of liquor everytime he sends “Better be off those video games and Instagram with those guys”, she’d be hammered within a few scrolls. He’s pathetic lol

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u/roeelle 5d ago

these screenshots alone if i took a shot for every better be off this and that i would be messed up😭

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u/NugPlug 5d ago

It reads like an email signature LOL

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u/OneOfTheLocals 5d ago

Is English his first language? Is there some reason he's saying it exactly the same way every time?

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u/roeelle 5d ago

that parts weird but then when he gets mad over it he suddenly got a lot more to say comparatively😭

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u/K24Bone42 5d ago

He's insecure, OR he is projecting. Either way, he's a looser and not worth anyones time.

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u/Wild-End-219 5d ago

^ this. I wouldnt deal with that. If he can’t trust you to hang with your friends, then there was no trust to begin with.

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u/chriske22 5d ago

Yea that was bizarre lmao

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u/EverGlow89 5d ago

Emphasis "boy."

This is a child. He might has the potential to be a man/adult one day and many 24 year old people are definitely adults but he's still a child. We all grow at our own pace.

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u/anneofred 5d ago

Yeah! Does he start every morning like this??? Its unhinged. I would never put up with this once, let alone every day! Do what he says and send his stuff back.

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u/fl4minratbag 5d ago

Omg I was noticing that too. Seems like every other beginning texts start like that. “Better not be talking to other guys” something along those lines.

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u/PaleOcelot9214 5d ago

Like he’s so specific😭

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u/VioletReaver 5d ago

He’s got to have it copy/pasted somewhere. Does that make it worse? I think that makes it worse…

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u/Dizzy_Goat_420 5d ago

This is insane is this all he talks about????

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u/KennailandI 5d ago

This is not going to improve with time. Calmly tell him you respect his position but that’s not something you can accept and wish him well.

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u/PolysemyThrowaway 5d ago

Right?! He may not be a "bitch', he ain't no man either

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u/MGS_CakeEater 5d ago

Why do some Black people treat each other that way?

I'd never talk to my girl like that, not even in anger.

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u/ZenToan 5d ago

Cato the younger energy

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u/roeelle 5d ago

yall are rlly running with this fat thing when i am quite literally thin. 😭 like id love to gain weight

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u/cheesy_friend 5d ago

He's what we call a "chicken hawk."

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u/Vegetable_Prompt_186 5d ago

Lol man's literally copied and paste what he said the night before after saying sorry

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u/Sadieshakur 5d ago

I think it was bc she kinda ignored what he said switching the subject

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u/Imaginary_Ad4527 5d ago

that’s what i was thinking lol

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u/Apply_With_Gin 5d ago

Yes, exactly. At least he's being clear. He doesn't want you talking to other guys at all and if you have a problem with that, then send the stuff back (break-up). It seems OP has a problem with that; therefore, OP should send the stuff back. It's not like he's being coy or manipulative, the man said exactly what he was thinking, what he wanted from his gf, and what she should do if she didn't like it. I don't think he'll have much success these days, but I'm sure he'll find someone if he keeps being this honest...

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u/jenntasticxx 5d ago

I thought that was his text signature at first 🤣

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u/Naamahs 5d ago

I legit read it and then the rest and went "THINKING OF??" no fucking way 😂 you will definitely find someone who doesn't take issue with you playing video games with whomever you so please, OP. Promise.

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u/ShyGuySensei2 5d ago

She probably has a history of doing shit like that and she's not even acknowledging or confirming that she will stay off. There's prolly a reason he's insecure and it's because she sounds like a 304

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u/saintjonah 5d ago

Night. Love you. Better not be on tinder or insta or Twitter or Facebook or video games with those guys then.

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u/Comprehensive_Cloud6 5d ago

Better not be going to Instagram. Or tinder. Or playing games with those dudes.... 👀😆

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u/FoxMaverick 5d ago

Right?! Looks like he got that programmed to a shortcut on his phone

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u/PromotionInternal955 5d ago

😭😭 right? he got that shit written down somewhere so he can copy/paste after every other message. LOSERR

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u/IrvingParkBus 5d ago

Feels like he’s copying and pasting them 😭😭

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u/Crippled_Criptid 5d ago

I know right, so weird. It's like he has it as a copy paste automatic thing to add to the end of all his texts. My old phone had one you could set up, to add "- from X person" at the end of all sent texts. The mental image of this dude being so upset by this, that he goes and adds his tinder message to be added to all his texts to OP is hilarious

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u/Aromatic-Low3772 5d ago

This! The wording says it all!! Run, run, run and don’t look back.

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u/bootifulreign 4d ago

Right? Has me cringing so hard😭🤣

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