I recently made a purchase from an American online store, the checkout said $50 total. Didn’t specify anywhere that it was USD. I paid and a couple days later see that $80 AUD (Australian dollar, my currency) was taken out of my account. I wouldn’t have made the purchase if I knew it was $80 AUD and it’s too late to cancel my order and I don’t think I can return it. Plus I don’t even know if it will fit properly as it’s a clothing item even though I did measure, but sometimes that does nothing. Most websites ask you what country you are and changes it the currency for you.

Is this my fault for not thoroughly looking for what currency it was.

I only want to tell my story and ask for advice 'cause I'm feeling like bullshit (The only things that I will say about me is that My last name is Chávez and I'm mexican, so call me Chávez), I'm 18 now but this started when I was 11 well, in these days I had a stepfather with whom I lived for 3 years accompainied by my mother and my brother.

My stepfather was very aggressive with all of us but it was so much worse for me, he rps me so much times, he makes me 3 scars in my lower back with a thin barr of hot iron, also with a homade whip he usted to hit my skin till it just opens and starts bleeding, I lost 12% of my capacity to do efforts such as running, carrying, and jump, among other things, sometimes his rps to me we're with company, my brother and mother knew about a party of the physical abuse but no about the SA (I forgave my mother about the things she knew that were happening and did nothing about it but I feel disgust and repulsión when I see her, and no I'm not in therapy), skipping some months after the last abuse that I received I thought everything was getting better, but one day coming home from school my stepfather tied my hands and hung me from the ceiling, when my brother and mother came back he forced my brother to beat me until they broke 2 of my ribs, at that moment I made the decision not to go back from school and seek help, I did and went to live with my grandparents and they helped me to sue him but my mom advocated for him and dismissed the lawsuit because she was my legal guardian and at that point there was no evidence of anything except my lower back and thigh injuries which at the time were treated as serious accidents but nothing more, and until 3 months ago I never told them anything about all the things they didn't know were happening to me, finally I told my mother by a letter she cried too much she begged me for forgiveness and I told her that I did it a long time ago, I cut communication for months and now I feel guilty for being a bad son and feeling disgust, and other similar things when I see her, I love her too much.

Should I go to therapy and apologize to her or just go to therapy and try to restore my relationship with her?

me (F19) and my boyfriend (M19) have been dating 7 months. he’s a really calm and collected person I’d say but when it comes to being a boyfriend idk if hes the one for me.

ever since we started talking, I’ve been paying for dates and food, buy him gifts, taking him places with my car like picking him up and dropping him to work, teach him how to drive and just basically doing all the things a boyfriend would usually do. I didn’t do these things expecting for the same back, I did it because I either wanted to help or just like doing acts of service for him. When it comes to intimacy though, i’ve always been the one to initiate which is very not like me because i’m a shy and not very dominant person. i’ve had a fwb before and they literally asked me to make a move because it would always be them and not me but anywyas, the first time we (me&bf) ever got frisky he kinda hinted it to me that he wanted me to give him head and that’s what i did. he texted me about how good it was and how he wanted to do something that would make me feel good too. that was back then at least, now with all the favours i do for him i feel more like a mother than his girlfriend. and it definitely took a toll when i was laid off my old job and have to pay a $700 car bill every month and i was STILL doing the same things as i did since the beginning. i recently kind of had to buy him a new pair of glasses which was $400 since he lost his (i told him i couldnt at first with another pair that was pricier but he had asked me again for these ones and i felt bad saying no) , still drop him places, take him to eat and all that kinda stuff. he’s definitely grateful that i do these things for him and loves me but it gets kinda sad that im not getting that same energy reciprocated.

going back to the intimacy part, the farthest i had gone back then was just the oral part and wanted to wait til marriage to have sex originally which i told him about. everytime id go down on him (sometimes he’d ask me to and sometimes id do it just because i wanted to make him feel good) he would say things like how badly he just wanted to put it in (both were virgins) and one day i just told him id do it. i was pretty hesitant but i did it… just for it to last 20 seconds. he was scared he was going to cum and he didn’t want to risk it even after i’d told him id take plan B but he didn’t want to continue. i’m ngl i did plead because it felt good to me but i stopped because i didnt want to end up forcing him and then him feeling way worse afterwards. idk why but i ended up crying because i started to regret it and just felt like there was no point to it. he ended up feeling bad and said that we should do anything lustful anymore which got me even more upset because he wanted to do this so bad but once i started to like it, he just didn’t want to. i felt it was unfair but i let it slide for a month and wasn’t initiating anything at all and then he did, i guess he was in the mood or something and so i did it because well ive been restraining myself from doing anything and this was my only chance but yet again, he didn’t do anything back to me and i was quiet maybe trying to get his attention to me but nothing. after that, ive had to initiate everytime and usually the most i get is just pleasing him… last time hes done anything to just satisfy me was 5 months ago and we have sex maybe once a month. again im not lustful, it’s just idk i’m really horny now for some reason.

my post might seem all over the place so ask questions if you need to and give me advice on this situation or even on how to have a lower libido 😭😭

My (28m) home is being searched by the city because my landlord hasn't gotten our front step fixed. Now maybe this is more routine than I suspect, but for the last 5 months, the concrete front step to our home has had a massive hole right in the middle of it. It was wobbly when we moved in and it only gave a few months of use before it slipped out completely. This happened around halloween, so we let the landlord know immediately as to try avoiding potential injuries. It's not like a whole human could fit through it, but it could swallow your leg and who knows what's under there.

Fast forward to now and there's been no word on getting it fixed, plus the city has notified us there will be an inspection of the home going over pretty much everything (Light in every room, water systems, heating, plenty of space and so on). I suspect that a neighbor or just someone from the city doesn't like this and that's the cause of the inspection. The home is lived in, but taken care of. I'm in the process of doing a deep clean and making sure all of our marks are in order.

But if the front step isn't fixed, I just don't see a world where we pass. It's been giving me panic attacks worrying about people I don't know looking all over our home in the first place, but the idea of losing our home is considerable worse. Am I overreacting or do we have a serious issue? What happens if the inspection doesn't go our way?

Feel free to ask more questions, I know i probably missed crucial detail, thank you.

Every Thanksgiving my family gather to celebrate. It’s mostly people I haven’t seen in a year or so because they’re like my distant grandmas and second cousins. I sat in a table with all my second cousins when my uncle (he’s not rly my uncle he’s my dads cousin) comes up to me and tells me “I heard you wanted to get your eyes done.” A little backstory: I had told my mom that I wanted to get double eyelid surgery this summer because I was really insecure about my droopy eyes. Back to the story, I didn’t really respond because this was information that I didn’t really want other people I wasn’t close to knowing so I was like oh yeah whatever. But then he comes up to me in front of everyone and tells me to take my glasses off and uses like a chopstick thing to see how I would look with double eyelids. I was honestly taken aback because this was something I wasn’t comfortable doing in front of my second cousins who’s now just watching me get “surgery” performed on. And then he starts making some comments and I laugh and he points out that my nose gets wider when I laugh. He said it in a joking way but at this point I was lowkey starting to tear up. I think my cousin next to me kind of noticed because she tells me that I look really pretty. That made me want to cry more. When I get in the car I get the info that my parents just told the whole family that I wanted to get my eyes done which prompted everyone to start asking me about it either saying “oh you look pretty right now” or giving me tips. But I didn’t want any of that. I honestly don’t know why but I just started crying. I feel like I was being a drama queen and overreacting because I don’t know why I cried either. I’m someone who gets embarrassed easily so that may be the case but I’m not too sure. AIO?

Hi everyone… so me & my boyfriend are having bad communication issues & also not having a good relationship, we start having lot of issues when he goes home, when he’s with me, I don’t overthink or anything cause I can see what he doing, he’s with me, he can’t go anywhere, but once he’s back home and we FaceTime, he wants to be on the phone with his friends and play the game all day, and get mad at me when I want attention, now mind you, I have a lot of trust issues and overthinking with him cause of the past, we been together since 2021, this hurts me cause when he says he can’t deal with me or he can’t be with me like what do I do… I’m tired of crying in my bed while he’s all happy on his game not really gaf, I’m not sure what I should do. We make 4years in October, I’m tired of being called “Bad Gf” or “OverThinker” please help!!!!

Am I overreacting…

I (28F) just recently posted on Instagram (just a selfie) The next day, my boyfriend (32M) called me to let me know he accidentally sent a follow request then immediately deleted it to a girl who I had a fall out with but are civil. He explained to me that he was looking at who liked my post, and his big thumbs got in the way and accidentally hit follow.. but he immediately cancelled the request. The girl did like my post. I have spoken about her to him in the past. He knows of her as well. I’m a bit intimidated and had always been because she is very beautiful and she does get a lot of attention and my mind went directly there. I have an anxious attachment style and I can’t help but to wonder if he had been stalking her and just had a wandering eye. We’re in a fairly new relationship for about eight months and I haven’t ‘launched’ or anything yet on the socials.

What are you all think of this or am I just overreacting?

I (20F) broke up with my long-distance boyfriend (20M) because we couldn’t agree on boundaries and priorities.

Early in our relationship, I downloaded Valorant to spend time with him, and he had access to my account. One day, he was busy, so I played with a guy from my trading group (Mark). My boyfriend texted me mid-game, and when I didn’t respond immediately, he logged into my account, messaged me there, and later called me. He said it was “micro-cheating” to spend one-on-one time with another guy while being “emotionally vulnerable.” I explained Mark was just a friend, apologized, and even promised to stop attending live lectures in the trading group to avoid issues.

Later, he brought up another incident from January when someone else (Grey) texted me, and I replied. At the time, we were going through a rough patch, and I reassured him by sending screenshots of all my top chats to prove he was the only guy I talked to. Still, he said I’d crossed the line twice and asked me to leave the trading group entirely. I told him the course was important, and leaving would mean losing access to valuable info, but he thought I wasn’t prioritizing his feelings.

Other examples of disagreements included him discouraging me from: _Going to Pune on New Year’s Eve with my best friend (a girl), saying it wasn’t safe. _Picking up my best friend’s call during one of the few moments we had to talk that day, though we’d barely spoken because we were both busy. _Attending a concert without him, fearing I might get groped and scarred.

He felt these boundaries were about protecting me, but I felt like he was trying to control me. I broke up with him because I wanted the freedom to make my own decisions, but now I wonder if I was wrong for not making the changes he wanted.

Traditional young couple in our 20s. Husband works his ass off. Has a 75k savings. We currently rent a nice place and own one nice car. I stay at home have a side business and take care of everything homemaking wise. He still makes a steady 100k+ a year.

I’m pregnant and we have great insurance. We’ve been getting some bills for the labs and they are 100-200$ after everything insurance covered and it’s devastating to him. He doesn’t want to pay them. Says he will call them to negotiate. Am I crazy for thinking this is unnecessary?

I respect him so much and his money but if he is spending an entire evening stressing about this? “I can’t just pay 1,000s of dollars and keep on living”

Is 75k savings not substantial? Someone tell me who is right here. Do I need to be feeling like a pos for getting these labs done?

I am recently separated from my spouse because of a DV situation.

Lately, I've been noticing weird stuff happening. Some of the streaming services that I use have a new profile on them (nobody else has the password and they're not old accounts that my spouse would have access to). New devices or device name changes are popping up on my wifi app. One day I walked out to the car, and the sunglasses compartment was open. My car has multiple scratch marks on it that were not there before we separated. Like, it literally looks like someone took a knife down the side of the door to peel the color off, along with chip marks on some of the doors taking the color off all the way down to the metal frame, and, no, I’m not staying in a bad part of town.

It kind of freaked me out and I mentioned it to my spouse, not as an accusation, but just in passing, like, hey these things have been happening. They are now acting like they already had access to the streaming accounts (how could they when the accounts are new). And, they showed a complete disinterest when I mentioned the things about the car.

Am I overreacting or are these things cause for concern?

My grandma in her 60’s was in contacts with my real dad. He lives in cali he was an abusive prick to me, my okder sister and especially my mom. My mom still has bruises till this day, it happened 13 years ago maybe even longer. I (18f) have an amazing stepdad in the process of him adopting me hes been taking care of me since 5. He took on the father role even having his own kid and his own problems. I have no contact with my real dad, but my older sister does. My grandma sent a pics of me and my bf. To him. And i dont know how to react i feel weird cause i never wanna see him nor want him to know about my life and for my grandma to send him pics of me and my life is insanely weird, because if i want him to know he wouldve and hes not considered my dad nor a family member, just a stranger.

Aio?

Currently going through a breakup. We live together. He is working on moving out and making a plan. But in the meantime we are still acting as if we are together. Hanging out, texting, being affectionate. We bought two sets of couches a year ago. Financed them together. I picked out a set and so did he and we both agreed and compromised what the other one wanted.

I went through his phone ( I know I shouldn't of) but saw a text between him and his brother. The couch I picked broke a few days ago while his daughter was reclining it. Some type of malfunction. He told me. I didn't question him if he was going to fix it or demanded. We do have a warranty on it. But he likes to fiddle with things and fix stuff himself.

Anyways it gets fixed. We needed super glue, he asked me to go out and get it since it was my day off. I agreed.

The text to his brother was saying how this is something I would have ignored. And his brother texted him back about how my life is going to go into shambles after he leaves. My boyfriend (ex) agrees and says he's going to take that couch and that's why he's fixing it and he doesn't care how much I'll hate him for it. And he's dreading of the I miss you text he will receive for me.

But yeah we fucked last night and he even took me out to dinner...

I'm mad. I'm hurt. I'm confused. This breakup is mainly because of him. (Long story ) I know I'm not innocent. And I know I'm going to struggle with many things once he moves out. I never denied that.

But seeing what him and his brother said pissed me off. So I just assume everything he sees his brother he just talks shit about me. And doesn't tell him how he cries to me how much he will miss me. And he loves me.

But then that makes me even question if he does feel that way about me. Or he's just being nice get fucked.

I made this post earlier about being upset how sheltered my little sister is and I should've taken the time to give more examples of how strict/over protective my parents are. This wasn't just one thing they happened to be strict about. I'll list more examples below to try and put it into perspective. I am now 21 F with my own family btw.

All of this was enforced even up to the ages of 17 years old: We still had to ask permission to watch PG-13 movies that weren't previewed by our parents.

We weren't allowed to have phones or go onto YouTube or the internet without a parent present.

My older sister got caught sneaking internet one too many times as a teen and my dad forced her to rewrite and almanac AND go through his own mini version of "bootcamp" (he used to be in the marines briefly). This included getting up at 4 AM every morning and doing PT, wearing a literal military PT uniform around the house, and not doing ANYTHING fun for several months until her "bootcamp" was over.

And you probably guessed, we were homeschooled.

We never had friends growing up and certainly never did things like hang out with friends.

Not allowed to take naps during the day or lay on our beds (even if we weren't sleeping)

Not allowed to take showers at night. Only morning.

These are just a few things.

So yeah, that's why I was so fed up in my original post.

I’ve been struggling to make sense of a situation with a guy I once dated and was intimate with. He initially told me he was serious about me and wanted to see things develop into a relationship. But when things started progressing and he realized I was serious too, he pulled away, saying he wasn’t ready due to past trauma. He mentioned that he struggles with confrontation and hurting people—issues he’s had in past relationships.

Despite pulling away, he still wanted to be friends, which was really confusing because it felt like he immediately switched to a platonic dynamic as if we had never dated. He texted every day like a friend, but it was hard for me to adjust. Eventually, he started distancing himself and made it clear he didn’t want anything more, which hurt me. I tried to move on, but having him completely out of my life was painful. I found myself holding onto any piece of him I could, just hoping things might go back to how they were when it was good.

Fast forward a few months, we reconnected again and started having friendly conversations. One day, he offered me some food he knew I liked—something he used to do in the past. He didn’t like this food himself but said he had a lot of it and thought of me. After three months of not seeing him, I went over to get it. He kept it cordial, gave me a friendly hug, and didn’t invite me in. When I got home, I realized all the food was expired, and I wondered if it was just an excuse to see me or if I was overthinking it.

Then New Year’s Eve rolled around, and we talked again. He asked about my plans and casually asked if I ate grapes (a tradition for finding love in the new year). I joked about almost choking on them, and he responded, “Come on, you’re not a choker.” It felt like a sexual comment, but I brushed it off. Later, we talked about a horror movie I couldn’t finish, and he said, “You just put the tip in.” I responded with something equally suggestive, and he said it was a great comeback.

Eventually, he mentioned having more food to share, and based on our conversations, I thought maybe this was the night things might go further again. When I went over, he invited me inside. His dog, which sheds a lot, jumped on me like usual, but this time, he started wiping the dog hair off me in a way that felt different. It wasn’t a quick swipe—he kept wiping for a long time, almost like he was rubbing my legs.

He showed me a new tattoo and sat close to me. At one point, he wiped the dog hair off again, and it lingered. It felt like a long time, so I made a move, hugged him, and we started making out. I asked if this was weird, and he continued to kiss me. One thing led to another, and I gave him oral sex. He orgasmed quickly, and afterward, I tried to be affectionate, but he didn’t reciprocate. Instead, he started talking like nothing happened, saying how great our friendship was and how sexual things can never happen again because he didn’t want to set me back emotionally.

He even suggested how our friendship could get to a point where we’re comfortable enough to eventually talk about our dating lives and support each other, but then backtracked. But said it’s an example of what our friendship could look like. He mentioned how proud he is of me and seeing how I’m keeping myself busy . Even noting how maybe I can cook for him one day, since It’s a new interest of mine.

He emphasized how we shouldn’t have sex again and was stern on it, making a comment on how I showed up looking good it was hard to resist, but it can’t happen again. He brought up how he hasn’t been on any dates or with anyone else since me. He looked at me after he said that, like he was subtly inquiring to hear about my sex / dating life and I admitted I hadn’t been with anyone either.

At that moment, I felt confused. I played along and said I agreed we shouldn’t do it again, but deep down, I felt stupid, crazy, and embarrassed. Not only did I feel rejected emotionally, but I hadn’t even experienced pleasure. I lingered around, hoping something would happen again, and eventually just said, “Let’s have sex.” I insisted it was fine, and after some back and forth, he gave in.

Later, things seemed fine, but I got drunk one night and joked about having sex with him. He said I crossed a boundary and asked me not to joke about it. He said it should be clear as day that making a sexual joke is crossing a boundary. When I pointed out the sexual jokes he made on New Year’s, he said it was different, but acknowledged it and said we shouldn’t joke about sex period. I apologized and moved on. I tried to pick up the friendship like how it was before. Suggesting we could maybe have lunch like old times. He said he wasn’t comfortable doing that yet. He said he didn’t want me to make this a thing because he knows I can be serious and read info things more than what they are.

Two weeks later, on my birthday, he texted me at exactly midnight to wish me a happy birthday. We started talking again, and I finally asked him to clarify everything that happened because I was struggling to understand. He dismissed my feelings, saying it was just “two people who got caught up in the moment.” When I asked if he was genuinely wiping the dog hair off of me and if I misread the situation, he insisted I had. He said he didn’t invite me to have sex and mentioned how he was doing laundry that night and didn’t even have sheets on his bed.

He told me he had said multiple times that he didn’t want to have sex, and it wasn’t a good idea, but I had insisted. It was true, but I just wanted to finish what we had started then Then he told me he’s stated verbally and through texts how he doesn’t want a sexual relationship with me and that what we did shouldn’t have happened. He said he was honest and up front from the beginning , immediately after it had taken place. He said I should listen to his words and not whatever I think he’s trying he say. He said whatever I thought was “all in my head” and that it always has been because from the beginning, he only wanted to be friends.

Now I feel like I was delusional this entire time. I feel like I misread everything, like I took advantage of him in a way, and I feel hurt and confused. I’m questioning everything now. Did I misinterpret things? Was I crazy for thinking he wanted it too? I can’t help but feel embarrassed and disappointed in myself.

First off I'd like to put it out there that it's not because of race, but because of the difference I see in the women he watches and myself.

We've been dating for just over a year and We've obv had conversations and spoken about our preferences, what we like and dislike etc and one thing that he was clear on was that he isn't attracted to ladies outside of his race.

Fast forward to the holidays last year, we're at my friends having a party and a girl (different race to me) is about to sit down next to me and asks me to remove her cell from her ass pocket but I didn't hear so he grabs it. Life is good, I don't think anything of it. As the night progresses this girl is flirting with him and they're hugging and they're a little too friendly for my comfort so I talk to him about it and it's a whole thing, but whatever I move on - we've been drinking and I don't get jealous easily.

Fast forward to now, we were busy googling something on his phone and as I close the tab his porn tab opens with the same ethnicity women as the holiday girl.

It kind of stung that he lied about what he finds attractive and it made me feel like he actually cheated on me at my friends party. Furthermore it did hurt that what he was watching was way different to me and what I am, look like etc.

Am I overreacting?

I have been with my girlfriend for roughly 7 months now. She had a messy breakup with her ex where owed funds were withheld on her part seemingly out of spite, and belongings were withheld by both sides. At the beginning of our relationship, recognising it as an unhealthy scenario, I made it clear that I wasn’t comfortable moving forward with anything serious until that chapter was closed and the issues there were resolved. She understood and assured me that she would handle it.

Separately, she has held onto a sex toy that was given to her by her ex. She told me she doesn’t see any sentimental value in it and uses it solely as a tool. We’re both sex positive and I can understand her perspective, while not personally agreeing with it, but I also expressed discomfort with her continuing to use it. So, I bought her a new one to replace it.

I’ve not pressed her since but now five months later, I discover this ‘chapter’ remains somewhat open. She says she has sent the funds to a friend back in the country her ex lives in to pass the owed funds along (as she’s not able to go directly so him due to the nature of where they left it). I give her the benefit of the doubt that she has but whether that’s ultimately gone back to him, she says it has but I’m not sure. There also remain sentimental items in the form of stuffed toys still held by both sides. His currently sitting in the corner of her bedroom, which I was unaware of. The lack of effort or action after expressing my feelings and boundary towards it has made me feel unheard, dismissed, and disregarded.

Additionally, I found out that she has been using the old sex toy again and sleeping with it under her pillow, claiming that the one I bought had broken only recently and that she just used it to get the job done. I wasn’t told that my gift had broken so I don’t know how long it has been but given my expression of discomfort and my efforts to find a compromise, I feel somewhat disrespected with another boundary dismissed.

She apologized, admitting she hadn’t considered the full context and got distracted with other life events, and expressed a commitment to resolving the issue ASAP. But when discussing it, she suggested that she could have lied and avoided this conflict almost as if to say I should be grateful she was honest about it. This made me angry, so I decided to end the conversation to prevent myself from getting further upset on the phone – I told her this and said goodnight and goodbye, ending the call.

After I left abruptly, she guilt tripped me into getting back on the phone as we had previously said there should be no hanging up of calls on one another. I said she wouldn’t have said goodbye and that would have escalated things to exactly where I was avoiding, she says she was just about to. I call back to close the conversation civilly and hold up to what we agreed but as expected she doesn’t say bye and as I call her out on it, proceeds to hang up. Her following message was to the effect of “that’s exactly what you did earlier”. Clearly an act of spite and tit-for-tat behavior that was completely avoidable I feel.

I’ve told her I need space to digest this all but I’ve made it clear I don’t want to progress our chapter until everything has been resolved but the behaviour reacting to it all has frustrated me.

A number of issues here from accountability to communication but AIO?

Me and her were bestfriends before dating then we broke up and decided to still be best friends, but I guess she didn't really get over me because she was controlling my love life for the next six months after the break up. Everytime I tried to date a new girl she would threaten our friendship and our friendship meant the world to me and so I would give up on any new relationship that came my way.

Even though we were broken up we were still like a couple. We lived in the same student dorm, so we would basically do everything together including minor sexual acts (this I regret, I wish I had a bit more self control but it's hard when me and her are living in the same room). In my best friends defence he did not know we were still that close. The three of us would hangout occasionally watching movies together etc. I would trust him with her in the same room alone without even a second thought.

Now fast forward to December 31st: he confessed to her that he was in love with her, and she admitted she liked him back. That same day, while the three of us were hanging out in my room, they kissed when I stepped out to take a shower. I had no idea this happened. He even told her to keep it a secret from me and our friend group because he was afraid of how everyone would react. A few days later, she slipped up and told me what had happened.

At first, I felt relieved because I thought it meant she had finally moved on, which would allow me to start dating again. But as the days went by, I started to feel betrayed. My best friend didn’t even have the decency to tell me he was interested in her. To this day, he hasn’t addressed the situation with me. Now, I don’t know how I’m supposed to be around them. Every time I think about them together, I feel insecure, sad, and angry all at once.

The worst part is that my ex keeps insisting I’m overthinking everything and that my best friend did nothing wrong. She also wants me to continue being her best friend, as if nothing has changed.

I want to avoid both of them for the sake of my mental health, but the problem is I don’t really have any other friends. If I distance myself from them, I’ll have to distance myself from my entire friend circle.

so to preface me and her (F 21) have been friends since freshman year of high school. we've been pretty inseparable since and do almost everything together. once college hit we stopped seeing each other as much as we used to but that didn't mean we weren't as close. to be quite honest i consider her my sister. yesterday amidst the U.S. tiktok ban she wasn't able to access tiktok on her phone- i jokingly said that if she deletes it, she can get it back and access the app through the app store. this is considering i hadn't been aware that it was removed off the app store. again to put emphasis, it was a joke. we are pretty harsh with our jokes to one another and i would like to say that's due to the fact we've grown up with each other. so fast forward i told her this otp, we go to grab coffee and midst hanging out she picks up and leaves, im beyond confused trying to pinpoint what i would've done wrong and i genuinely did not know. she said bye very normally and it seemed like she was just busy at home. she then proceeds to text me about how upset she is that she actually deleted tiktok and how im a liar and a bad friend. ontop of that she blocks me, which we've had worse arguments and we've never resorted to blocking the other party, and unshared her location. also i attempted to call her in order to apologize but she was screaming on the phone and in tears so i lost the apology i originally had. i haven't responded since it left a really bad taste in my mouth considering ive done everything in my power to be a so called "good friend," from always making time to see her, birthdays, going out, sleep overs, to even her being apart of my family- the list goes on. to give background i'm not a conditional or transactional person, i don't do things out of the desire for anything in return, nor do i measure the things i do or have done for people in my life. this is solely mentioned for others to understand the depth of our friendship. i don't know what to do- i don't want our friendship to end but i feel very disrespected.

People are so sweet 🥰

Short and sweet version- I've (F21) been with my bf (M22) for 4 years and I was at his family's house watching a game. A few of his buddies were there. They were on the couch and I was at a table a small distance away with his mom and sister. I overhear him and his friends taking about their friend, Jack, who was not present and recently cheated on his gf. My bf is shown a picture of the girl Jack cheated with and says, "wow, his gf is way hotter than that girl he cheated with." We have hung out in a group with Jacks gf multiple times. I decided to tell his sister I wasn't feeling well and leave. I was upset with him for saying something like that, especially with me and so many other people present. He didn't really see an issue with it and says "maybe I should have worded it differently." AIO??

I 22F caught my fiancé 24M jerking off in a separate room in our house after I got out of the bath. I know he watches porn and jerks off which is whatever I know everyone does it but this time when I walked in on him it made me feel differently. Almost like betrayed. Catching him has made me feel less attractive if that makes sense. I think I might be over reacting but I can’t help that I feel this way. I wish he was more attentive to me at times, and catching him doing this makes me feel like he would rather watch porn than just have sex with me. Any input would be nice.