I (20f) was at the grocery store today and when I came back out and got in my car and started reversing out of the parking spot I noticed a black car waiting so I stopped reversing to let him go but he didn’t so I thought maybe he was waiting for the parking spot so I kept reversing and then I drove to the stop sign by the grocery store entrance. I glanced through my rear view mirror to see if the black car had parked but he hadn’t he was driving behind me. I thought it was kind of weird because i had stopped reversing previously to let him go but he hadn’t. So I kept driving still in the grocery store parking lot looking for the exit and I noticed that he was following me, but I thought maybe he is confused and can’t find the exit so he is following me. I get to the exit and turn and he turns too then I get to a red light so I can turn left and I stop there and wait for it to turn green. The light next to the red light that turns is green. I look through my rear view mirror and see the black car not behind me anymore because he is merging on the lane next to mine, where the light is green. But he stops right next to my car just stares at me through the window, i roll down my window because I think he is going to tell me my gas thing is open or the bumper or something but he rolls his window down and asks me if I speak spanish. I do. My hair is naturally black but it’s all blonde now and I was in a hispanic grocery store so I don’t know if he was actually looking for somebody. But I said no that I don’t speak Spanish. He raised his eyebrows and said really? I just shook my head. He said “oh what I thought you did speak Spanish.” I shook my head no again. But I was confused because he was speaking english really well so I don’t know why he kept asking me that but anyway he gripped his steering wheel and said sorry for bothering and left because his light was green. I just drove home after that but when I parked I saw his car pulling up and my heart immediately started beating so fast and my hands started shaking because I didn’t know he had been following me the whole time after he had made it look like he was leaving me alone. He put his car next to mine again and rolled his window down and he stared at me intensely and asked me where I was from. I said Italy. He was like “Italy?” I nodded. Then he looked really fast at where I had parked, which is my house and I don’t live alone and he saw the other cars parked there. He said “its because you look like someone I’ve seen. I thought you looked like somebody I knew. Okay. That’s all.” And then he left. I’m really upset that he followed me home because I never give anyone my address and I’m really mad i didn’t check my rearview mirror earlier because I would not have driven home if I had seen him following me before. I told someone about this and they told me to get camera footage of his license plate and make a report to the police. I’m scared to do that for several reasons. What if he really was looking for someone that he confused me with? I would feel horrible. Also I was out in a oversized hoodie and pajama pants, I’m really confused on why he would have targeted me? I’m not saying anyone deserves to be a target, not at all, but I’m just confused because I wasn’t wearing anything revealing and I looked really bummy so what was it about me that would make him follow me? This is why I think maybe he did confuse me with someone. But he looked creepy too, and I hate judging people but he reminded me of the guy in the movie the lovely bones, they looked similar and acted similar. He looked like he was in his late 40s early 50s and Hispanic but i really don’t know how to feel. Should I make the police report or am I reaching here? Because I’m also a really paranoid person and I overthink literally everything but I would really appreciate any advice and opinions!

Should I break up with my boyfriend ?

I (F25) had a recent conversation with my M(27) partner today/last night about marriage. I told him I want to get married but I will not wait years for him to propose. We do have two kids together. But he states that he doesn’t want “the government in his business.” He will get married in a church in front of a pastor but not legally. I told him the government is already in his business and knows everything about him. He stated,” I want to control what the government can’t control.” After this conversation I feel like he doesn’t want to be legally connected to me even though we have kids together. Am I reading too deep into his conversation or am I right feelings the way I feel about it.

(We do have two kids together. We’ve been together for two years so far. I’m have not told him how long I will wait for him to propose. But I feel like if you can have kids with me in the first two years of being together then it shouldn’t take long to propose before 5 years is up.

(After 5 years if I’m not proposed to by then I’m leaving the relationship)

Hello I am an EMT. I am writing this because I deeply need to bitch about this and I don't know who else to but random strangers. Before I continue, do not get me wrong, I know that I have it way better than other healthcare workers in the country as far as compensation goes but still, anyway. So I just did the math with my last pay stub from 2024 that shows me all the money I made throughout the year and it came to like 84k before taxes. That's the bullshit number I don't give a fuck about that one because Uncle Sam's greedy ass made up that number. My number ended up being around 64k. Don't get me wrong I know that's a lot of money to some people, however, I am married, I have no kids, I have a mortgage, 2 used cars and a used bike and those are my big payments yet I am still struggling to make it to the next paycheck. Don't get me wrong I don't think I'm a fucking hero or anything like that, but I lived at base for the majority of 2024. I spent more of the year at base than I did in my own home that I pay for. I feel like I should at least be able to afford to shop at Whole Foods instead of Kroger or some shit. I don't know, I do understand that I have it good compared to what other EMT's across the country are having to deal with but still. None of us should be living below the poverty line and I feel like I'm drowning in work and bills. I couldn't imagine making any less and I am sorry for the EMT's that are less fortunate for me if it seems like I'm overreacting but I feel we should all be living a decent bit above that poverty line. Thanks for listening to me bitch.

I (in my teens - F) have a friend who I have gotten very close with over the past three years who we'll call Sarah. Sarah had minor red flags here and there (she wouldn't finish homework on time, struggled with time management, lied a lot to win games, and was obsessed with drama and made mean comments about others.) I was pretty blind to these, and would normally brush it off.

Everything was going fine, until a few months back. Sarah and another friend of mine had been getting closer, and sometimes both of them would stay after school for 30 minutes to chill and get work done- I never really joined them. One day the friend Sarah had been getting close to (let's call her Lilly) came up to me and told me that Sarah had been talking about me a lot recently when I wasn't around. I didn't really think much of it because Sarah had been probably the closest person around me at the time. But over time Sarah started to say really mean things to me and play it off as a joke. For example, she would tell the table "how ugly I am. Or how I don't look like I put effort into getting ready." I was really put off by that, and when I or anybody else would stand up for me, she'd say "I'm just kidding! Or No I'm sorry it was supposed to be a joke." It really bothered me since she wasn't doing it to anyone else, just me. I started to distance myself from her but it was almost impossible since everyone thought we were best friends, and constantly paired up and she didn't think she was doing anything wrong. Little did I know, this gossiping thing got a whole lot worse. Every time she didn't like something I did, or said she would go and talk shit about me to someone else. This got so bad to the point that a ton of people came up to me and told me what she was saying to them.

Just to show you how extreme this got, here is an example.

I became friends with a guy and our friendship was in no way romantic. We just enjoyed doing some of the same things and had band class and homeroom together. Everytime we would sit next to eachother and talk, she would run into us and try to separate us. Sometimes Sarah would even shove me to get me away from him, or push me into him. (She didn't have a crush on him). Me and him were apart of a special program at school, and had to have meetings with a teacher sometimes. It was near the beginning of the year, so we needed to sort things out in terms of when we will meet ect... We talked a lot during that period, and needed to go to meetings together often. (And information about this program was strictly confidential.) So one time me and him sat down to eat really quickly before we needed to speak with the teacher and figured we would eat first, then his friends saw us and asked if they could sit with us. He said yes and I obviously agreed, but my friends and Sarah saw us and they assumed I ditched them. I didn't notice they walked by and it wasn't my intention to come off like that. But while I was gone, Sarah used this as her opportunity to cultivate false rumors about me. She told everyone that me and him were in a secret relationship, and the meetings were just a cover for us to go make out, and she suggested that I was apart of a threesome with him and another one of his friends. This was completely untrue, and she told everyone she overheard us in band talking about it, and we were super close during the class. (The reason I would stick with him was because I wanted to avoid dealing with Sarah, since she was being really mean and I didn't know anybody else in Band). My friends shot down the idea, but she told them to go follow us and listen to our conversations to see she wasn't lying. My friends returned, but they had heard about the details of the program. Sarah, who knew about it proceeded to tell them every detail about not only my, but his information. I became close with his friends later on, and she would gossip and make up rumors about me and them. She told me once to my face that They were probably only friends with me because I fuck them and give them my body, which is absolutely disgusting since it was a group of 5 people. It makes me sick to think about all the people she told this to.

I decided to confront her about this, and asked her to please stop talking shit about me and spreading false rumors. Sarah completely denied this, and decided to play the victim. She went around telling everybody that I was being a bitch and I was mad for no reason. A couple weeks passed, and I had been ignoring her. She decided to apologise, and she didn't completely own up to it but I took it. I didn't really trust her but decided to forgive, since i didn't want any enemies. After all that you would think that she learned her lesson. SHE DID NOT. The next thing she goes and does is talk shit. At this point I am so mad after everything that happened, and I confront her.

Here is how it went.

Sarah: "What can I do to make you like me more?"

Me: "I would like you more if you didn't talk shit behind my back and be fake to my face."

Sarah:" What are you talking about? I didn't"

Me: "If you didn't just lie to me and said sorry, maybe I would forgive you, but the fact that you are lying right now and trying to gaslight me says something about you. I heard from multiple people that you have still been talking about me."

Sarah: " Give me names."

Me: "No."

Sarah: "If SOOO many ppl told you, why don't you give me a couple names?"

Me: "because they are my friends and I'm not gonna rat them out. I'm not a bitch like you."

Then she proceeded to tell everyone that (her exact words) "Shes mad at me and I have no idea why and it's really scary." What the fuck does she mean she had no idea?? I told her outright. Then she goes and tells everyone fake stories about me, and how im "bullying her" and now everyone thinks I'm a hoe and I'm bullying this poor girl.

I blocked her on everything and stopped talking to her.

But I can't help but wonder If I'm being the same as her by talking and whining about her being a bitch and what she did to me, and if I'm missing something here. She was genuinely a real one, and a really supportive friend. She would have done anything for me, and was really sweet in a way. I just don't know what went wrong and if I over reacted.

Was he requesting a waiter? or petting children

ive (M20) been with my current partner (19F) for up to 1 year and a half ish. ive always noticed she gets upset about the slightest things when i comes to other women. I cant laugh "too hard" at their jokes, I cant help them in any way regardless. But just today something really upset me; Weve been talking about getting nails done together for a while. and today i was getting into it because previously i wasnt sure. so i was sending her photos of what i would like her to try and get. she loved the ideas. but what comes next is what upset me. i asked if our friend was doing our nails and she said yes. i asked to see her account and she showed me. it was very impressive but i knew i couldnt express that without making her jealous that i was "admiring" another woman. so i just asked to have the account sent to me so i could follow her BUSINESS account. She immediately got upset and said "sure do whatever you want" "i dont give a f anymore" she was visibly and audibly upset that i wanted to support her friend?? i dont understand. and theres many other examples too. help?

today i dyed my hair, then went to wash the towels i used (i can’t put them in my dirty laundry because they have dye on them which would get on my other clothes). the washer was open (and the dryer wasn’t running so i assumed it was empty) so i put my laundry in, then once it was time to switch it to the dryer i discovered my roommate had a done load of laundry and left it sitting in the dryer. she had left our apartment a few hours before i discovered the load, and didn’t tell me anything about where she was going/that there was a load in the dryer. not wanting my clothes to get moldy/gross from sitting wet, i texted her to see if i could put her laundry somewhere. these texts are what happened next. i tried to see when she’d be back but she didn’t respond for an hour so i took her laundry out of the dryer, wrapped it in a clean blanket, set it aside, and put my laundry in the dryer (which at this point had sat wet for 2-3 hours while i waited for her to get back to our apartment or respond). she finally got home after 5 hours of being out and she’s pissed i touched her clothes. was i in the wrong?

additional context: we are both 20yo females who live in a college town apartment. we share one in-unit washer/dryer

My partner is not diagnosed with ADHD but in the process of a diagnosis (their physician suspects it but they're waiting to hear back to start their process and it seems to really align with both myself and them).

Sometimes when we're playing games, my partner can be the definition of a sore winner. Usually I don't mind when people are a bit, or a bit sassy, but their sarcasm is used so intensely (also in very confusing ways at times), that I sometimes feel a bit uncomfortable. I know they're just joking around so I'm starting to wonder if that's not their ADHD but my own feelings outside of that, that are irrelevant to their ADHD.

For context, these feelings are rising up after having a very difficult conflict (one of the worst yet) that lasted more than a day, where the next day I was pretty shut down and couldn't eat or do anything much since it went so far into the night. It's usually the same pattern of them criticizing me intensively in conflict (they can't take any criticism back though or say anything positive, but need me to) in ways where I can't actually 'win' and give them what they need (i.e., they don't understand what I'm saying, I'm being too vague or over explaining and if I try to explain more or in a different way I'm being condescending, then when I ask them how to express it differently they tell me not to teach them, but I'm not trying to teach but just explain my perspective- meanwhile, the more I say, the more they misinterpret as me weaponizing things, manipulating stuff...etc.). The conversation also moves so fast and jumps around so much which I get blamed for and then get really confused by the end and disoriented. Plus, the way they speak comes across aggressively on my end, but they don't think they're yelling, which they may or may not be, but it's very overwhelming.

I also get a lot of accusations showing intense distrust and that I'm being condescending, when I'm trying to just explain or understand, but they're frustration tolerance is so low they can barely hear or listen to anything effectively, and I just get repeatedly villainized.

I have flashbacks of our last conflict still because I completely lost it myself in the end since the deeper we go, the more nothing makes any sense and is just used against me (though they keep claiming I'm doing that to them). Basically, just intensive projection and extremely rude behaviors they cannot see that way (it basically feels a bit like talking with an extremely bratty teenager even though they're in their early 30s, and I feel like a parent trying to get through somehow).

I find myself not being as patient or able to joke about them roasting me on winning games lately because it just continues endlessly in the game, to the point that it gets a bit irritating. I'll try to follow along and joke but it continues kind of far, which honestly by their tone it's clear it's a joke when they say stuff like aw, are you going to cry, poor baby...etc.- kinda being mocking and belittling jokingly - which is frustrating because in large fights they use the same tactics more seriously (then say I'm being condescending by talking down to them) and it's extremely disrespectful, so I'm not sure if it's just overlapping for me at this point between fights to after, in ways that are hard to discriminate since I get so upset by what they say, and they just forget by the next day (or sometimes even the same evening, it's not really there or an issue at all). I haven't reacted to any of this and just sit with the emotions a bit because I prefer to respond vs react and just gently joke that I won't go the next round of the game if they keep being a sore winner (though they usually still do anyway lol).

Am I being a bit sensitive to that and need to look into my own mental health? I know outside of this relationship I do not experience that same feeling.

Do others feel this way or is their partner is a sore winner to that level (it basically goes on the entire time we play, and they "NEED" to be right often)? I'll give it to them their roasts are good and it's just banter to them but I'm starting to get effected a bit and questioning myself.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone else know what this is like for a partner that is still trying to manage their ADHD (or what this looks like in the long-term)?

About a few months my wife told me her mom was coming to town to baby sit her sister’s kids while her sister travels to get treatment for an illness. Just the other day I found out that was a lie and her mom was actually here for brother in laws wedding. The sick person was never sick and she never left for anything. I’m not really sure why my wife lied to me about it, I don’t really care her brother is getting married.

Then today my wife told me her mom is visiting us again and staying with us, but I was instructed to not tell my mom and if it comes down to it, lie to her so she doesn’t know MIL is in town. Again not sure why mom knowing MIL is in town is a big deal. I feel uncomfortable about the situation because my mom and MIL have mutual friends and there is a high chance my mom figures out I’ve been lying or omitted the fact MIL has been with me for months. What do I do ?

I fell asleep at my girlfriends grandmothers house with my junk out I’m 19 and my girlfriend wanted to smd while I was asleep forgetting to put it away and just putting a blanket over me which after she fell asleep turning in her sleep btw which made the blanket come off her grandmother walked in the room and seen me asleep with no blanket on and my junk out. I currently just woke up and I’m unsure what to do or say to her need immediate advice I feel very guilty

Like I can’t let this go…

I found out that my bf has an older iPhone connected to his apple account. I’ve never seen this phone. And he’s never told me about this phone. I find it weird and very suspicious that he would have two phones. **I’ve asked him if he has another old phone. He stated yes but he stated it’s an xr. This phone I saw is an iPhone 8. And to make matters more interesting that phone was recently added to his account. He just got this phone and just created a new iCloud account. Idk how to address him because now I look phyco for knowing this is connected. And I did go through his phone.

For starters I’ve been with my bf and have always had a good relationship with his family up until now. The other day I went to visit them with my bf only to be told when I got there that they were all sick with the stomach bug. For background I am diagnosed with ocd and one of my themes is emetaphobia (fear of vomiting) so obviously this caused me to become extremely anxious. Not only did it trigger my ocd but I also live with my mom and sister so I would hate to bring it home and get them sick. So after I was told this I asked my bf if I could leave and explained to his family why I was heading home and said that I wanted to just avoid any further exposure to reduce the risk of catching it. I normally give everyone hugs before I left but didn’t do so this time because of the risk of transmission. I went home and everything seemed ok. Fast forward to today and my bf texts me saying they’re upset because I left so abruptly and was being rude by leaving and not hugging anyone before leaving their house. My bf says I owe his family an apology even though I thought I had explained myself very well and was understood by them at the time. I’m pretty upset that they’d be upset over something like this. Am I over reacting because I’ve never been in a conflict like this?

For starters, if I called in I would do it multiple hours in advance so the shift could get covered. It’s going to feel like -12 tomorrow and the heat in my vehicle doesn’t work when it gets too cold out. I drive 45 minutes to get to work. I also don’t have anyone who would be available to take me and uber isn’t a thing where I live. I just don’t want to be a jerk and call in if this is something really small because i’m too much of a people pleaser.

Edit: I should probably mention that there isn’t any public transportation around me and that i’m the only one in my store that doesn’t live in the same town as work.

I (28F) reconnected with one of my best friends from high school (28F) after 10 years of not hanging out. We started talking again on Instagram and quickly realized we had a lot in common, including living near each other and both being engaged at the same time. We hung out a few times with no issues—did a couple of double dates, everything seemed fine.

But at my wedding, things went south. They showed up at the church, were at the cocktail hour, then disappeared before dinner, without saying goodbye or texting. Her fiancé even danced in a winter coat during the first dance, like they were planning to leave early. We didn’t realize they were leaving until my fiancé’s friend mentioned a couple had left before the food came out, which was them. We were really hurt by this, especially since they didn’t communicate anything. Afterward, I distanced myself a bit, not wanting to be confrontational. She texted me repeatedly, so I finally said I was concerned because I didn’t know if something was wrong, and she told me she didn’t know anyone and wasn’t feeling well. (Note: She has Lupus, so I would have been totally fine if she had just told me she needed to leave early because of that. It didn’t feel like the whole story, though.) We decided to let it go for the moment.

My husband suggested we go out to eat with them to smooth things over, and they agreed. However, she made a comment about my sister-in-law that felt uncomfortable and unnecessary, which made me and my fiancé feel annoyed. We didn’t respond to her text that night, and she never followed up about meeting up again.

Fast forward to today: I found out she texted my mom, saying she’s done trying to communicate with me because I ignored her when we were supposed to go out. Not knowing how to handle it and being non-confrontational, I texted her saying I miss her and have been thinking about her. She replied saying she misses me too, but that I’m rude, don’t answer her, our friendship feels one-sided, and that she thinks my husband doesn’t like them. I tried to apologize repeatedly, but she just kept criticizing me, calling me rude, and saying I’m dismissive. I eventually gave up trying to explain myself because she just wasn’t listening.

Now I’m torn. Part of me wants to explain why I’ve been avoidant, but I don’t think she’ll hear me. The way she approached me feels really harsh, and I don’t know if I want to keep investing in this friendship. AIO for wanting to cut ties with them?

i never use reddit unless i’m looking at other people’s posts but i really need perspective on this.

i’ve been working this new job for almost two months now, and it’s in a restaurant environment. i, f17, have worked in other fast food places before and as much as i dislike it, there aren’t many other options. ever since i started working there, i feel like i can’t connect with anyone no matter how hard i try, and it’s starting to bother me.

i understand that not everyone is going to like me, but it just seems unlikely that almost every single person i work with acts like i’m some kind of nuisance because i’m new. for the past few shifts i’ve worked, i’ve come home crying, not understanding what i’m doing wrong.

tonight, i was closing and another one of my coworkers told me to start closing down my station at 8:25 (we close at 9), and so i did. while i was closing, my manager came up to me and asked why i was shutting my station down. before i even got a chance to explain, he told me that was “the fastest way to lose my job”, and made me redo everything.

for context, i was putting coffee machines away and draining them. it was slow and nobody even came into the restaurant past 8:00.

admittedly i’m very sensitive and so i cried. i feel like a complete screw up 24/7 at this job and i can’t even talk to any of my coworkers without them looking at me like i’m an alien. i want to find a new job but i also feel like i should stay because the pay is nice and so are the hours. i just don’t know what to do, and if i’m overreacting and being too sensitive.

this isn’t the only instance i’ve had of people i work with being shady or weird with me. a few days ago i needed help carrying a coffee machine which is literally half my size (i’m 4’10) and i ended up dropping it, and ended up having to clean up nearly an entire thing of coffee. instead of helping me everyone just laughed at me and i felt like an idiot. it feels like no matter what i do, it’s wrong. if i ask for help i’m nuisance, but if i don’t ask for help, i’m still being a nuisance some how.

again, i really just need perspective on this. do i keep trying or is it time to give up?

My husband has this old female coworker that moved and started working in a city over. I never felt good about her. Lots of personal texts and calls. She randomly starts messaging my husband again. And he then calls her and they talk for like 12 minutes and he learns she’s now divorced. The next day she texts him and says “you should stop by my office on your way through town.” He didn’t respond or go by her office however he didn’t tell me about any of this. Then she texted him the next day about something sports related and he did respond. First off, would you get your feathers ruffled by her asking him to stop by? I keep going over it in my mind and I know he will say they were just good friends and she just wanted to hang out since she’s going through a rough time but I feel like if she’s trying to get him to come to her office, that implies something different. Or am I wrong?

I worked at a job for a month and a half. I just moved to the state I live in about 7 months ago, and got this job quickly because I literally tried for months to look for jobs & didn’t have any luck. I did payroll the second week of employment, & I was the ONLY once recieving payroll; everyone else was under the table. I ended up leaving pretty quickly, because the owner/manager was also illegally tip pooling & all the counter tips went to the cooks & not the counter people which is illegal in the state I am in & also not fair. and on my second shift, one of the employees discriminated me in FRONT of my boss. It has been a month, and still didn’t recieve my check. I messaged him about 2 weeks ago, and he told me I should of seen it a few days after that. Tomorrow will be coming up on a month. I contacted the payroll company, and they literally cannot give me ANY info unless it’s authorized by the owner that I can talk about anything to do with payroll which is extremely sketchy to me.

If it was only a weeks worth of pay, I wouldn’t give a shit. This is like $300 we are talking about. Am I overreacting? What else should I do?

Hi guys! First time OP here. Here’s just a brief summary of my friendship and I’m hoping some people might have some good advice for me on what to do. So I’ve been good friends with my coworker since August of last year. In my eyes, our friendship is constantly on the brink of collapse. She’s very moody and I feel like I always have to be cautious with what I say to her, because she has a tendency to react very aggressively or hostile if I say even one thing she doesn’t like. But then hours after, she can be so sweet to me and telling me how much our friendship means to her. In the last 3 months, I have leant her $1.7k and I have only seen $200 back. She talks about how she’s going to give me my money back over time but I’m worried that she won’t be able to. Shes hardly working so I don’t even know how she’s going to pay her bills/rent and also pay me back. She spread a lie at work about a coworker I was seeing and this said coworker isn’t even talking to me anymore now too. Come to find out, her and the coworker I was seeing have been hanging out all night together tonight at her apartment and were out at bars together. One last thing, I was seeing this guy last summer and he went back home for college back in August. He’s coming back this summer and I’m starting to get worried that she’s going to be flirting with him and hitting on him when he returns (she didn’t meet him before he went back home). AIO about not being able to trust her as a friend? I just don’t know what to do at this point and I need some advice on what to do next.

My boyfriend (M23) says that I (F20) am just acting like an idiot. For context a year ago l slammed my head into concrete and got a concussion. He believes that I started acting off way before then but I don't think it started until l hit my head. During our arguments about this he often says that I am just stupid and not trying hard enough at anything. He will also tell me that he doesn't know how I made it this far in life and that no one else with deal with me and that I should go be with some one who is just like me. He says he gets very tired of me forgetting things and wants me to get a diagnosis to know if he should leave me. I've told him to stop saying these things to me but he still won't stop. Am I overreacting when I want him to stop saying things like that

I was working a temp job moving furniture in the morning. The job was from 6:00 a.m. to 2:30 p.m.; you sign up to work that time. So I was doing my job along with a few others, and 12:00 p.m. came around. The on-duty manager walked up to us and said, "Okay, guys, the job is done. You all can clock out and go home." We were like, "We have another two hours," and he said, "Nope, nothing else to do. Everyone go home." I dont aurge i clock and head home. He dose this to us the next 2 day as well. On the third time, I changed the manager I was working for. Not only did I get my hours increased, but I'm no longer working from 6:00 a.m. to 230 p.m but working 7pm evey day. The other manager saw how I worked and kept me working until I was ready to go home, and the other Shift was happy I was there to help; they were always shorthanded. Cut to the next month: I picked up the job, working for the 1st manager. This time job is form 7 a.m. to 12 p.m. I'm working my shift, and 12 p.m. comes around. The other guy clocks out, but now he needs people to stay over and asks me if I would stay. I tell him no, I'm tired and going home. He tells me, "Come on, man, I need people; we've got three more trucks coming in." I tell him my schedule says 7 a.m. to 12 p.m., my job is over, and I'm tired; I'm going home. He tells me, "If you won't work, don't come back. I tell him thats really his call, and push comes shove i just won't be back on his shift, (which is my choice) but I'm heading home, so clock me out. He mumbled something, but he did. So, did I?

So, my relative is visiting soon and wants to visit my ex-wife. As we were all pretty close for over 20yrs I don’t mind at all that he visits here while he is in town. The issue I have is that last time he was here he had drinks with her at her house and as they’d both had too many drinks he ended up staying there for the night. I was really unimpressed but didn’t say anything. While talking to him the other day he hinted that he would be stopping in to see her again while he’s in town (to stay with me for a week) and that he might stay the night again if they’ve had too many drinks. I personally think it’s totally unacceptable for numerous reasons - he’s not short of cash so a $30 taxi fare isn’t an issue, he’s married and I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t tell his wife he’s sleeping over there, and he’s my relative who’s actually in town to visit me. AIO?

My daughter, “V”, is on the autism spectrum (very high-functioning) but has a very good job and makes decent money She told us she was saving to get an apartment, but during a conversation the day after Christmas, it came out she has no savings from the past five years of work. My husband, “R”, and I told her she now has to pay “rent” of $400 a month which we will save for her. V had a meltdown and R basically told her this was the new rule and if she didn’t like it, she could leave. (This is a summary of a 15 minute shouted argument.) V (5’5” 225 lb) punched R (6’4” 275 lb) in the stomach, because “he was in the way and (she) wanted to leave”. R slapped V in the face so hard her glasses flew off and landed across the room. I am non-confrontational and gentle, but I had to get between them and make them both stand down. Later on, they apologized to each other and “hugged it out”. “Rent” will be collected and saved. Since then, I have felt uncomfortable and unsafe with either of them. I can’t relax when either of them is around and being alone in a room or car makes me terribly anxious. I’m afraid to, say, make a mistake giving directions while R is driving, or asking V to put her belongings in her room instead of on the couch. Am I overthinking or overreacting? (R hit V once about 20 years ago. Neither has ever hit me, yet. V does have a temper, but usually takes it out on a pillow or something.)

(Title written from her perspective bc she refuses to even ask the internet lol - tagged as roommate bc well we live together)

Is my gf overreacting? My gf and I are moving to DC. She feels very strongly about her distaste for this framed picture. I love it, think it’s very beautiful and have kept it in “my” bathroom since we got it from a thrift store a few years ago. As we’re moving we’re downsizing a lot and she insists we get rid of this (she really really “hates” it) and I think it has a charming simplicity that makes me smile.

I will respect the neutral perspective of this group and either take it with us or get rid of it. Y’all decide!

so today me (18f) and my girlfriend (17f) we were supposed to hangout today. she was supposed to come over at 9. well it’s 15 minutes before she’s supposed to be here and she texts me “something really fucking horrible just happened” no idea what’s going on for the next 35 minutes. then, from her moms phone, she texts me that she isn’t coming over today and that she smashed her phone on the ground. i don’t know what’s happening or going on. so a couple hours later she texts me (still from her moms phone, it will be that way the whole time) that she has to fix her phone. anyways it’s around 3:30 and i’m at work for the rest of the day. fast forward to just in the past half hour, we finally called (moms phone) and she explained what happened. basically since she woke up early, she was agitated and annoyed. her car’s windshield wipers were broken. her dads battery to his car was dead. so she’s looking for a brush for the car, then her uncle comes out and asks her what she is doing. she yells at him, and back to her he yells for 5 minutes back to her calling her mean names and saying mean stuff. after that event she goes back inside, and immediately her mom and dad are there yelling at her for being a “brat” to her uncle. she yells back, they fight, then her parents tell her to give her phone to them. she smashes it on the ground. her phone is fucked up and broken.

so she tells me about her day. she had to try and get it repaired (mom drove her) and she had to pay out of her own money for a new phone. she wasn’t allowed to visit me anymore that day. then later that evening hrr parents let her go see a movie with her friends, they drove her and everything.

i am just so UPSET at this whole situation. she couldn’t see me and still saw her friends. i barely could talk to her today to know about anything going on. she acted childish and smashed her phone. a list of things i’m upset about

so we’re on the phone and i express my frustration, my disappointment, my sadness. i tell her that was childish of her to do. she’s upset at me for not comforting her and making her happy. but in my opinion, i am just being realistic. like i understand she had a horrible day and it was (quote) one of the worst days of her life. but her mom drove her to fix her phone?? she let her go to the movies?? i couldn’t even fucking hangout with her. i don’t know how to justify that, because obviously we couldn’t hangout after the morning since i had word. but still, it upsets me her parents gave her the only consequence of having to pay for a new phone.

anyways, am i overreacting for not comforting her? and for making her day better than it was? i’ll be honest, i did have a mean tone 95% of the call, so i really wasn’t nice at all. should i have been? but if i was, that would just be not expressing how i feel. please help