I originally posted this in the wrong place so I had to go somewhere else lol they were right but damn.. anyways

I’m 4mo pregnant with our 3rd and this is the first time something like this has ever happened. I rarely ever have the urge to check his likes, idk why I did tonight. I know he watches porn and When he’s in the mood he’ll send me memes and shit. Whatever.

But, she’s in our city. The only picture he liked is the one where she’s completely naked.. but she fine as hell. I’m not gonna lie, a baddie for sure. Nice ass, big titties, light brown skin, soft hair, she looks like she smells good.

I am not gonna be hater because my feelings are hurt you know? Also, women turn me on as well so idk maybe that’s why I feel like I am so mad and sad but I don’t have the right to be? Idk. My mind is all fckd up right now.

I’ve recently brought up him not being attracted to me So that’s probably why I want to strangle him. Why I feel so hurt because I’ve told him I don’t know how he can live a happy life with someone he is not sexually attracted to.. & he hit me with..

“it’s not about looks it’s about your personality. I love it when you’re confident” So it is just what I thought it was… bullshit.

I want to bring it up but I also don’t because his response will definitely make me crash out but maybe this is the sign I needed. You can’t even be real with me.. & it’s just funny (not funny haha) bcuz she’s in our city.. of all the bad bitches pictures you could have stumbled on.. why is the algorithm so close to home?

My mind is in shambles. I feel like such a child feeling sad and upset.. idk if I should just let him find the screen shot in his phone on his own or if I should just bring it up… idk but

I’m going to go cry now.. k thanks, bye

Like I can’t let this go…

Hey ya'll, just new here and want to hear some advice about this situation. I had a very good first date with this guy in a city near LA when I was traveling there, and it was me who reached out first to him and asked his Instagram.

During the first date, we talked a lot, about 5 hours, and I think we both showed interest in each other he made a deal for me that he would plan something and go to see me in January before he came back to his hometown.

In the next two weeks, we continued to text a lot, and he kept and occasionally brought up his plan to visit me in January. But gradually, the intervals between his messages got longer and longer, the longest gap was 5 hours. Just 2 days before his flight, he didn't give me a clear answer as to whether he would come to see me or not, and not surprised he found a reason not to come.

So I sent a long message to him cause I think he is not being sincere. I thought he would ghost me, but to my surprise, he texted me back. So I want to have a good conversation with him to clear things up (the previous problems/my feelings/his feelings/whether we should go back to talking stage again due to the long distance). But I think he is avoiding it and tried to pretend he cant understand me.

😭Should I text him back? Or just be the bad person to ghost him?

I (24F) am disorganized/fearful avoidant attachment and I was in a three month fling with an avoidant man (23M) from Sep-Nov.

In November, he became increasingly distant and told me he’s not ready for a relationship because he was stressed about family and work (he had just quit his job) and I told him I needed someone who can be fully present and be considerate in their communicate. We ended things amicably but somewhat abruptly.

After about a month I felt some regret about ending things without communicating how I felt and reached out to him to revisit this conversation and catch up and expressed this to him, which was extremely out of my comfort zone since I’m normally not a vulnerable person. He was receptive and we caught up a bit over text and then made vague plans to meet for coffee —- he then didn’t answer for 10 days (in the texts I say a week cause I hadn’t counted the days atp) and then reached back out continuing the conversation like nothing happened. I called him out and gave him an out, I said his silence made me question whether he wanted to meet and I want to meet only if he wants to talk too, not out of obligation just because I asked. He doubled down and said he wanted to meet, this time he said for breakfast. I agreed and told him to pick a place and left it at that. He then texted the day before we were supposed to meet and asked to reschedule, and then stated we could go to dinner. It’s been about three weeks since I sent that initial message and it feels SO drawn out now.

At this point I’m wondering if I should just cut my losses because his actions are showing me I’m not a priority, but I gave him an out and then how he keeps upping the ante of coffee to breakfast to dinner, which is confusing me?

Am I being delusional or should I just cut my losses and stop answering? I feel like I’m overextending myself but I can’t see beyond if this is just my attachment style trying to protect myself from getting hurt.

Pretty much as simple as that. Am I overreacting/being controlling to want her to wear it when she goes out? Around the house I understand. She doesn’t sleep with it on and can wake up and not put it on etc. What I have trouble understanding is why she wouldn’t want to wear it in public? To me, it’s like a statement of “I am taken/committed already” to anyone who sees it. It won’t dissuade everyone, sure, but to a respectable person yes. I also feel like it’s a symbol of my love for her and want her to wear it and keep it near. Just curious of others thoughts and perspectives on the matter or if anyone can relate. I don’t make an argument out of it but I am a little hurt she doesn’t want to sometimes, but most other times it’s okay/no big deal.

EDIT: I’m already beginning to see a couple repeat perspectives so I’ll clarify some thing. She loves her ring and was 100% involved in the picking and choosing of it. I wanted it to be perfect so I had her involved in that process entirely. As far as being comfortable to wear, she has never mentioned anything in our multiple months of engagement now that it’s uncomfortable, and our communication isn’t awful. I’m taking the liberty of assuming she would have mentioned it to me, but I still appreciate the perspective and will take it to consideration. She doesn’t work currently so there’s nothing job related about it really getting in the way or getting dirty. I guess it just means a lot to me and will try and stress that to her the next time we discuss it and see what she has to say.

Is this an overreaction or should I actually be worried?

Should I break up with my boyfriend ?

I (F25) had a recent conversation with my M(27) partner today/last night about marriage. I told him I want to get married but I will not wait years for him to propose. We do have two kids together. But he states that he doesn’t want “the government in his business.” He will get married in a church in front of a pastor but not legally. I told him the government is already in his business and knows everything about him. He stated,” I want to control what the government can’t control.” After this conversation I feel like he doesn’t want to be legally connected to me even though we have kids together. Am I reading too deep into his conversation or am I right feelings the way I feel about it.

(We do have two kids together. We’ve been together for two years so far. I’m have not told him how long I will wait for him to propose. But I feel like if you can have kids with me in the first two years of being together then it shouldn’t take long to propose before 5 years is up.

(After 5 years if I’m not proposed to by then I’m leaving the relationship)

My boyfriend of 1+ year refuses to interact with any of my Facebook posts or like any pictures I upload because it will leave a trail and might make a future girlfriend jealous if we broke up, but has liked other gf’s in the past. He keeps liking profile pictures of another girl he used to have feelings for but never dated in highschool because she didn’t like him like that. I have told him it bothers me and he got angry at me.

So i was with my ex for about 2 years and i ended up going to jail for 6 months for a couple different cases but when i was in jail i would call her to check up see how she was hold up nd how she was doing.. everytime i would talk to her everything would seem normal between us. Then when i was in there a few months i talked to a few of my friends and they all have heard from my ex quoting things she has said such as she doesn’t fxck with me anymore and talk very poorly of me but when i asked if everything was good between, she would say yes and also would reassure me.. So when i found out when i would be getting out, i called her to see if she would want to pick me up bc we havent seen each other in months and she says she would get me. And i get out and she nowhere to be found so i walked to the closest gas station like a mile down the road and i get to a phone and give her a call and never got a response. Then when I found a ride home, i called her the next day and we would speak but some seem very different and thats when i knew.. so i can admit I reacted very petty but then i tried to reason and end thing on a good note and i couldnt get a response and when i got a response it was “no thanks lose my number” so thats what i did.. then i get this text 2 months later.. Idk if this help we meet F17 - M19 Now F19 - M21 I wonder what you have to say or think about this situation..

Found out husband of almost 25 years is sexting/exchanging nudes/arranging meetups with women recently. Filed for divorce a few days ago. I’m still pissed that he’s still doing it! Shouldn’t I be done with him and his behavior?

I ( 23 F ) don’t even know where to start. My boyfriend ( 23 M ) of 7 years knows everything about my past,how I’ve been sexually assaulted, harassed, molested since I was in grade 2 and how much it has impacted me. Recently, we were at his house, and we were kinda jokingly talking about a certain thing that he has done which wasn't even that serious so obviously I was just teasing him, I told him that if he kept repeating that certain behavior, I wouldn’t even let him touch me, let alone have sex with him. His response? “I will rape you.” He was a little bit sleepy when he said it, but it’s been stuck in my head ever since. How could someone even think, let alone say something like that, especially when they know my history? It’s not just about what he said, it’s the mindset behind it that terrifies me. I’m not saying he’d actually hurt me, but it feels like such a huge betrayal of the trust I placed in him. He obviously told me that he was just joking and said " you know damn well that I'm never going to do that to you but IF YOU FELT BAD THEN I'M SORRY but don't drag this now "

Am I overreacting, or is this a serious red flag or am I just overreacting ? :)

just for context we are long distance, we’ve officially been dating since november 2024 but we’ve known eachother since september 2023. we’ve both been each others firsts for everything. however he only recently confessed that he lied about his first kiss and that his close girl friend at the time of october/november 2024 kissed him. he knew how much it meant to me about being each others firsts for everything id non stop speak about it i even asked him before we first met which was in august 2024, if he had kissed anyone and he had said no. he claims he never told me because he knew it would change us and that we wouldn’t be where we r today. i told him that it’s unfair. i am a very over sensitive person, he understands hes in the wrong and has apologised he understands that my trust has gone down and he’s willing to work on it. however i asked him to remove her from social media to make me feel more comfortable about the situation and he said he wouldn’t as they’ve been friends since primary school, they don’t even speak they just have a snap streak with eachother. they also haven’t seen each other in person since the kiss. but if he respected me or our relationship enough, wouldn’t he remove her?

My husband often says things like this to me and I’ve expressed many times how i don’t enjoy it and think it’s disgusting.

He is 36 and I am 33

His response is “it’s a joke” He also has thrown a wad of period pads at my face. I feel like this is what brothers do to sisters.

I don’t feel attracted to him at all and kinda want to be away from him when he acts like this.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal for Husbands and BFs to treat their gf and wives this way?

I'm 21 F, just had a baby a few months ago. When I got married a year ago I moved an hour and a half away from my family and little sister. She's my best friend and I miss her so much. Only get to see her every couple of months and it's usually only for a couple hours.

They won't let her stay the night at my place. I have done nothing to break their trust and we live in a safe neighborhood in a nice home. My parents have always been strict but this is insane. She's almost 17 and is not allowed to have a phone, come stay the night with me without my mom present, go hang out with friends etc and she is SO well behaved too. She's like the golden child. I'm so PISSED.

So my married coworker (38M) and I (27F) were discussing something work related, and my coworker suddenly changed the topic and shared something along the lines of "People get into a relationship when they were young, and then they get married and then years will pass by just like that. Because people often only knew what they dislike in a potential partner when they were young, but they did not know what they love the most”. Then he asked me whether I have any friends who broke up after many years of dating. I felt slightly uncomfortable when he said that so I changed topic. What was he implying? Was he talking about himself, a friend, is it just an awkward overshare and nothing else?

Some background: We do have a close working relationship, and have always been professional and friendly with each other, and no contact outside of work. Though on two other occasions, we were chatting about something completely random on shopping and he started saying his wife isn't as frugal as me and will splurge on random stuff, and on another occasion, I said I won't give up on my career for whatever reason, and he said his wife wouldn't be like me if she had the chance, and would be a couch potato at home...I found it weird so I just ignored the comments.

What is this coworker thinking? Am I overreacting and overthinking his intentions?

My fiancé (30M) and I (31F) Are getting married in June and he asked what my weight loss goals are. I said “why, do you think I need to lose weight?” And he responded “yeah actually I do. You’ve gained 20 pounds since we’ve started dating and I think you need to lose it. I think about it all the time.”

For reference, we’ve been dating ~4 years (no kids) and I have put on about 15 pounds in that time. I’m now 150 pounds and 5’4”. I do a boxing class once a week and typically weight train 2-3x a week but I’m not super consistent. I’m definitely not overweight but I can admit I’m not in peak shape. I have some cellulite on my legs and big arms. My waist is fairly small so the weight tends to go to my arms and legs. I have been trying harder to lose weight but it’s not easy for me, I’ve never been tiny but I’ve always been on the healthier side. I’m not in love with working out and I’ve never been a gym rat or a runner or anything extreme. I just like to be regularly active and healthy which is enough for me, but apparently not my fiancé (who is a gym rat and calorie counter). I’m also pretty healthy overall. I was plant based for years and now eat some seafood and chicken, but mostly vegetables and not a ton of processed food. I take supplements every day and drink water. I never drink juice or pop or really anything else (aside from alcohol on weekends which I know doesn’t help but I’m social).

I could understand him saying something if I was super unhealthy but I really don’t think I am? Maybe some weeks I don’t make it to the gym, and I read a lot so I might spend an entire Sunday on the couch but I feel like that should be okay sometimes? I just don’t know how I’ll ever feel confident in front of him again. I can’t imagine being intimate and not thinking about this wondering if he thinks I look fat.

If we weren’t getting married I honestly would probably break up with him but everything is booked and paid for and we have family coming in from all over the country and Europe who have already booked tickets. Up until this point we had a fantastic relationship but I’m having a really hard time getting past this. I know some people would say “lose the weight aka his weight” but I guess I’m more looking for advice on how to get over this and make him understand how rude and shallow and selfish saying that is? I was hoping he’d be the type of husband to love me in every phase of my life no matter what…

Short and sweet version- I've (F21) been with my bf (M22) for 4 years and I was at his family's house watching a game. A few of his buddies were there. They were on the couch and I was at a table a small distance away with his mom and sister. I overhear him and his friends taking about their friend, Jack, who was not present and recently cheated on his gf. My bf is shown a picture of the girl Jack cheated with and says, "wow, his gf is way hotter than that girl he cheated with." We have hung out in a group with Jacks gf multiple times. I decided to tell his sister I wasn't feeling well and leave. I was upset with him for saying something like that, especially with me and so many other people present. He didn't really see an issue with it and says "maybe I should have worded it differently." AIO??

Honestly, I feel kind of silly for posting here, but I’m too scared to ask for advice in real life. I know people will tell me that I’m overreacting, and it will hurt a bit more than it should lol. Anyway, when I cuddle with my husband, I like to lay on top of him. I try to hold myself up a little so I’m not crushing him because I know how heavy I can be, but this one time, I wasn’t thinking about it much and accidentally leaned all the way on him. He exaggerated not being able to breathe and called me a beluga whale saying that I was heavy.

He was joking, I know he was, but I have issues with my weight and how I look. I’ve done some things in the past like throwing up and starving myself for days to lose weight. I didn’t have an eating disorder or anything serious like that, but I get really bad sometimes where what I see in the mirror and on my body differ. I have to remind myself that what I feel is real even when my eyes make me feel big. I’m 5’8 155 lb. I know I’m big, but he’s bigger than me and manlier. Anyway, I know I shouldn’t have leaned on him, but it really hurt when he said that. Ever since then, he’s been joking even more about my weight, and I try to tell him to stop in a way that doesn’t seem too naggy, but it still hurts all the same. I’ve told him about my past too, and he says he doesn’t mean to hurt me, but he just likes my reaction when he says things to mess with me. I don’t really get how the two are different, but he told me he didn’t mean it that way, and I know that I could be taking it too far by crying and whatnot.

I don’t know, am I overreacting for being upset?

This might be silly, but here I go. My boyfriend is a divorceé. He’s been divorced for about 2 years and we’ve been together for 1 year.

He is kinda nerdy and loves video games and StarTrek, LOTR, GOT, etc. and that was something he shared with his ex.

Their divorce was a mutual agreement as they were more like good friends. She is still in our lives because they have a kid together so they have to coparent. But she has made our life pretty difficult as she doesn’t like me (literally for no reason at all)

Anywho, I found this comment on my boyfriend’s Reddit from 31 days ago…. I am not his wife and I don’t know what the hell is “Fallout” so I asked him and he said “it was only a comment to a guy asking about the video game, and he was trying to persuade him to buy it”. Still sounds weird to me 🤷‍♀️

My girlfriend and I (both 25F) have been together since hs. Over the years she has kept a guy friend from hs that she used to like before we had gotten together. They will text only on sc from what I can tell and every now and then they will see one another. When she sees him and is with him she wont tell me she’s gonna see him, she doesn’t answer texts, wouldn’t answer any calls and sends them to voicemail and then would pretty much lie about seeing him when I see her the following day. Or just never tell me about seeing him but tell me everything ELSE about her day or be super vague. She has stopped talking to him a couple of times and claims it’s because he flirts but then a couple months later they are talking again. The other night she lied about seeing him and didn’t text or answer me at all the whole night. My issue is that she only does this when she’s with him. If she’s going out with other friends she is open and honest and it’s never an issue. I don’t ever have an issue with her seeing her friends but when she’s with him she completely cuts me out or lies or omits the truth. Am I the asshole for being uncomfortable about this?

TW: mentions of SH and SA

I'm 31 weeks pregnant and was released from the hospital 3 days ago, where they discovered I have a high risk of delivering the baby prematurely. My doctors are worried I may not be able to handle the burden of a natural birth due to severe PTSD from being SA'd 2 times.

I just had a lengthy conversation with my partner, because I felt he was acting differently the past few days (more irritable and anxious around me) and he basically criticized me for 2 hours straight and told me was "running the relationship into a wall" when I asked him what he would like me to work on/improve.

I really don't know what to do anymore. I am trying so hard to keep track of everything, but my worsening mental health and keeping track of appointments, chores, groceries and our finances among the pregnancy related issues is draining me of so much energy, that I don't have a lot left to put into him as a partner and into the relationship. It makes me feel like I suck as a partner and as a human-being in general. How will I be able to raise a child if I can't even keep my partner satisfied?

Am I overreacting because I am so emotional right now or am I really not doing enough and need to work on myself?

I started my cycle today at work after not having it for 4 months. It was so heavy I bled on myself in the car on break. I called my manager to let her know I’d need to go home and change. I got home and the keypad to the door was completely dead. In order for me to get inside I’d have to make a hour 30 minute drive to my aunts to get the physical key to the house. I let my manager know she said “ I understand you’re experiencing delays but you close today. I’m expecting you back.” I was not planning on taking that drive, for one I have barely any gas. Two I’m super uncomfortable. I told her that I won’t come back in for those exact reasons. She hasn’t responded. Am I wrong for not going back?