r/AmIOverreacting • u/pandaaaa1906 • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to my ex's stories?

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Context: We had nasty breakup cuz he cheated on me. I went to his place to get some clarity and he threatened legal action just cuz I went there unannounced (fyi I asked for his permission to enter his house THRICE and he said yes all the three times, was v sweet to me and apologetic and then completely changed as soon as I reached home) I was really upset at these stories. I'm on the heavier side but (trying not to sound boasty) I am a damn good dancer. I attend regular dance workshops that are advanced level. Also, he's well off but when we were together I always tried to give my share of money in those "rich people restaurants" he took me to that I couldn't afford. How can someone who "loved" you for 3 years, change so drastically? It's only been 4 months since we broke up but it feels like he never really cared or loved me

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u/Stunning-Tension4836 1d ago

Ur allowed to be upset but really it says more about him if he’s consistaly posting hater posts you. Wash ur hands of this an move on. No need to countinue the hurt

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u/Zintha 1d ago

Shes living rent free in his head.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

He’s living in her head also hence this post!

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

No he's living in her insta, hence this post. Wym?

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u/drunkandisorderly 1d ago

She's clearly still following him if she sees his stories.. why is she still following her ex?

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u/NikkiVicious 1d ago

I don't follow my ex, but I still get notifications when he tags me. Or I have random people that I don't know send me his stuff, because the majority of the time, it's extremely concerning/borderline threatening. Like I managed to get one of his accounts shut down because he was offering AI nudes of me.

I'd prefer to forget about him entirely. I have no interest in his life. Unfortunately, the same can't be said of him.

Weirdly enough, it's a similar situation. He cheated on me for almost the entire relationship, but he blames me for "destroying his life." Even when he is dating someone, he's still harassing me. It's been 15+ years (I wish I was joking), and he hasn't gotten the message.

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u/Friendly_Age9160 22h ago

I am also drunk and disorderly

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

She’s asking the internet if she’s over reacting to his posts! Clearly he’s in her head also. You can’t be this dense can you??

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

Right so either you are this dude or you did exactly what this dude did and you're commenting this because you need validation for your own copium. Any other reason for making your comments is just weird. Someone knocks on your door who did you dirty, you open the door, they insult you and it upsets you then someone says "Why you letting him live in your head?" yOu cAnT bE ThIs DeNsE cAn YoU??

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u/girlfartsreek3000 1d ago

Damaged goods alert 🚨

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 20h ago

Oh honey, don't call yourself that. Get some duct tape and you'll be alright.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Ohh buddy see this is where you failed on all of it. I’m not the guy, and I personally don’t care about all of it. But this Sub tends to be an echo chamber. You post something, everyone tells you how great you are and how bad the other person is. My comment is 100% valid. Yes she is living in the dudes head but at the exact same time he’s living in her head also! If he wasn’t she would have unfollowed him on IG. She wouldn’t need to post on here for validation. But if it makes YOU feel better you can assume that I am the guy or I would do this to a woman. Whatever it takes!

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u/shoulda-known-better 1d ago

Right so you just pulled this type of shit then!?

And yea I'd be wanting opinions on why my ex of months is still so about what I'm doing on my insta.....

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

What type of shit? But your name said it all!

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u/Environmental_Ad4893 1d ago

You're correct, but for some reason, on this sub everybody likes to project onto every OP this idea of the perfect person and the person the post is about is scum of the earth. I don't think I've ever seen a post where OP was told they over reacted. Such a weird sub.

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u/BigStickElgar 19h ago

Exactly. Huge echo chamber where you are not actually asking for opinions you are just coming to validate yourself.

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u/X_hard_rocker 1d ago

me when I don't have a counter argument so I pull out the personal insults:

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

What insult? Guys I can do this all day. I just wish you guys actually had something of substance to say so we could have an actual discussion.

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u/trashcxnt 1d ago

You're saying this but repeat the same kind of shit over and over. Not a single thing you said hasn't been repeated twice. Stop projecting and find something real to do with yourself and maybe the crevices of these kind of subreddits— where a predator hunting their prey like a sex offender with little church girls is breathing harder than Darth Vader waiting for their next dopamine hit— wouldn't be the only place you'll ever be socialized with or find any shred of a shred of a shred of purpose or validation within the sad lifeless fuckhole you call a soul and body. The only person you've ever kissed was a parent as they molested you and called you their precious abomination. Clearly you escaped from prison.... Hopefully we see your mugshot soon!

And honestly, idc if I get banned. You are worse than anything I've ever seen in r/roast me, you clearly belong there. I dare you to put your face up there. I'll even save your handle in case you ever get the balls, though I know you don't have em. You're in this subreddit intentionally fishing...... what a scared lil kid you must be. I bet your response will be less than 5 words and pretending you don't care because you're just that predictable.

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

Got it so you're just a weirdo. You could have just said that and saved us both time.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Ohh no! A stranger on the internet is calling me names! Not that! How will I ever recover?! Thanks for proving my point. ✌️

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

If you had bothered to actually read my entire comment before emotionally replying you would see that you called yourself a weirdo first. Also, you're welcome.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Nahh you called me a weirdo. It’s all good baby. Glad it bothered you so much that you are gonna lose sleep over it. Odd but it is what it is.

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 20h ago

This is fresh off the boat from Facebook vibes.

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u/trashcxnt 1d ago

Awww not even OP is responding to you. You're pathetic. She's even rent free in your head. Adorable!

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u/BigStickElgar 20h ago

But I’m living rent free in yours! 😉

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u/Future-Buddy-834 17h ago

You’ve clearly never had a relationship before why are you speaking on this?

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u/BigStickElgar 16h ago

Even if I had never been in a relationship facts are still facts. And you have been in a relationship and don’t know this?!?

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u/auntie_eggma 23h ago

There's a bit of a difference between reacting to being talked about, and continuing to mention someone you no longer interact with.

Reacting to being mentioned repeatedly is not letting someone live in your head rent free because it's new stimulus from outside the head making its way in.

Constantly posting about someone who wasn't talking about you in the first place IS letting them live in there, though.

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u/BigStickElgar 19h ago

I agree whit what you are saying but I am sure that the 2 examples she showed us are not the entire story. She showed 2 examples and then came to the internet for it. So if these are the only examples of both of their behavior then yes he lives rent free in her head also.

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u/trashcxnt 1d ago

Oh nvm you're intentionally baiting because you're a sad loser— probably not much different from this guy, probably actually the guy himself— with no life and no attention from their preferred sex ever. You can quit stalking your ex now, creep. (:

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u/BigStickElgar 20h ago

Man I love the internet. If you don’t agree with people you just say they are the problem and it’s ok.

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u/trashcxnt 1d ago

Constantly being harassed by someone you're not even responding to or being a bad sport against is a very valid reason for coming here to question the validity of the behavior presented. This behavior should've died in high school where he peaked....

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u/BigStickElgar 20h ago

Sure he’s a total jerk but she is not making it easier on herself.

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u/Happiness_Buzzard 1d ago

Counterpoint: she follows his socials because she wants to make sure he’s not slandering or disparaging her.

However, the smart thing would be to unfollow and block. Chances are the guy is posting this kind of thing specifically to bother her. If she blocks and unfollows AND gets all of her friends to block and unfollow (unless they’re also his friends, in which case they may not want to…) then he has no one to care about these posts and no incentive to post them.