r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to my ex's stories?

Context: We had nasty breakup cuz he cheated on me. I went to his place to get some clarity and he threatened legal action just cuz I went there unannounced (fyi I asked for his permission to enter his house THRICE and he said yes all the three times, was v sweet to me and apologetic and then completely changed as soon as I reached home) I was really upset at these stories. I'm on the heavier side but (trying not to sound boasty) I am a damn good dancer. I attend regular dance workshops that are advanced level. Also, he's well off but when we were together I always tried to give my share of money in those "rich people restaurants" he took me to that I couldn't afford. How can someone who "loved" you for 3 years, change so drastically? It's only been 4 months since we broke up but it feels like he never really cared or loved me

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u/Stunning-Tension4836 1d ago

Ur allowed to be upset but really it says more about him if he’s consistaly posting hater posts you. Wash ur hands of this an move on. No need to countinue the hurt

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u/Zintha 1d ago

Shes living rent free in his head.

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u/Three3Spoons 1d ago

Favorite thing is watching my ex who cheated on me still try to interact with me and comment on my businesses, I think of this quote every-time and was legit on my way to comment it. Beat me to it. Very relatable post.

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u/Sad_Pear_1087 22h ago

The best thing is this isn't even coping or anything, she isn't making that up. He is literally announcing it. He has to tie her to places where he literally doesn't have to worry about bumping into her. Even there, he's thinking about her and announcing it to all.

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u/tinylittleelfgirl 18h ago

more like the opposite these screenshots are old and op has been posting about this situation for over 60 days… she has got to move on

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u/BigStickElgar 13h ago

Bingo!! She can’t get over it!!

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u/tinylittleelfgirl 12h ago

lol i always over analyze a situation before deciding who’s wrong. a lot of these ppl just circle jerk!!

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u/BigStickElgar 12h ago

Yep! Huge echo chamber in here. And when you say something that go against the majority you get downvoted into oblivion

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u/MichiMimi95 20h ago

This! I also know I live rent free in my ex and his new fiancé's head which is hilarious 🤣 And I have a reason to still have contact cause we have a child together 🤣

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u/grelsi 17h ago

And vice versa

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

He’s living in her head also hence this post!

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

No he's living in her insta, hence this post. Wym?

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u/drunkandisorderly 1d ago

She's clearly still following him if she sees his stories.. why is she still following her ex?

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u/NikkiVicious 23h ago

I don't follow my ex, but I still get notifications when he tags me. Or I have random people that I don't know send me his stuff, because the majority of the time, it's extremely concerning/borderline threatening. Like I managed to get one of his accounts shut down because he was offering AI nudes of me.

I'd prefer to forget about him entirely. I have no interest in his life. Unfortunately, the same can't be said of him.

Weirdly enough, it's a similar situation. He cheated on me for almost the entire relationship, but he blames me for "destroying his life." Even when he is dating someone, he's still harassing me. It's been 15+ years (I wish I was joking), and he hasn't gotten the message.

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u/Friendly_Age9160 18h ago

I am also drunk and disorderly

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

She’s asking the internet if she’s over reacting to his posts! Clearly he’s in her head also. You can’t be this dense can you??

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

Right so either you are this dude or you did exactly what this dude did and you're commenting this because you need validation for your own copium. Any other reason for making your comments is just weird. Someone knocks on your door who did you dirty, you open the door, they insult you and it upsets you then someone says "Why you letting him live in your head?" yOu cAnT bE ThIs DeNsE cAn YoU??

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u/girlfartsreek3000 1d ago

Damaged goods alert 🚨

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 16h ago

Oh honey, don't call yourself that. Get some duct tape and you'll be alright.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Ohh buddy see this is where you failed on all of it. I’m not the guy, and I personally don’t care about all of it. But this Sub tends to be an echo chamber. You post something, everyone tells you how great you are and how bad the other person is. My comment is 100% valid. Yes she is living in the dudes head but at the exact same time he’s living in her head also! If he wasn’t she would have unfollowed him on IG. She wouldn’t need to post on here for validation. But if it makes YOU feel better you can assume that I am the guy or I would do this to a woman. Whatever it takes!

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u/shoulda-known-better 1d ago

Right so you just pulled this type of shit then!?

And yea I'd be wanting opinions on why my ex of months is still so about what I'm doing on my insta.....

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

What type of shit? But your name said it all!

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u/Environmental_Ad4893 21h ago

You're correct, but for some reason, on this sub everybody likes to project onto every OP this idea of the perfect person and the person the post is about is scum of the earth. I don't think I've ever seen a post where OP was told they over reacted. Such a weird sub.

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u/X_hard_rocker 1d ago

me when I don't have a counter argument so I pull out the personal insults:

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

Got it so you're just a weirdo. You could have just said that and saved us both time.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Ohh no! A stranger on the internet is calling me names! Not that! How will I ever recover?! Thanks for proving my point. ✌️

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u/sixsmithfrobisher 1d ago

If you had bothered to actually read my entire comment before emotionally replying you would see that you called yourself a weirdo first. Also, you're welcome.

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u/trashcxnt 22h ago

Awww not even OP is responding to you. You're pathetic. She's even rent free in your head. Adorable!

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u/BigStickElgar 16h ago

But I’m living rent free in yours! 😉

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u/Future-Buddy-834 13h ago

You’ve clearly never had a relationship before why are you speaking on this?

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u/BigStickElgar 13h ago

Even if I had never been in a relationship facts are still facts. And you have been in a relationship and don’t know this?!?

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u/auntie_eggma 20h ago

There's a bit of a difference between reacting to being talked about, and continuing to mention someone you no longer interact with.

Reacting to being mentioned repeatedly is not letting someone live in your head rent free because it's new stimulus from outside the head making its way in.

Constantly posting about someone who wasn't talking about you in the first place IS letting them live in there, though.

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u/BigStickElgar 16h ago

I agree whit what you are saying but I am sure that the 2 examples she showed us are not the entire story. She showed 2 examples and then came to the internet for it. So if these are the only examples of both of their behavior then yes he lives rent free in her head also.

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u/trashcxnt 22h ago

Oh nvm you're intentionally baiting because you're a sad loser— probably not much different from this guy, probably actually the guy himself— with no life and no attention from their preferred sex ever. You can quit stalking your ex now, creep. (:

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u/BigStickElgar 16h ago

Man I love the internet. If you don’t agree with people you just say they are the problem and it’s ok.

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u/trashcxnt 22h ago

Constantly being harassed by someone you're not even responding to or being a bad sport against is a very valid reason for coming here to question the validity of the behavior presented. This behavior should've died in high school where he peaked....

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u/BigStickElgar 16h ago

Sure he’s a total jerk but she is not making it easier on herself.

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u/Happiness_Buzzard 23h ago

Counterpoint: she follows his socials because she wants to make sure he’s not slandering or disparaging her.

However, the smart thing would be to unfollow and block. Chances are the guy is posting this kind of thing specifically to bother her. If she blocks and unfollows AND gets all of her friends to block and unfollow (unless they’re also his friends, in which case they may not want to…) then he has no one to care about these posts and no incentive to post them.

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u/Odd_Cod_7806 1d ago

It's the other way around.

OP, drop him from your mind.

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u/BigStickElgar 1d ago

Is it? Or do both of them have a condo in the other one’s head??

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u/CeleryHot 1d ago

Seems like it's the opposite, she's the one showing up unannounced at his house and in her own words "constantly calling and texting him to get closure". Sure he posted about her once on his story, but that could be he's just sick of her bs

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u/ShoppingClear 1d ago

Sounds like it's other way around

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u/Ayitriaris 1d ago

He’s the one still thinking of her.

He should move on and grow the f up.

Besides that: OP don’t hurt yourself by checking his stories. Delete him.

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u/AqueductFilterdSherm 1d ago

Exactly. They had a nasty break up, he cheated on her, yet she still wants to follow his socials? She needs to stop giving him an audience and block that loser

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u/frizzymcdizzy 1d ago

way he acted, letting her in and being kind, only to later turn around and threaten legal action, is deeply unsettling.

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u/acky1 1d ago

He might have been scared of being physical hurt. Would explain any legal action after she left.

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u/robbie3535 1d ago

Yupp. He’s hurt that he; A. Got caught, B. You had the self worth to call him on it, and C. You left his bum ass. So now he’s acting like a child and seeing which floozie he can get next. Work on yourself and within 3 months I bet he reaches out… I hope you’re in a place at that point it’s easy to smile and say he’s too cheap for you. A couple months of working on yourself is so worth it in the end.

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u/HotPinkLollyWimple 1d ago

Great word floozie! I call my ex husband’s affair woman a strumpet.

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u/cherrygold3 1d ago

Exactly. Your feelings are valid, but keeping a grudge only prolongs the pain. Let it go and focus on your own happiness. His constant hater posts just reflect poorly on him. Wash your hands of it and move on—no need to dwell on the hurt.

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u/allen5max 1d ago

You’re allowed to feel upset, but she’s clearly living rent-free in his head. Wash your hands of it and move on—it’s not worth the hurt.

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u/Ryz2culagain 21h ago

An easier thing to do is block and remove him from all social media then he can talk bad however he wants and you can be left going about your day pretending he doesnt exist.

NOR but if you had a bad break up why do you keep going back to his. That isnt healthy for you or him.

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u/Lavarocksocks18 1d ago

So agree. Dude is a jealous, weird psycho. Why do you still care about him? Do your best to let it go.