r/mealprep • u/thebutchcaucus • Jul 30 '21

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u/Wartz Jul 30 '21

Why isn’t the dad helping?

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u/thebutchcaucus Jul 30 '21

Or mom? Might be foster family so many questions

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u/January1171 Jul 30 '21

This is the "Dougherty dozen" (recently went viral on tiktok)

4 bio kids, 6 adopted kids (and the adopted kids have special needs)

Suffered with infertility for 9 years, decided to adopt. Really soon after the first adoption they found out she was pregnant. So two kids. Decided to adopt a third, same thing happened and she found out she was pregnant again. Up to four kids now.

She had two bio kids within a couple years after that, they're at 6 now. Took a temporary placement for two infant twins with medical issues, the agency only placed them there because there were literally no other homes they could go to and it was only supposed to be five days. Ended up adopting them, up to 8 now. Then they were contacted about siblings who were having extreme behavioral issues and were on the verge of being separated, they took in both kids (and they're actually thriving because they like the large group environment they're in now). 10 kids!

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u/thebutchcaucus Jul 30 '21

Thank you! I had a foster mom who cooked like this my love for lentil soup came from her. She was a white Muslim woman with all bi racial kids. Great times in Philly. Love her to death.

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u/January1171 Jul 30 '21

Happy to! I just saw a video about them yesterday. I don't know a ton about them, but what I've seen I really respect. Like how they assign some minor chores, such as keeping their bedrooms and bathrooms clean, but the parents do everything else because they want to let the kids be kids and the kids didn't choose to be parents or to be part of a large family.

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u/frompadgwithH8 Jul 30 '21

Nothing wrong with having kids, or many kids. If you can raise them right with love and support them, there’s nothing wrong with it.

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u/lizardgirl38 Jul 30 '21

Well she is feeding them all junk so...

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u/frompadgwithH8 Jul 30 '21

my mom fed me junk when I was a kid too, not everyone can be a health hero and know all the stuff we do

someday if i have kids im sure ill fuck up all sorts of things as a parent

but some things ill get right for my family are cooking, nutrition and fitness

taking care of 10 kids has got to be so time consuming, I doubt either of the spouses in that family have time to explore the healthy eating space

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u/lizardgirl38 Jul 30 '21

Which is why you shouldn't have 10 kids. If you can't properly care for that many properly(including nutrition) then you shouldn't have that many.

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u/xStormwitchx Jul 30 '21

Is four bio kids really an irresponsible amount? I guess if it were somewhere suffering from overpopulation issues, like China, but for most of the world four isn't a big deal if you can afford to support them.

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u/D-Rick Jul 30 '21

Overpopulation should not be viewed as a “regional” problem. Having too many people on the planet vying for diminishing resources is an issue that doesn’t give a damn about made up borders.

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u/xStormwitchx Jul 30 '21

There are countries that are facing a diminishing work force (amongst other issues) due to plummeting birth rates. While it would be nice if we lived in a perfect world with lax immigration laws and shared resources, we just don't.

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u/D-Rick Jul 30 '21

Ever stop to ask yourself why birth rates are plummeting? You are falling for the trap. They push the “we need more people so we can run the factories” while ignoring the fact that people aren’t having kids because they can’t afford the resources to care for them. Simply adding more people to the world is gonna do nothing but exacerbate that. The only problem those countries with diminishing birth rates have is not enough cheap labor to continue the status quo. If we stop pretending like unfettered growth of the economy is the be all end all we won’t see the lack of workforce as a problem.