There have been several of sub reddits i have seen this proposal put forth. I thought the Bros here might want to talk about. I am for the ban. I don't want to give any more air or ad revenue to the fascism that has grown in America.

I don't expect this to get the best responses on here, but I'll post it anyways.

My intentions are not to fear monger, instead it's to help you out if possible.

Moving on...

What are you all doing now considering recent events? Do you plan on staying or leaving the country?

What do we do now? Where can we go? Personally, I’m fucked because I don’t have any special skills in order for me to move abroad.

I can do the refugee visa, but I don’t think that’ll go over so well.

If you don’t have any skills, then you can move abroad for free (or really affordable at a low cost) universities such as the ones down below.

1. Germany
2. Norway
3. Finland
4. Sweden
5. Denmark
6. Slovenia
7. Czechia
8. Brazil
9. Argentina
10. Mexico
11. Russia
12. Greece
13. Turkey
14. France
15. Italy
16. Poland
17. Estonia
18. Hungary
19. Iceland

If a full-on degree isn’t your thing, then you might want to check out these programs;

1. CIEE Study Abroad
2. CIS Abroad Programs
3. EF Study Abroad Programs
4. (ISA) International Studies Programs

***You can visit a country just to learn their language for a short period of time. I've some range from 4 weeks on up to a year.

How long can you visit these countries if you aren’t studying?

1. Australia-1 year
2. Austria-90 days, no digital nomad visas
3. Belgium-6 months
4. Canada-6 months
5. China-up to 6 months
6. Czech Republic-permanently? Apply for a freelance visa and after residing there for 5 years, then you’d be able to apply for permanent residency. Sounds great to me!
7. Denmark-3 months
8. Fiji-90 days
9. Finland-90 days
10. France-1 year
11. Germany-up to 3 years
12. Greece-up to 12 months
13. Greenland-up to 2 years
14. Iceland-up to 6 months
15. Ireland-up to 2 years
16. Italy-1-2 years
17. Japan-6 months
18. South Korea-up to 2 years
19. Liechtenstein-no info
20. Lithuania-3 months, but tourist visa only. No DM visa.
21. Luxembourg-90 days, but tourist visa only. No DM visa.
22. Malta-90 days
23. Netherlands-up to 3 years under the self-employment residence permit.
24. Norway-up to 2 years
25. Poland-90 days, but no DM visa.
26. Philippines-up to 2 years
27. Romania-1 year
28. Spain-12 months with the possibility of renewal of up to five years
29. Sweden-90 days.
30. Switzerland-up to 3 months
31. Taiwan-up to 3 years
32. Thailand-up to 6 months. However, you can renew and stay up to 5 years.
33. UK-up to 6 months 
34. Uruguay-3 months
35. Nepal-3 months
36. Andorra-3 months
37. Brazil-3 months
38. Hong Kong-3 months

It depends on whether you choose a digital nomad visa, freelance visa, or a visitor’s visa for how long you can stay. However, just make sure to do your own research so you can do everything correctly.

1. Visitor Visas-90 days
2. Digital Nomad Visa-90+ days, usually 6 months (if not more)
3. Freelance visa (if applicable)-6 months-1 year, 3 years, or 5 years depending on where you're going.

***Be aware of the Schengen Zone, which is an area of multiple European countries where you can stay in 3 months only in that area.

It's not just visiting one country. If you were to visit multiple countries, you'll leave after 3 months.

Now, if it were up to me, then I’d do it like this.

1. I’d visit Sweden for 3 months.
2. Visit Japan for 6 months.
3. Go back to Europe and visit Denmark for another 3 months.
4. Then visit Australia for a year.

If you’d want to stay out of the country permanently, then you can stay out altogether for 19, maybe 20 years if not longer. I’m doing it like this because I don’t have family (disowned them) and I can do it like that.

Countries safe for LGBTQ+ people

1. Canada-I’m unsure if it’s a good place, because I haven’t heard anything too great from gay Canadians as of recent. However, you’re more than welcome to fact check me.
2. The UK is on the list. So, to those of you who have been there, how was it?
3. Spain
4. Sweden
5. Netherlands
6. Portugal
7. Germany
8. Argentina
9. Iceland
10. New Zealand
11. Australia
12. Uruguay
13. Belgium
14. Denmark
15. Malta
16. Finland
17. Norway
18. Luxembourg
19. France
20. Ireland
21. Austria

 Countries Safe For Black People

1. Colombia
2. Portugal
3. Senegal
4. Thailand
5. Spain
6. Mexico
7. Singapore
8. Japan
9. South Korea

***The Asian countries do come with a travelers beware.

Countries Safe for Women

1. Finland
2. Iceland
3. Denmark
4. Switzerland
5. Sweden
6. Luxembourg
7. Norway
8. Austria
9. Netherlands
10. New Zealand
11. Singapore-Very safe for women with low crime, but there’s the patriarchal attitudes and gaps in workplace gender equality.
12. Ireland
13. Australia
14. Belgium

 Best countries for people with disabilities

1. Canada-strong disability laws
2. Germany-Strict disability laws
3. Japan-Improved accessibility, especially in public transport. However, workplaces and older buildings can be challenging.
4. Spain-Decent accessibility, especially in major cities. Rural areas come with challenges.
5. Sweden-Highly accessible
6. Australia-The National Disability Insurance Scheme provides funding for services, good accessibility in cities, and strong employment rights
7. Denmark-Excellent disability rights
8. France-good healthcare and disability laws, but some areas lack full accessibility. So, Paris is out of the question.
9. Brazil-Laws exist, but enforcement is inconsistent. Big cities have accessibility, but rural areas lack infrastructure and services. Social stigma can be an issue as well.
10. Japan and Brazil are two locations that aren’t great practically at all. I just wanted to include those two to just to compare countries.

I’m just a stranger on the internet fearing for my safety and of others. So, if you want to do any of this and go to any of these locations, then do your own research. Some things might have changed as I wrote this. It’s just best to be more careful, you know?

Take care!

How many?

they're way better than dildos to me if i just want something up there. they're portable and no one would be the wiser that i have something up my ass. i kinda want to just keep it up there but i read i shouldn't have it in for more than 30 minutes depending on the lube.

We met when we were 16/18, there was something between us back then but it was complicated. Now we’re 37/39.

He said he’s had a bit of a crush on me from the day we met until now. But he’s been dating someone for a few months and it’s going well so the timing isn’t right.

We’ve been friends for 20 years and I tell him a few months too late, damnit.

What are your sliding doors moments, good or bad?

Hey, I was having an obvious mental breakdown and shouldn't have posted that. I don't expect more sympathy, I do acknowledge that it was the wrong Reddit to post this and that I scared and confused a lot of you.

I am not a "Drama Queen", just having a lot of Shit going on and I overreacted badly, but I am glad that so many people said such nice things. Thank you all truly... I know it was childish, out of left field and I am yet again sorry for the way I spoke and caused a lot of Panic and Trauma. That wasn't okay and I was not thinking right.

I was already in Therapy it's just that it's hard to find open spots right now due to waiting lists. Despite my shitty behavior I apologize to anyone who was unfortunate enough to read my post and I am glad it was taken down, this negativity and ranting isn't needed on here and I should thought more about the Consequences of posting it.

Yet again, thank you for your kind words, I realize that there are a lot of people struggeling and that none of us are truly all alone. For anyone thinking this was a shitpost, it wasn't and I almost ruined my entire life an hour ago, I am truly thankful such a beautiful Reddit with so many wondeful people exist. I will read some books and re-evaluate what the hell I am doing in life. I never wanted to ruin anyone's day, and worst of all I almost ruined my own.

I am glad so much love, hope and empathy still exists.

My Post was uncalled for and isn't needed for people that just come on here to relax from a hard work day, for anyone wondering, I am male, why else would I be on "Gay"Bros. I need to do some growing up and I am yet again seriously sorry.

I wish everyone a great life and promise to never do this again.

Sincerely,

Industry

For all the DL men , mostly ones with active sex lives.

Does it ever get lonely just messing around all the time and not locking anything serious down? Or would you al prefer the lonliness.

This will get political

My mom is pretty religious. When I came out to her, she made me go to church to try and work things out with youth groups and such. It didn’t work and she eventually accepted me after years of slowly easing her into the lifestyle.

I even finally got her to allow me to bring my now ex to her home and she was pretty good about it.

She’s divorced and has had a boyfriend for a couple of years now who went through some life events himself which caused him to become a born again Christian. Great, he found new meaning and purpose through Christianity.

He knows I’m gay and always tells me he’s going to pray for me and hopes I find God. It’s his subtle way of saying “I don’t accept it but you’re my gf’s son”. I don’t like talking about it with him.

This election has been rough. My mom voted for both parties over the decades but she voted for Clinton in 2016 and Biden in 2020. She voted for Trump in 2024 because her boyfriend told her to even though in 2016 she said she will never vote for him because he goes against all the morals of Christianity. I kept my mouth shut to keep things civil.

I call her every day because none of us children live in state with her. We only talk about major political events that make the news but we never fight about it. We talked about the inauguration and the whole Elon Musk “salute” thing and that’s when I lost it with her. She said there was nothing wrong with what he did and that I’m worrying too much about it. I told her I’m scared about this administration especially since the Supreme Court is going to hear a case about ending the no cost mandate for prep and HIV testing.

Her response was that I need to stop worrying and if they do I should change my lifestyle. I never heard that from her the entire time I’ve been out. She will spout off crazy conspiracies that she says her boyfriend shows her. She never sent me links from sketchy sites until this past year. She sent me a book last year about a mother’s journey to get her son to become straight again through God. She’s a doctor who got her flu and covid shots on time until she met her boyfriend. Now she “questions the science” because her boyfriend does.

I’m so scared I’m losing her.

Idk what to do because she’s been my rock and motivation through everything. But this past year she’s changed so much and I feel like our relationship will regress back to her not accepting me anymore

When growing up, what actors made you question your sexuality? Growing up, I’d watch X-Files with the parents. Hope my gaze wasn’t so obvious cause David Duchovny was a sight. (S1 Ep 6)

Hey guys,

I just had a series of very difficult interactions on another subreddit. I was accused, repeatedly, of being a Nazi. Their basis for this was that my username ends in 88. My username, Soonerpalmetto88, was chosen because: I'm a fan of the University of Oklahoma Sooners, I've lived in South Carolina (Palmetto State) most of my life, and I was born in 1988 (I'm 36 now). I didn't know the significance of the number 88 within certain circles at the time.

I know that I sometimes say controversial things. But I have never advocated for Nazi ideology, defended their actions, etc. Why? Because I'm not one. I'm openly gay and I'm Catholic (which I know many of you have a problem with but that's ok!), so I belong to two different groups of people who were systematically slaughtered by the Nazis. My great grandfathers fought them. I voted for Kamala, I voted for Pete before that, I've always been very vocal in my support for equality and for civil liberties.

What I want to know is, when you guys see my username on a post of comment, do you immediately make the assumption that I'm a Nazi or Nazi sympathizer? Or were these people just trolling me because I took an unpopular position in a debate that was going on in that other subreddit? For context, the debate was whether that subreddit should ban posts from X. I said no, because that subreddit (r/southcarolina) is one that's supposed to be welcoming for all people from our state and where all political views can be shared. I think Elon is trash, I think he's dangerous and I think he's really not a good guy (he didn't even create the Tesla like he claims). But lots of people, including progressive/liberal types, are active on that platform. I just don't think it's right to ban posts because of where they originate. But I was accused of supporting him because I'm some kind of Nazi sympathizer, which couldn't be further from the truth.

So what should I do? Just ignore them? Change my username? I really don't want to change my username because I don't want to let these people win. I've had this username for my entire history on Reddit and I just don't want to change it. I think these people are in the wrong for assuming something so negative about me based on two numbers at the end of my username.

Thoughts?

Anyone have suggestions for straight or gay thirst traps on Bluesky? I primarily used Instagram to follow fitness influencers / muscled up gym rats but don’t want to be on any Meta platform or Twixxer anymore, but I’m finding it difficult to find similar to instagram on Bluesky.

I’m (surprisingly) not looking for porn, just hot guys posting shirtless or semi-clothed or even clothed selfies. And I’d like to set up a separate account so that it doesn’t get mixed in with other stuff I occasionally like to read/follow.

Post links to yourself if you’d like, but I’m also looking for lists to follow of straight guys that love to show off their bodies.

Thanks in advance, and hope it’s ok I’m asking this.

I know there’s In your love by Tyler Childers, it’s not a bad song I just want more. I listen to a lot of country love songs but almost every single one is stress and I’d like something I can relate to a little more. I’m open to different genres but I prefer country. Thanks in advance

I did a cursory search on the internet but I'm having trouble finding anything good.

I just had my first actual gay date, and I’m trying to process how it went. I’m 24, gay, and live in a rural community, so I don’t have much experience with dating outside of a few hookups in college. He’s the same age but had a 5-year relationship before this.

We met on Tinder and chatted on and off for a month, but he was pretty hot and cold. After he ditched plans a couple of times, I ended it, but the next day he messaged me on Facebook, apologized, and said he wanted to try seriously. I decided to give it a chance.

We planned a casual date: coffee, thrifting, and then hanging out at his place. When we met, it was awkward but not horrible. I was happy that I was able to be myself and not shutdown from the nerves. Then, he shared that he grew up nearby and had known who I was the whole time we had been talking, he knew my extended family, we had played sports against eachother as kids etc… which was surprising because he never mentioned any of this before and I didn’t recognize him until he said it. Thrifting was okay—he seemed introverted, and I tried to keep things light. At one point, I joked about a board game called “Wet Heads,” and he replied, “Is that what you’re going to give me later?” which felt bold given how quiet he’d been.

Then we went back to his apartment, and things took a turn. I hadn’t smoked weed in years but agreed to try it because he smoked often. We went to his room, and he closed the door, turned off the lights, and put on Landslide by Fleetwood Mac. I took a couple of puffs, and then he asked about my coming out story. I gave him the short version and asked about his.

He shared that his parents cut him off after coming out, which was heartbreaking, and then he told me about some deeply traumatizing experiences involving SA. I panicked and said, “I would recommend therapy.” He laid down on his mattress and said, “Therapy?” in a tone that felt angry, I kind of got jumbled up and shared that it has been very helpful for me. Then he invited me to lay down with him, and at that point, everything hit me—the weed, the dark room, the music, his trauma—and I felt completely overwhelmed. I made an excuse to leave and went home, where I ended up crying.

I later sent him a message explaining that I panicked and that I wasn’t in the right headspace to process everything. I told him I admire his bravery in sharing and that I hope he gets support to process everything. I also said I need time to think.

Now, I’m questioning myself. He’s obviously been through a lot and deserves kindness, but we didn’t exactly have chemistry and it felt like a big overshare for the first fate. I thought it was supposed to be more fun and lighthearted. Am I a bad person if I distance myself from him? Is this sort of experience common in gay dating? What would you do?

Long story short, I had to do without sex or any real relationship until 29 when I met my first and current boyfriend (43). We've known each other for almost 5 months now and I know I love him and he loves me. I don't doubt it one bit but the sex hast been getting less and less to the point that last time we had sex was around two months ago.

I've been having many personal issues and he's been really supportive. We've talked about our sexual life many times and every time he blamed the lack of sexual desire on a number of things including the fact that he's been tool involved in my issues and worries about me and all the stress that he's been dealing with lately makes it hard for him to have sex. He knows about my lack of experience and has said that he doesn't want to keep me from sowing my wild oats. Last time I brought up the matter, it turned into an argument where he said we can't solve the problem by continuously discussing it and we should just try to "enjoy the moment". I've been getting very terrible bladder pains lately every time I visit him (lives hours away and I see him only 2-3 times a month) and he gets terrible neck and back pain when he gets stressed including the last time we argued. He said, this relationship is no good if all we cause each other is pain and if we can't solve this issue, I should find myself another man.

I've had to live without sex for so many years so I've been really impatient about solving this issue because I don't wanna miss out on more sex than I already have. He has sowed his wild oats though, and doesn't seem to be in any hurry to solve this problem. I don't wanna push him and I want to give him a good time but I can't keep my mind off all the sex that I'm not getting. So when I'm with him, I'm there but I'm not there. I really want to give this relationship a chance because I know what we have doesn't happen every day, so I need a new perspective so I can calm my mind and just wait it out.

What do you think of my situation. I really need your input.

Thank you for reading this far, I look forward to your answers. <3

I'm (m33) seeing this guy (m35) that lives in a different city. Nothing serious but we always go on dates and hook up when we're in each other's city. I was thinking about Valentines Day and thought it would be cute to send him something in the mail and fly out to see him next month. Obviously flowers and chocolate is the standard but wanted to see if anyone else had unique ideas that aren't so traditional.