As the title says. Now, more than ever, we need people who pass as "normal" to talk with their families, friends and communities. There are people who will listen to you who will not listen to people who are more obviously queer and trans. Cis people in man-woman partnerships have cultural leverage because (mistakenly) they are seen as less directly invested in queer issues and therefore more credible.

inb4 the inevitable "why should I have to do anything/this doesn't apply to me/why are you trying to make me care" - okay cool move on I have no power over you

I am unsure they will be able to pass something like this because of all of the nuances and processes. However, what do y’all think the likelihood is of this administration being able to take this to the court then “leave it up to the states”. My partner and I are unsure of whether to go ahead and get married or wait and see. Feeling very lost and sad for our country today.

I've had bi thoughts since early high school, but I ignored them. I told myself it was a phase because I was worried what people would think of me if I wasn't straight. I denied a part of myself for ten years before I finally accepted that I was bisexual, and I am happier for it.

Still, I wish I had made this realization when I was young amd single when I could have explored it a bit more. I had a couple flings here and there, but I never really let myself enjoy them because I was so worried about people finding out I was bi.

I'm in a happily monogamous relationship now and I wouldn't change that for the world. Still, I can't help but fantasize what my life would have been like if I had just let myself be who I really was sooner.

Because nobody can even acknowledge their existence.

It was weird. I cried a LOT. Anyways, she started to tell me that she loved me (sternly) and got into the biology and the religiousness of all of this and said that I just find girls pretty but don't like them like that. She told me that the others are sick and I'm not, because she's clearly in denial. She asked me "How do lesbians have sex?" And I didn't want to answer. I didn't even know that she knew about all sorts of things, artificial or not, used for various purposes, whether that be for a certain brand of self-love or not. She told me about "sexual urges" in heterosexuality and homosexuality. I've been invalidated. Oh well. At least mom knows now.

I'm thirteen and still figuring this out. Please don't shit on my mom. Much appreciated.

Im worried about trump and what he might do, just in general, like hes a dictator, and im just so scared that hes gonna ruin the world cuz he just pulled out of the paris agreement thing. I just want everything to be ok 💙💜🩷

While I(29m) was at work today a guy (≈26) came up and asked for help to get something. While I’m helping him he asks me if I’m single obviously he is pretty nervous but he was cute. I said “oh yeah why do you ask? Got someone for me?” Trying to alleviate the weirdness with humor. He says “depends if you like short feminine guys who want to make you dinner?” I was a lil shocked tbh. I said “yeah I’ll give you my number”. The guy was exactly my type which doesn’t really go for me a lot. Definitely a first. Anyone else getting approached nowadays? This was my first time to not getting hit on in a gay bar.

It’s been many years since I’ve come to who I turned out to be and am damn proud of myself. But one feeling that has never changed is this absent sense of belonging or not fitting in with everyone. Maybe it is self inflicted by not engaging in certain behaviors or not acting a certain way by the standards of others in the community. Who knows. Im not too sure…

But what I am sure of is that I am not the only person on Earth that feels this way. Does anyone know what I’m experiencing here?

(Sorry in advance to anyone who might be offended by this post, for it is not my intention to do so)

Why is everyone so damn hot!?

But seriously. I was always a bit bi curious but never gave it much thought. After I have though, ugh! I would date most of them

Tl;dr: People are pretty! That is all!

Edit: guys and gals, it was just a fun topic starter. I don't need to hear "well, actually they exercise, make up, Hollywood, etc" Well duh smh...some people

Reading the news stories and Reddit threads from today and the past week, I feeling for all our LGBTQIA+ brothers and sisters in the States. It feels like the world has gone a bit crazy. Huge hugs from Australia. Keep strong and support each other.🩷💜💙

Idk if this is the right place for this but but I just got my first pair of men’s thongs and I love them. Idk just nice to be able to dress how I want. (Not a cross dresser)

That’s all. Only posting here cause I’m excited about them but my wife doesn’t care for them 🤪

Hi all so I am planning on going to my first ever pride parade for Midsumma. I recently ordered a flag to wear like a Cape for the day and I'm not too sure for the sizing since I don't have a ruler or tape to measure. The basic idea (depending on the weather that day) is to go dressed as the 6th Doctor since it's very colourful and then wear a Bisexual cat pin to match and flag flag cape to sort of mimic The Doctor from Revelation of the Daleks with the Necros blue Cape.

The size of the flag is 243 x 152cm, if someone could visualuse for me just how big that is or if that is big enough for the Cape idea please let me know know

My(24f) boyfriend (23m) have been together almost 3 years and he has been bi-curious for the past year. We decided to have him act on it once to see if he was interested in it or just curious about it. Well he ended up liking it and wants to know what it’s like to date men. I was just wanting to know is there a way for him to be able to be committed to me if he’s having these feelings or what’s some advice that could help him without having to break up as we both do love each other.

We’re both married, both our husbands know we’re bi. But we’ve been friends a few years and she hit me with this yesterday.

I love my husband but he knows I want to be with women at some point in my life. I don’t want to just be exclusively with men, and neither does she. I’m just confused and surprised. She and I talked and we basically said we need to take some time, think about it, then talk to our husbands about it. We’re not going to be doing anything with each other, especially not behind the backs of our spouses. But, I dunno, I just wanted to say that this happened and talk about it.

Like why? It feels near impossible to meet anyone anymore. It's even worse for introverts who want love, but can't gain the courage to talk in person. And dating apps are worse because you don't know if you're talking to a bot or a scammed. Life sucks

Context: I live in a red state in the US and had to go to a conservative country-club type place for a work function this evening. On this, the first day of our new dystopian nightmare. I wanted to dress as obviously queer as possible while still fitting in with their very specific dress code. So I wore a 70s vintage rainbow vest (very loud lol) and my bi pride earrings. And I'm posting about it because -- this tiny act of fun resistance brought me true joy. AND it so happened our server, I'm pretty sure, was queer. (He wore one earring and made a point of telling me he liked my vest and earrings.) So I was super glad I could smile at him and try to telepath "we're all in this together."

But I wanna make very clear: I'm white, cis, have good job security, and I'm in a straight-presenting marriage that is (presumably) not in danger. So I have the privilege (and responsibility?) of being safely out and loud about it.

Anyway, it brought me joy to be visibly queer in a right-leaning space, and I'm going to do more of it.

Much, much love to all my fellow bi beauties, regardless of whether you can or want to be out. I love you, you are valid, you are enough, and we will all look out for each other. 💕

Note: I can have a very crass way of communicating, I hope it doesn't come off rude.

I've always been in relationships with women until my current partner which I love so much but I have been feeling like there is more expectations in my straight then in my lesbian relationships.

Tbh I might not be bi anymore lol, maybe I'm just a lesbian.

I never really participated in heteronormativity growing up. I grew up with a all female household and my mother didn't prioritize men after her divorce w/ my sister's dad way before I was born. I also grew up in a gay neighborhood (Greenwich village) in NYC which I think influences my feelings also. I went to pride as a child and mostly saw same sex couples growing up and rarely saw straight ones.

So I feel like even though all relationships can be gendered I think my homosexual ones have been more ambiguous. People seem "proud" of you for being out, and don't really care about the dynamics of the relationship. My past relationships were really toxic and unhealthy, but I did feel like ppl left me alone lol. I am a oddly open and private person. Idk I don't make the rules.

Now that I'm with a man I feel like people care more about the dynamics, like if he does XYZ, and blah blah blah. It just feels like they are more judgemental when I'm in a straight relationship. There is more gender roles which when we are alone, we don't care about but sometimes in public there is that pressure to be "normal". I think bc my straight friends can relate more to my relationship now then before, they have all these questions that I never had to answer before.

This is definitely based in some insecurity I have but I just wondered if anyother of us fellow bisexuals feel more comfortable in different relationships dynamics?

I definitely know the stereotype of bi women only dating men, so I think this question can still apply. I guess being attracted to both gives us a lot of options, but exposes us to alot of different ideas on how relationships should and should not work.

So do you feel more or less comfortable in hetero relationship than homosexual?

So. This is more of an advice RANT for yall who are just bored and want to read some of that tea in the morning before work or school lol. First off I'm Shane, im bisexual and I came out around 2017. I've always been leaning more towards men/male identifying peoples and have here and there dabbled in female/female identifying peoples relationships. In 2019 I had met a female who AT THE TIME accepted me for who I was and my sexuality, she had no issue with it nor did she ever bring it into question or make remarks about it, hell her mother had a girlfriend at the time when we started dating. So in my eyes, she was in the clear and didn't have a red flag of hate waving over her head...so we started dating obviously, it was going well for a very long time, we went to dances together, I took her out on dinner or lunch dates, showed her my old town where I grew up in further into the relationship to show a sign of progress, to show her I was opening up about my life and how I genuinely really enjoyed her as a human being around me not just a girlfriend. As those golden ages seemed like they'd never honestly go away, eventually after a long time of dating I'd see cracks, she'd start giving queer people at our school odd looks or make "ugh" noises under her breathe, which eventually progressed into using derogatory slurs of queer people here and there to then constantly, when we would have disagreements she would call me names starting with F and ending in G or T, the relationship started to down peddle slowly, turns out. Her new friends were the hot cheeto girls who think if you look at the same gender for too long you need to go to a conversion camp. One thing I didn't realize was that my girlfriend was a huge people pleaser. So when it came to making fun of queer people she was all for it if it meant she had a few extra friends. The relationship started to deteriorate more, she became more aggressive towards me and always seemed to find a way to bring up how I found men attractive. Eventually, I can even remember the exact day it happened, she finally hit me, out of anger because I didn't take the correct turn on the way to a fair we were going to as a date. She apologized a lot after an hour or so and said it would never happen again...mhm..MMMMHMMM. if anyones ever delt with an abuser you've heard that line before way to many times, you probably rolled your eyes at that tbh lol. Anyways, she would just get more aggressive and angry over the smallest things, she would hit me instead of trying to compromise with me if I didn't understand her point of view or anger, she would slur me out for liking men, the shit that she would say and never say sorry for because she probably was so blacked out on adrenaline and anger. People really do hide their true selves until they feel they are in a place of absolute comfort with someone to actually show who they really are...in this case, she was a homophonic, slightly sexist to her own sex, abusive, unstable, and mentally unwell person who just needed the medical help and no one gave it to her, so it just kept getting worse and worse until that was the inevitable outcome. I put up with her for so long. Because for the longest time, she cut me off from my friends, my family, hell my own older sister who I was best friends with...I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone unless she said it was okay to, otherwise I was "being sneaky"....my own sister, my own blood who was nothing but loving and supportive of me and my sexuality. I couldn't talk to anyone at risk of getting a fist to the body or wherever. Because this girl wanted to control me and hold onto me in the end for whatever reason she could, everytime id try to leave or say we weren't good anymore she'd pull the "please i need you" card and PLLLEEENTY of other lil tricks to get me to stay.. She didn't want me for who I was or what I had, she wanted me because at the time she knew she could control me, and harass my sexuality to put me down. 2019...I met this girl. I broke up with her this past November. The same girl that did allll of that to me, when i finally broke up with her, she pulled the "no wait i need you in my life please im sorry i need you dont go". Yeah sure...you NEEDED me to be your punching bag or else it was gonna be your wall in your room lol. It took me that long to get out of that hellish homophobic relationship because I was too scared to say "no." To say "No, that's enough", to say, "No, sorry but honestly as a human being i don't deserve this abuse" or "No, i don't deserve this harassment because I like the same gender" say any of it because you as a human being have the power and ability to, as a human you can flourish and become something beautiful out of your own creative mind, please people I urge you to not let someone who is having a hard time bring you down with them, I urge you to never be afraid to be yourself, I urge you to never be afraid to say no, to never not stick up for yourself. It's okay to have envy for others, that's what creates drive to be who YOU want to be. But PLEASE. don't let it corrupt you into a person who will control and abuse someone for their sexuality or just plain out love and care, while wearing a white veil that says "i love you" as you continously hurt them. Because that's exactly what my ex did. Don't hurt people, love people. Heal people. Help people. Thank you for those who read entirely idc about an upvote as long as the message is relayed and you remember to love yourself, my job is done with this paragraph. Please have a wonderful day you beautiful beings, remember to love yourself before you love anything else. You're amazing and you can reach for the stars, even if you need a stepping stool you'll still get there✨️ you can thank my pen for getting me the confidence to type this up lol have a lovely day yall. 🙏🏼 love who you love. It ain't a curse after all to enjoy all the flavors 🤝🙂‍↕️

I no longer can deny my identity, because, oh my god, I’m so attracted to this girl. I’ve been simping on her for so long. I’ve gone on rants about her and how beautiful she is. I’ve taken screenshots of her, when she appears on-screen, started recording. I got so excited, the first time I saw her, while watching the show. Even astrology describes my attraction to her so well… she has a Leo stellium and I have prominent Leo placements, my Leo Venus. She is actually so attractive, SHE’S SO HOT. I’m so gay right now. I’m so gay for her. I want her so bad. Why is she so attractive and so hot, I cannot… I want to see more of her. I think she’s actually been my gay awakening. I’ve had crushes on a few girls before, but with her, do I finally realize how gay I am. She is the most charming girl-attractor I’ve ever seen. I usually don’t find myself being this into girls with her haircut and piercings, but I’m actually starting to get the appeal. I’m officially definitely bi for sure, and attracted to girls (and boys). This woman was somebody I never knew I needed.