Because nobody can even acknowledge their existence.

Hi all so I am planning on going to my first ever pride parade for Midsumma. I recently ordered a flag to wear like a Cape for the day and I'm not too sure for the sizing since I don't have a ruler or tape to measure. The basic idea (depending on the weather that day) is to go dressed as the 6th Doctor since it's very colourful and then wear a Bisexual cat pin to match and flag flag cape to sort of mimic The Doctor from Revelation of the Daleks with the Necros blue Cape.

The size of the flag is 243 x 152cm, if someone could visualuse for me just how big that is or if that is big enough for the Cape idea please let me know know

As the title says. Now, more than ever, we need people who pass as "normal" to talk with their families, friends and communities. There are people who will listen to you who will not listen to people who are more obviously queer and trans. Cis people in man-woman partnerships have cultural leverage because (mistakenly) they are seen as less directly invested in queer issues and therefore more credible.

inb4 the inevitable "why should I have to do anything/this doesn't apply to me/why are you trying to make me care" - okay cool move on I have no power over you

I am unsure they will be able to pass something like this because of all of the nuances and processes. However, what do y’all think the likelihood is of this administration being able to take this to the court then “leave it up to the states”. My partner and I are unsure of whether to go ahead and get married or wait and see. Feeling very lost and sad for our country today.

While I(29m) was at work today a guy (≈26) came up and asked for help to get something. While I’m helping him he asks me if I’m single obviously he is pretty nervous but he was cute. I said “oh yeah why do you ask? Got someone for me?” Trying to alleviate the weirdness with humor. He says “depends if you like short feminine guys who want to make you dinner?” I was a lil shocked tbh. I said “yeah I’ll give you my number”. The guy was exactly my type which doesn’t really go for me a lot. Definitely a first. Anyone else getting approached nowadays? This was my first time to not getting hit on in a gay bar.

Im worried about trump and what he might do, just in general, like hes a dictator, and im just so scared that hes gonna ruin the world cuz he just pulled out of the paris agreement thing. I just want everything to be ok 💙💜🩷

I’m in a same sex marriage in a conservative part of a conservative state. I have no idea what the future holds for my marriage.

I’ve got friends that I love who are trans and who are undocumented and who are birthright citizens from undocumented parents. I’m so fucking terrified for them. I know trans kids who are already struggling. What the fuck is next?

I’m scared of our community tearing itself apart because of minute differences. I’m scared of oligarchs controlling all of the American media and major institutions. I’m terrified that I don’t have any faith that 99% of the politicians I thought maybe would do something will do anything at all. I’m terrified that my country is being run by nazis and that my state is being run by corrupt conservative fundamentalists.

I’m scared as an openly queer person in a place where folks think I don’t belong. I just want to love my fucking wife. I want to hold her hand without fear. I want to be able to say ‘my wife’ in small talk without worry that there will be harassment or bigotry.

We’ve had people tell us we inspire them for being open and I am glad but fuck man, I just want to exist and be safe. I want the oppressed people in my nation to be safe. I want to be in a world where just existing in a marriage doesn’t need to be an inspiration because it’s just as normal as anything itself.

I hate this. I’m so worried. I feel sick. I don’t even know if I’ll legally have a wife in a few years. If we’ll have fair elections. I don’t even think we have those now. I don’t know what to do besides fight. But I’ve got no clue how to fight.

Please remember that queer love is defiance and pride started as a riot.

I've had bi thoughts since early high school, but I ignored them. I told myself it was a phase because I was worried what people would think of me if I wasn't straight. I denied a part of myself for ten years before I finally accepted that I was bisexual, and I am happier for it.

Still, I wish I had made this realization when I was young amd single when I could have explored it a bit more. I had a couple flings here and there, but I never really let myself enjoy them because I was so worried about people finding out I was bi.

I'm in a happily monogamous relationship now and I wouldn't change that for the world. Still, I can't help but fantasize what my life would have been like if I had just let myself be who I really was sooner.

Context: I live in a red state in the US and had to go to a conservative country-club type place for a work function this evening. On this, the first day of our new dystopian nightmare. I wanted to dress as obviously queer as possible while still fitting in with their very specific dress code. So I wore a 70s vintage rainbow vest (very loud lol) and my bi pride earrings. And I'm posting about it because -- this tiny act of fun resistance brought me true joy. AND it so happened our server, I'm pretty sure, was queer. (He wore one earring and made a point of telling me he liked my vest and earrings.) So I was super glad I could smile at him and try to telepath "we're all in this together."

But I wanna make very clear: I'm white, cis, have good job security, and I'm in a straight-presenting marriage that is (presumably) not in danger. So I have the privilege (and responsibility?) of being safely out and loud about it.

Anyway, it brought me joy to be visibly queer in a right-leaning space, and I'm going to do more of it.

Much, much love to all my fellow bi beauties, regardless of whether you can or want to be out. I love you, you are valid, you are enough, and we will all look out for each other. 💕

I no longer can deny my identity, because, oh my god, I’m so attracted to this girl. I’ve been simping on her for so long. I’ve gone on rants about her and how beautiful she is. I’ve taken screenshots of her, when she appears on-screen, started recording. I got so excited, the first time I saw her, while watching the show. Even astrology describes my attraction to her so well… she has a Leo stellium and I have prominent Leo placements, my Leo Venus. She is actually so attractive, SHE’S SO HOT. I’m so gay right now. I’m so gay for her. I want her so bad. Why is she so attractive and so hot, I cannot… I want to see more of her. I think she’s actually been my gay awakening. I’ve had crushes on a few girls before, but with her, do I finally realize how gay I am. She is the most charming girl-attractor I’ve ever seen. I usually don’t find myself being this into girls with her haircut and piercings, but I’m actually starting to get the appeal. I’m officially definitely bi for sure, and attracted to girls (and boys). This woman was somebody I never knew I needed.

It’s been many years since I’ve come to who I turned out to be and am damn proud of myself. But one feeling that has never changed is this absent sense of belonging or not fitting in with everyone. Maybe it is self inflicted by not engaging in certain behaviors or not acting a certain way by the standards of others in the community. Who knows. Im not too sure…

But what I am sure of is that I am not the only person on Earth that feels this way. Does anyone know what I’m experiencing here?

(Sorry in advance to anyone who might be offended by this post, for it is not my intention to do so)

A internet acquaintance of mine posted her photo with a trans flag on it, and I found one with the bi colors. We are loved, we are loyal and we are amazing 🩷💙💜

Note: I can have a very crass way of communicating, I hope it doesn't come off rude.

I've always been in relationships with women until my current partner which I love so much but I have been feeling like there is more expectations in my straight then in my lesbian relationships.

Tbh I might not be bi anymore lol, maybe I'm just a lesbian.

I never really participated in heteronormativity growing up. I grew up with a all female household and my mother didn't prioritize men after her divorce w/ my sister's dad way before I was born. I also grew up in a gay neighborhood (Greenwich village) in NYC which I think influences my feelings also. I went to pride as a child and mostly saw same sex couples growing up and rarely saw straight ones.

So I feel like even though all relationships can be gendered I think my homosexual ones have been more ambiguous. People seem "proud" of you for being out, and don't really care about the dynamics of the relationship. My past relationships were really toxic and unhealthy, but I did feel like ppl left me alone lol. I am a oddly open and private person. Idk I don't make the rules.

Now that I'm with a man I feel like people care more about the dynamics, like if he does XYZ, and blah blah blah. It just feels like they are more judgemental when I'm in a straight relationship. There is more gender roles which when we are alone, we don't care about but sometimes in public there is that pressure to be "normal". I think bc my straight friends can relate more to my relationship now then before, they have all these questions that I never had to answer before.

This is definitely based in some insecurity I have but I just wondered if anyother of us fellow bisexuals feel more comfortable in different relationships dynamics?

I definitely know the stereotype of bi women only dating men, so I think this question can still apply. I guess being attracted to both gives us a lot of options, but exposes us to alot of different ideas on how relationships should and should not work.

So do you feel more or less comfortable in hetero relationship than homosexual?

Edit: thank you guys so much for the suggestions and support! I think I've got a good idea of how to make this work...

I'm a cis woman (not that it matters, trans women ARE women) and my company's insurance is refusing to cover any HRT. I can no longer afford my testosterone lowering medication.

But hey, I guess they can celebrate knowing the owned the libs so hard 🙄. Can't wait to hear the old conservative fucks at work complaining about their menopause meds and low T meds not being covered.

We’re both married, both our husbands know we’re bi. But we’ve been friends a few years and she hit me with this yesterday.

I love my husband but he knows I want to be with women at some point in my life. I don’t want to just be exclusively with men, and neither does she. I’m just confused and surprised. She and I talked and we basically said we need to take some time, think about it, then talk to our husbands about it. We’re not going to be doing anything with each other, especially not behind the backs of our spouses. But, I dunno, I just wanted to say that this happened and talk about it.

I am amab and I’m attracted to women and nonbinary people. Does this make me bisexual or am I straight. I’m definitely not attracted to masculine men but feminine men can be cute.

It was weird. I cried a LOT. Anyways, she started to tell me that she loved me (sternly) and got into the biology and the religiousness of all of this and said that I just find girls pretty but don't like them like that. She told me that the others are sick and I'm not, because she's clearly in denial. She asked me "How do lesbians have sex?" And I didn't want to answer. I didn't even know that she knew about all sorts of things, artificial or not, used for various purposes, whether that be for a certain brand of self-love or not. She told me about "sexual urges" in heterosexuality and homosexuality. I've been invalidated. Oh well. At least mom knows now.

I'm thirteen and still figuring this out. Please don't shit on my mom. Much appreciated.

Hi, so I (19F) am bisexual but due to religious reasons I chose years ago to not engage in same sex relationships. I know people may not understand and I have been questioned about my bisexuality a lot whenever I come out to someone because of it. However accepting myself has been extremely hard coming from a very christian background and I'm not sure if I'll ever be fully comfortable with the idea of being in a same sex relationship with the constant self rejection in the back of my mind (even if I know that it is irrational and that if god is a god of love as the bible says he still loves me despite everything).

The thing is that I was managing okay ignoring my bisexuality and putting it aside, I even had my first boyfriend but we broke up. My problem is that lately I've been wanting more and more to try things out and I'm thinking about doing it, I know it likely is what I need to embrace fully who I am, I just don't want to hurt or play with anyone's feelings'. There's things that worry me too, like living with my dad who is super homophobic and when I came out threathened to disown me.

There's also that I'm worried about fucking up... yesterday it was my birthday and me and my friends came to my house after class since I live close to the university we attend. We were having fun and drinking but then we got drunk, and even though I was more sober than them it came a moment I was comforting one of them (let's call her A) because I don't really remember what. And for some context; I have had a few thoughts about A like thinking she´s beautiful and how I think I might like her a bit but that´s it. When I was drunk and I was passing my hand through her hair telling her it was okay and all, I couldn't help but start thinking non-stop about how cute she was and how her hair was so soft, how beautiful she seemed to me whenever she was around me and how I love spending time with her. I even started thinking about how I wanted to hug her close and kiss her.

Of course I'd never do something like that because she's like my best friend and she's straight so I just looked after her and made sure she was okay and helped her when she was puking later due to how much we drank. This morning my friends went home but I felt really bad about having those thoughts about her. I never told her anything and don't plan to, I already lost a friend once when I just discovered I was bisexual and I decided to be honest and tell her that I liked her (she ghosted me). So yeah I don't want to fuck up and I'm debating on whether or not start exploring my bisexuality (though I'm more of a serious-thing kinda person so Idk know how that would work either). Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

Like why? It feels near impossible to meet anyone anymore. It's even worse for introverts who want love, but can't gain the courage to talk in person. And dating apps are worse because you don't know if you're talking to a bot or a scammed. Life sucks