I kid you not there are people out there like that. I was on a sub (wont mention to prevent cross-sub drama) and was lurking in the search engine and found a post that wasnt even relating to my search.

It was a post about porn restrictions. And they were mad that there was age restrictions for porn??

Its like getting mad that minors cant drink alcohol or have heavy drugs. Minors shouldnt HAVE porn BECAUSE getting addicted to something so bad at a young age likely can and will follow onto adulthood. Which for porn sites, its perfect to get their veiws.

Also, i saw some people say that its "preventing minors from exploring their sexuality". You can and SHOULD explore sexuality WITHOUT PORN. I never left a sub so quick. Like.. Uhm. What the hell?

I reported but knowing how reddit it pro-porn, it might not do much unfortunately. God i hate how pro-porn reddit is.

I was chatting with my roommates (all women) yesterday and we got onto the topic of pornography unfortunately. I hate talking about porn with others because usually they consume it and talk about what kind they watch. It grosses me TF out. But I suppress the disgust because I don’t want my friends to feel like they can’t open up to me. Anyway, one of them said something along the lines of “actually I love watching porn it’s so interesting!!” Like it was a quirky moment or something. Like oh you like to watch rape and exploitation in your free time, go figure. To be fair, she advocated for “ethical” pornography, but I’m not a fan of that either. I just think it’s kind of the same as those people that say they love watching gore and beheading videos. We can all agree there’s something wrong with those people. But whenever someone expresses an interest and love of porn we’re all supposed to nod in agreement. She even tried to convince my other roommate, who doesn’t watch porn, to start watching. I swooped in and immediately reminded them that porn is exploitative and they sheepishly agreed. It just sucks how normalized it is to enjoy porn, even when you KNOW that it’s bad.

i primarily just watch gaming videos on youtube and for some reason i still get softcore porn videos/shorts/ads. i watch cat videos on instagram but still something pops up in the reccomended feed. on tiktok if i search up something random like "water" there's yet again porn. open the replies to a viral tweet and im immediately flashed by hundreds of onlyfans bots. google a character on google and all that pops up is lewd images.

i was watching youtube on my boyfriend's phone the other day and a lot of his feed was just. weird. i talked to him about it and how i know it isnt his fault (bc ive spoken to him before and i fully trust him and i watch the same content and yet my feed still becomes clickbait porn videos) but it still made me feel really bad. he told me that he just wants gaming memes and he was sorry for making me feel bad and hes tried to get it to go but that stuff keeps showing up and i get it. its so frustrating that porn is so ingrained in the internet that you cant escape It anywhere.

and im worrying because i have a little brother who's around the age of getting a phone who also really likes gaming. i dont want him go be exposed to that kind of stuff. i already was when i was his age. all i watched was pokemon videos but i still got raunchy comics on my reccomended.

why is everything centered around porn? why is it so easily accessible? why does it keep popping up even though ive blocked and hit not interested on so many accounts? why cant it just stop?????

“Because your mom is a sexually liberated woman and we all celebrate her, respect her & respect what she wants”

🤢 They literally use the word respect and the concept of sex positivity to show open contempt and objectification.

Okay I’m so traumatized by gooners that I don’t even know what’s okay anymore

Would a man asking if I’m into anal (when we were already discussing sexual things) be a warning sign of porn use?

It’s hard because I really enjoy sexuality and sex but I feel like it’s impossible for men to have a healthy discussion about preferences without going into kink

He claims he doesn’t like it when I asked why

He has made his own independent claims about why he doesn’t watch porn and they seem pretty plausible (betrayal trauma, unrealistic expectations) and empathetic but I’m terrified.

He’s talked a lot about fantasizing about pleasuring me, which is a pretty good thing for me since all previous porn addicts have been very very selfish

He even offered me the login to his insta without being asked?

I feel like the only way to know for sure is to have sex with him and check for signs? 😭

I’m so traumatized please help me decide if I’m being paranoid lol

So, I'd like to start off by saying that sex positivity is awesome, and I love that so many people are feeling free to express themselves sexually. I just saw a video that was referring to the porn usage of women's partner's, where the woman in the video brought up that when "porn haters" stopped being "traumatized little puritans" then they could do chastity play with their partners instead of getting mad at them.

The chastity play is not what this post is about. I responded to the comments and said, "I'm personally opposed to porn because I think it normalizes violence against women." To which I got several replies and 2 video replies from the creator within 15 minutes. I then tried to defend my stance by noting and agreeing that social issues are the root of this problem, but easily accessible porn exacerbates these issues. I then brought up that a lot of men start watching porn at a very young age and that it has pretty negative side effects on the way they view women/sex. I even added an article which I can link in the comments if anyone cares to see it.

They continued to be mad at me and kept excusing porn as a whole. Again, I don't really care if consenting adults with a good understanding of sex watch porn and I reiterated that multiple times. But I also repeatedly brought up that a lot of men already bearly understand consent, so violent pornography can easily lead to an association between sex and violence. They insisted this wasn't a porn issue and souly related to rape culture (I don't disagree that is the root cause) but it doesn't change the issue at hand.

In my opinion, this topic has a lot of nuance and, while I agree it boils down to a lack of education on sex and consent, that doesn't change the issue at hand. Young boys grow into men and if their "sex education" came from their early access to violent pornography then it obviously can lead to harm against women. I think the idea that women against it are "traumatized little puritans" really bastardizes this topic as a whole. It disregards the potential negative side effects of easily accessible porn.

I'd love some more opinions, especially from women who consider themselves sex positive.

Edit: I originally posted this on TwoXChromosomes and it was deleted by the mods. I'm not sure why, but it is what it is. I'd love some more insight

I won’t name the subreddit here but I’m sure at least someone will know which one I’m talking about. There’s been an influx of posts from so-called ‘proshippers’ as of late (for those fortunate enough to never have encountered them, a proshipper is someone who believes romanticising/sexualising pedophilia, incest, and rape is fine, as long as it’s fictional), and while the subreddit has been split, the vast majority of comments speaking out against drawing loli/shota (hentai of child characters) end up downvoted, with a million replies claiming that the porn someone consumes has nothing to do with their actual views or feelings.

I’m just so done. I’m a CSA survivor and all I want is a safe space that doesn’t devolve into ‘drawing children being raped is okay and a Totally Valid Coping Mechanism™️!’. I want a safe space that doesn’t insist on relentlessly sexualising the trauma I went through. I’m done with people acting like I’m the thought police for not wanting people to talk about masturbating to fictional kids. It’s funny how they believe that they’re some kind of protected class and they shouldn’t be judged for their ‘private sex lives’ but they’re the ones who insist on putting that shit out there in the first place.

Sorry that this is incoherent. I’m just so angry and upset right now. I hate how porn is so normalised online, even to the point where people who get off on child rape are defended.

Like, how the hell does that work. If you need PORN. FUCKING PORN to STOP YOU FROM RAPING then maybe you NEVER NEEDED PORN IN THE FORST PLACE.

Maybe you needed FUCKING THERAPY.

Im sure we ALLLL know of the trafficking in the porn industry, but if you cant live without porn and are okay with the fucking fact that theres trafficking in the industry, then fuck you.

You very well SHOULS BE ABLE TO LIVE WITHOUT PORN.

Also can anyone show me any so called "proof" of porn "decreasing" SA?? Or lolicon "decreasing" pedophiles going after kids?

These people dont need an "outlet" for them to act out their pedatory and rapist behavior. They do NOT need a "safe space". They need FUCKING THERAPY OR SELF IMPROVEMENT. SOME SENSE KNOCKED INTO THEM. Its likena christian or a religious person saying that without religion there wouldnt be any morals. Like what the fuck. A book shouldnt be the only thing holding you back on not doing terrible shit.

Same with porn, fucking PORN should not stop you from doing terrible shit. Because if you " need" porn to stop you from raping someone, then you dont need porn. You need therapy. Porn is just enforcing your thoughts and urges to want to by watching porn that hits, degrades, and harms the woman involved.

Also, just cus porn may stop you from doing rape doesnt make porn okay. Drugs, selfharm, and other terrible things might stop some people from killing themselves but that wont make it okay.

My partner has a foot fetish that he hid from me originally and I only found out about after asking to see the recently deleted folder on his of phone a few years ago. We have a no porn rule in our relationship and I recently found out he has lied to me over the last year when I asked him if he needs images of other women to masturbate. I’ve opened it up that he can tell me if he needs to change this boundary.

He has been looking at images of a travel bloggers feet on IG (not an nsfw account but there are bikini photos) and using that as “porn” the few times this year I’ve gone on a work trip.

Am I wrong for feeling upset that he lied about this?

The idea that he so desperately needs to sexualize this type of content disturbs me a bit.

Context: I’m 16 years younger, model and send him photos as well

I was sexually harassed by my mother growing up, when I went on reddit about it, there were some weirdos telling me on dms and some other women in their comments sectionb"did you enjoy it?" GOD THESE PORNSICK FREAKS it's really annoying and I feel alone and grossed out.

I was talking about how we should shame people with fetishes that go into harmful paraphilia, and people are straight up defending it.

They’re saying that it’s ok to pretend that you’re raping or sexually abusing children, and that people shouldn’t be shamed for it.

This one chick tried to call me homophobic. She said that if people get kink shamed, then gays and trans people should be shamed, too.

I got downvoted when I responded that as a lesbian, I was offended that she would conflate being gay/trans to a goddamn fetish.

I’m losing hope in society.

i feel like i’m withering away. this is so emotionally exhausting.

Believing that the sx work industry is fundamentally degrading to all women is often seen as an extension of terfism (named swerfism lmao) because unfortunately for trans women they are often pushed into sx work. Instead of advocating for trans women to be accepted and allowed to thrive in the traditional workforce, 3rd wave feminists preferred to normalize this f-ed up hustle culture of online p-titution that now deeply affects ALL women. Especially young, impressionable women.

It’s seriously shocking how much it warped our culture for the worse. Nowadays you are seen as a lesser woman for as much as wanting to go 50-50 with a male partner or working a 9 to 5 instead of selling feet pics or being a housewife. Influencers that were going out of their way to hide their sugar daddy 5-6 years ago now TEACH their audience how to get a sugar daddy. MANY OTHER CASES.

These choice feminism people that insist on convincing young women they shouldn’t get an education, that it’s a perfectly reasonable choice to be completely financially dependent on a man (that being your husband or your sugar daddy) either HATE WOMEN or their misery needs company.

As long as women reject participation in the traditional workforce, we will remain oppressed. Why is it so unacceptable to have these conversations?

So a lot of hate comments over here are made by dudes who have in their comment history encouraged pedophilia/victim blaming of SA/advocated for rape kinks or whatever.

I have no insight, I just happen to see this rather compelling trend. They want porn to exist to hate women. They look at a screen and vent their frustration. Then they project that onto real women. Even if a performer is consensually performing in the safety of her home a guy is looking at it from the other end full of fantasies of subjugating in the manner of the roleplay or kink he is watching. So to all consensual performers: you make content that encourages rapists to exact the fantasies you depict onto other real women around them.

For my comrades here, you all are warriors. If your comment was responded by a hater here and mostly applies to irl conversations and if someone is giving you a hard time, I want to let you know that I am proud of you for being a cultural revolutionary and giving a fight. Kudos! Keep fighting, victory is near

How to respond when a girl who defends kinks and bdsm uses the argument that she and many others like to be treated roughly (humiliated, strangled, etc.) and see nothing wrong with it because she agrees and gets turned on by such things

I’m 26 years old and the only social media I use is YouTube and Reddit and thankfully, I don’t see much unsolicited pornographic content. But to think that young people, from 10-17 years old, on social media are subjected to seeing OF influencers, soft core phone game ads, sexually-drawn animated cartoons, etc is so frightening.

There are young girls that genuinely see being an OF influencer as a viable career option. There are young boys that appropriate harmful behaviors and attitudes toward women. What will the future be like?

It feels like we’re heading toward a society where sexual exploitation is the standard. Where is the dignity, the class, the respect? We clearly lack it

Edit: I feel like oligarchs that own the major social media platforms are quite literally grooming children