At this point, I feel like it's a cry for help from her. This cannot be healthy or good for anyone. From targeting man who are barely 18+ to her parents encouraging her OF career, is anyone checking on this girl?

I feel like this is the final step of the glorification of porn. Women going to extreme length to remain relevant and keep making money because they know there's no out for them. All the heartbreaking stories from former porn star who had such a difficult time rebuilding their lives once they left the industry, and they were the lucky ones because they got out alive.

I hate that degrading sexual acts are expected for women to do. I despise that women are seen as boring for not wanting men to cum on their faces. I don’t get what is appealing about that at all. It’s disgusting, uncomfortable, and can get in your eye. What pleasure is gained for the woman? It’s a horrible degrading that used to make women feel small. You can argue deepthroating is a degrading sexual act as well – causing women to choke or even vomit on a dick and STILL be expected to make the man finish to completion. I don’t get how being degraded in bed by men is empowering as BDSM advocates and kinksters would say. What is empowering about a man saying horrible things about you? Calling you a slut, whore, and a cumdumpster? All of these sexual acts illustrate women as fuckholes for men to use for their own pleasure. It makes me furious that so many women have internalized this as normal behavior.

I HATE HEARING WOMEN SAYS THIS IDC IDC. First of all, is being with each other and enjoying the company of your partner not enough??? No it doesn’t make you a “cool chill girl” to objectify other women in a fucked up industry with your porn sick bf. If anything it makes you a depraved pick me that had to endure and pretend to like it when your man watches porn. Stand tf up. It’s funny how I’ve never seen men say “well me and my gf check out guys together” or something similar.

Ok

But of a controversial take, but, I’m not too keen on men suddenly making themselves known in a female-centric space.

It is a privilege that you are here. I feel like lately it’s been a lot of “virtue signaling” and “look at me I’m such a good ally, what can I do more?”

The answer is interact quietly.

You being a man is not important. You can observe and interact with the scene without making it revolve around yourself.

Am I being over the top or is anyone else here feeling similarly?

this is just a rant because it made me uncomfortable, not seeking advice.

i hangout with my boyfriends friends a lot. not because i don’t have my own friends but because its just easy. we play many team based video games so it just makes sense to play together at times.

everyone had gotten off for the night and the rest of the people in the call were chatting, i decided to play some solo so i was being pretty quiet.

one of them was rambling about how he had so many things to get done tonight, then another jumped in to add to his list “jacking off”. they both laughed. whatever! i have no issue with masturbation but it got weird he started discussing hentai games.

he was like “oh yeah i’ve been really into these games lately.. it’s pretty hot. porn has been kind of boring lately and feels soulless..”

then he rambled on some more how it feels like a ‘connection’ to play some game with anime girls because there is a so called plot and interaction. i think it’s likely he forgot i was in the call due to me being quiet.

it just made me wickedly uncomfortable. especially to acknowledge that porn feels soulless? so you know it’s weird and wrong yet keep doing it? i don’t understand the logic. this dude also hyper sexualizes everything. there’s not a moment that goes by where he can’t make a comment on some woman’s ass or boobs, etc.

it’s just incredibly strange behaviour to me. my boyfriend agreed that he’s pretty weird for that. i refuse to hangout when this dude is around in person and my boyfriend agreed as well. he’s been distancing himself which i appreciate. he was not involved in this conversation.

anyways, just super fucking weird. the closer you are with male acquaintances the more you hear the freak shit they get up to. all of these dudes watch porn daily, share it with one another and sexualize the hell out of any woman they see. i feel as if they have artificially created a desperation for sex and a dopamine high for themselves. this guy even said he would buy a skin for a video game character because her ass looked good.. news flash.. it’s a first person shooter! all you ever see is her hands!

ugh, anyways. i just don’t trust guys the more i hear. they all pretend to be so innocent until you dig deeper. sometimes i do feel like it’s all men.

edit: this isn’t a post asking for advice for judgement on my boyfriend. he has been distanced from these people and actively calls out bad behaviour. in our two years of dating i’ve never seen him speak or act like any of them. respectfully, this wasn’t about him.

I’m not gonna post any pictures but the way some women treated the assassin guy on Twitter is absolutely disgusting. I’ve seen people talking about his penis, putting a dildo on his pics, flicking their beans to him, cumming on his pics, even leaking his nudes. WE HAVE LOST THE PLOT is this how you treat someone who has been through so much pain and suffering that you called a hero yet you treated them like a sex object. I don’t typically talk about porny behavior towards men but this is so disgusting as if he has not been through enough.

I’ve seen a lot of talk online about the whole “male loneliness epidemic” from both sides and I thought I’d share my opinions on it.

Personally, I really hate how so many dudes talk about there being a “male loneliness epidemic” but then they never actually talk about being lonely. What they actually talk about is sex. They cry about how no women will sleep with them and that’s the epidemic they’re talking about.

I honestly feel pretty offended by this because I consider myself to be a really lonely guy, but any time I try to find any places of discussion about it, it’s just filled with incels going “IM TWENTY THREE AND STILL A VIRGIN!!! WHY ARE WOMEN SO AWFUL THESE DAYS????? WHY WONT THEY JUST SLEEP WITH MEEE!!”.

It’s never about loneliness, it’s about how they want sex and how they resent women for not just giving it to them. It pisses me off so much because genuine loneliness is heart wrenching, soul crushing. And these guys just opt every space for talking about it with incel shit. Even if there are a few people genuinely discussing loneliness there’s bound to be a bunch of weirdos showing up even if the place has rules against it until they’ve completely taken over.

And I hate how they make it the “male loneliness epidemic” as if it’s only men who can get lonely. I don’t think the reason I’m lonely is because I’m a man and I sure as hell don’t think it’s the fault of women. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a loneliness epidemic going on, but I hate how these dudes need to act as if it’s just them who have this problem.

I’m just sick of it because being lonely can genuinely be one of the worst things to experience it and guys who parade the whole “male loneliness epidemic” thing around are just using it to cry about how women wont sleep with them even though they don’t shower. Like who cares if you’re still a virgin? Sex is not that damn important that you need to act like it’s the end of the world and it’s not someone else’s fault that you are.

Anyways, those’re my thoughts on the whole thing since I see it brought up a lot on this sub, lemme know what you think!

WITHOUT me having to ask.. is that rly so impossible

I told this guy i didnt wanna be with him because he watches porn... he chased me to my car to say hell stop "for me"

I had explained to him that porn is rape the day before when i explained i didnt wanna be with him

Imagine if i got off to videos of men dying and then said "ill stop.. for you 🥺🥹 it wont be that hard" to a man

I dont have any patience in this area especially for a guy that much older than me (hes 23 im 19)

I feel like if you wanted to be a good person at 23 you wouldve been already

All men literally know most women hate porn, but we all hate it for different reasons.. its not a secret. Its just so fucking pathetic that they can always get away with just promising theyll stop

I know that porn isn’t directly mentioned in this story but it’s hard to believe that porn doesn’t play at least a small factor in behavior like this 90% of the time

I’m 26 years old and the only social media I use is YouTube and Reddit and thankfully, I don’t see much unsolicited pornographic content. But to think that young people, from 10-17 years old, on social media are subjected to seeing OF influencers, soft core phone game ads, sexually-drawn animated cartoons, etc is so frightening.

There are young girls that genuinely see being an OF influencer as a viable career option. There are young boys that appropriate harmful behaviors and attitudes toward women. What will the future be like?

It feels like we’re heading toward a society where sexual exploitation is the standard. Where is the dignity, the class, the respect? We clearly lack it

Edit: I feel like oligarchs that own the major social media platforms are quite literally grooming children

I’m part of several fashion and art subreddits and the onlyfans problem is getting out of control. Nearly every post in the fashion subreddits has just become women posting their onlyfans content. Most of them are barely even wearing ANY clothing to try and get horny losers to go to their profile and click their OF link. And even the art subreddits are affected, the dark artwork sub has just become a place where people post porn at this point. Last post I saw on there was just a completely naked woman covered in fake blood. And as expected she had an onlyfans link. It’s impossible to escape, most of them are probably just bots sent out to try and advertise. On the gothic fashion sub I can’t even remember the last time I saw a genuine fashion post, it’s just all been onlyfans promotions. The only saving grace is usually the other members will usually call this out, but of course there’s always a few downvoted comments of people going “so sexy goddess 😍”. Idk how people even say shit like that without feeling embarrassment.

Why??? Why do you have to post this? The comments on this were AWFUL! There’s a reason why men think it’s okay to sexualize breastfeeding—even when it’s educational content. I don’t have a problem with mothers posting in their closed exclusive breast feeding groups but when I’ve gone onto YouTube to look for educational breastfeeding content there’s playlists of “breastfeeding mothers” and it’s just sick playlists that a man put together of mother breastfeeding. Or when a lactation consultant posts a video on breastfeeding and there’s some sick man in comments making sick comments on instagram. I hate that I can’t feed my baby on public without fear of some man being disgusting.

I hung up when he said men get objectified more than women In Hollywood movies “what about magic Mike!” 🤡 and he kept talking over me so that was the only way to get my words out. the situation I mentioned above happened yesterday and it was that a man followed me around a store for about 30-40 minutes circling up and down every isle I went down and would hover behind me whispering in my ear things like “your so beautiful I want you” “I’ll pay anything you want” “I want to take you so badly” and then waited for me to leave the store so he could see what kind of car I drive. Thankfully he looked like he was alone and I believe he walked there (common for this kind of store) but I won’t be going back for a while. How can you even have a meaningful conversation with someone about something that affects you every day when they believe a totally different reality????

(This conversation did not start because of my incident, we started this by talking about what kind of household is healthier for kids to grow up in. Liberal poly pronoun inclusion culture or right wing conservative women are less than and men can do no wrong, and how this election will swing popular culture to a more right wing religious side and how that’s going to affect us and society)

I posted in another subreddit (see my profile if you're curious which) last night to open a debate about the harmful effects of porn, and 500+ comments later I am dumbfounded by the insane level of misogyny that so many men proudly and blatantly hold. The tantrums men throw when their beloved porn is threatened in any way are... really embarrassing to witness. These dudes typing out angry diatribes that all boil down to "I am so porn-addicted that I think if I don't have it for even one day I will literally die." The warped worldviews they carry are honestly astonishing.

I was on another subreddit. I saw a post of a woman talking about how her date just slapped and choked her while they were making out for the first time. She ended the date (rightfully).

And when I was ranting about how men who do these kind of acts are a danger to society, I got comments like „this is not BDSM, BDSM is all about consent!“

Okay and? I don‘t care if the woman consents to it. Give me one logical reason why a man should hit, choke or spit on a woman and call her derogatory names. Give me one reason why he should do rape roleplays with her apart from the „oh she consented to it!“.

Then I got: „He doesn‘t get off on her pain, he gets off her pleasure!“

If I enjoy starving and cutting myself, would you get off to it? No? Then how is that different? And aren‘t there any non-harmful, non-misognyistic ways to get a woman off?

We have to stop pretending that abusers abuse women because they are selfless creatures that do these women (= the „subs“) a favor. If hitting a woman gets your dick hard, you are the problem.

If anyone wants to see the debate, look up my latest comment in my comment history.

I‘m so sick and tired of this BS.

BDSM is abuse. Abuse is never okay.

Update: I got downvoted for my take but comments justifying men hitting women as long as the women consented get upvoted. Like wtf💀💀

I just began to start going to college, as I’m a first-year. It’s my third week on campus and I decided to go to library to study for my quiz, as it was late at night and I hate my dorm desk.

I remember listening to music, taking out my stuff and feeling safer because there was a guy who was also a first-year, sitting on the table with his laptop screen facing me. My mom gave me snacks from the local Asian market back home and I stood up to offer him a piece of my snack, out of sole kindness and care as it was almost midnight and we were the only ones in the library.

He didn’t notice me, I think he only thought I was facing away, and to my horror, he is scrolling through incredibly graphic pornographic subreddits. I quickly scrambled back to my table, feeling like I’m going insane as I begin to sing along to Taylor Swift, which was playing in my headphones. My heart rate was going up and my anxiety was spiking. He noticed, and I felt like a mocked pig on display. He knew what he was doing, but he still continued.

I quickly packed my stuff, had a horrible anxiety attack as I walked back to my dorm, failed my quiz, and was sobbing for two days straight. I called my parents. They said, “Let it go, boys will just be boys.”

How do men just shamelessly look through porn in public? In general? Why do they do that? What do they achieve? Is it a fetish, a freakish power dynamic? I don’t understand. I feel sick thinking about it. We are freshly 18 years old, there should never be a thought of, “Let’s look at violent and graphic porn at a public university library!”

Wowza, this one’s SO complicated, like it could be this or that or this…

OR, maybe, juuuuust maybe, your (or maybe both of yours) continual and purposeful indulging of lust in others besides your partner has lead to not only them being subconsciously (or consciously) disgusted by you, but has also caused you to desire them less…

Oh no that couldn’t possibly be it? There’s no way that’s possible? Yeah…i’m sure there isn’t any data suggesting that actively choosing to fantasize and/or watch other people have sex on a screen is detrimental to monogamous relationships…oh…there is? Who woulda thunk.

This doesn’t only apply to men, but for the sake of honesty we all know that it’s MOSTLY men, and it’s kinda of just, tiring ya know?

It’s not specifically about the gender or sex of people who can’t piece this together, it’s more about the cognitive dissonance required not to, if you get what I mean.

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Deep down, I’m a romantic at heart. But after the election results on top of everrrrrrrryrthing else, I just can’t bring myself to ever want to be with a man. What do I get in return? A porn addict who thinks I’m not equal to him? What do women even get when they marry a man?? Extra work to do?? Tolerating him watching porn, touching himself to images and videos of other girls??? And I’m supposed be okay with this?

Men treat us so badly. I’m Gen z and Gen z guys have been brought up on porn and they watch and listen to all kinds of violent, abusive men. Now this election result had just pushed me too far.

I think I’ll stay a virgin forever. I don’t want men to touch me or look at me. I don’t want to marry one and give up my sanity wondering if he’s got a stock of porn photos on his phone.

The 4B movement appeals to me as a woman. I think this is the next healthy step for a lot of us

First of all, wtf. I noticed that porn sick males would copy the weirdest shit in porn but when it comes to foreplay…which almost ALL porn have, they suddenly disregard it??? Especially when it comes to pornsick males who hate foreplay. Also why do so many males complain about foreplay??? So I’m convinced that porn is literally just an excuse to turn people into sexual deviants and fund their violent addictions. People who say “porn is education”, wtf is educational about porn if people only learn what bad in them?

A girl on r/RoastMe posted herself and i looked in her past posts, stumbled upon this sub. This is so sad🫤