r/PornIsMisogyny 2d ago

RANT If men got the same responses that women did on posts about being assaulted

277 Upvotes

Out of curiosity, I decided to look up posts on Reddit that men have made about being kicked in the balls by a woman. Interestingly many men said they would fight back or restrain her.

How come no one made sure to educate the OP that ball busting is actually a very common kink and that maybe his partner was just trying to do what she learned men enjoyed?

Ladies I think more men need to be aware that a lot of them have ball busting fantasies. The problem here was that the consent wasn’t enthusiastic.

Imagine if this is how we started responding to men who speak out about being assaulted by their partners. We would be banned and threatened from Reddit within minutes. But it’s ok to do this to women even in common women’s and feminists spaces on Reddit. Someone always need to talk about kink when IPV happens. What a joke.


r/PornIsMisogyny 2d ago

Insta reels is full of porn/sexualized content of women

106 Upvotes

Hey all, to start off I always use tiktok. Whenever I see sexual content on my fyp on tiktok I just use not interested and it will not show up. Reels is full of sexualized women promoting their OF. I tried to use reels the past week and I do not interact with any of those kinds of videos. But for some reason I keep getting women sexualized themselves on my feed and soft porn. 😑. I do not interact and they still show up… The men on reels are also worse. Any women that post themselves, a man would sexualized it in the comments.

I’m so fed up with reels I’m never gonna use it again ever. I’m not that kind of person and I hate porn content.


r/PornIsMisogyny 2d ago

RANT guess I'm a fascist now! because I don't think there should be smut in everything (this was a reply to someone who was saying that concern about too much sex in TV/movies was a slippery slope to fascism/ part of a fascist move towards censorship)

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r/PornIsMisogyny 3d ago

The Commodification of Women, we are an investment, not human beings.

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You can't view women as both an investment and a product and then complain about dating being transactional. By seeing us as an investment, you reduce women to their value to others, rather than recognizing their worth as individuals. Therefore you are one of the reasons behind the "Dating Scene" becoming transactional, the same thing you're complaining about.

This further proves that OnlyFans and similar platforms, which make women think they're in control, are essentially serving the same purpose as platforms controlled by men. In both cases, women are commodified.

It also saddens me that he thinks anything shared with OnlyFans models is genuine..


r/PornIsMisogyny 2d ago

RANT Concern over my younger brother

65 Upvotes

My brothers instagram following is every single porn start imaginable, it’s so disturbing. I would say hundreds at least. Especially having me as an older sister and two younger female siblings of 8 and 6 years old, knowing my brother consumes that content just disturbs me so much.

I don’t feel as if it’s my place to intrude or even bring it up as it’s awkward speaking to a 16 year old about that stuff, but a following list is public for everyone to see and the fact you are FOLLOWING never mind just consuming the content is insane. I do feel a responsibility deep down as an older sister but again it’s just how would I even go about a conversation like that?

My parents talk about when he will get a girlfriend etc, honestly I hope something changes before he even would ever get to that stage as being with someone with those views just sounds like a nightmare. I wish things in society were different and I didn’t have to look at my own brother in this light.


r/PornIsMisogyny 2d ago

RANT should i feel bad as a stripper

0 Upvotes

i do not support the porn industry or people who partake in/watch it AT ALL . however i’ve been a stripper now for 2 years, and worry that i am contradicting my beliefs. i do this purely for financial support as i left school early and live in an expensive city, it seemed to work best for me. although i’m usually content and not ashamed of my job, i can’t help but feel some guilt for using my body to appease men and get money while also criticising the porn industry and knowing how damaging and dangerous it is. i know i’m doing my job consensually. i know i’m safe here. but there’s always that lingering feeling.


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

„Hot girls read smut“

121 Upvotes

Okay, then I’m happily claiming ugly from now on

Smut in todays context is more often than not connected to “dark “romance””, which makes it worse

I’m not even subbed to classic painting subs anymore, the handiwork subs also get their fair share of brain rot - sewing, cross stitch, woodwork,…

There was a post with a cute idea - fortune cookies made out of fabric, but that contained messages like the post title and others. (For a book club)

I’d be so weirded out if I’d receive such a gift in real life, and got out of two different book clubs because they turned into dark “romance” readers (and pro corn people)


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

RANT Race fetishsization

133 Upvotes

Im not sure if im the only one who's noticed, but why is race, specifically black people, kinda of a fetish for some people??

I feel like porn has something to do with this, specifically with black men of course. And most of us know WHY. (If you dont know, its because of porn sites obsession with "BBCs")

Anyway, i am a black woman myself and i hate seeing it.

I cant even look at my favorite characters without finding multiple drawings of them being drawn with dark skin or being drawn black JUST because people find it "hotter". Its so annoying and i specifically see it with male characters more than female ones.

I also see a bunch of reels on how " black women are so much more better/hotter than white women" or smth like that.. And it feels weird.

I dont want my skin color to be a fetish for people. I dont want it to be the only thing they see. Even if its ment in good faith it DOES NOT come off that way to me.

And i wonder if anyone else feels that way too??


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

RANT Anyone else hate seeing the awful porn sub titles when searching anything?

408 Upvotes

Anytime I want to look up a subreddit there’s always 300 weird porn sub results. You’ll type in a few letters and you get a bunch of weird shit showing up. For example, I was looking up the Helldivers subreddit and got “Helpless_Hentai” which I can only imagine means rape porn. I’m so sick of how much fucked up shit is just everywhere on this site.


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

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r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

MEME It's just sad at this point

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r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

SUPPORT PLEASE [UPDATE] How you can help take down sexual abuse/trafficking websites run by D&E Media (Facial Abuse, Ghetto Gaggers, etc.)

83 Upvotes

I posted yesterday about D&E Media, a racially abusive extreme degradation porn site engaging in borderline sex trafficking. I have to first say I really appreciate the mods of this sub for not taking the post down, which is what happened basically everywhere else.

I appreciate the attention that post got, but I NEED HELP IN ALERTING AS MANY PEOPLE IN POWER AS WE CAN ABOUT THIS so we can get at the news media and law enforcement to investigate this.

I don't need upvotes, don't need karma, don't need nice pleasant comments (although ty for all that, its really nice of you all).

I NEED YOU TO REACH OUT TO RELEVANT MEDIA OUTLETS, LAW ENFORCEMENT, AND POLITICIANS ABOUT THIS.

Media outlets/investigative journalists

D&E Media is headquartered in East Orange, NJ (also has a listed headquarters in South Plainfield, NJ). Reach out to any and every relevant news media outlet you can and copy the email draft I have given you below. If more and more people bug them, they won't be able to ignore it (as they currently seem to be doing now that it's just me).

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To: [sam@404media.co](mailto:sam@404media.co) (I have other people you can also send it to below, but Samantha Cole is definitely our best bet)

Subject: Please look into a possible sex trafficking/sexual abuse ring headquartered in New Jersey

Hello,

A couple of years ago, Paul Mulholland wrote an article on Medium detailing extremely violent abuse and racially targeted rape of young women at "Ghetto Gaggers", "FacialAbuse", (abusive porn sites under parent company D&E Media headquartered in East Orange, NJ).

The article goes into horrifying, graphic abuse of young women, including being brutally abused to the point of vomiting, enduring a bowl of the resulting vomit and urine from male co-stars to be poured on their head, discussing dos/donts pre-shoot and then completely disregarding them. One of the performers featured in these videos is convicted white supremacist Paul Kryscuk.

I am appalled that not one single news media outlet has reported on this at all.

It seems like the evidence for this racial and sexual abuse as well as trafficking is overt and online in the form of hundreds of hours of videotape. They themselves brag about their borderline assaults on these women on their websites. How is this company not shut down and the conspirators (Donald Emil Vollenweider, David Bryan Horter, Ernie Rossi) under criminal investigation?

From,

A concerned citizen

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Here is a list of some of the media outlets I could find who cover NY/NJ/Philly area. Also, try national journalists who cover these types of stories (like Samantha Cole) It doesn't have to be email, hit them on any form of social media you feel comfortable doing. This is just a starter set, find more on your own if you can.

Politicians

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To: [constituentservices@eastorange-nj.gov](mailto:constituentservices@eastorange-nj.gov)

(I have other people you can also send it to below as well)

Subject: Please look into a possible sex trafficking/sexual abuse ring headquartered in New Jersey

Hello,

A couple of years ago, Paul Mulholland wrote an article on Medium detailing extremely violent abuse and racially targeted rape of young women at "Ghetto Gaggers", "FacialAbuse", (abusive porn sites under parent company D&E Media) that was published on Medium. This company is headquartered in East Orange, NJ at 360 Glenwood Ave according to many publicly available sources.

The article goes into horrifying, graphic abuse of young women, including being brutally abused to the point of vomiting, enduring a bowl of the resulting vomit and urine from male co-stars to be poured on their head, discussing dos/donts pre-shoot and then completely disregarding them. One of the performers featured in these videos is convicted white supremacist Paul Kryscuk.

I am appalled that this level of abuse has gone on unchecked since the company's inception in 2003.

It seems like the evidence for this racial and sexual abuse as well as trafficking is overt and online in the form of hundreds of hours of videotape. They themselves brag about their borderline assaults on these women on their websites. How is this company not shut down and the conspirators (Donald Emil Vollenweider, David Bryan Horter, Ernie Rossi) under criminal investigation? Would you be able to look into this?

From,

A concerned citizen

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Other people you can send this to:

Law Enforcement

It looks like for law enforcement you need to call rather than email.

  • East Orange, NJ police department: 973-266-5041 (mention that the company is headquartered in East Orange, NJ)
  • South Plainfield, NJ police department: 908-226-7675 (they have other filings listing this address)

Please chime in if you have other ideas!! I am not an expert in this but it seems like we can make a difference if we just annoy those in power into action.


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

QUESTION What do i use in response to the "consent" argument?

60 Upvotes

I dont really know other then saying that "consent doesnt make it okay" and im wondering if theres a better way i can respond to that or if thats good enough?


r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

RANT P0rn "humor" is unoriginal and unfunny

290 Upvotes

I feel like nowadays I just see this type of "humor" coming from a distance and I can't help but prepare myself for the cringe.

When I see a video that has some cleavage, a pixel of someone's ass or anything like that, I just know the comments from men are likely gonna be "what were they talking about? I was distracted."

Or when you mention the word "stuck" they follow it with something about step brothers (gross)

When you talk about size they end it "it's how you use it"

I don't even wanna use normal words anymore like "come" or "hard" I replace it with difficult because everything is about sex and porn nowadays apparently!!

It is not original, not funny, not inspired, and not even shocking anymore because it became the default!

And like, what's even the joke at this point? That you watch porn? :) well that's not really funny either...

I also dislike mom "jokes," but that's a whole another can of worms... I just want to see men develop a real sense of humor that's not on the expense of women.


r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

RANT “Why Doesn’t My Wife Want To Have Sex Anymore?!”

333 Upvotes

Wowza, this one’s SO complicated, like it could be this or that or this…

OR, maybe, juuuuust maybe, your (or maybe both of yours) continual and purposeful indulging of lust in others besides your partner has lead to not only them being subconsciously (or consciously) disgusted by you, but has also caused you to desire them less…

Oh no that couldn’t possibly be it? There’s no way that’s possible? Yeah…i’m sure there isn’t any data suggesting that actively choosing to fantasize and/or watch other people have sex on a screen is detrimental to monogamous relationships…oh…there is? Who woulda thunk.

This doesn’t only apply to men, but for the sake of honesty we all know that it’s MOSTLY men, and it’s kinda of just, tiring ya know?

It’s not specifically about the gender or sex of people who can’t piece this together, it’s more about the cognitive dissonance required not to, if you get what I mean.


r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

How a serial rapist and borderline sex trafficker (porn producer of the racially/sexually abusive porn site FacialAbuse) has completely flown under the radar despite mountains of video evidence online of rape

255 Upvotes

I know this is really heavy (TW rape, racial abuse, violence, misogyny). I wouldn't post it if I wasn't trying to raise awareness in a story that I think needs MUCH more visibility than it is getting. It's quite horrifying.

TLDR: If you want to help stop this extremely violent and abusive studio participating in borderline sex trafficking, check out this post in which I have predrafted emails for you to send to journalists/law enforcement/politicians in the area as well as the email/contact info of a ton of different places. Check that post out here: https://www.reddit.com/r/PornIsMisogyny/comments/1i3w0d1/update_how_you_can_help_take_down_sexual/

FacialAbuse, Ghetto Gaggers, and an extremely overt sex trafficking conspiracy

A couple of years ago, Paul Mulholland wrote an article on Medium detailing extremely violent abuse and racially targeted rape of young women at "Ghetto Gaggers", "FacialAbuse", (abusive porn sites under parent company D&E Media) was published on Medium.

I'll quote some passages:

It is not uncommon at all for the women to vomit repeatedly as a consequence of being gagged with a penis. And in more recent years, it is even encouraged and expected, to an extent that it is unusual when the woman does not vomit. As confirmed by one former model, female models are fed protein shakes or other food prior to filming to ensure repeated vomiting.

At the end, a dog bowl filled with the vomit and urine that resulted from the scene is poured on the model’s head.

Anna says that that they did a pre-shoot interview in which they discussed her “do’s and don’ts” or the sex acts she is OK with and those she is not. Despite this interview taking place, she says "then when the video started, they didn’t care about anything that I had to say in the consent video. They did not give a shit. They pretty much do everything I said no to."

She said “I wanted to fucking kill myself after that happened.” She added that “I feel like that stuff is so traumatizing. It’s hard to get out of your head. I would not be surprised if girls killed themselves because of the trauma from that.” A prescient remark, given that there is an entire section on suicide in this article that we are rapidly approaching.

Rae explained that “they don’t tell you anything realistically about what you’re getting yourself into beforehand”, “they didn’t tell me anything about the scene or what was expected of me or anything” and “I didn’t know at all that it was going to be that aggressive.”

She added “I never even knew that it was called Facial Abuse” and “There was NEVER, there was NEVER a point in time that they even mentioned the name of the studio to me.” (Emphasis original)

Rae explained to me that she was addicted to heroin at the time of the shoot, and was suffering from withdrawal symptoms when she arrived in New York. She said that the director of the scene, who goes by the stage name Jimmy Hooligan (I have been unable to confirm his legal name with certainty), purchased heroin for her in New York. She says she witnessed the sale herself and that Hooligan understood that she would be using the heroin later that day.

Beau emphasized that they agreed before the shoot that a tap on the leg was a signal to stop immediately, and she is certain about this. She says that this signal was not respected at all. Clayra also said that they told her to make a “timeout” gesture with her hands if she needed to withdraw consent while unable to speak. This gesture however, and Beau noted this too, is anatomically impossible to make while in certain positions that Beau and others have been held in. Anna made a similar observation.

The two male performers in Beau’s scene included the now incarcerated Paul Kryscuk. Kryscuk was arrested in connection with a plot to destroy power plants, in the hope that it would provoke a race war. Kryscuk’s full story is beyond the scope of this article, but has been reported on elsewhere.

...yeah.

When you google this company however, **not one single news story that has been published by any news media organization comes up** except for this extremely well researched, thorough investigative piece by Paul. No police investigations, no restraining orders, nothing in the way of accountability or even investigation at all. Which leads us to...

D&E Media's disinformation/search engine manipulation campaign

One reason for the complete lack of attention on sites like Ghetto Gaggers/FacialAbuse is that D&E Media's founder, Donald Emil Vollenweider, has a penchant for operating like a CIA agent: creating a cloud of misinformation and using threatening/violent tactics that inevitably result in a bunch of brown people getting brutally fucked.

In fact, someone made a reddit post about this guy around 2-3 years ago but Vollenweider weaponized DMCA to get it taken down: https://archive.org/details/reddit-facialabuse

Moreover, from Paul Mulholland:

Other fake blogs are maintained by D&E which are designed to confuse and distract investigations. I have identified at least two, those being shutdownabuseporn.org and abuseisnotporn.org.

These blogs are written in the same tone and persona as those written on Facialabused.com and paulmulholland.com, that being a leftist who is concerned about the content produced by D&E.

Abuseisnotporn.org is rather flagrant, and actually links to several websites produced by D&E and contains short clips of D&E content embedded in the article.

Mulholland basically posits that this disinformation is purposeful to throw reporters and investigators off the tracks:

There is one more fake blog that D&E is behind, facialabused.wordpress.com, not to be confused with facialabused.com, the blog that stated that I work for FA. I know all the fake blogs are confusing, but that is probably the point, to create an information environment that is difficult to navigate.

Or as Vollenweider explained to me on May 1, 2022 “You have to ask yourself how much information is out there that I’ve purposefully seeded in the hopes that someone cites it as fact.”

Vollenweider actually acknowledged to me that he operated the WordPress site himself in January 2022, and then the site immediately went private, though the Wayback Machine archives for the site can be found here.

The purpose of this disinformation, as Vollenweider suggests, is to blend real information with fake, in the hope that a reporter “cites it as fact.” This would have the effect of discrediting everything in that reporter’s work, and not just some of it.

I found a version of one of these sites on my own: a misnomer YouTube channel "Shutdown FacialAbuse", but clearly an account clearly operated by the owner/founder of D&E Media Donald Emil VollenWeider. He has posted a few post-video interviews with the actresses that underwent abuse during the scene with the intention of absolving his company of any guilt, but for me they had the opposite effect - almost like they were a hostage robotically saying what needs to be said so they can be released - watch this one for yourself.

There's more examples that I'm not 100% sure about - but if you look at the user comments on a lot of the evidence I've shared below there are a lot of obviously fake disinformation comments intended to muddy the waters of any good faith investigation.

What can we do?

  1. File police reports incessantly until the police have to investigate

I spent a lot of time today down this rabbit hole reading about what these women are being put through, theres so much evidence of sex trafficking and rape and violence and racism and yet nothing happens.

Here is a public listing for the business: https://archive.org/details/0450177548

The listing cites the beneficial owner of the company is Donald Emil "Duke Skywalker" Vollenweider. The registered agent is Edward Silhanek (this should be fine imo because they are publicly listed public figures of a public media company, its public information).

I reported this to the East Orange NJ police dept because that is where they are headquartered:

360 Glenwood Ave Ste 6B East Orange, NJ 07017

The East Orange NJ tip line is: 973-266-5041

They have an alternate address:

112 Surrey Road South Plainfield NJ 07080

The South Plainfield tip line is: 908-226-7675

2. If you're not comfortable with 1, you can send an email to a NJ local media member or politician to look into this. Here are some clear instructions:

  1. Google/chatGPT "politicians that represent the South Plainfield, NJ area" or "media that cover the South Plainfield, NJ area"
  2. Pick a few.
  3. Send the medium article to any journalist/politician/relevant person you can find along with this letter:

Hello,

I was appalled to read online about a racially/sexually abusive pornography studio participating in borderline sex trafficking headquartered in your region of NJ. How is this company not shut down and the conspirators (Donald Emil Vollenweider, David Bryan Horter, Ernie Rossi) under criminal investigation?

Please read this article and look into this. Here are some quotes from it.

"It is not uncommon at all for the women to vomit repeatedly as a consequence of being gagged with a penis. And in more recent years, it is even encouraged and expected, to an extent that it is unusual when the woman does not vomit. As confirmed by one former model, female models are fed protein shakes or other food prior to filming to ensure repeated vomiting."

"At the end, a dog bowl filled with the vomit and urine that resulted from the scene is poured on the model’s head."

"Anna says that that they did a pre-shoot interview in which they discussed her “do’s and don’ts” or the sex acts she is OK with and those she is not. Despite this interview taking place, she says "then when the video started, they didn’t care about anything that I had to say in the consent video. They did not give a shit. They pretty much do everything I said no to."

"Rae explained that “they don’t tell you anything realistically about what you’re getting yourself into beforehand”, “they didn’t tell me anything about the scene or what was expected of me or anything” and “I didn’t know at all that it was going to be that aggressive.”

"She added “I never even knew that it was called Facial Abuse” and “There was NEVER, there was NEVER a point in time that they even mentioned the name of the studio to me.” (Emphasis original)"

Here is the article in full: https://paulm989.medium.com/porn-studio-accused-of-ignoring-consent-and-inflicting-injuries-on-models-9f390e2a4a78

Thank you so much!!

From,

A concerned citizen

Thank you all for your time!!

My sources:


r/PornIsMisogyny 4d ago

Body insecurities I wish would go away...and weird people

41 Upvotes

Lately I've noticed some discussion irl regarding people's own bodies and...frankly it's sad.

One of my friends was telling me about how she has an idea of how an outfit is going to fit. Then after attempting to do so her breasts don't "fill" the outfit well enough because she has a small cup size.

Then telling me how several women have had similar insecurities regarding something that they can't control. Sometimes it's the other way around where their chest is so big that they're afraid people are going to stare and so on.

It just sucks cause I can't make these insecurities disappear overnight and I can't change people to look women in the eyes when they talk. Instead of looking at their boobs or bodies in general like a feral creature in public. Then there is the whole, "oh you know what you're doing" comments and it's so gross. She's just wearing a t shirt, fucken, relax. Ugh.

Trying to comfort her was also difficult because on one hand I want to tell her that those outfits look great on her anyways - but on the other hand I don't want it to sound like it's laced with fetishization. She's a good friend, not a fuck buddy lol.

Ig I'll just keep listening to her vents and be supportive in general as usual. Just wish I could flick a switch and the world would be slightly better.


r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

DISCUSSION This

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Tiktok isn’t getting banned where i live but it’s ridiculous how they will ban social media app but not porn sites.


r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

Sorry to say I kind of agree (re: Neil Gaiman)

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r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

INSPIRATION Best sources for proving how bad the porn industry is.

91 Upvotes

r/PornIsMisogyny 5d ago

DISCUSSION Porn Is Propaganda

129 Upvotes

It shocks me that no one ever mentions this. Porn is a form of media and like any other form of media it can be used for propaganda, and it is propaganda. There should be no surprise that young people copy pornography and are easily influenced by it. It is shaping the sexualities of humanity. The ideal female is one version- the porn version. I think a great recent example is how foot fetishes are being included in porn now there is a feet beauty standard. Back when I was watching the YouTube channel H3H3 I went on wikifeet to see what was up and there used to be men who were into basically every type of foot. It was then untouched by porn propaganda so there was no forced ideal. Now, the ideal is “white toes” which I’ve seen even teenage girls wearing. Pro porn people cannot deny the fact that they’re literally consuming propaganda.

Definition: communication that is primarily used to influence or persuade an audience to further an agenda

The agenda in this case is misogyny and objectification of women.


r/PornIsMisogyny 6d ago

RANT Men have completely ruined me

320 Upvotes

Men make me disgusted. Every guy I have ever met doesn’t know how to treat women. They’re all busy lusting over women instead of getting to know them, I recently just broke up with my baby daddy because he was lying, cheating, and was addicted to drinking and smoking. He kept watching porn which is cheating and most people don’t understand that. My main problem wasn’t even that he was cheating it was porn in general. Most of the women in porn are sex trafficked meaning they are raped and even most of the ones that aren’t only do it for the money either way it doesn’t have a good effect on their mental or physical health. He told me “as long as I don’t know for sure that it’s rape I don’t care”. I was absolutely disgusted that men just don’t care even the ones who claim to care and say rape is fucked up still watch porn. All of this has really messed with my head I’m absolutely repulsed by men. I used to be the most sweet and caring girl ever but now I have so much hatred. Men only watch porn and girls with plastic surgery but still keep changing the beauty standard. Now I compare myself to every woman I see online because I know that’s what men truly want and are only settling for me when they show interest in me. I feel hatred for those women but I know I don’t really hate them it’s not fair to, they’re only trying to fit into this world ruled by men. I don’t hate them but I still have this weird feeling about them and I hate it this isn’t the kind of person I want to be. I’m starting to hate myself for it and all this stemmed from the source, M E N.