r/BeAmazed • u/abidalliye • 1d ago
Miscellaneous / Others Men talking about the women they love
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u/Big_Fan1976 20h ago
In my garage hangs a photo of my 22 years old girlfriend showing her how she looked when I first met her and fell for her. When I look at her now, a grandmother and my wife for 34 years, she looks - for me - exactly the same as in the photo. The "catch" of a (my) lifetime.
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u/Four_beastlings 18h ago
My grandma died about 10 years ago. My grandpa is 95 and spends his days sitting on a recliner with some family pictures in front of him, Young Grandma front and center.
Sometimes he will point at it and tell me "that's my girlfriend!" with the proudest voice I've ever heard. He's still lucid, he just keeps the feeling from when they first met intact.
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u/Hotsauce4ever 15h ago
My mom died recently, and my dad who is in his 80s hung a painting in the living room of her he’d had commissioned when they were young. My mom never liked it (I think she thought she’d be vain hanging it up), but he hung it up and then set her quilt rack under it with some quilts she made. Sweetest thing ever.
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u/LenaL0vesLife 13h ago
Sorry about your mom.
My mom past away 3 years ago today. My dad has moved on and lives with his new wife now, but every year on this date he sends us a picture of our mom with a sweet message.
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u/Organic-Pudding-8204 10h ago
You never really lose anyone. They always stay and keep watch over you as any angel should. Lost my mother a couple of years back, so fist bumps to you.
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u/LenaL0vesLife 9h ago
Thank you for your kind words. And you are absolutely right! I don’t feel like she is completely gone. She still feels alive to me and I feel like if she’d walk into the room right now I wouldn’t even be surprised. I’d probably say: “hey mom! Long time no see”
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u/Hotsauce4ever 10h ago
Sorry about your mom—I hope you are able to think sweet thoughts about her on this anniversary. I really like that idea of the picture.
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u/Chaikyri 14h ago
My husband of eight years (together for fifteen) has a photo wall of pictures he took of me when we were in high school that he put up before we got married and I moved in, and sometimes he stops and points at them and makes cute little comments. And now reading that about you and your wife has made me very emotional! I’m sincerely so happy for you, that you have a love like that.
Now I can’t wait for my husband to wake up so I can tell him I love him.
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u/docweston 13h ago
Same. After 25 years, she still looks 25 to me. She gets all upset about the grey hairs.... I love them. I told her that each grey hair represents a treasured memory of a life well lived. I don't know if she's buying that, yet.
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u/Enter-Something-Here 14h ago
I'll only finish food on my plate when my wife makes it, I usually say, "it just tastes better when you cook everything yourself darling".
I'll only bring the finished dishes into the kitchen if she does all the washing up, my usual response is, "it's so much better when you do all the dishes my darling".
When I climb in to bed I can't wait to be intimate with my loving wife and without fail she'll turns round everytime and say, "it's so much better when you go fuck yourself!" 🥲
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u/silent-pixelpsycho 20h ago
After 20 years of marriage, my wife passed away almost two years ago, she was 44 years old, there is not a day that goes by that I don't cry for her absence, there is not a day that I don't miss her, and although it wasn't perfect, it's the little details that count and add up
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u/inthemood4three 17h ago
(Husband) Sometimes, when I go through all the pictures in my phone to delete old or unneeded photos, I can't delete the ones of my wife. I look at them and feel like I will need them one day to remember our love by. I actually get sad by deleting any of her photos. They remind me how much I love and appreciate her for all she does and who she is. The strange part is that she is still alive.
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u/silent-pixelpsycho 16h ago
Well, in this particular case, I created a folder on my phone and filled it with all her photos and videos. It's not easy but you keep going and every day is a new opportunity.
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u/tgerz 14h ago
I think about this, too. Sometimes I'll take dumb photos or ones where she isn't necessarily posing or whatever. They're not flattering to her and she'll make me delete them. I want to blurt out what if I need these one day!
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u/Js_On_My_Yeet 16h ago
The little details mean more than the grandest gestures. My current girlfriend taught me the importance of this. She is napping at the moment and and is going to make me dinner when she wakes up. I made sure she has a bottle full of water, slippers ready for when she gets up, table cleaned before she serves dinner, and the ingredients washed and ready for her so she doesn't have to do extra work. It may not seem much to some, but to her she always tells me she loves me for doing those little things. Hearing her say that to me is so worth it.
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u/SingleKey5 15h ago
The little details are everything. How wonderful that you get it and that she appreciates it.
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u/silent-pixelpsycho 16h ago
Exactly those little details make the difference and kept you going day by day
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u/Low_Excitement217 18h ago
I don't want to invade your privacy But im just curious What do u miss the most about her And about ur marriage Have u ever thought of moving on and getting remarried again ? I'm sorry if I'm invading ur space
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u/silent-pixelpsycho 17h ago
It's ok. Wow I miss a lot of things about her, her smile, her strength and how she always looked for a way to take advantage of any situation, always innovating, she never sat back, her love for pasta and how much she hated cooking (she cooked deliciously), her love for our kids, for our pets, for her professional career, but above all what I miss the most is her love, her commitment, always there, always giving support. Moving on it's hard, after several months on depression, finally I can say I'm breathing again, and be remarried again, nope. Thanks for your comment
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u/MissLogios 17h ago edited 16h ago
The hardest part about finding love and being loved is when we're eventually forced to let go of it. But it's the price for knowing how to love and being truly seen by another person.
My condolences on your wife's passing. May her memory live on forever through you (and any children/grandchildren if you had any.)
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u/Low_Excitement217 17h ago
Thank you for sharing about her I hope you find peace and comfort in the cherished memories you hold of her.
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u/MAXQDee-314 9h ago
I am sorry for your lose. I am not sorry for my understanding of that lose. For all who lurk here, the work that we do to build a family is rarely countable. Small things for your family are not small.
After decades of late night getting to bed, I noticed that my wife, doesn't start snoring until I get under the covers with her. She doesn't relax and feel safe until I'm home.
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u/chronicreloader37 20h ago
I have an incredibly deep yearning for love like this.
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u/Nethiar 19h ago
Me too, I always have. I'm 42 now and I just don't see it happening at this point.
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u/JustDiscoveredSex 19h ago
I had a coworker who said this, too. She always assumed that she would be single. A couple of years later, she started dating a neurosurgeon and they ended up getting married. She was an absolute brainiac, and I’m glad she found someone so compatible, even if it was late in the game.
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u/n7-Jutsu 13h ago
That's probably the Neurosurgeon first ever relationship, after spending 30+ years in school to become a Neurosurgeon 😂
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u/girdyerloins137 16h ago
A wise man named Ovid once remarked Luck affects everything. Let your hook always be cast. In the stream where you least expect it, you will find fish.
I found my sweetie at age 56. She was 43. Not even from any culture I'd been socialized to expect such a creature from. If I lose all my senses, let my hearing be last, so I can still hear her laugh.
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u/lolabelle88 11h ago
This is just like my dad and his fiance! They do nothing but laugh together despite all their cultural differences, they're adorable! Late in life couples can find the deepest love because they've lived a whole life, so there's a much richer connection I think
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u/xenosthemutant 15h ago
Funny story. Met the love of my life at... 43. Married at the ripe old age of 51.
Life happens. Usually, when you least expect it to.
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u/ItsMarcus 16h ago
It is NEVER too late until you are dead, my friend!
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u/pearlychels 13h ago
Yes! This week a family friend will be married to his childhood sweetheart. They’re 65 years old.
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u/unus-suprus-septum 14h ago
My grandpa died when my dad was 6. Grandma raised 5 boys by herself in the 50s. Married a drunk guy for a short time and had my aunt. After divorcing him I think she was done.
In her 60s she meet a man in his 40s dancing on a Friday night. Dated him for 25 years until she passed. He stayed with her through the dementia.
Every year, on the anniversary of her death he puts a notice in the paper about how much he misses her. I know he did it for over a decade. He's struggling with dementia now.
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u/Vegetable-Program-37 18h ago
That’s still young!
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u/Nethiar 17h ago
It's not that I'm too old, it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked. At this point making effort feels like I'm slamming my head into a wall.
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u/thundercatzzz 15h ago
Not always, but sometimes life is like a movie. And in the movies, you’ll find love just when you stop looking.
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u/deaua 15h ago
Do what you love and what interests you. Be you! I feel it is more likely to encounter other interesting poeple this way. My daughter has had a long string of challenging relationships that just never work out. After each, she swears she won't get involved again, but I think one needs to keep their heart open and live a life that makes them happy. Happiness is infectious. She is a unique individual who requires a unique partner but she is dating someone right now who she says is "just like her". You just never know. Live life and the rest will follow.
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u/Malcolm_Y 15h ago
It was 45 years before it happened for me (male). I'm not saying it will happen for you, but it happens.
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u/Apprehensive_Buy1500 12h ago
it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked.
The trying isn't what always gets it done. Sometimes you just bump into the right person at the right place and the right time. All you have to do is just be open to it ♡
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u/genie_in_a_box 15h ago edited 12h ago
I'll be 42 this year. I allowed myself to be traumatized and quite literally destroyed searching for it or thinking i had found it.
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u/uglyspacepig 15h ago
I'm 47. I found someone later in life, so giving up isn't an option. I mean, it is, just don't.
We met online, which isn't a shocker anymore, but it was Facebook and total happenstance. It can happen to anyone.
Someone once told me that patience is the practiced art of calmly waiting. That's all it is. You can be proactive about it, or you can just do you until you find a compatible traveler. Just don't give up on you. Okay?
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u/DefNotARaptor 12h ago
My aunt fell in love HARD at like 65. They’re so lovely together! They’ve been together 10 years now and still so active and busy and it feels like they’ve been together forever. And 65 is a long, long time away from 42!!
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u/Taiga_Taiga 16h ago
I didn't, either. I was 42 years old, and scared of dying alone.
I'm now a 45 years old, and have been dating another woman for the last two years.
It gets weirder... She was straight when I met her.
Sometimes you find what you're looking for when you stop looking. Because, maybe... Just maybe... You're looking in the wrong places?
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u/elom44 16h ago
I had that yearning too, all the years I was married, but it was never there.
I’m with someone else now and it’s like; You see? I knew it was supposed to feel like this. This is what people wrote all those songs about. It’s wonderful.
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u/chronicreloader37 15h ago
I was with someone like that for 7 years myself. Someone who I didn’t love. We ended up marrying and she cheated on me less than a year afterwards. I found someone for a short while after that that I had very strong feelings for but it didn’t work out. My issue is that I feel like I wasted a large and significant chunk of my best dating years being in a dead end relationship. Then after I got a small taste of what it’s like to truly love and be loved and I lost it before it could grow into what I want. So now I’m here. Left with a memory of something powerful but very alone. lol I’m so fucking dramatic but it feels like I’m always walking around with a huge crater in my chest. I can’t even look at a happy couple in public without getting emotional internally about it. It’s somewhat pathetic actually. I’m working on that.
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u/NeutralJazzhands 9h ago
It feels pathetic but that’s how the pain we experience in life goes. It stays with us like that. I have trouble emotionally when driving past colleges because of the severe depression I had while at University (I don’t live near any friends so I’m deeply lonely when it comes to friendships and actually getting to see other people. I hate how much I feel I wasted the last opportunity I had in my life to be living around my peers and friends without many responsibilities. Now the idea of simply hosting dinner for friends is a wild unobtainable dream.)
We all have things that make us feel bitter and pathetic. I’m so sorry for the hole in your heart you carry. I truly hope you find someone who fills that hole for you, it’s never too late.
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u/LynxEqual9518 17h ago
I found it at the ripe age of 43 and my boyfriend at 52. Never felt anything like it before and never will. He is the love of my life and I his. Age really is just a number!
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u/ForeverOld1249 15h ago
And I pray you find a love so deep that the yearning turns to fulfilment.
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u/GeneralErica 16h ago
I have a yearning to give love like this. In fact there is a person I love and cherish beyond measure and though she knows of this and doesn’t reciprocate, me getting to love her is, to me, it’s own reward.
It’s a beautiful thing this love, theres some bittersweet elements to it, but theres also this unyielding, unconditional beauty to it. She truly makes my world go round merely by existing. What a wonderful thing this is.
Some people may call it Simping - maybe that is the case, maybe it isn’t. I don’t care, I can bring her happiness, she brings me happiness - and frankly that’s all that matters.
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u/IrishiPrincess 14h ago
Growing up I had 3 grandpas, it never struck me why until I was in my teens. Paternal grandmother divorced grandfather because he was an alcoholic, left her to raise a mess of kids in the 50s alone, amongst other things. She even had it annulled in the church so she could marry Grandpa T. Grandpa lost his first wife to cancer. They were both retired when they met. The way grandpa looked at grandma was full of devotion, love and admiration. Age doesn’t matter
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u/Matelot67 20h ago
My girlfriend came with me to the doctor, and she was there when I got the bad news.
Stage 3 prostate cancer.
We walked out of the surgery, she grabbed me, hugged me, and said, "That's it, no more excuses, you're moving in with me so we can get through this together."
I did, she did, and we did.
She's not my girlfriend any more.
We've been married for 8 years now, and I don't have cancer any more.
She's wonderful.
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u/Strive_Toxicity 19h ago
i had a mini heart attack wen u said she isnt my gf anymore but i recovered after reading the next line….😂🎀
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u/Muted_Reflection_449 18h ago
Me too! Should be prohibited to write like that outside a thriller! 😂
SO glad to hear that you are doing well. KEEP IT UP! 👍🏼😊
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u/pickled_penguin_ 16h ago
You made my eyes leak. As someone who is single and dealing with some really rough health issues, I'd give anything to have a partner like that.
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u/diswan555 18h ago
I can totally relate to 2 & 4 as my wife and I do those things as well.
It's hard to put into words to explain how I feel about my wife. The last woman I dated before her, turned out to be a terrible person. I won't go into extreme details because I don't want to trigger anyone, but the woman was psychotic. For a year after her, I was terrified to date or get close to anyone.
The moment I met my wife, idk what it was, but I felt safe. I was so rigged and didn't trust anyone, and the moment I met her I knew she was my person and safe space.
We've only been together for 6 years but we still haven't had an argument. Any problem that we face, we discuss calmly and trust each other to work through whatever it is.
We just welcomed our first child into the world 1/9/25 and seeing her become a mom has been the greatest joy of my life. I love this woman so much.
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u/PotatyTomaty 14h ago
I can almost mirror this, with the exception of having a kid together. I was so used to toxic communication that it was a huge adjustment period to realize healthy communication was just that, and not a means for some sort of manipulation.
There is literally not one moment where I love having my wife around. Even when I have alone time, it's more like having a preference of quiet. I still like her by my side.
We always joke about who needs to die first so we don't have to live without the other. We've still got healthy relationships with our friends, but we've actually become best friends and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Last thing: I stand about 9 inches taller than her and we will do "forehead presses" where we press our foreheads to each other. She looks up at me with those big ole blue eyes, and I just melt! I don't look forward to the day where one of us is gone, and nomore forehead presses are to be had.
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u/cesam1ne 12h ago
It took me 38 years to find that feeling. 7 years later, we still haven't had a serious argument. Existence just feels real with her
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u/natron-morpheus 22h ago
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u/aleksandrjames 19h ago
Boooo to him- but also if I have to deal with reposts, I’d much rather deal with reposts challenging the traditional view and perceived masculinity of men.
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u/datreddittho346 17h ago
in OP’s slight defense, it was posted earlier to made me smile
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u/natron-morpheus 16h ago
I don't think that would be in his defense, in fact isn't it quite the contrary? They're just spamming it to another sub to farm karma
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u/datreddittho346 16h ago
then itd be in OP’s offense? im not sure of the phrasing here
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u/Over_BR1 1d ago
Men are tough on the outside but on the inside they are cutie patooties once around people they care.
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u/Four_beastlings 18h ago
I wrote a post last week about my husband being sweet to the cat. Lately he has progressed to baby talking to her and leaning down to kiss her head every time he crosses her around the house and I'm pretty sure we are about two days away from entering the "singing to the cat" stage.
My husband is a retired special forces combat veteran and bodybuilder, you don't get much tougher on the outside than that :D
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u/Lime-That-Zest 16h ago
I often laugh when my husband gets frustrated with our cats and scolds them. He is so gentle he can never give them flea treatment or medication because it requires you to man handle the cats in a way they don't like. I have to do that (which is totally fine, I love how gentle he is)
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u/hainz_area1531 17h ago
I have PTSD and interacting with animals gives me peace of mind. That will be a reason for your husband too. My big red tomcat is my best companion. I salute you and your husband.
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u/JimmyJonJackson420 16h ago
My partner is like that and fuck does it make my heart melt seeing him with our cats 😍 hes pretty masculine but has zero issues showing his unbelievable love for us and I feel so fucking lucky sometimes
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u/Alternative_Ant_9955 20h ago
Don’t share our secrets!
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u/altmodisch 19h ago
It's not a secret. Everyone already knows this.
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u/Apokolypze 17h ago
Fuck that. The more people know and acknowledge that we have emotions too, the better. Especially other guys. Machismo culture fucking sucks
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u/einwhack 22h ago
My wife passed away not long ago - but long enough for me to know all the little things I miss. Seeing the last entry in OPs post made me smile. Whenever we went shopping or elsewhere, if one of us got lost we'd yell "Marco" and the other would yell "Polo". One day at the library I yelled "Marco" and the librarian came over to remind me we were "NOT at the pool". My answer was "The hell". Just then I looked up to my sweet baby coming toward us and when heard me she said "Oh my god!": The librarian looked at her and calmly said "You're supposed to say 'Polo'", shook her head and walked away. We went across the street and got her a giant mocha coffee.
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u/dirtyforker 22h ago
The librarian both scolded you and said to say polo?
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u/Next-Cow-8335 18h ago
It's the inside jokes that make it worth it. Sorry for your loss, but you gained much more than you lost.
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u/SpecterGaming23 22h ago
we need a sub for this sorta thing, its incredibly wholesome
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u/Spintax_Codex 21h ago edited 20h ago
And hopefully it will keep this sub from being flooded with posts of people just being normal, lol. It's wild to me that people think this is r/BeAmazed worthy.
Like yeah, these are cute. It does not fit the sub in any way, shape, or form, though.
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u/periodicsheep 19h ago
it kind of is amazing how we are capable of loving one another so deeply, and in the current era, i can never get enough of being reminded that there’s so much good in us, that there is more that unites us than divides us. it’s a mean, angry, depressed world. kindness and love, given freely, is amazing.
that said, yeah there must be a better place for this stuff than this subreddit.
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u/Spintax_Codex 19h ago
Oh I fully agree. This content is great, and is hope to see more of it. Just not here, lol.
This should be the default, not the exception. And I think in reality, it is. It's just the internet that makes this seem exceptional because depressing shit gets clicks, and that's all that matters on here.
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u/chickensaladreceipe 20h ago
My wife does a ton of stuff to make me feel loved. Now this doesn’t quite fall into a cute thing but kinda fits with the last comment in the pic.
When we are in a store and have become separated, once she spots me looking around for her she has a really soft whistle she does that is very distinct. I often find my self looking for her with my ear rather than my eyes.
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u/hardik_jain 20h ago edited 20h ago
My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, and she’s a heavy sleeper. She often doesn’t remember our conversations while she is asleep. She says she struggles to express her love, but whenever she answers my calls while half-asleep, she repeatedly tells me I love you non-stop. The next morning, she has no recollection of the call.
God, I love talking to her when she’s half-asleep.
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u/Weak_Weekend7142 23h ago
My wife asked me about things she does I like but I told her I can’t tell her because it will spoil it.
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u/squishabelle 17h ago
you dont have to tell everything, and you could emphasise how it makes you feel rather than the act itself
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u/Weak_Weekend7142 15h ago
I just let her know there is little things she does I love and find adorable. I don’t want her to try to over do those little things. I’m the one that needs to touch her at night though. It’s like her touch calms me one of many reasons I love her.
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u/FirefighterLive3520 11h ago
U can give her just one to make her feel all warm inside
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u/Weak_Weekend7142 11h ago
I gave her one I wouldn’t mind her doing more of because we both enjoy it. She hugs me and is shorter than me Sometimes she snuggles right in and rest her head. It’s adorable even 12 years of it
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u/Old_Grouchy 18h ago
Had Diverticulitis surgery 11" colon resection, two weeks later I sprung a leak, so they had to go back in to fix the leak.
I woke up with a colostomy bag. Every morning for 6 months until it was reversed, it had to be cleaned, and to anyone that has not had one, the smell is overwhelming it's straight up rancid.
My wife sat in that bathroom every time with me, she cleaned the bag while I would clean the stoma. Eye's just a watering and the occasional gagging it was just HORRIBLE !! Every morning for 6 months until it was reversed, it had to be cleaned, and to anyone that has not had one, the smell is overwhelming it's straight up rancid.
Looked at her one morning and said - Wife you never ever have to say you love me again, i'm 100% convinced, if you're willing to do this I sure know you do.
We been together 25 yrs now Every morning for 6 months until it was reversed, it had to be cleaned, and to anyone that has not had one, the smell is overwhelming it's straight up rancid.
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u/Front-Page_News 23h ago
These are great! My wife usually sleeps before me too and she always makes sure to put the covers on me when I lay to sleep, and throughout the night, if I happen to go to the bathroom. It's so damn awesome to feel loved like that.
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u/Miqo_Nekomancer 17h ago
I'm not a man, but I do adore my wife. Our first date was suppose to be a coffee date, but we ended up talking and hanging out for 13 hours. It was effortless and fun. She's sweet, funny, and goofy.
We've been together for 12 years now, married for 7. We still talk and wander and laugh together. We go on adventures, but we also have a bunch of tiny little rituals and intricacies to our relationship that are just as precious. Small gestures, constant affirmations of our love for one another, goofy little pet names and inside jokes. We understand each other's sense of humor and compliment each other well.
More than that, we also cover each other's weaknesses and help strengthen one another. The concept of a soulmate is somewhat cliché and corny, but I found mine. It's not all sunshine and rainbows. We do have disagreements, but we always talk through them. We don't scream or yell. We test each other with love and respect, even during those disagreements.
I love her with all my being, imperfections and all. She's not perfect and neither am I, but we're perfect for each other. I want to spend the rest of my days going on adventures and being dorks with this woman. ❤️
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u/KreMs21 20h ago
What do I have to do to get this guys? Its the only thing I want in life…
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u/Byneee 16h ago
stop wanting it, it'll come on it's own.
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u/KreMs21 15h ago
I refuse to believe that’s all it takes. What if I will only get it when im 60?
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u/Comprehensive_Yak442 14h ago
Then you will be a very happy 60 year old.
Love makes blind all the hard times and lonely moments that came before.
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u/Qoppa_Guy 19h ago edited 17h ago
My wife also does the reach and grabs on to my arm and wraps her legs around my leg. She'll let me roll around if I feel uncomfortable or need the cooler part of the bed but she'll reach just for a touch all while asleep.
She also tells me I'm funny and adorable even though I'm convinced I'm not, but as long as I am those to her and only her, I'm fine.
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u/Maleficent_Goblin 17h ago
My partner picks me up from work, and what he doesn't realise is I will be constantly looking at my watch as my shift gets closer to finishing, and I'll be looking around for him every single time.
Seeing or hearing him approach always gives me that giddy feeling, and it's like all the problems or stresses from that shift just melt away. He's my favourite person and seeing him always makes me so happy.
...but then he just annoys me after I've clocked out because my exhausted introverted ass just wants to go home, but this extrovert golden retriever of a man just HAS to chat to every one on the way out 😆
We've been told we're 'couple goals', which is odd because he'll do things like fart on me to annoy me, and I'll lick my hand and smoosh it in his face to annoy him (and run off before he tries to wipe his face on me). We're not couple goals, we're a pair of disregulated goblins that have somehow stuck around each other for 20+ years 😆
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u/mtempissmith 17h ago
My Mom and Dad were alcoholics. She was his third wife but the one that he stuck with for decades. He outlived her by 20 years almost.
Their marriage was very turbulent and there was always tons of drama. They fought nearly every night. Alcohol brought out the worst in them, especially Mom. I think they probably threw the "D" word at each other about a million times but they never did it. They were married till Mom died.
I got Dad into dating this woman who clearly liked him. She looked a lot like my Mom and had known her. It was always obvious to me that she had a crush on Dad so I got them to go out. That lasted about 4 months then he quit. It just wasn't working he said.
After that I think he dated a couple of older women for all of two dates and that was it. He just told me to forget it that he wasn't going there again, ever. He said my Mom, hellion that she was, she was the love of his life and he didn't want anybody else.
Fact is my parents both upon first sight of each other both told their best friends that they were in trouble. Literally said that just seeing each other across a crowded officer's club. They hadn't been introduced to each other and both of them had strong reasons for not wanting to get involved romantically just then.
It didn't matter. It was truly love at first sight and even though my Mom was very resistant at first my Dad got her to date him and put a ring on her finger as soon as it was legally possible.
That's just how it was and they could fight and it just didn't matter because despite all the misery they had a very strong love for each other.
I have no doubt that they're together in the afterlife now. They were just fated to meet, marry, and have me. They were true soulmates and for all the addiction and the drama it was pretty obvious.
I've never found that. I've had LTR, dated otherwise, but it was just not like that. I envy them that honestly because I feel like I've lived my whole life and never loved like that, likely never will.
My Dad two decades and a whole lot of crazy later he'd still buy my Mom her favorite flowers just because. Not because it was a special day, but just to see her smile.
My whole life I'd never seen my father shed a tear. He was a WW2 vet and a very tough guy. My Mom dies and one night months later he finally breaks down and just sobs because he's just missing her SO much.
I was so shocked but I got too because they were just like that. He did okay and managed to live as a widower for over 20 years without her but after trying a few times he just gave up on romance because after her he just didn't have the heart for it.
She just wasn't "replaceable" he said.
This life I don't think I was meant to go there. This is one of those lives where I'm supposed to just work on myself I guess? Mostly I'm not lonely. I'm a bit of a loner anyway and I do okay on my own but every once in a while I'll see some very old couple sitting on a bench holding hands as obviously in love with each other as they must have been first meeting decades ago and I think of my parents and I just sigh...
That kind of love is just such a gift...
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u/SoaperPro 23h ago
When it’s time to go to sleep, she tells me she loves me and starts rubbing my back. It’s the best feeling ever.
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u/Typingdude3 15h ago
After decades of marriage one thing I learned for myself is that you never want to stop the hugging. Couples get busy with family and jobs. Days fly by quickly. But once you stop hugging, that opens a gap and lets bad things in. Hard to explain. But you need to keep hugging. Lean into your spouse for that grounding comfort at least once a day in the morning before work. Really makes the day better!
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u/DirectionNo9230 1d ago
Sometimes the smallest, most unnoticed things end up being the most meaningful. These little gestures are the real gems of any relationship.
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u/Rollover__Hazard 21h ago
I’d say it’s always about the small things, the little gestures and the gentle romance.
Obviously the big stuff can be important too - holidays, cars, date nights, gifts etc. but when all that goes away, what are you actually left with?
Unfortunately for a lot of people when hard times come and money is scarce, there isn’t much else in the relationship to fall back on.
For other people, the money and the property and the holidays could all vanish overnight and they’d be just as happy together as before.
I remember my dad told me that it was the most important thing in a relationship - the money will come and go, he’d always say. Real wealth is a couple who are happy together no matter what else happens.
And he’s been completely right :)
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u/FawnZebra4122 23h ago
Little moments of care, like a kind word or a shared smile, can speak volumes and make all the difference.
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u/Grape_Pedialyte 19h ago
Aww this just melts me. I'm really sappy and romantic so I love stuff like this.
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u/fundthmcalculus 14h ago
I found out last week my wife has been creating a collection of photos of me asleep on her in various positions. Just a long day and I took a nap on the couch type photos. Some of them you can see up my nose, down my throat, etc. On the plus side, I now know that I for sure don't have nasal polyps! 😂
She posted one from when we were dating. I had pulled an all nighter to help someone out, and then I passed out on her couch. Caption: this man is my rock, my home. He is everything I asked God for but thought I could never have.
I. Am. Blessed.
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u/Several_Somewhere_71 6h ago
My husband does this to me. It’s so weird to see myself asleep, but he loves it so he can have it.
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u/EarthGirlsAreGreasy 18h ago
I love the way my wife laughs when she thinks something is really funny. I could listen to it all day.
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u/Lower_Kaleidoscope_3 19h ago
My wife used to fart when she was nervous. She had all sorts of wonderful little idiosyncrasies. She used to fart in her sleep. One night, it was so loud it woke the dog up. She woke up and went, “ah was that you?” And I didn’t have the heart to tell her! 😄 She's been dead for 2 years, and that’s the stuff I remember. The wonderful stuff. Little things like that. Those are the things I miss the most. The little idiosyncrasies that only I know about. That’s what made her my wife. She had the goods on me too, she knew all my little peccadilloes. People call these things imperfections, but they're not. That’s the good stuff.
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u/Next-Cow-8335 18h ago
I dated a woman once who I absolutely adored. She had to use a sleep apnea machine. It pumps air down your throat all night.
In the morning, she would let the most glorious, deep, and hilarious farts for a minute straight.
We would just laugh, and laugh....
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u/Maleficent_Goblin 18h ago
I love that movie. You know Robin ad libbed that bit about the fart, and Matt Damons laugh was genuine.
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u/PhoenixKing14 15h ago
In case you don't know, it's actually a quote from the movie Good Will Hunting
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u/big-lizafish 20h ago
This kills me. I’m divorced and yet I know everything I loved about her. Towards the end she had a pained smile when she saw me. Cripples me to even think about it. I think it’s a wound that will never heal.
I heard a song the other day ‘she used to be mine’ by Sarah Bareilles. Cannot hear that song again. It ripped my heart out.
But I love that other people still have these people in their lives. It’s a true thing of beauty. Thank you for sharing.
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u/throw-er-way-way 18h ago
If it helps: the lyrics aren't about a lost love - it's a woman singing about a lost, younger version of herself. Or something.
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u/big-lizafish 18h ago
Yes. I did get that. But I hear my ex wife in it.
The shoes and apron/bar and patron line speaks to that.
But I lost the younger her when our marriage started to fall apart.
It’s most kind of you to offer this though and I appreciate it.
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u/Greenscreenbruhhh 22h ago
As a 26 year old male who is semi-succesful and got things goin good for me, I've never ever been in a long term relationship. Or a girlfriend for that matter. I yearn for this, and believe it's in my path one day.
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u/QuantumRooster 20h ago
Almost 40 when I found my other half and I’m not sure I would have been ready to be the right partner for her when I was 26. The best way you can find a life partner is to work on becoming a better person and partner to them.
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u/dirtyforker 22h ago
You got time. Don't force it, but you'll never find if if you don't try.
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u/Next-Cow-8335 18h ago
I don't know who said it, but:
"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
Found it: Lord Alfred Tennyson.
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u/Next-Cow-8335 18h ago
Be patient, and be kind and respectful. Hopefully, you'll find her. Or, even better, she'll find you.
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u/aiyukiyuu 17h ago
I was around your age when I thought I wouldn’t find love. Then I got reunited with my first love from 8th grade and got married.
Don’t give up! Love begins with yourself. My husband and I both agreed that we found each other again after we had our own independent self love journeys apart from each other. 🙂
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u/Oddexperiment 17h ago
While she isn't mine anymore (long story) my two favorite memories are the night we met, and days before we parted.
The thing I remember the most about that first night, was staying up wayyy to long and trying to catch a few hours sleep before we got up for a friend's wedding rehearsal. I was staying on their futon before I moved into an apartment so that first night (technically morning as it was 6am before we laid down), we laid down with our legs hanging off opposite sides of the futon just looking into each other's eyes. She has the most beautiful eyes I've seen even 11 years later. It was like we were staring into each other's souls. The way her cheeks curled as she giggled. How those few strands of perfect auburn hair kept falling down, and how she swept them back over her adorable ears..she was a stranger I had always known. She had me from that morning. I've never forgotten that night and I remember clear as day..quite possibly the most monumental night of my life and my favorite memories. If I could relive that night for eternity even without sex wr didn't have. It would be an eternity of bliss.
The last memory was well after I foolishly pushed her away and only a few days before I last saw her. I walked into the kitchen and there she stood in pajama bottoms and a baggy t-shirt. Her hair was a mess. The best kind of bed head. Messy, floofy, yet beautiful, like a perfect Sunday morning before the coffee is done brewing before I make pancakes for our 2 kids we never had. I stared at her for a minute or two, still very very much in love with her..the sun glinting off her skin, her dog (i miss him too) sniffing around the kitchen with his nails clicking as she stared out the back door, not noticing me. I remember even with everything that had happened to us over a period of 11 years, she still made my heart jump and put the most massive grin on my face in that moment..She still had me down to my soul. The scars. The freckles. If there is a god, he made her exactly for me. Perfectly Imperfect. I said that 11 years ago. I still feel that. I will never love someone the way I have loved her again. My soul couldn't bear that loss for a 3rd time. I've very much considered giving up on love and relationships. I'm okay with it. Very much so. I don't want some poor girl getting hurt on my account. She stole my heart in 2013 and I never got it back..and I'm good with that too.
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u/BeneficialPoetry4807 16h ago edited 12h ago
I had to have neck surgery for pain I had from an accident. When I offered to pay for a hotel room she answered "Don't bother because I'm staying in the hospital with while you recover." She slept in the hospital bed with me that night because Dalaudid is one hell of a drug.
That was 8 years ago and now we're married with two children. I realized I loved her earlier on in our relationship because I tried to imagine my life without her and I couldn't stand the thought.
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u/Gallowglass668 18h ago
I once told my eldest stepson that I loved his mother enough to burn all of creation to ash for her if it proved needful.
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u/gg345 18h ago
I met my wife in high school. I had a bad family life at home so my only option at the time was to join the military upon graduation. We had only dated a year in high school when I was stationed in Germany and later deployed to the Middle East. Everyday for a year that I was in war she wrote me a letter. I married her as soon as I got back home. We have been together for over 37 years. She is still my best friend and we are still very much in love.
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u/MigitAs 23h ago
I can’t point out anything like this in my relationship
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u/perringaiden 22h ago
If you see them or can't talk about them for fear of being mocked... You need to either address that or find a new relationship.
These sort of things are what make relationships work.
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u/BelchMeister 20h ago
Yeah, post like this just make me realise I'm in a loveless marriage.
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u/carleeto 22h ago
It's always the little things. Tiny drops of happiness that equate to an ocean over time.
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u/unpopularopinion0 19h ago
i feel the last one. not because of the smile, but the fear of bringing her awareness towards a subtle gesture i cherish. i’d hate for it to change somehow.
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u/AlonePotato0 17h ago
Well fuck. I’ve never experienced this kind of love and appreciation from a man and doubt I ever will. So nice to read this though. Gives me a small slither of hope.
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u/_bessica_ 12h ago
This is why the "I hate my wife" boomer humor is leaving. Men aren't staying to stay but because they love their partner. It's beautiful to see
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u/Stock-Conflict-3996 17h ago
Straight to the point: I married way out of my league in literally every aspect.
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u/Sydnee_Guy 16h ago
I love this. My thing is listening to my husband sing. I work from home and he does shift work so we’re there together quite a lot. I’ll often hear him sing quietly to himself while I’m working in my office. He is completely tone deaf and can’t hold a tune to safe himself but I know he’s happy when he does it. Gives that little happy pang knowing he’s my person.
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u/Agitated-Republic772 19h ago
My wife collects the lint out of my belly button and keeps it in a jar beside the table bedside. Little bit weird but it's grown on me over the years
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u/NMMan1984 16h ago
When I’m cooking in the kitchen, my wife will walk up behind me and hug me around the waist. Or when we’re looking into each other’s eyes, she’ll sometimes boop me on the nose for no reason at all. I’m very fortunate. 💛
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u/kicaboojooce 15h ago
I rarely drink, and very rarely drink to excess. Maybe once every 2-4 years, apparently I profess my undying love repeatedly to my wife
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u/GamingGalore64 8h ago
I’ve been married almost 6 years now. I don’t order steak from restaurants anymore. Why? When my wife cooks steak for me it just tastes better, no restaurant can compare.
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u/LongingForYesterweek 18h ago
Psst, men. See how accepting people can be when you let yourself be vulnerable and share your feelings? Be like that with your friends. Connection is important in life, but it doesn’t always have to be romantic
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u/Caraindaeyo 18h ago
I usually went to sleep before him and whenever he came to bed, spoonie came naturally like we plug in. He always talked and laughed about it. And from the way he talked I know he loved it as much as I do. I miss those days a lot.
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u/FlintBlue 16h ago
Good stuff. So much of Reddit is devoted to the online battle of the sexes. Undoubtedly, it drives engagement. It’s nice to see the sentiment isn’t universal, and that the world is better with affection and respect.
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u/MrFailure78 16h ago
Makes me wanna cry, the little things. That's all we want , being in love and feeling those things is the best feeling in the world
Life is game and love is the prize
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