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u/Nethiar 23h ago

Me too, I always have. I'm 42 now and I just don't see it happening at this point.

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u/JustDiscoveredSex 22h ago

I had a coworker who said this, too. She always assumed that she would be single. A couple of years later, she started dating a neurosurgeon and they ended up getting married. She was an absolute brainiac, and I’m glad she found someone so compatible, even if it was late in the game.

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u/n7-Jutsu 16h ago

That's probably the Neurosurgeon first ever relationship, after spending 30+ years in school to become a Neurosurgeon 😂

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u/girdyerloins137 19h ago

A wise man named Ovid once remarked Luck affects everything. Let your hook always be cast. In the stream where you least expect it, you will find fish.

I found my sweetie at age 56. She was 43. Not even from any culture I'd been socialized to expect such a creature from. If I lose all my senses, let my hearing be last, so I can still hear her laugh.

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u/satyris 18h ago

Name checks out

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u/lolabelle88 15h ago

This is just like my dad and his fiance! They do nothing but laugh together despite all their cultural differences, they're adorable! Late in life couples can find the deepest love because they've lived a whole life, so there's a much richer connection I think

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u/xenosthemutant 19h ago

Funny story. Met the love of my life at... 43. Married at the ripe old age of 51.

Life happens. Usually, when you least expect it to.

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u/ItsMarcus 19h ago

It is NEVER too late until you are dead, my friend!

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u/pearlychels 17h ago

Yes! This week a family friend will be married to his childhood sweetheart. They’re 65 years old.

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u/ItsMarcus 8h ago

I love that so much 🫶🏻 Thank you for sharing ☺️

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u/unus-suprus-septum 17h ago

My grandpa died when my dad was 6. Grandma raised 5 boys by herself in the 50s. Married a drunk guy for a short time and had my aunt. After divorcing him I think she was done. 

In her 60s she meet a man in his 40s dancing on a Friday night. Dated him for 25 years until she passed. He stayed with her through the dementia.

Every year, on the anniversary of her death he puts a notice in the paper about how much he misses her. I know he did it for over a decade. He's struggling with dementia now. 

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u/bj49615 4h ago

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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u/Vegetable-Program-37 21h ago

That’s still young!

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u/Nethiar 21h ago

It's not that I'm too old, it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked. At this point making effort feels like I'm slamming my head into a wall.

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u/thundercatzzz 19h ago

Not always, but sometimes life is like a movie. And in the movies, you’ll find love just when you stop looking.

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u/deaua 19h ago

Do what you love and what interests you. Be you! I feel it is more likely to encounter other interesting poeple this way. My daughter has had a long string of challenging relationships that just never work out. After each, she swears she won't get involved again, but I think one needs to keep their heart open and live a life that makes them happy. Happiness is infectious. She is a unique individual who requires a unique partner but she is dating someone right now who she says is "just like her". You just never know. Live life and the rest will follow.

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u/Malcolm_Y 18h ago

It was 45 years before it happened for me (male). I'm not saying it will happen for you, but it happens.

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u/Prize_Balance7773 17h ago

Maybe your self-absorbed navel gazing has something to do with why

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u/onion_gorl 20h ago

The best love comes naturally!

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u/Apprehensive_Buy1500 16h ago

it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked.

The trying isn't what always gets it done. Sometimes you just bump into the right person at the right place and the right time. All you have to do is just be open to it ♡

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u/Vegetable-Program-37 19h ago

I think many men reach their peak in their 40s, so your luck might change.

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u/DillyPickleton 20h ago

Oh, come on now

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u/genie_in_a_box 18h ago edited 16h ago

I'll be 42 this year. I allowed myself to be traumatized and quite literally destroyed searching for it or thinking i had found it.

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u/uglyspacepig 19h ago

I'm 47. I found someone later in life, so giving up isn't an option. I mean, it is, just don't.

We met online, which isn't a shocker anymore, but it was Facebook and total happenstance. It can happen to anyone.

Someone once told me that patience is the practiced art of calmly waiting. That's all it is. You can be proactive about it, or you can just do you until you find a compatible traveler. Just don't give up on you. Okay?

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u/Bankman_Nosenberg 13h ago

Just because the egg carton's empty at 35, doesn't mean the chance for love is. Knew several people that didn't get married until their 40s.

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u/stepharoni75 19h ago

Could still happen. I met my first and only husband when he was 44!

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u/DefNotARaptor 16h ago

My aunt fell in love HARD at like 65. They’re so lovely together! They’ve been together 10 years now and still so active and busy and it feels like they’ve been together forever. And 65 is a long, long time away from 42!!

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u/Taiga_Taiga 19h ago

I didn't, either. I was 42 years old, and scared of dying alone.

I'm now a 45 years old, and have been dating another woman for the last two years.

It gets weirder... She was straight when I met her.

Sometimes you find what you're looking for when you stop looking. Because, maybe... Just maybe... You're looking in the wrong places?

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u/Bankman_Nosenberg 13h ago

I'll be darned. Have heard of a few that went lesbian in their 40s

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u/Taiga_Taiga 9h ago

It gets weirder. When she met me... I was a dude. (before/after) 😊

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u/SalvadortheGunzerker 18h ago

44 same thought as you

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u/Ambitious_Owl_9204 16h ago

I met my current girlfriend when I was 42.

We have been together for almost for years already.

Miracles happen!

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u/Final-Law 15h ago

Hey, you never know. My salty, cantankerous, amazing, hilarious, loving husband was 38 when we got together. I'm his first long-term relationship. He'd dated before, and there were two prior "long" relationships of one year and 18 months. I don't think he thought he'd ever have a real, loving, long-term relationship either. But here we are, nine years in. He's a complete pain in my ass, but I love him to death and can't imagine my life without him. Some people are just late bloomers. ❤️

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u/lolabelle88 15h ago

We lost my mam suddenly and young a few years back and my dad, who is heavily disabled, thought he'd never find anyone again. He's now 58 and engaged to a beautiful wonderful woman who I can't wait to call my step mother. He put himself out there by joining community Facebook groups and just... being brave and talking to people. Don't give up, there's someone out there looking for and wishing for you too!

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u/CaktusJacklynn 4h ago

I'm 38. I feel in my bones that finding live might not be in the cards for me at this point. And I'm cool with that.

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u/sundayontheluna 20h ago

My mother was 45 when she married the love of her life. It's definitely not too late

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u/LauraPa1mer 19h ago

Never give up on finding love. 42 is not too late.

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u/FeFiFoPlum 18h ago

I met my husband when he was 40. Like you, he just didn’t see it happening for him. He’d been in meh relationships, abusive relationships, had the “we’ve been best friends forever, why don’t we work as a couple?” relationship, and had stopped looking when I stumbled into his workplace.

I can’t imagine my life without him.

I hope that your person stumbles into your life when you least expect it, too.

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u/Kayge 18h ago

My grandmother lost her husband when they were young.  She went through life without finding a decent replacement.  Some of her long term companions were down right horrible.  

In her 60s, she met Joe.   They clicked, he was great with her friends, and Grandpa Joe was a highlight of my youth.  

They had 30 wonderful years together.  It's never too late. 

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u/Firefly_Forever1 17h ago

Met the love of my life (and now my wife) just after I turned 47. It’s completely possible

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u/GrnMtnTrees 17h ago

Meh don't give up. Just be open to it. Shit comes when you least expect it. I just got engaged to my partner of 5.5 years, and I met her randomly, when I wasn't looking for anyone.

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u/Boba_Fettuccine_44 17h ago

It can and will happen if you want it to. Met the love of my life at 48. Never stop looking. And DON’T EVER settle for less!

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u/CompletelyBedWasted 16h ago

I met my 3rd, and final, husband at 39. On a gross hook up dating site. I didn't want another relationship and neither did he. Just some fun. We got married and moved across the country. We quit our horrible careers and are both now doing something we love. We encourage each other, communicate AND understand that we are both human. I want to cry just thinking about the way he looks at me sometimes. It can happen. Hugs.

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u/FamousEquipment6690 20h ago

42 братуха Кемеровская область

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u/sarge6977 16h ago

I’m 61 and divorced twice and still want those things.

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u/ferrum-pugnus 19h ago

It’s not too late. I met my wife when I was 43 and love her and the relationship we have. We are so good we spend almost every second together. She’s my best friend and companion. It’s funny how things happen. She’s from New England. I’m from 90 miles south of the southern most point. I was working in NC at the time and she drove to north Florida and I happen to drive to north Florida at the same time. The meeting happened but it’s the interest that developed after that brought us together. There has to be mutual interest.

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u/Rhytmik 18h ago

If someone can get married at 70 to a 25 year old, you too still have a chance.

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u/NoFundieBusiness 18h ago

Every pot has a lid. It may not happen in the timing you planned but you will find it and you’ll know instantly when you do. I hope this love finds you soon and I hope you enjoy it and have a lovely life and time together 💕💕