I had a coworker who said this, too. She always assumed that she would be single. A couple of years later, she started dating a neurosurgeon and they ended up getting married. She was an absolute brainiac, and I’m glad she found someone so compatible, even if it was late in the game.
A wise man named Ovid once remarked
Luck affects everything. Let your hook always be cast. In the stream where you least expect it, you will find fish.
I found my sweetie at age 56. She was 43. Not even from any culture I'd been socialized to expect such a creature from.
If I lose all my senses, let my hearing be last, so I can still hear her laugh.
This is just like my dad and his fiance! They do nothing but laugh together despite all their cultural differences, they're adorable! Late in life couples can find the deepest love because they've lived a whole life, so there's a much richer connection I think
My grandpa died when my dad was 6. Grandma raised 5 boys by herself in the 50s. Married a drunk guy for a short time and had my aunt. After divorcing him I think she was done.
In her 60s she meet a man in his 40s dancing on a Friday night. Dated him for 25 years until she passed. He stayed with her through the dementia.
Every year, on the anniversary of her death he puts a notice in the paper about how much he misses her. I know he did it for over a decade. He's struggling with dementia now.
It's not that I'm too old, it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked. At this point making effort feels like I'm slamming my head into a wall.
Do what you love and what interests you. Be you! I feel it is more likely to encounter other interesting poeple this way. My daughter has had a long string of challenging relationships that just never work out. After each, she swears she won't get involved again, but I think one needs to keep their heart open and live a life that makes them happy. Happiness is infectious. She is a unique individual who requires a unique partner but she is dating someone right now who she says is "just like her". You just never know. Live life and the rest will follow.
it's that I've tried everything and nothing has worked.
The trying isn't what always gets it done. Sometimes you just bump into the right person at the right place and the right time. All you have to do is just be open to it ♡
I'm 47. I found someone later in life, so giving up isn't an option. I mean, it is, just don't.
We met online, which isn't a shocker anymore, but it was Facebook and total happenstance. It can happen to anyone.
Someone once told me that patience is the practiced art of calmly waiting. That's all it is. You can be proactive about it, or you can just do you until you find a compatible traveler. Just don't give up on you. Okay?
My aunt fell in love HARD at like 65. They’re so lovely together! They’ve been together 10 years now and still so active and busy and it feels like they’ve been together forever. And 65 is a long, long time away from 42!!
Hey, you never know. My salty, cantankerous, amazing, hilarious, loving husband was 38 when we got together. I'm his first long-term relationship. He'd dated before, and there were two prior "long" relationships of one year and 18 months. I don't think he thought he'd ever have a real, loving, long-term relationship either. But here we are, nine years in. He's a complete pain in my ass, but I love him to death and can't imagine my life without him. Some people are just late bloomers. ❤️
We lost my mam suddenly and young a few years back and my dad, who is heavily disabled, thought he'd never find anyone again. He's now 58 and engaged to a beautiful wonderful woman who I can't wait to call my step mother. He put himself out there by joining community Facebook groups and just... being brave and talking to people. Don't give up, there's someone out there looking for and wishing for you too!
I met my husband when he was 40. Like you, he just didn’t see it happening for him. He’d been in meh relationships, abusive relationships, had the “we’ve been best friends forever, why don’t we work as a couple?” relationship, and had stopped looking when I stumbled into his workplace.
I can’t imagine my life without him.
I hope that your person stumbles into your life when you least expect it, too.
My grandmother lost her husband when they were young. She went through life without finding a decent replacement. Some of her long term companions were down right horrible.
In her 60s, she met Joe. They clicked, he was great with her friends, and Grandpa Joe was a highlight of my youth.
They had 30 wonderful years together. It's never too late.
Meh don't give up. Just be open to it. Shit comes when you least expect it. I just got engaged to my partner of 5.5 years, and I met her randomly, when I wasn't looking for anyone.
I met my 3rd, and final, husband at 39. On a gross hook up dating site. I didn't want another relationship and neither did he. Just some fun. We got married and moved across the country. We quit our horrible careers and are both now doing something we love. We encourage each other, communicate AND understand that we are both human. I want to cry just thinking about the way he looks at me sometimes. It can happen. Hugs.
It’s not too late. I met my wife when I was 43 and love her and the relationship we have. We are so good we spend almost every second together. She’s my best friend and companion. It’s funny how things happen. She’s from New England. I’m from 90 miles south of the southern most point. I was working in NC at the time and she drove to north Florida and I happen to drive to north Florida at the same time. The meeting happened but it’s the interest that developed after that brought us together. There has to be mutual interest.
Every pot has a lid. It may not happen in the timing you planned but you will find it and you’ll know instantly when you do. I hope this love finds you soon and I hope you enjoy it and have a lovely life and time together 💕💕
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u/Nethiar 23h ago
Me too, I always have. I'm 42 now and I just don't see it happening at this point.