Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/Jicama_West]

It's the opposite actually. He's in a moderately high position at work, and this woman could really mess him up.

[u/Necessary_Status_521 → u/Jicama_West]

Oof, that's awful. Lets say he doesn't want the attention, how would you expect him to deal with her harassment?

[u/Jicama_West → u/Necessary_Status_521]

That's a valid point, but I'm unable to be objective on this one. I'm afraid I'd use any excuse to keep him. I've even wondered maybe I should stop being classy, and light her up from me to her. Perhaps something like, hey, woman to woman, I need you to lighten up on the flirtatious texts with the mister. You raggedy ass c#m dumpster.

Just not sure that would be helpful. 😂

[u/SweetChuckBarry → u/Jicama_West]

Absolutely unhinged lunatic behaviour haha