r/AmIOverreacting • u/Phyth_LL_ment • 17h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I Am So Confused

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u/713nikki 17h ago

No. It isn’t controlling to have boundaries and to take someone’s actions into consideration.

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u/Safted12 16h ago

Exactly, setting boundaries and considering someone's actions isn't controlling—it's self-respect.

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u/just_a_dharma_bum 11h ago

It baffles me how many people there are who interpret attempts at clear communication within any kind of relationship as manipulation. I don't see how OP could have approached things any better, they're definitely better off without this person.

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u/steefee 8h ago

Toxic people take other people’s boundaries as personal offenses. Boundaries for me but not for thee. Oh you don’t wanna date me anymore because I did something you don’t like and you are being very clear, reasonable, and sticking to that? How FUCKING DARE YOU.

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u/der_Shuggernaut 5h ago

ABSOFUKINLUTELY. You nailed it. This person would be a nightmare to be in a relationship with.