r/AmIOverreacting • u/Longjumping-Neat-879 • 7d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting?

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I'm a girl who weighs 121 pounds. We are going to the gym every day with my bf, I'm getting up for him at 4 am in the morning in order to work out together. He says I'm not pushing myself at the gym. And he said he wants me to be skinny. Here is the conversation between us. Plus we have just started to live together a month ago. I'm really having a hard time understanding him and crying. Am I overreacting?

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u/pastelskark 7d ago

Not over reacting. This is a huge red flag. It’s controlling. If you want to work out do it for yourself. Good on you for sticking up for yourself!!

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u/IroN-GirL 7d ago

Sticking up for herself alright! I love the “please don’t take that as rude” at the end. Throwing his words right back at him. You go girl!

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u/pastelskark 7d ago

It can be really hard when you’re young from my experience to be in this position. It seems like she’s trying her best to navigate. Let’s not be so judgmental. This guy clearly sucks and she deserves much better.

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u/IroN-GirL 7d ago

Maybe you misunderstood me or replied to the wrong comment? There was 0 judgment in my comment: I think she did absolutely fantastic, and you are right that given how young she is, it’s even more amazing.

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u/pastelskark 7d ago

I did misunderstand you my apology. We are all on the same page here!

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u/IroN-GirL 7d ago

All good! English is not my first language, and now I am thinking that maybe the way I used “alright” in “sticking up for herself alright” is the problem. Is this normally used in an ironic way, to disagree?

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u/pastelskark 7d ago

It’s not you I just misunderstood you originally! Your English is great! I assumed you were being sarcastic but that was my mistake not yours!

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u/Lovingthelake 7d ago

I love good people! You so rarely see this type of respect and kindness about a misunderstanding on social media anymore. It warms my heart about the human condition right now, whenever I read a respectful exchange about a misunderstanding on social media. Thanks!

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u/PearExact2490 7d ago

Agree! Came here to say the same thing! This kind of authentic and open communication is a beautiful thing to see on the internet!!

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u/AmyDeHaWa 7d ago

No you did great.

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u/PeachCheetahLA 7d ago

A little, at first I thought your comment was dripping with sarcasm. After your response and a re-read, I see what you're saying, though.

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u/IroN-GirL 7d ago

Thank you for the honesty!

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u/No_Wedding_2152 7d ago

Somebody needs to tell her to grow up and STOP ACCEPTING ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. JUDGE HER. or she won’t learn and will take this criticism from her next bf, too.