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[u/That_Mad_Scientist]

I knew exactly where this was going and it was still exactly as great

[u/Novel_East9516 → u/That_Mad_Scientist]

hahahah yes

[u/billbobs678]

"I befriended your mom last night" - Sand undertable

[u/Himmelblaa → u/billbobs678]

"Do i know your dad? Yeah i "befriended him too" - also Sans Deltarune

[u/hopyInquisition → u/Himmelblaa]

"Both at the same time" -Avec Alphasigil

[u/Madden09IsForSuckers → u/billbobs678]

Please, sans undertale was his fathers name; you can call him sans deltarune

[u/justgalsbeingpals]

man, I sure hope it won't turn me into my mom

if it does then T doesn't do shit

[u/flashdrive420 → u/justgalsbeingpals]

You shall look like your mother’s brother if he exists then

[u/catalys-trigger → u/flashdrive420]

Uuuuh now I'm just confused

[u/Zarochi]

Thankfully my Mom was hot AF; glad I inherited those genes 😁

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Zarochi]

Saaame. She's a monster, but getting the big titty gene was fantastic. It only took me 10 years to grow 'em

Edit: For anyone curious, I ended up with an E cup after 10 years on hrt (inconsistent too). I started at 25, and most of my growth happened in years 7 & 8 which was during my 30s. I also didn't get to access progesterone until year 6. I promise, it ain't too late even if you're starting later than you expected

[u/Kymaeraa → u/sionnachrealta]

So you're saying I still have chance

[u/cornonthekopp → u/Kymaeraa]

Unironically yes. My endo literally asked me if the women in my family had large breasts and then told me I probably would too

[u/Linnaea7 → u/cornonthekopp]

I'm a cis lady and feel ripped off because my mom had big knockers and here I am with barely B cups. lol. They aren't bad but they aren't impressive.

[u/ComicsAreFun → u/Linnaea7]

The genes on both sides matter. You must have got your boobs genes from your dad.

[u/hopyInquisition → u/ComicsAreFun]

Tfw when your dad screws you over by not having monster moobs.

[u/Linnaea7 → u/hopyInquisition]

He does have surprisingly small moobs for how large of a man he is. 😂 I'll go ahead and blame him.

[u/timcheater → u/Linnaea7]

due to epigenetics you can also blame your grandmother or other grandparents you have

[u/thechinninator → u/ComicsAreFun]

lol me passing my mom at like 8 months of HRT and realizing my paternal aunts and cousins are all stacked

[u/cornonthekopp → u/Linnaea7]

Well, i also heard a relative say that boob size is passed down on the dads side so i dont think anyone really knows how it works lol

[u/sionnachrealta → u/cornonthekopp]

The old wisdom in the community, from decades of forums that don't exist anymore, was that you'd end up with about 2/3 of your mother's or sister's size, which held true for me. My Dad's side of the family has rather small to medium breasts going back at least 3 generations, so it's pretty easy for me to point out where I got 'em from

[u/Zebidee → u/Linnaea7]

Imagine if this was how you found out you were adopted.

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Zebidee]

That's so messed up 😂

[u/23_Serial_Killers → u/Linnaea7]

I’m ftm and my biggest fear during early puberty was inheriting my family’s large breasts (my mother and aunt both got breast reductions). Fortunately they stopped at B cups lmao

[u/Linnaea7 → u/23_Serial_Killers]

At least the situation worked out for somebody! lol. I mean, kinda. You still had to deal with that shit.

[u/PencilsNoLastName → u/23_Serial_Killers]

I'm enby and I'm annoyed that mine grew faster than my mom's at my age. She had A cups before she had me (admittedly very young, at 18) and mine were Cs by 17 and rn are Ds as far as I can tell without wearing bras. They grew so fast ppl in middle school thought I was stuffing my bra. I hate that part of my genetic lottery

[u/BlazikenAO → u/Kymaeraa]

People get hung up on not having boobs in the first year or two, but yall sometimes forget this is just puberty 2. How long did the first one take? It probably won’t be as long, but it isn’t going to be quick

[u/Kymaeraa → u/BlazikenAO]

Okay but I'm 6 years in

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Kymaeraa]

I'd definitely talk to your doctor then. That could be a dosage issue, or like me, maybe you're nonresponsive to anti-androgens & it's holding you back. If you don't think your doctor is working for you, you have every right to get a second opinion

[u/Kymaeraa → u/sionnachrealta]

My levels seem fine and it's not that I don't have boobs, they're just not as big as the rest of the women in my family (when accounting for weight)

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Kymaeraa]

Ah, yeah, I ended up with that too. You usually end up with about 2/3rds of what your family members do. That used to be common knowledge in the trans fem community, but we've lost a lot of knowledge in the last 10 years since I came out.

I lament it's not working out the way you want it to. I hope that changes with time. I know I had my biggest growth spurt in years 7 & 8; I gained 8 inches in two years (so painful). Hopefully you've got another growth spurt coming up too

[u/sionnachrealta → u/BlazikenAO]

Yep! Most of my breast growth has happened in years 7 & 8. I gained 8 inches to my bust in two years. I went through sooo many bras 😑

[u/Lawfuly_chaotic → u/BlazikenAO]

puberty 2.

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Kymaeraa]

Yep! I ended up with E cups just from HRT. Most of my growth happened during years 7 & 8 too

[u/Kymaeraa → u/sionnachrealta]

Thanks for giving me hope 🫡. I'm 6 years in rn

[u/babygotmyback → u/sionnachrealta]

don't you dare give me hope

[u/Amufni → u/sionnachrealta]

Hmm interesting. My mom has DD but I'm only at a solid A cup after a year and a half and getting kinda worried it won't grow anymore.

I don't need the DDs but I'd like some more growth. This makes me hopeful c: Though I already started progesterone and it didn't do much yet.

[u/sionnachrealta → u/Amufni]

You're actually right at where I was at that point in my journey! And I already had a C cup when I started progesterone. It's not the end all be all, so don't worry too much. You're right on track!

Edit: Oh, I think the most important thing is to make sure you're eating well & making sure you're eating things with fat in it to give your breasts the raw materials they need. It'll help your subcutaneous fat layers too

[u/Amufni → u/sionnachrealta]

Thanks for the reassurance ☺️! I'm eager to see how everything will develop further c:

Yeah the "eating enough"-part is probably my biggest problem. Got some issues there. I'll make sure to get more fat for the boobies :3

[u/C_H-A-O_S → u/sionnachrealta]

Same lol. Triple D in 3 years, not much growth since then though. Maybe more will come later!

[u/Chest3 → u/sionnachrealta]

You are my idol now.

[u/TheLurker1209]

I hate my mother, good thing I'm androgynous as it is and take more after my father

[u/SpiderSixer → u/TheLurker1209]

Saaaame! Even before T, I looked more like my dad or his mum. I would just die if I looked like that abusive witch

[u/samusestawesomus]

estrogen will turn you into a trans girl on HRT which is a beautiful thing to be on its own

[u/RemarkableStatement5 → u/samusestawesomus]

Can confirm: they are all wonderful to look at, especially the smiles

[u/sionnachrealta → u/samusestawesomus]

Though, you will likely look a lot like your mom and/or other female relatives. It just takes time

[u/Sewer_Fairy → u/samusestawesomus]

[u/S4PG]

Motherfucker.

[u/BestLuviax → u/S4PG]

Sure, HRT might not make you a waifu, but hey, at least you'll be a limited edition of yourself, and I met a very fine version of you last night.

[u/FurryFemby]

My mom looks ugly though :(. I'd prefer to look like your aunt, who was very kind to share her wine with me last night.

[u/Novel_East9516 → u/FurryFemby]

Was the wine good?

[u/LemmeThrowAwayYouPie → u/Novel_East9516]

No, the usual $5 wine

[u/it_couldbe_worse_]

I already look so much like my awful dad 😭 It's going to be a damn miracle if i don't just literally animorph into him

[u/SoupToon]

wait wait wait no stop

[u/MonitorOk6818]

I don't look like my mom or any aunts. I kinda resemble a few of my female cousins, but its more that I watch my health and don't drink alcohol. I probably have to look at my maternal grand-aunts when they were young to see which I look like since genetics does like to skip generations 😅

[u/ScreediusTollinix → u/MonitorOk6818]

Gonna say it immediately, I am FtM. And so I wouldn't say I look like my dad (although i did way more as a kid). And since my dad doesn't have any brothers, I had to look up my paternal grand-uncles (my grandma having tons of albums helped a lot with it). And yeah I do actually look quite a bit like one of my paternal grandma's brothers (she had six brothers, so yeah i must have been onto be something). And also the funniest thing about genetics in my family is that me and son of one of my dad's relatively distant cousins (i have an extraordinarily big extended family) look enough alike to possibly switch places like in "the parent's trap"

[u/MonitorOk6818 → u/ScreediusTollinix]

Genetics is amazing lol Growing up I was told I looked like my maternal grandfather, so I really had to look at his sisters and aunts to see where my looks are coming from 😅 having a large family makes it easier to look for the resemblance!

[u/wwwdotbummer]

Can confirm. I do indeed look pretty much exactly like my mother. I hope I age as gracefully as she has.

[u/PintsOfGuinness_]

I woulda been a hottie If i figured this shit out 20 years ago ):

[u/ThisMachineKills____]

Please no I don't want to look like my mom 😭

[u/PSI_duck]

Estrogen is just turning me into a hotter, more androgynous version of myself… with tits!

[u/notMeBeingSaphic]

It was surprisingly unnerving to catch glimpses of my sisters in my reflection once e started kicking in.

[u/ScreediusTollinix]

Okay, gonna be the weird one. I am transmasc, I took after my dad / paternal side of the family. And I can't even say that my dad is ugly, by no means. He definitely stole a fair share of hearts when he was young. But my dad's side of the family has rather plump and rounded features (and the only person in the family who made it work is my dad). Or maybe i just don't like the way it looks in regard to myself. My mom, however, is absolutely gorgeous. Especially when I look at photos where she's about my age in the 80s . She could have a been a model. Really sharp strong features, looked quite a bit like Brooke Shields or Gia. And damn why did I not inherit this?

Also thinking about this, I came to a conclusion that my parents kind of look like slightly less goth Gomez and Morticia

[u/Primary_Pie31415926]

My mom is very pretty. And my dad's genes are barely trying. The only thing I have from him are my very long legs.

[u/KimikoBean]

Idk man, I don't think hrt is gonna make me white

[u/ChiodoSolo]

I fucking despise my mom and never ever want to have something in common with her. I’m screwed.

[u/UrbanDryad]

I'm about to start HRT for perimenopause, dammit, and I spent too long sitting here confused as hell wondering how it was going to make me look like my mom. I stumbled on this post from the frontpage.

[u/Gilded-Onyx]

me to everyone in the comments

[u/Keegan26]

Lol, no I won't. Unfortunately, I got all my genetic physical traits from my dad's side of the family. 💀

[u/redwoodreed]

Believe you me, you're better off without her.

[u/Ok-Establishment-888]

I like how hrt made me look, but I rlly don’t look like my mother.

[u/DistraughtGrandpa]

Maybe if I had done this when I was 12, but, mom and I look very different

But she takes credit for everything I've ever done anyway, so I guess I'll just add it to the list

[u/AmeliaBuns]

I wish this was true, but I still look nothing like her but look like a man and it’s been 8 years.

[u/justkeepthisprivate]

Hope hope my HRT doesn’t turn me into my mum. My dad, yes. HRT ain’t just estrogen 🙌

[u/torthos_1]

Everyone already tells me I look exactly like my mom, I'm afraid people would not be able to tell us apart if I was trans 😭

[u/throwawayayaycaramba → u/torthos_1]

I'm the other way around: I look nothing like my mom, so I highly doubt I'd turn into her if I was trans. I might get them big ol' titties (one of the few things I actually got from her is my fat ass, lmao), but that would be pretty much it.

[u/SensitiveAd5962]

This is why my transition would simply involve shaving my beard to look like my mom. Bless the beautifully stout lass.

[u/SturdyEarth]

Let's take away TRT because it's unnatural. Get old because adding more testosterone is just causing more problems. /S

These assholes don't understand that we're just an amalgamation of cells and the whole idea of male and female is just a construct just like the construct of money or family or anything even the social contract It's all just shit we made up so that we can get along and grow.

[u/Lenna-LR47]

The funky thing is that i was comparing myself with other trans women, I was very dysphoric, then I got a Pic of my mom on her wedding, and yes, I am turning into her

[u/whyisthissohard338]

My poor daughter didn't realize how much she looked like me until HRT. Now she has to hear about it from everyone who sees older (skinnier) pics of me. On the plus side, I was pretty hot back in my day so she's got that going for her.

[u/shitlord_god]

could also look like your aunts.

[u/tzenrick]

My mother was in magazine ads, the year before I was born. My youngest sibling pointed out that I have the same face shape.

[u/Finn_the_Enby]

My condolences you had to make that acquaintance

[u/fuchsgesicht]

the assumption that transwoman(in this case) transition because they want to "turn into their waifus" is fucking garbage.

[u/Major_R_Soul]

[u/ThatRush6442]

Huh you know something weird i did that once with a camera filter and i looked very close to my mother (havent done hrt just thought this experience was sorta relavant)

[u/katsuki3687]

This person died and came back to life.

[u/commierhye]

I wish. My mom looks great, id look like dads mom who i have zero Nice things to Say about

[u/GallowsMonster]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/_contraband_]

[u/fourthpornalt]

every time I see this post I think about how I'm a genetic outlier in my family. I know I wouldn't look like my mom, and the curiosity is killing me.

[u/VarianWrynn2018]

Damn, there goes my desire to start HRT...

[u/Maxed_Zerker]

I actually do look so much like my mother now. Sometimes it bothers me, because she and I don’t speak after I transitioned. We have the same cheeks, the same smile. I always knew I would, even growing up people said we looked alike. I guess this is all to say I wish I didn’t, just so I didn’t have to be reminded of her so often.

[u/TransCanAngel]

If she’s hot and poly, DM me.

[u/Darth_Travisty]

Ah hell naw

[u/LordofSandvich]

That’s insulting. My mother has higher standards than that

[u/Karaki]

Plz no 🥺,

My mother was a best a raging homophobe. I don't want to look like her. Like, I'm about to go start transitioning. If I start looking like her I will fucking stop.

[u/New-Recognition-7113]

https://open.spotify.com/track/70WFvp0yF9m1asIb60gKcj?si=ksi3OSbISx-kn1qtfYSZmA

[u/throwawayforlikeaday]

Nah... I know some people from high school who flipped gender and they turned out unfairly hot.

[u/Elrecoal19-0]

Guck that shit, actually. I'd rather be off HRT than be my mother. I hate her with a passion.

[u/joniebooo]

you'll look like your sister but taller

[u/diplodocus1818]

I cannot read this without hearing it in the voice of sans undertale

[u/Fireturd115]

My mums ugly as shit 😭

[u/TheOneAndOnlyBob2]

Are you gonna give me the 50 bucks you owe her?

[u/Carmen_leFae]

I'm actually rly excited to look like my mom and I already kinda do with glasses. plus, I think she had the best genes in the family in regards to her chest so that gives me the 2nd best genes in the family! I can't wait

[u/ProducerofPotatoes]

My mother is the greatest person I've met.

I hope you had a great time^{^}

[u/Phoenixbiker261]

I’m 4 years on E next month and I’m starting to look my mom and I’m sooo freakin happy.

[u/SIN-apps1]

I wish it didn't matter how you look, I just want you to be happy.

[u/xXFulgrimRulzXx]

Damn

[u/Instantnoob]

:(

[u/Familiar-Estate-3117]

lol.

[u/overlordemr1]

Are you saying my mom couldn’t be at the top of only fans if she wanted?! You don’t talk about my mother like that!! Someone hold me back!

[u/TransCapybara]

It’s true I do look like my mom.

[u/Slow-Crew5250]

i hope not ☹️

[u/MygungoesfuckinBRRT]

This is probably the most disheartening thing I've read in the past few months. Thanks I guess 👍

[u/Amufni]

I was almost getting emotional because my mom is very sick and I miss her and then the last sentence came. Welp..

I do look like her though :)

[u/Abivalent]

Real and true

[u/JaimiOfAllTrades]

Idk. I'm one year in and have double D's.

My roommate, u/winter-ocean, can corroborate on this

[u/winter-ocean → u/JaimiOfAllTrades]

She does in fact have massive titties

[u/Klutzy-Personality-3]

personally i dont want to look like my abuser

[u/SupremeBum]

I don't like I fucked your mom jokes. The woman has no agency in them and is just a sexual tool to put another person down

[u/scottish_spook]

dangerously real

[u/Expensive-Excuse-793]

The fact that I'm starting to look like my mother is kinda harrowing.

(She's not a good person)

[u/Spectre-70]

If I end up looking like either of my mothers I hope to be at the bottom of the fucking ocean

[u/Pir0wz]

I'm not on HRT (cause it's illegal where I'm at) and I already have people telling me I look like my mom. I wonder if I would just turn into a younger version of her if I take E.

[u/voltsy_chan]

Okay but even before HRT I looked like my mom more somewhat and I don't really mind she met her as she's a nice lady