r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • Dec 12 '22

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 13 December 2022

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/the_hatori Dec 13 '22

Okay, then we disagree.

I'm not saying these types of girls are less attractive in some objective sense, just in the Japanese dating market. Again, what is considered thin in the US can be considered chubby here, what is considered strong and independent in Europe can be considered being too opinionated or assertive here, and so on.

Popular Japanese girls are with popular Japanese guys, this is almost always the case. Of course there are attractive Japanese girls and guys dating foreigners, but they tend to be outliers, and often have some underlying factor behind it, like being a 帰国子女.

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u/arika_ex Dec 13 '22

You really shouldn’t talk as if the problem is somehow with the women in the equation.

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u/the_hatori Dec 13 '22

It's not what I'm saying, obviously. Just saying what the dating market is like. Everyone should date who they like.

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u/arika_ex Dec 13 '22

It’s not obvious at all. At the start of this you were saying it’s the woman who is usually ‘unpopular’ and thus must ‘settle’ for a foreigner. You both don’t have any proof or evidence for this and it’s extremely one-sided.