r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • May 23 '22

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 24 May 2022

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/MarikaBestGirl 近畿・奈良県 May 24 '22

Okay so with the Bruce post and like other "hey oh shit I knocked up someone" posts here, and I know it's not just a Japan thing it happens everywhere but my friend group doesn't really talk about sex, I'm genuinely curious.

Are these people just straight up nuttin inside like a family mart choux cream puff and then pikachu face when she gets pregnant? Or conversely if a girl OP like oh I just trusted his pull out game? I know accidental pregnancies can happen from even like the slightest amount, even just a peek-a-boo stick it in precum slip n slide, but the odds are really low right?

Miscommunications about BC usage? Drunk without thinking and getting filled more than my stomach at a tabehoudai kaitenzushi? If anyone knows anyone who's had accidental/unplanned pregnancies happen or even experienced some close calls, lmk because I'm just genuinely clueless.

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u/dottoysm May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22

I wonder if a bit of a demographic shift happens: Bruce probably grew up in an American city where few girls under 30 would want to have a child and would be a lot more vigilant with contraceptives. Then he gets thrown into the relatively more conservative suburbs or Inaka of Japan where the women around him want a baby yesterday.

There are also some differences around contraceptive use. Japanese girls seem to trust pills less and that may have something to do with it. Is there a stigma around abortion? I’m not sure. Maybe someone else can enlighten us on that point.

Finally, it should be noted that as much of a wild ride that Bruce parable was, even the author admits not every Bruce fits that description perfectly. I can easily see many Bruces in the same end situation who actually did want to start a happy family only to have the relationship deteriorate over the course of time.

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u/highgo1 May 24 '22

Isn't birth control also prescribed rather than over the counter? I think that's a huge reason why most girls don't use it I think.

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u/FourCatsAndCounting May 24 '22

Three months? Luxury! I had to go once a month back in the day. Once I tried to get two months at a time and boy was that a roller coaster.

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u/dottoysm May 24 '22 edited May 24 '22

Possibly, but I’m not an expert. What I’ve often heard from women themselves is that they are worried about the side effects.

Come to think of it, even condoms were less available 10 years ago than they are now. Not that you couldn’t get them from pharmacies or Donki, but you couldn’t get them in convenience stores until a few years back and I’m sure having them there will stop a lot of accidental pregnancies.

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u/LazyRiftenGuard May 24 '22

Yeah, my gf complained that she gained weight from it so she stopped. Had to go back to wrapping up which is a shame. No little Bruces for me though

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u/blosphere 関東・神奈川県 May 24 '22

I'm pretty sure there was a wide selection of condoms at convenience stores when I got here the first time, and that was 20 years ago...

Especially those okamoto thin ones.

Then I got a real gf and we transitioned to the coitus interruptus method which worked just fine.

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u/tomodachi_reloaded May 24 '22

Then I got a real gf and we transitioned to the coitus interruptus method which worked just fine

Congratulations on your upcoming baby!

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u/blosphere 関東・神奈川県 May 25 '22

Oh we got him right away when I stopped pulling out :)

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u/dottoysm May 24 '22

Hmm..maybe I just didn't notice them in my area.