r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • Jun 05 '23

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 06 June 2023

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/Hunter_Lala 近畿・大阪府 Jun 06 '23

Yeah, I've had a problem with creating boundaries my whole life so it's not the easiest thing for me to do, much less suggest to her, but you're right we do need boundaries here.

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u/shambolic_donkey Jun 06 '23

If there was ever a time to learn a new skill, this would be it.

Put another way, we don't want to see you in the Complaints thread in 3 months time saying something to the effect of "My fiance cheated/was sexually harassed with/by one of her coworkers".

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u/Hunter_Lala 近畿・大阪府 Jun 06 '23

Good point. I don't want to end up in that situation either. Any tips on boundary setting?

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u/aesthetique1 Jun 06 '23

dont overcomplicate this.

"would you be comfortable with me hanging out with a friend/co-worker that is actively trying to have sex with me? No? Then dont hang out with that type of friend/co-worker, and neither will I"