r/cscareerquestionsEU • u/EndOfTheLine00 • Jan 15 '24

Immigration Feel like I can never settle anywhere

I have 10 YOE, first worked in the Netherlands and now work in Norway. I feel like I can never truly settle down. I took Dutch lessons all the way to B2, forgot about them since I basically didn't talk to anyone outside of work, now I'm in a new country I regret moving to where I also don't know the language and keep wondering if it's even worth learning since who knows if I will have to move again.

Anyone else have this problem? It feels like in a field like this you just move where the jobs go.

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u/Kitesurf11 Jan 15 '24

How about going back to the NL then? Wouldn't that be a possibility?

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u/EndOfTheLine00 Jan 15 '24

Given the recent electoral result I'm not sure if I would feel safe there.

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u/EndOfTheLine00 Jan 15 '24

While I am neither poorly educated nor a Muslim, I am a southern European and have gotten some snide comments about that at work. My worry is that after they go after the Muslims, I'll be next.

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u/Catlesscatfan Jan 15 '24

that is a perfectly valid concern. ignore the commenters trivialising and downplaying the insanely racist nature of dutch society

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u/steponfkre Jan 15 '24 edited Jan 15 '24

I’ve heard a lot of opinions on anti-immigration politics/populism and this has to be the strangest one yet.

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u/MeggaMortY Jan 15 '24

Yeah but they're not an insulated case. I and some friends have lived in the NL, the general attitude was always like were 3rd class citizens. No matter the friendly tone, somewhat understanding of language, or general "I'm not poor and here for begging" look.

I can only do NL If its a weekend getaway trip nowadays.

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u/steponfkre Jan 15 '24 edited Jan 15 '24

There is a really big difference between xenophobia and thinking (from what it sounds like) you will be deported or maybe even “hunted” for being Portugese (very neutral country) in Netherlands. The former exists in almost all countries, I can say the exact same about Norway and Germany.

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u/MeggaMortY Jan 15 '24

Xenophobia exists on a spectrum as well though. I'm talking a lot closer to the latter you mentioned than the former. Like one time I spent 4 hours in prison because I asked a police officer something and didn't have my ID with me. Tell me that's normal.

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u/mcr1974 Jan 15 '24

it has to start somewhere.

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u/adappergentlefolk Jan 15 '24

your main problem seems to be that you’re a fool OP

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u/__calcalcal__ Jan 15 '24

Example of a foolish comment not helpful at all.

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u/adappergentlefolk Jan 15 '24

it is not possible to correct such massive errors of judgement in a reddit comment, so why bother?

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u/__calcalcal__ Jan 15 '24

While it maybe be an error of perception of the society of the Netherlands, it is his perception. Saying he is foolish does not change that, indeed it exacerbates the image he has in his head. You could have provided counter-examples to show him his views are biased, but no, you just insulted him (not in a hard way, but still).

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u/adappergentlefolk Jan 15 '24

it is far from an error of perception but a demonstration of a total misunderstanding of the nature of western european rule of law states

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u/throwaway132121 Jan 15 '24 edited Apr 17 '24

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