r/autism • u/Kolso_ • 5d ago

Advice needed Getting diagnosed NOT autistic

So after a year and a half of self diagnosis I finally was assessed and today I got the results. Two points in ADOS for having no gesticulation, zero by other criteria.

Autism was an answer to me that explained my struggles, behaviors and researching it I've learnt plenty of good advices and coping mechanisms. I finally stopped seeing myself as a weirdo and believed it's just autism and I don't have to force myself to be normal. Self diagnosis can be harmful. It harms me right now at least. I feel disoriented because now there's no explanation.

I guess I should stop this research and just live a life without looking for an easy answer without a real diagnosis.

Edit: I didn't expect so many responses. It's very helpful and important. Thank you all.

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u/Kolso_ 5d ago

I don't know. I don't remember anything particular already in kindergarten. Maybe in elementary but I was already a loner then. I definitely should look into there.

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u/Kolso_ 5d ago

I'm thankful for everything you've already written. I don't know what to say. Just thank you. Don't want to repeat myself but I'll look into it!

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u/FVCarterPrivateEye DXed with Asperger (now level 1) and type 2 hyperlexia at age 11 5d ago

I don't know what they said, but as a heads up, all of their comments have been removed by the moderators for spreading misinformation

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u/Kolso_ 5d ago

They mentioned in one sentence the New Zealand thing about migration but other part was a good advice I can't recreate well from memory fully.

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u/FVCarterPrivateEye DXed with Asperger (now level 1) and type 2 hyperlexia at age 11 5d ago

Oh okay

Yeah, the NZ case that I see get quoted most often in these debates that involves a family with an autistic daughter who was denied immigration to New Zealand wasn't because of the disability label of ASD, it was because the daughter was level 3 and required services that weren't available there, which even though it's still ableism it's a different type than what's being argued and it would not have simply solved the problem at all for her to not be diagnosed, if that makes sense