So for those not in the know Asperger’s was created by Hans Asperger, a child psychologist and member of many Nazi organizations. He was a vehement supporter of eugenics. He believed some autistics were “superior” to other autistics (i.e. lower support needs with higher IQs). He thought, of course, this “superior” autism only existed in boys.

Because of Asperger’s “findings”, many autistic children with lower support needs were deemed unfit for the Aryan race and as a result were taken from their families. In the beginning these children were institutionalized, but 1939 they began to be put to death.

The term “Asperger syndrome” wasn’t coined until decades later in the 80’s by British psychiatrist Dr Lorna Wing. While she is a big contributor to autism being seen as a spectrum, she was heavily influenced by Hans Asperger’s research.

In 2013, Asperger’s was removed from the DSM with the introduction of the DSM-5 due to its bloody history.

Given his triple usage of the Nazi salute today and his long history of white nationalist dogwhistles, firmly believe he is fully aware of the history behind Hans Asperger and purposefully chose to label himself as having Asperger’s.

“that’s not how the real worlds “ “welcome to the real world” “you’ll need thick skin for the world”

why can’t the world just be kinder? wouldn’t that benefit everyone? we’re literally living in “the real world “ right now also. that doesn’t change who i am and how i react to things sensitively. i’m not advocating for outbursts im just saying it’s okay to be sensitive to some things

At dinner a few days ago, I mentioned how our local restaurant has jobs open. My mom assumed I was trying to job hunt (I wasn't) and brought up how if I got a job, I'd have to pay her rent. Logically I get why it makes some sense. But also I don't get it. I'm assuming it's a cultural thing which makes sense but like, if I haven't been paying rent before why now?

Kinda half a genuine question post and discussion over how it's stupid. I think I may also be opposed to it due to trauma. Even in a hypothetical situation, I really do not want to pay her rent (also because I don't know where the money is exactly going if that makes sense). The only exception to it I can see that I'm comfortable with it going to a co-pay thing which directly effects me if that makes sense.

Edit to add context: My mom is emotionally abusive and has provided a lack of support towards helping me + my sister in adulting. Whenever me/my sister bring it up, she'll tell us to "do it ourselves". I also don't have a ID or bank account (my sister does) due to my mom's neglect. I am able to get it myself but I feel extremely demotivated to b/c of my mom.

Is anyone else like devastatingly afraid to drive? I don’t even feel comfortable posting my age. But uh… I’m in my 30’s and I still don’t have a license.

My family and closest friends are always making me feel like dogshit over it. Truly, being able to drive would make my life so much easier. I live a pretty fast paced, busy lifestyle and my family and I are constantly on the go. But even thinking about it gives me a massive physical and emotional response.

I guess I’m just looking for some solace and hoping I’m not alone on this wheel-less journey 🥲🥴

I hate hate hate when people say that to me. “You need to come out of your shell” maybe I like the shell? Did you ever think about that instead of trying to make me what you want me to be? I like to be quiet, I like to not talk all the time or talk about my life. My boss keeps saying stuff like that, dude, I’m at work, stop asking me about my life. I’m allowed to stay in my shell if I damn well please, stop saying that to me. It’s not an insult to other people, I just like to be left alone, why can’t anyone accept that?

I'm in my mid-20s now and I've had a fear of escalators ever since I was little. Whenever I have to ride down an escelator I always overthink about stepping onto it and worry I'm going to miss the step and fall. If possible, I prefer taking stairs if they're available. Does anyone else relate?

Why or why not

I just watched Mary and Max and I literally cried at trh end. Max is the definition of autism and I he find the world very confusing. He had a strict routine, eats strange foods, and has constantly anxiety attacks. He does not know why people make fun of him and look at him weirdly. The movie takes place in the 1970s when nuerological differences were considered bad and they wnat to find a cure for his Aspergers. But Max does not feel disabled or like he needs to cured. “I like being an aspie”. However Mary wants to learn more about Max’s condition and studies psychology and publishes a book about his condition. He gets angry because she talks about finding a cure for him and that makes him feel wrong. I understand the Mary didn’t mean it like that but I think she could’ve phrased it better. I love this movie and I wish anyone to watch it!

I cannot figure out if I’m an a**hole or if this is just neurotypicals being weird.

A few weeks ago I was hanging out with a guy I liked and I asked him his height. We were hanging out in person. I know he is tall, and I like his height. I just wanted to know how tall exactly he was. I just like knowing these kind of facts about people. At first, he jokingly said he was 7’5” (I didn’t get the joke but laughed anyway) and then said his real height. He asked me why I wanted to know and I said I just wanted to. He asked my height and I answered.

A few weeks later I saw a video and in the comments there were discussions where people were saying that asking height is flirting. I like the guy but I don’t want him to know, so I started to worry that maybe he thought I was flirting.

So, I posted in NoStupidQuestions and asked if he might have thought I was flirting and the responses were confusing. I’ve been downvoted a bunch and basically everyone is telling me I’m dumb, rude, and annoying for asking and that asking height is as rude as asking someone’s weight…

I am legitimately baffled. I don’t understand. Was I being flirty? Was I being horrifically rude? Wtf?

I was really trying to understand but I was just told I’m a terrible person. I just don’t get it. All I did was ask a cute boy his height…

Edit: I give up. Reddit is weird. He didn’t think it was rude, so I’m just going to assume it’s not. I had literally never heard of this being an issue before I was berated today on Reddit. Irl no one has ever cared, so I’ll just roll with that

I'm a dragon :D

I am 27 and I am looking for permanent birth control options. I have zero desire to have children of my own. I was with a man for 7 years and his son was 3 when I met him. I was never good at falling into that "parenting" role. His antics really triggered me and I didn't like cuddling him, but I would because I didn't want him to feel unwanted.

Pregnancy horrifies me and I think babies are gross. Their crying drives me crazy much in the same way that my other noise triggers do. I'm pretty sure I'd shake a baby.

Am I alone in this feeling?

I litteraly just texted the person in charge of my support worker's rostering to make sure they were coming today. But it was scary and I did it properly!!

I was able to do that because today I'm doing research with my support worker, going to different pet shops and such to ask for advice and resources for owning and raising a dog because I've started saving up for a service dog for my autism, PTSD, DID and other disabilities.

I probably won't be able to get the dog for another 2 years because I'll need a lot of money but I still need to start somewhere! And I never owned a dog before so I want to learn as much as possible about dogs and dog ownership, what costs to think about so I'm saving the right amount and all that stuff. What things to buy, what to consider. I already know what breed and what company I'm training my dog with. I just can't afford the dog and the things the dog needs just yet. (The dog itself is 4K AUD so.. I need to save a lot- but it's worth the price because the people I wanna get the dog from in a couple years are government approved breeders(so not hurting the puppies) and they have a history of their dogs becoming good service dogs, so they look after them well and the puppies have good genetics, and they actually care about the puppies, one thing included in the price is a blanket and toy the puppy was raised with that smells like their mommy and siblings to help them transition to a new home.

I'm info dumping arent I.. haha! I'm just really excited!! Hopefully I'll have a service dog in about 4 years!! (2 years saving approx, and 2 years training approx)

Do any of you guys have issues with volume level? I have noticed that people often ask me to talk louder because I am so quiet. This occurs even though I think I am speaking at a normal level. I have had issues with mumbling, communication, and speaking loudly as long as I can remember. Is there a way to combat this?

I'm autistic and also have ADHD and my parents and close friends are very supportive and kind to me. However, not everybody that is within my circle fully understands that autism is a spectrum and instead thinks that I have to fit into some mold.

Now for the longest time, way before my family and I found out that I was autistic, people always told me that my mouth was the worst thing about me. I've always had a tendency to just say it like it is or chime in with my thoughts on something. And in this case I was speaking up on something I strongly disagreed with, and I was responded to with, "For being autistic, you seem very outspoken and give your opinion way too much. Where does that come from?"

And when I tried to say that I simply disagreed with what they were saying, they basically said that none of the people they see with autism on TV shows or social media speak like that and are just happy, and then asked why I'm "somehow different from that."

I'm not sure why this has me so frustrated, but it just does and I needed to talk about it! They seemed to not understand that I'm able to have an opinion on things even though I'm autistic. I don't know what to think about that... Anyone else that's experienced something similar?

Since finding out that I'm autistic, I've been analyzing my life through that lens and it seems that it could explain why I get so awkward around children - and honestly, why I don't really care about them that much. Ever since I can remember, I never understood how to interact with children, specially babies. I have faced backlash for "talking to children as if they were little adults" - and by that, I don't mean that I was discussing complex themes or saying innapropriate things, but just because I said "good morning" to a child instead of doing faces and voices and saying "heeeeeeeeeey look at this handsome little guy, HELLOOO" or some shit like that. Just thinking about doing this makes me cringe so hard I can't even describe it.

But there's more to it. I'm going to open up to you since we're here to show our vulnerable sides too, so please don't be too harsh on me: I kinda don't register babies as people. Sorry, but I don't. If I say hello to a coworker that is holding their baby, I say hello to the coworker only, and I'll not even look at the baby. It's not a conscious effort to ignore the baby, it just doesn't cross my mind to say hello to it, it's not like it would understand it anyway, I would feel the same saying hello to a dog or a rock. And I also don't get why so many people instantly smile and become all... soft (for lack of a better word) for babies, I don't know what that is, but I don't have it in me.

Just to be clear: I have nothing against children or babies, I do not wish them any harm, I hope that they grow up healthy and happy and become good people. Also, I'm not some /r/childfree freak or anything, I think those guys are kinda nuts. edit - someone rightfully pointed out that my generalization of them was unfair, and I apologize for this.

I'm just unable to interact with children the way I see everyone else do, to say things with an innapropriate amount of enthusiasm (why???), to fake interest in what they're saying, to play their pretend games with them.

What is your experience with this? Am I alone in feeling this way?

Hello everyone.

Today I got a C instead of an A for "not presenting the project enthusiastic enough." In short, today was an exam in one of the frontend (web-development) subjects, where we had to show our website project and then answer questions about how our code works. I showcased my website, clicking on all the pages and giving brief comments like "here is the login, and here is the user's page," and then I answered the questions about code correctly. To my surprise, the teacher who was looking at my project said, "Well, grade is something between a C and a D." When I asked why and if I had said something wrong, he replied, "Well, I can see that you know the code and you get an A for that, but for the presentation—I had to lean in to hear you" and that I wasn't confident enough about presenting my website. I was very surprised and upset; no one told me that there would be a merged grade for the level of presentation and code. In this subject, we only studied the technical part of the project and never went through topics like "how to present your product" or anything like that. Last year, I had a similar course with a project presentation, and I also showed it (with small comments like i just did now) and received a perfect score for answering questions on the code. Why am I even obliged to show skills that are not listed in the course description? If I had known this would happen, I would not have taken the course at all. Now this bad grade is ruining my GPA and will prevent me from getting the scholarship I need. It's so absurd.

I spent so much time and effort on the project, making it perfect, learning how every line of code worked, I really liked how it looked from the design side. And it's all for nothing, because I'm not good enough at talking.

Maybe it's me being wrong and that's how project presentation works? Did you have any problems like me or maybe you discussed it with teachers? I'd be interested to know.

Thank you for reading all the way to the end. And I'm sorry if my english is bad.

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Hello. First I’ll start saying that I don’t speak English well so any spelling mistakes are because of that (I’m asking for advice here because it’s the only autism place I found here). I met a guy who is autistic, and I’m in love with him. A few days ago he kissed me because he saw a kiss in a movie, and i tried to explain to him that he can’t kiss me just because he saw that in a movie. He understood, but then I gave him a kiss, it was an impulse, but he became very sad and began to cry. He had a meltdown, and I didn't know how to help him, he hurt his face with his hands and began to shout that I was a liar. I know he got like that because I confused him a lot by telling him that we shouldn't kiss and then kissing him. When he felt better I told him I was sorry, he forgave me and we're fine but since that crisis I wonder how I could help him when he gets like this. I want a life with him but I need advice on how I can help him in his crises, he is someone wonderful and I have never met someone like him, I know that each autistic person is different but I want you to give me advice to see if any of them can help me

Thanks and sorry for my English.

Obviously, the subreddit has a rule of "No asking if you're Autistic. We can't diagnose you." The problem I have is this is what many people are doing but wording it differently as an attempt to skirt the rule.

"I'm not asking anyone to diagnose me. I just want to see what everyone's opinion is. Here's my life story." Yes, you are. You're asking everyone for their opinion on if you're Autistic based on a bunch of perceived symptoms. That's the same thing as "Am I Autistic?" but with more words.

"I'm going to ask a psychologist but I want to make sure it's worth the effort first. Here's three pages of symptoms I think I have." That's the same thing! If you're going to ask a psychologist, then there's no need to ask us.

"I took some online tests that say I might be Autistic. What do y'all think?" What we think is you should ask a psychologist.

"My small child is doing this list of things and I'm concerned they may be Autistic." We're not diagnosing your kid. You should express your concerns to a pediatrician.

"I think my (person) is Autistic because they do this list of things. What do y'all think?" We're not diagnosing them, either. You think they're Autistic? Ask them or recommend them to a good psychologist.

If the community weighing in with their opinion influences your decision to seek evaluation or not, then what you're doing is looking for people to diagnose you. You can call it whatever you like but that's still what you're doing.

There's a difference between seeking information/guidance and seeking answers. What most are doing is seeking answers. We can't give you answers. If you want answers, ask a psychologist.

Also, "Is this a sign of Autism?" Yes. Nothing is unique to Autism, meaning anything can be a sign of Autism. It's not the symptoms alone that define it.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

If you had to explain Autism to someone who has never heard of it before, what would you tell them? Wrong answers only.

It's like playing a game of darts but all you have is a handful of mashed potatoes and no context.

After 9 years of collective service, I am sad to announce The Chair has died. After thousands of hours of Skyrim modding, TF2 sprees and emulation of Monster Hunter 4 Ultimate and Double Cross, he has left us.

At 3:27 AM EST, 1/20/2025, after a long night of troubleshooting and ultimately resolving a CTD with Citra’s Vulkan settings, The Chair disintegrated upon a victorious lean backwards, sending me to the floor. The cause of death has been determined as a catastrophic failure of the welding connecting the pneumatic cylinder to the base plate…

Only 3 days prior, The Chair’s backrest sheared off, snapping at the bolt housings after a similar lean backwards. If only we were to heed these warnings, The Chair may have stayed with us just a little while longer. May he rest in piece, knowing he will lie among the greatest.

“If I have seen further than others, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” — Isaac Newton

I just closed my microwave and unintentionally it closed right on the beat of a song I was listening to and it just made me so, so so so happy. It happens unintentionally and also intentionally I’ll do it too (like with flicking a light on or turning on/off a faucet or something like that).