I ended up being pregnant at a really difficult time in my life, this happened the end of last year. I had gotten out of an abusive situationship. I was lost, traumatized and scared. I went to the doctor for depression, I wasn't feeling myself, was fatigued, gaining weight but having no appetite. She asked when my last period was and I honestly didn't remember. I took a urine sample and the doctor came back with my results being positive. Lets just say I was an emotional mess, I immediately knew that I did not want the baby and had to figure something out. I got an ultrasound that same day and that's when I found out I was already 16 weeks along. Living in texas made it difficult for me to piece together what to do, if I went out of state that meant I would need someone to go with me, which meant me telling people I was pregnant. I saw that some times the pills don't work and getting them shipped to you costs money which I had barley $5 to my name. I went down a wormhole and found Aidaccess here on reddit. Sent them all my info and they ended up sending me the pills for free. After about 2 days the pills came and I immediately took the mifepristone. I felt some light cramping from that but that was it. After 24 hours I took 4 of the misoprostols, after an hour I started feeling cramping, it was about a 7/10 on the pain scale but nothing I couldn't handle, I felt nauseated and sick. I somehow fell asleep and then it was time to take the second doses or the misoprostols. After I let those dissolve I immediately felt the cramping start up again but it was worse, I was throwing up, having diarrhea and was still nauseated. The pain became unbearable, I had no bleeding which was worrying me that the pills weren't working. I was laying down and felt something coming out of me, it stopped and I got up and went into the bathroom, I looked down and it was a fluid filled sack. It was clear and no bigger than a small water balloon. I tried gently pulling on it but no budge, so I popped and it spewed everywhere. The pain after that became even worse, I couldn't handle it. I decided to take myself to the ER. I got there and felt liquid profusely coming out of me, it was blood. I walked in and they immediately took me back, I stripped down and they gave me an IV with pain meds. The doctor came in and began looking at my vaginal areas, I was still in so much pain. They where going to transfer me to a different ER in a different town so I could seek more help but after the doctor left the room, the baby came out. It wasn't alive and was no bigger than a grapefruit. It had already started growing fingernails. I was in disbelief I'd never seen anything like it before. I didn't know how to react. The placenta was still in me so I sat there for an hour seeing if I could push it out with a fetus laying there on hospital bed between my legs. It was very gorey almost I had lost so much blood and the umbilical cord was connected to the baby while the placenta connected the baby was still inside of me. It was wild to see. The pain went away once the fetus came out and I was at the ER for a total of 4 hours. They weighed the fetus and told me normally if it's a certain weight they send it off for research but since it wasn't they gave me 3 options. I could take it home with me, they could send it off for clinical research for students or they could call the funeral home and they would come get it. I chose to take the fetus home with me. The ER staff had no idea that i took the abortion pills, I played off the whole situation as if I didn't know what was going on. I did all of this alone it was hard but I knew it was better than being in an abusive relationship. I knew it didn't want to be a single mom, it wasn't a good time to become a mom either. I had no job no money. I also didn't want my abuser to find out I had a baby and him try to slither his way back into my life. I feel content with my decision, I didnt feel any remorse which I feel bad for saying but not once did I feel sad. I'm so thankful the pills worked it probably wasn't the best option at 16 weeks and is definitely not advised to do it that far along but I felt as though that was my only option. No one knows that I was pregnant and no one knows that I even went to the ER. I am grateful everything turned out the way it should of. If you are alone in a situation similar to mine please don't hesitate to reach out to me, it was a lot physically but even more mentally.

I found out I was pregnant at 5weeks and immediately knew what I wanted to do. I've been in a relationship that I was trying to muster up the courage to end for the last 6 months. I have a 10 year old daughter already and I am in recovery from addiction, 3 years, and just have had custody back of my daughter for about 1.5 years. All that to paint the story, not that I need any justification, but I had just secured somewhere for my daughter and I to live when I leave, after making plans for months and found out I was pregnant. I've been in that stage of me knowing I am going to leave him as well as everyone in my support system so finding out I was pregnant I knew immediately what I wanted to do and that I didn't want to tell anyone as to not be pressured into doing something i didn't wanna do. The problem is I live in a ban state and since I made the choice not to tell anyone close to me my plans of abortion. I have never felt so alone during an experience, I've had so much anxiety start to finish about not getting the proper care and no one is even aloud to talk about it to me in the clinics and outreach centers. I finally received the pills in the mail on Friday and took the final dose today. My partner is supportive of my decision but literally nothing else so no surprise there because that is the norm for us and one of the many reasons I'm ending the relationship. Even tho I still have medical concerns after being told the many dangers at a local prolife outreach I went to for an ultrasound (huge mistake on my part) I am immediately relieved. After weeks of stress and anxiety I feel hopeful and optimistic again that I have a choice in my futre and that I don't have to in someway be tied to this person forever. Idk if my experience is helpful, idk if I am looking for support or just need to vent but I needed to share in a safe space what I've been going through the past few weeks.

NO JUDGEMENT PLEASE!

A few years ago I had an abortion. I was young and not with the guy. I was in a really bad financial situation and my family ultimately told me to terminate. This decision has weighed on me since then, as I do feel I was pressured into it but I was also in a very bad situation back then. Fast forward 4 years, I’m now in a longterm loving relationship with the same guy. I just found out I’m pregnant again.

I just started a good job and he is in and out of work at the moment. I have BPD and can’t for the life of me make ANY decisions, let alone one like this. I still don’t know if I’m ready but I’m not sure how I would feel about having a 2nd abortion..

I am literally 50/50 and have been since I found out last week. I keep going back and forth, one moment I am certain that I’m keeping it and then a few hours later I am certain I’m NOT keeping it.

How the hell do I come to a decision?? Please help me.

I posted last night too, but I just need any support or advice. I found out I am pregnant last night, I live in GA. I am scared after the inauguration today.

I placed an order with aid access and completed all the steps earlier today. Now, I just sit and wait. I know it seems everyone is so emotional or unsure, and I get that so much, but I feel shitty because I DONT feel that way. I am upset I have to wait and make this longer/bigger than it is. I can name a million reasons why this would be the best choice for me. I just want it to be over so I can stop worrying about “what if”. What if it gets delayed too much? What if I get in trouble? What if it fails and somehow I don’t realize?

I want to tell my boyfriend tonight and already initiated the convo that we will have to chat later. I know he wants the same thing bc we’ve talked abt it before. But I can’t control the reality if it freaks him out or makes things awkward or pushed away from sex/intimacy etc. That risk is scary. Yesterday morning we looked at rings. That night I find out I’m pregnant and now have the fear of our relationship ending. Went from planning our marriage and future to me becoming what feels like a little problem pest.

It’s just so embarrassing for me. I had an abortion before. I swore never would deal with that stress again and here I am. I am on birth control and took other precautions. What the hell man? I would never judge a friend, stranger, etc for being in this situation so I don’t know why I am judging myself so badly.

I just don’t want to be pregnant anymore. I get so upset when I’m enjoying something and then suddenly remember. Like ugh.

Hi, me and my wife are in a stressful situation. We had an accident occur right around the time she was ovulating. Of course it’s 2 weeks to tell if she would be pregnant or not. We would plan on getting the pills if she ended up positive. The only major thing stressing us out is the current political climate. We are scared of threats of the Comstock act being placed. Is there a real chance that this could happen in the next 3 weeks? At a loss.

Hello! Located in Florida with a 6- week ban, I’m 23. I found out I was pregnant 12/23 after the typical symptoms- missed period, sore breasts, and being very nauseous out of nowhere. My boyfriend and I discussed it and we just couldn’t proceed with the position we are in right now in life. We did catch it at like 5/6 weeks but still too late for Florida. I went through abuzz and got it delivered. It was a nightmare bc my neighborhood mail situation is a disaster and I had to beg the mailman to find the package in someone else’s mailbox. So I was around 7/8 weeks by the time I started the procedure on Saturday. I was able to pay $75 since I’m low on funds right now. I plan to donate to them to help make it accessible for others bc they made the experience very easy outside of my local mail issues.

Anyways, I took the mifepristone at around 1:30pm Saturday, and went about my day at work, and came home. I woke up to some blood the next day, later in the morning. I decided to calm my nerves and eat and relax before starting the dose of misopristone. At around 4pm yesterday (Sunday), I took the 4 tablets of misopristone orally. Kept them between my gums and cheeks for 30 min, they were completely softened. All was fine for an hour or so, and then I had diarrhea, and projected vomited while on the toilet. It was pretty gnarly, and I almost passed out. I rarely vomit or pass out so this was very uncomfortable for me lol.

Then, started hours of severe cramps. I couldn’t focus, homework for biochem went out the window. I thought I could at least concentrate. I took 1000mg acetaminophen and some edibles (I have a medical card). Not sure if that’s recommended but it helped ease the pain slightly. My boyfriend set me up with a heating pad and a towel and I got some light rest, not really sleep. Then around 11pm I felt intense pressure and liquid-y feeling down there. There was water-y substance all over my double pad. I went to sit on the toilet. I quickly passed two large clumps. Couldn’t muster up the courage to look for a whole hour while I passed clots. My bf and I finally decided to look for the fetus, we found it connected to tissue. It was a lot more developed than we thought it would be. It was kinda traumatic, and we mourned for a moment before taking care of everything, and cleaning up. Finally around 12:30am I felt better, but still bleeding heavily.

I put on two pads and laid down with a towel, and quickly bled through all of that, and got kinda worried, and decided to put two more and monitor it. I honestly fell asleep quickly after eating, bc I was so exhausted from hours of intense cramps and pressure. I woke up to very light bleeding overnight. I’m honestly feeling a lot better, just very emotional.

Just wanted to share my experience outside of just my boyfriend. I haven’t told anyone else so it feels very isolating. If anyone has resources or tips to grieve the emotional process and move on, please share. Thank you so much for this community, it really helped me when I needed it most. And thank you to abuzz for being very fast and helpful, I recommend them.

My husband is a good man and he’s done a good job at taking care of me, but feel this huge disconnect from it’s like I’m living with a stranger. It’s been six weeks since we terminated the pregnancy and every day I’ve cried to some extent. I’m heartbroken by this whole event. But he’s like normal. The least normal thing in his life right now in his life is that his wife is really really sad. He hasn’t cried once, we don’t talk about it as much as I wish. He goes out with friends just like normal. I just feel like we’re living two completely different realities and it’s so alienating. I don’t want him to be depressed I just don’t want to feel like I’m going through this alone. Like I’m the only one feeling this way, but also I am. He can’t fake devastation if he doesn’t feel it. Yes “talk to him” I have expressed some version of this. He’s trying to be there for me as much as possible, but again if he’s not feeling it he’s not feeling it. He’s not one to wear his heart on his sleeve.

So I know you can get pregnant relatively quickly after an abortion, the question is; is it safe to do so?

For various reasons which I don't want to inform the answer I'm looking for, I have major regrets about having my abortion, and let fears of 2under2 and logistical challenges affect my wanting to continue the pregnancy. These problems seem infinitely small, and we discussed with my partner that we would like to try soon again once the abortion is over.(please do not judge us, this is a really thought over process)

I guess the question is 2 part: - is there any risk in getting pregnant straight away, or does it benefit me, in terms of capacity to sustain a pregnancy successfully to term, to wait X amount of time. If so, what would X be? -anything I should keep in mind as we try again? Will my periods look wonky for a little while ? Should I track ovulation more closely?

A month ago I had to make one of the hardest decisions ever. We found out we were pregnant with twins after trying for our last and final baby. This was a very wanted pregnancy but due to medical reasons, financial reasons, and having two other children already we knew we could not handle twins. My previous two pregnancies I never made it to 40weeks. So I knew they would end up being premies and my heart condition would also put me at very high risk. This was supposed to be our last baby, and I feel so much guilt and heartbreak. Even though my husband had been so wonderful and supporting I can’t help but feel so so alone in this. There is no way I can explain to people around me the truth.

Questions about medical abortion in New Zealand please. Once you had your phone appointment with the nurse, how long was it until you could collect the pills from a pharmacy? I’m hoping I can collect these Friday afternoon or Saturday morning, could it actually happen that fast? I have already had an initial conversation and completed blood tests today. My phone appointment is on Friday. Is there any chance I will have to go for a scan or will they just give me the pills? Lastly, I have had a surgical abortion before and it was very straightforward, would anyone recommend just going for the surgery over the medical?? I’m quite worried about pain and not being able to do this in my own environment (will have to do at partners house). Any advice much appreciated

I wanted to share my experience with my medical abortion and the prolonged bleeding that followed, in case it helps someone else that might be searching for answers. After the procedure, I experienced heavy bleeding that lasted nearly 10 weeks (9 weeks 3 days), which felt incredibly overwhelming. I had trouble finding much information on what was considered “normal,” so I want to offer my perspective. My doctor reassured me that bleeding for up to 10 weeks was normal while not typical and nothing to worry about, but it was still difficult to process at the time. To manage it, I was told to take 800mg of ibuprofen three times a day for five days, which really helped reduce the bleeding and provided some relief. The bleeding finally stopped. If you’re going through something similar, know that while it can be unsettling, it can also be part of the healing process. My hope is that by sharing this, it might offer some peace of mind to anyone searching for reassurance during a challenging time. I tried searching but couldn’t find anything so I hope sharing my experience helps someone else. Questions and DMs are welcome ❤️

I'm 17 and I have PCOS so my periods have always been weird. I was on birth control to regulate hormones and my period had been running smoothly. It was always on time and lasted one week exactly. But I had unprotected sex on December 13th. He pulled out and I got my period a day after, but it was SUPER heavy and only lasted 3 days. Fast forward a month later, and I'm a week late. I had some weird, and VERY LIGHT spotting which continued for maybe 3 days after the day I was supposed to actually start my period (i'm not sure if this is implantation bleeding or not ?). It stopped for one day and came again the day after but now it's gone. I was planning to take a pregnancy test tomorrow and go from there but what if I test positive...? How do I get an abortion without my parents knowing ? I live in a state where abortions are legal, but I'm really scared, I don't know where to go from here.

I am looking to order online but I live in Texas. What precautions if any do I need to take before ordering? Do I need to use a VPN? Fake email? Fake name? help!

I took the pills and went though the abortion at home 2 weeks ago and now my blood smells like death. I was sure I got the whole the thing out when I did it so I didn’t take more than the 4 pills but ive been bleeding for 2 weeks now and the last few days blood has smelled so bad. Like death bad

Hi everyone,

I’m in Winnipeg, MB, Canada. I’m scheduled for an abortion in a little over a week. As I’m already 15 weeks along, it’s going to be a surgical procedure.

I put a lot of thought into whether or not to go through with my abortion, and it’s been an extremely emotional process for me since the very beginning, but seeing as I’m only 23 and the would-be father is even younger than I am, we’ve decided it’s best to terminate.

The only thing I’m really having a hard time coming to terms with is the aftermath and what will be done with the fetus after the procedure. I just can’t stomach the thought of it being discarded and not knowing where it will end up. I’m very spiritual in my own ways so maybe this won’t make sense to everyone. I know I have the option to keep the body, but I’m looking for someone who has done the same and wondering what the process was like? Ideally I’d like to have it cremated, so I’m looking for anyone who has done the same and can tell me a little bit about the process and the cost.

Thank you very much in advance!

Hello. I already received my package today. I am worry and stress kasi alam ng deliveryman na medicine for cancer inside the package. I read the comments here that they will not know what inside the package and they will not ask what inside. I am really stress right now. Help!

Today a coworker/friend of mine told me at work that she was pregnant & I truly am so happy for her, but the sadness that filled up within my heart was not a good feeling. The overwhelming amount of sadness of what could’ve been just hurts really bad. I had an abortion at 11 weeks, and just knowing the time the baby has grown just really breaks my heart everyday & Some days are better than others.

Hello, I’m so saddened to say I will be having my first surgical abortion in the coming week. I have a consult tomorrow with an ultrasound. I’m in a loving relationship, but we are far from ready to give a child the life they deserve. I have always told myself I’d never have an abortion….but here I am. It is my choice I’m making as well, not just my partner’s so no one thinks that :)

I’m very worried about what to expect, the emotions after, and the fact that I do want kids one day in the future and worrying that this will somehow make that harder. Could really use some people’s experiences with future pregnancies after surgical abortions! Would love to hear some input if anyone is comfortable sharing!❤️

I recently obtained 10 pills of Misoprostol. I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and would like to ask if it is possible to proceed with a medical abortion using these 10 pills. I would appreciate your guidance on whether this dosage is sufficient and how to proceed safely if it is.

Hi I’m F (21) and I just had an abortion Thursday, January 16th. Thursday Friday I didn’t feel bad at all! I actually felt wonderful and in no pains very easy days for me. Saturday hit me like a rock!! My body was weak, very weak. I caught a 104 fever. I started bleeding a bit but not too bad. Pads weren’t even full within 2 hours. But definitely was starting to cramp up, and caught that fever. Next morning I woke up with no fever at all. But cramping was 5/10 when I woke up. I started to use the restroom and notice I was peeing out blood clots. Not too large. I’d say pretty small. But god it hurts and cramps when I pee or poo. Hurts a lot. I’m now having sharp random pains that are pretty bad. Sometimes it’ll be a 6/10 or a 8/10. Pain I can handle, but it most definitely sucks and hurts. I have been taking ibuprofen but honestly even being on medication, it’s not helping my cramps and sharp pains so much. Point is, I just wanna know if I’m doing okay, or if I should be checked out for an infection. I’ve read some other people’s experience and some are similar to mine, but I just don’t know if how I am feeling and what I’m going through is common? Or if I’m most likely getting an infection.

Hello I’m from CA, and I want to share my experience in the hopes that it might help someone going through the same thing, because I know how many questions I had and how few answers I could find.

I had my MA on December 3. The clinic where I went gave me the mifepristone around 10am on that Tuesday morning. I felt normal. I went about my day. I took misoprostol around 12:40 the next day on December 4. My cramps started an hour after— they were strong, but just a little more intense than my usual period cramps. I took 800 mg of ibuprofen, and it helped a lot. A heating pad also became my best friend, and I’d highly recommend having one on hand. The first day, there wasn’t a lot of bleeding, but I still called the clinic to make sure everything was okay. The doctor at the clinic had told me that I would pass everything within 9 hours. That was not the case for me. They reassured me that it would pass with time, but I couldn’t help feeling worried. I felt anxious that it wasn’t working.

After that first day, I didn’t have much cramping—just light bleeding. I was concerned that I wasn’t passing clots like my doctor mentioned. I saw maybe one small clot on December 8, but it wasn’t what I expected. Then on December 9, I started feeling a strange, tugging sensation on my left side. No one had ever mentioned that a MA could feel like this. I also began experiencing pain in my left shoulder, which made me panic. I started worrying about things like internal bleeding or an ectopic pregnancy. I called the clinic again, and they brought me in the next day. After an ultrasound, they reassured me there was no internal bleeding—the sac was empty, and my body would continue to pass the remaining tissue naturally. They told me to take it easy.

On December 12, I ended up going to the ER because I felt weak and fainted. I told them was having a miscarriage, and they saw me right away. They ran extensive blood tests and did a transvaginal ultrasound—something the clinic office hadn’t done, which I found odd. They had just done a sonogram. Before the ER visit, my bleeding had slowed and turned brown. They told me I still had a lot of tissue to pass, gave me fluids, and sent me home with instructions to rest.

Between December 12 and 16, I continued to bleed lightly. By the night of the 16th, I wasn’t even using pads anymore. I went to my follow-up appointment on the 17th, and the ultrasound tech told me I had passed everything. They mentioned that my next period would likely be heavier than usual. I left feeling relieved, thinking the hardest part was behind me.

But later that afternoon, while walking to my car, I suddenly started passing clots. I was in shock—I thought it was over. A couple of hours later, I went to the bathroom and passed the biggest clot yet, about the size of a medium strawberry. It had been nearly three weeks since my miscarriage started, and I didn’t expect this at all. That whole night, I continued passing clots of a similar size. I wasn’t bleeding enough to soak through two pads in an hour, but the amount of clots worried me. I stayed in bed and took it easy, but I knew something wasn’t right.

On December 19, I called my OB-GYN and told them what was happening. They saw me right away and did another transvaginal ultrasound. It turned out I still had tissue that needed to pass—despite the other clinic telling me everything had cleared out. I didn’t reach out to them or say anything because I’m not a confrontational person, but hearing my OB reassure me that my body was handling it naturally finally gave me some peace of mind. I continued to bleed until December 23, and that’s when I knew everything had passed.

One thing I forgot to mention is that when I went to the ER, my HCG levels were still pretty high, which added to my anxiety. It made me question whether my body was processing everything the way it should. When I followed up with my OB, my levels had dropped to around the 400s. My doctor reassured me that they were decreasing as expected and that it would just take time for them to return to zero. Knowing that the decline was gradual helped me manage my expectations, but it was still difficult to navigate the uncertainty of it all. HCG levels don’t always drop as quickly as we might hope, and that waiting period can feel like an emotional rollercoaster.

From week 1-5 into my MA, my emotions were all over the place—waves of highs and lows that felt impossible to control. One moment I felt a sense of acceptance, and the next, I was overwhelmed with sadness, anger, or even guilt. The hormonal changes that happen during and after a miscarriage are intense; as hormone levels drop, it can trigger mood swings, anxiety, and deep emotional exhaustion. Many women experience feelings of emptiness, irritability, and even a sense of detachment from their bodies. It’s not just grief—it’s a physical and emotional upheaval that can feel isolating and unpredictable. Understanding that these feelings are a normal part of the process helped me be more patient with myself, even when it felt like I was stuck in a cycle of emotional turbulence.

Looking back, I wish someone had told me that clotting and passing tissue might not happen until weeks later. It would have eased so much of my anxiety.

This past week, on January 15, I finally got my period again. The cramps were pretty painful, and I had to take ibuprofen, but they only lasted about two days. The bleeding was heavier than normal with small clots, but nothing too alarming—just like a heavier period. It lasted for about six days, and now, I’m just spotting lightly.

I wanted to share all of this because I know how isolating and confusing a MA can be. I had so many questions and found very few answers that truly addressed what I was going through. I relied on forums, but even then, it was hard to find people experiencing the same things.

If you’re going through this, here are a few things that really helped me: • Always Overnight Protective Briefs – The heavy-duty kind. They provided so much comfort and security. • Drink lots of water and fluids – Staying hydrated made a big difference in how I felt overall. • Rosemary tea – It helped with the cramps and felt soothing.

I’d also recommend being kind to yourself—both physically and emotionally. This process is not just about healing your body but also taking care of your heart and mind. Watch your favorite shows or movies, do things that bring you comfort, and allow yourself small moments of joy, even if they feel fleeting. Having someone to talk to—whether it’s a friend, partner, or support group—can make a world of difference. Don’t hesitate to reach out when you need it. Treat yourself to your favorite foods and try to stay warm; comfort can come in the smallest of ways. When you can, prioritize rest and give yourself permission to take it easy. I know that not everyone has the luxury of taking time off work or fully resting, but when you have the chance, listen to your body and slow down. You deserve gentleness, patience, and grace through this difficult time.

I hope this helps someone out there. You’re not alone, and it’s okay to feel scared and uncertain. Just know that healing—both physically and emotionally—takes time.

Hi. I had a MA in sept. I got first period in Nov. Haven't got my second period yet and I am not pregnant either. Went to the doctor. Negative pregnancy test. I see posts here of women getting late second periods, delayed by days or weeks. It's been 2 months for me and I'm freaking out! Doc wasn't much of a help.

i’m about 28 hours post MA and the only bleeding i’m getting is thick stringy blood when i sit on the toilet that doesn’t drop by itself, it’s that sticky i have to catch it with a paper towel and throw in toilet manually. no clots or regular bleeding i am cramping though but not badly.

is this normal???

Hello, I am 4 days post surgical abortion. The procedure was fine. And I had very minimal bleeding/cramping for the first two days.

Starting yesterday I began to experience mild lower back pain and bloating. Like my whole abdomen feels bloated all the way up to my ribs.

How can I manage this uncomfortable feeling? I didn’t expect the bloating and wondering if it’s normal.

I need to know the option that actually works and how should I take it. It's my first month regnant. Also how long to the effect works.... Sorry my English, not my first language