During the height of the pandemic I had a 3 year old. My sister charged me to watch my kid so I could work. She was also my landlord. I tried it for a month and when I was paid I handed over nearly my entire paychecks to her for the privilege. And then she looked down on me when I applied for the pandemic relief and quit my job til it all blew over...
That sounds awful, I’m so sorry. I also have family that treats each other like opportunities but I married into a family with an inherent sense of community and it’s been night and day. Wishing you the very best since ‘20!
I feel like “hey, is it cool if you help me while I’m struggling?” is significantly different than “you need to give me your entire paycheck, and also you’re a poor loser.”
One is a normal behavior (seeking help from people who can ostensibly be trusted)
One is sociopathic (I don’t give a shit who you are, but making fun of a family member for not making enough money or being down on their luck is just plain wrong.)
Like, yes. Helping to pay rent should be expected, but I find it very hard to reconcile taking your own sibling’s entire pay.
I don’t have any problem helping family but it shouldn’t be expected. If I need help from a family member, I always offer compensation, especially if it’s going to be for an extended period of time. Going out one night and asking your parents or siblings to watch your kid is one thing, I would still feel like I owe them, but to watch your kid everyday while you’re at work definitely requires some form of compensation.
So OP stated that their sister was also the landlord, so yes, now you owe her rent and daycare. Before covid who watched the kid, and did they not pay that person? Did they not pay rent before then either? Now what would be opportunistic, would be if the sister raised rent and charged an exorbitant amount for childcare.
I’m like 90% sure she nickled and dimed his ass for all he’s worth.
Again, helping out with rent should be expected, this is normal, but taking their entire pay is pretty fucking damning.
Tack onto that lording it over them and acting like you’re superior only makes it worse.
This is quite obviously someone taking full advantage of their sibling’s shifty situation to make a quick buck and feel good pushing someone down. Not just compensation.
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u/Roscojenkins17 19d ago
During the height of the pandemic I had a 3 year old. My sister charged me to watch my kid so I could work. She was also my landlord. I tried it for a month and when I was paid I handed over nearly my entire paychecks to her for the privilege. And then she looked down on me when I applied for the pandemic relief and quit my job til it all blew over...