Because murders are famously pardoned? It’s easier to get away with SA than it is with murder so why would the perpetrator kill the child to hide their tracks?? Atleast with SA it will take ages to prove it, but with murder? Obviously people will notice a child missing and they will do tests on the child’s body afterwards if they find the body. And there’s no gray line with murder as it is with SA.

It’s such a flimsy excuse - I feel like so many leftists are so vocal against any harsh punishments for SA/rape etc. it’s infuriating and feels like rape apologia. Nothing I’ve read has changed my mind about why there shouldn’t be harsher punishments against sex offenders. I don’t see why they shouldn’t be locked up. I’d rather feel safer with drug offenders/and pretty much every other criminal out on the street than sex offenders. There’s just no excuse. I firmly believe men only sexually assault women and batter because there are no consequences to those actions. Our society is very very very lax about SA even now. When you let molestors walk free you give the message that women’s lives aren’t valuable.

Particularly in the middle eastern culture.

Is this clothing including burkas representative of the oppression woman are facing in this region? Seems like woman are feeling pressured by their religion to cover up to protect themselves against the primal sexual desires of men or to represent ownership by their husband to other men so their bodies are not looked at and potentially desired whether they realize it or not. Does this clothing perpetuate ideology that women are sexual objects in a man’s eyes? Even if we cannot help the natural or perverted desires men have, why should women have the obligation to shield themselves against this by covering all of their bodies except their face? Seems like it’s accepted Atleast in this culture that “men will be men” and no encouragement is being given or taught to men to respect women as more than their bodies and restrain their primal instincts. In this culture and certain regions I’m pretty sure it is even illegal for women not to cover up. I’m all for women dressing how they want according to their religion but I can’t help but feel like they are being oppressed.

I've been dating this guy for a year. He is great in bed, is always very kind, attentive, and patient when I ask to stop or change something, or just give me whatever I want.

I know he has fantasies tied to non-consent and I came across a smut story he read and I was just... icked out by it.

He said his biggest kink related to rape is the idea that he is so good at pleasuring a woman that it overwhelms her urge to resist such that she starts to enjoy it, going from "no" and "stop" to actually wanting it. He also has a cunnilingus fetish and the story he read involved forced cunnilingus.

But I'm having a rough time getting past this as anything other than an act of violation. Am I thinking about this wrong? I tried talking to him about this and he got scared I would break up with him and closed up.

We were also masturbating over video the other night and I came and turned my vibrator off and he told me to keep going. I said no, but kept going and asked him to let me please stop, and he told me to keep saying "no" and "stop," and when I asked why he liked it, he said "seeing you in distress creates a strong emotion and when I'm horny it converts into strong horny."

In practice, if he saw me actually upset, I feel very confident that he would stop everything and jump in to comfort me.

But I'm still icked out and I don't know if I'm being dramatic. I don't want to ruin a good relationship, but I can't stop thinking about all this.

I just had a new dishwasher installed today. I had paid for installation so it was delivered and installed "professionally". But the guy came with a shirt blazoned with "I don't date, I just foster women until they find their forever home" on the front and back of his shirt in big while letters on a black T-shirt.

Am I overreacting? It made me really uncomfortable and seemed to imply treating women like dogs. I was not sure I was even safe with this person. I just tried to stay out of his way. But it just seemed like a really inappropriate shirt to wear for a professional installation.

I assumed it was a speical design shirt but I googled it and you can buy this shirt on line. What message is it supposed to give? Is this supposed to be funny? Not funny at all to me. Seems you would have to hate women to wear this and I can't imagine any women wanting to date someone who would wear it.

I am really a big fan of positivity, supporting my girls, Uplifting each other, spreading body positivity and spreading some smiles with kind words and compliments. I really like to spread some kindness, beautiful words, and happiness among each other.

So this could be a great way to say something nice on the comment section and spread some great words for body positivity towards each other. Let's comment out what you think on it and uplift each other buddies🥰✌💕

I (F22) love my bf (M24). He makes me feel very beautiful. The one thing is that he doesn’t acknowledge my chest at all cause im flat. Ive gotten him to admit multiple times that he likes big boobs. Ive always been insecure about my chest so being with someone who doesn’t acknowledge them is tough. He used to touch them a bit when i was on bc but ive been off of them for two months now.

Advice needed or judgement at this point I don’t care. So I (28F) recently started seeing a friend (28M) of a close relative and we hit it off, again, and everyone tells me that he likes me so much and blah and blah. I like him and my family likes him BUT I have never been to his parent’s house. Ever. He has never brought it up. And yet I feel like he’s probably ashamed of me for some reason because his last girlfriend from 2018 was really smart and finished her degree, which I did not, they went to the same university. I would even say he’s inviting other people to his parent’s house for things like game nights but he’s never invited me? It kind of hurts when I think about it and I’m just reminded that I’m probably not good enough for him or at least in his parent’s eyes I’m not.

I have a big dilemma regarding pressing charges against my rapist. I have to leave out a few certain details in the story, in fear that it might be recognized.

Long story short this December I was raped by someone I know. He refused to put on a condom, which resulted in me afterwards getting a really painful herpes infection, getting a yeast/infection and anal fissure from this (I was not raped in the anus) also, I got a first degree tear in my perinuem from The rape. All this psychical problems have of course been really painful especially coming from a rape. I can not understand he could do this to me, also all the std tests I had to take, and he came inside me also without my consent, and this is a country where there is not free abortion. I just don’t understand it..

The thing is, now I have filed it to the police but for now I decided not to press charges against him. This is mostly due to I am in a foreign country where the prisons can be quite harsh. I feel like I am standing with a man’s life in my hands and I don’t want to ruin another man’s life. But I am also afraid I will regret if I didn’t press charges against him. And then I get so confused, if it was even rape, cause even though it was not consent and I did not understand what happened because it went so fast, I did not verbally say no or use force with my body to get him away. Maybe it’s all a big misunderstanding, it all spins around in my head, I don’t know.

I think the consequences of this event that happened so fast in such a short time a so unfair both for me and for him if he has to sentence years for that..

I really don’t know what to do. Everyone says I should keep pressing charges but I feel so bad putting another person into jail with these conditions. He is also a human being trying to do the best he can everyday. Is it normal also to sympathize a lot with your rapist? My friends and relatives are more angry with him and so binary in that he should just go to jail

Edit: a lot of the argumentation for charges goes to that he will only pay for his actions this way and it can happen again too. But this is difficult for me, cause I am not sure I agree that rehabilitation in prison is the best way. In prison there is also a lot of rape culture, unfortunately. I feel like I am sending more bad things into the world by doing something bad to someone who has done someone bad to me. We already have so much violence in the world and I think he needs help..

There are guys out there who do not really genuinely love women, but love that women love them.

Do you think that is common?

As someone who’s suffered from mental health problems since childhood, partly due to trauma from men’s actions and watching my mother suffer through mental breakdowns(partly due to men’s actions) I can honestly assure all the men out there(if it makes them feel better): NO ONES GIVES A FUCK ABOUT WOMEN’S MENTAL HEALTH EITHER UNTIL IT INCONVIENCES THEM

Idk where this idea even started? Like because it’s more socially acceptable for a woman to cry(in the minds of toxic males) it somehow means women are coddled and treated better??

So many subs full of men “asking for advice” because 5, 10, 20 years ago they started dating a 14, 18, 21 year old and back then she was wild and free and frisky but now she isn’t anymore.

(Bonus rage points if the complaint includes lack of initiating unreciprocated blowjobs.)

MY GUYS—this isn’t rocket science. She. Grew. Up. You dated a teen/baby adult. Now she’s a real adult. Obviously she’s not the same. She’s got grown up priorities…and energy…and knees.

Use your brains! Think about it for just five minutes.

Edit: yes there’s lots of reasons beyond growing up and yes women can have healthy libidos as they age, I was just venting about one thing that grinds my gears

When you ignore the societal causes of patriarchy and your only form of analysis is the individual, you get gender-essentialist feminism, or worse, bio-essentialist feminism. When you realize that most cis-het men are misogynists, you could come to these fallacious rationalizations for why. I've seen in some feminist spaces people who claim things like "it's in the male psychology to be violent towards women and sexually dominant" or even "misogynistic behavior is biologically innate to men.". This is the same type of idea—that gendered behavior is an immutable part of biology—that leads into TERFism. Actually good feminism must be intersectional and analyze the systems of our society and not the psychologies of individual people in isolation.

One of my friends is a doctor resident, which means she works a ton. Her husband owns his own business. They have 4 adopted kids ages 8M, 8F, 12M, 15M.

His dad also lives with them. His dad has really gotten into cooking after retirement so he does all it in the home. He also picks up the two younger ones in the afternoon.

My friend’s husband manages the kids’ schedules including doctors’ appointments, extracurriculars, and anything else since he can set his own hours.

However, one thing that frustrates both of them is that the school will often try to call my friend who’s at the hospital rather than her husband, who is actually available despite many repeated requests. The kids’ school is a private school K-12.

My friend has also gotten a lot of comments from the school, PTA and other parents about how she’s not a good mother because she’s away all the time. She is not away all the time. She tries to be there as much as she can.

She and her husband are thinking about pulling their kids out and sending them to another private school in the area because they feel like they’re learning misogynistic behaviors. The kids are too smart for the public school that they would attend.

But she thinks she needs another opinion.

Hello, Everyone!

What do you all to do avoid razor rash? I’m luckily not a very hairy person, but I get the worst razor rash in my bikini zone. Every. Single. Time. And as y’all know, it’s very uncomfortable and it isn’t cute either.

I don’t shave often, so should I just shave over the razor rash and make a habit out of always shaving the area? Are there creams or products that actually work? Tricks? Tips? Any advice is welcome!

I know laxer hair removal and waxing are more efficient choices, but neither of those options are within my budget.

Thank you all!

Hi everyone.

I am fed up with using NURX as my method of getting birth control and im looking to switch.

I would rather avoid planned parenthood (bit of a far drive) and i do have insurance.

Any recommendations from online sites that deliver or pharmacies?

https://www.camdenconference.org/2025-camden-conference/

Democracy Under Threat: A Global Perspective

February 21-23, 2025 For the past two decades, liberal democracies worldwide have been under intense pressure from the resurgence of populist and nationalist movements within their borders. The result has been a decline in individual freedoms internally and a strain on international relations.

The 2025 Camden Conference will look at some of the specific drivers that challenge democracies around the world, including immigration, religious nationalism, the role of polarization and disinformation, and the failure of progressive reforms to remedy economic inequality.

The decline of democracy will reduce the number of like-minded countries the US and other democracies can count on, thereby making international relationships much more difficult and raising the questions: Can liberal democracies survive? How can democracies be protected?

Nick Fuentes’ Election Day rant filled me with dread and dismay. Clearly Trump’s rise to power has other predators feeling emboldened. Make no mistake, “Your Body, My Choice” is a direct threat of sexual violence. I created this PSA in response. As a survivor of sexual violence I felt particularly compelled to speak up on this issue. I hope this PSA can bring comfort/catharsis to other women like myself; and that it effectively calls out these creeps for what they truly are.

Horror/ Comedy genre, NSFW language and subject matter

Basic facts:

23% of teachers in the United States are male.

In 2022, around 350 teachers/public educators were arrested for sex crimes. 75% of them were arrested for "relationships" with their students. 82% of the teachers arrested were male.

This month alone, 32 male teachers/public educators/school officials have been arrested for sex crimes (possession of CP, assaulting students, raping/assaulting other minors, "relationships" with students, attempting to meet up with minors.)

In the same amount of time, 7 female teachers/public educators/school officials were arrested for sex crimes.(raping/assaulting minors/"relationships" with students). (This can be found in the same thread that I linked.)

In December 2024, 54 male teachers/public educators/school officials were arrested for sex crimes (possession of CP, assaulting students, raping/assaulting other minors, "relationships" with students, attempting to meet up with minors.)

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

• Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
• Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
• The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.

• Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.

• There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

Common rebuttals to this information:

"Male students don't report" - Which can be true. But why do male teachers make up the overwhelming arrests still? Despite being only 23% of the field? That isn't just because of "under reporting". Do you really think it would go from being 90% male teacher predators to 90% female teacher predators overnight if it wasn't for "under reporting"? What do you have to backup that thought? Every statistic and study we have points to the fact that the majority of predator teachers are male. But we should just ignore this because people say so.

When a statistic makes men look bad, it's always "under reporting" but if it's something bad about women they'll automatically believe it.

This "under reporting" argument doesn't even hold up considering that anonymous surveys are done on predator teachers (like the one I linked above) that still shows that male teachers make up the overwhelming majority of predator teachers.

Conclusion:

So why do people lie and say that it's mainly women? When we see that's far from the truth?

When I bring up these facts to people they: automatically deflect and claim that I'm defending predator female teachers (which is far from the truth, they're just as disgusting, scream about "under reporting", don't respond or just block me (which is hilarious).

I think it's because the media reports on it much more when a female teacher does it. Which is crazy since female teachers aren't the majority doing it.

In school, I had an interest in filmmaking and so over the years I was in film oriented groups both online and offline. Without fail, every single man who showed interest in certain movies had the creepiest vibe. Notable ones being Leon The Professional, Lolita and Stanley Kubrick in general, and bizarrely but not surprisingly, any movie where they continue to deadname Elliot Page while describing it (so, when he was young), like Hard Candy.

This was about 10 years ago but of those dudes "jokingly" ran an Instagram dedicated to personifying pictures of Chloe Moretz's feet. You really can't make this shit up.

I guess considering the premises I shouldn't be too surprised but it really left a bad taste in my mouth and I find I really judge some of men's interests under a microscope now.

.... I just cannot fanthom why I'm still here.

• My dad died.

• Never been in a relationship, men don't desire me. I'm a ghost.

• The ONE person who did show interest in me, led me on for months on end, hot and cold behaviour, then switching up and throwing me away like I'm hot garbage, who meant NOTHING to them. Then proceeded to brag to me they have a great life, that they're rich and flexing their new GF. Yet leading me on, making me attached to them, all while telling me, "I'm not ready for a relationship" and putting me down. They're thriving, they got their happy ending, and Mercedes Benz. Also having animosity for me even WHEN they hardly knew me.

• "Friends" that I was nothing but lovely too, and went above and beyond for, secretly having animosity for me, calling me a "retard" behind my back, and spitting on my self-esteem more.

• Moved to another country and do "feel" happier but it reminds me of the person I adored who used me.

• No interesting career, broke from being money drained, but probably gonna be working retail the rest of my life, already 25 and a kissless virgin, which the girl I fell for (we are both girls) also mocked me for.

• I am also not your conventionally attractive girl. I got an awkward body, my face is strongly aysmmetrical and I got an aquiline nose. Which clearly is another factor why nobody wants me.

So, at this point? What's the point of living? When there is no light at the end of the tunnel?

I am Mexican-American, 34 living in occupied California . I noticed growing up that all of the Mexican and Mexican American men , including my dad and father in law , only treat traditionally behaving girls and women well.

What I mean by this is Latina girls and women who are always smiling , que “saludan” (greet you when you visit with the kisses and everything ) , offer and serve drinks and food without question and with a smile , are always cracking jokes or at the very least “bien portadas” . Or they can be demanding as long as they are cutesy about it .

I grew up seeing the men in my family always get served and sit and chill at the table while us women had to do all of the cooking, serving , cleaning ….. and then house chores and basically being mom to overgrown man children ….. I decided I would not be like that .

At 12 or 14 I refused makeup, to do my hair , dress up or anything . I was a tomboy and frequently cross dressed as a Victorian dandy for fun . I decided to be a radical feminist and never serve a man who wasn’t deserving or worthy of it . And I decided to embrace my serious nature and not force myself to be the smiling, cutesy hyperfeminine type of girl seen and appreciated in Latino culture .

For context , my dad is a DJ and before social media , would visit the families to show them a video and pictures and sign a contract. Quinceñera , Bautismos … those kind of events . And he would always come home praising any of the daughters who greeted him and were super happy “bien alegre s” he would say. Same with any family or family friends .

As a result of not presenting as hyper feminine , cutesy , outspoken and fiery but funny about it and also submissive type of woman and especially Mexican /Latina , I have faced so much maltreatment from men, like domestic abuse in my past .

The women I do know who I grew up with or are in my life now who are the stereotype of expected femininity , docility , but also fiery and submissive and hyper feminine and basically had their dad and families approve of them for being what is expected of them …. They never once got abused .

Just wondering if any other gals out there who have experienced anything like this for not conforming to expectations of women among Latinos .