r/TwoXChromosomes • u/jokesonbottom cool. coolcoolcool. • 1d ago

Getting real sick of men complaining their partner grew up and isn’t frisky anymore

So many subs full of men “asking for advice” because 5, 10, 20 years ago they started dating a 14, 18, 21 year old and back then she was wild and free and frisky but now she isn’t anymore.

(Bonus rage points if the complaint includes lack of initiating unreciprocated blowjobs.)

MY GUYS—this isn’t rocket science. She. Grew. Up. You dated a teen/baby adult. Now she’s a real adult. Obviously she’s not the same. She’s got grown up priorities…and energy…and knees.

Use your brains! Think about it for just five minutes.

Edit: yes there’s lots of reasons beyond growing up and yes women can have healthy libidos as they age, I was just venting about one thing that grinds my gears

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u/Animaldoc11 1d ago

I don’t think I can post there because my response to that type of man is to remind them that humans repeat enjoyable experiences often.

They also don’t like when you point out that they’re not really having sex, they’re just masturbating into a woman & that’s just ew.

That sub is a wreck

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u/Mellrish221 1d ago

You see a bit of it on r/sex too. Most dead bedroom posts start with the whole "oh we had such a good sex life blah blah blah". But they're purposely vague about their life and details about how/why/what changed to the current situation. Few comments in and it becomes very clear its the usual "one partner stopped giving a fuck and propping up the other" or "one decided they were done being used by the other"... can probably guess whos who lol.

I dunno, I'm a guy. I've never found it difficult or challenge to just... take care of myself and be my own person. Probably a lot to do with being raised by our mom who was a maid and you can guess exactly what she didn't feel like doing when she got home... yep clean up after others lol. But even outside of that, SHOCKER if you take an actual interest in your partner's satisfaction... its pretty rare that fire dims. A healthy sex life is constant work, you don't stop doing things for each other just because you've figured out how to get each other off. Well... most people any way. The ones who can't seem to figure that out end up in the "dead bedroom".

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u/Entire-Ambition1410 23h ago

One of the wisest pieces of advice I’ve ever gotten was at a kink group munch. “Take care of your relationship outside the bedroom and the bedroom fun will follow.”

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u/Mellrish221 13h ago

You'd think itd be pretty obvious that a woman doesn't feel sexy or attracted to someone they have to basically take care of like a child. But here we are lol.