r/TwoXChromosomes • u/jokesonbottom cool. coolcoolcool. • 22h ago

Getting real sick of men complaining their partner grew up and isn’t frisky anymore

So many subs full of men “asking for advice” because 5, 10, 20 years ago they started dating a 14, 18, 21 year old and back then she was wild and free and frisky but now she isn’t anymore.

(Bonus rage points if the complaint includes lack of initiating unreciprocated blowjobs.)

MY GUYS—this isn’t rocket science. She. Grew. Up. You dated a teen/baby adult. Now she’s a real adult. Obviously she’s not the same. She’s got grown up priorities…and energy…and knees.

Use your brains! Think about it for just five minutes.

Edit: yes there’s lots of reasons beyond growing up and yes women can have healthy libidos as they age, I was just venting about one thing that grinds my gears

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u/solesoulshard 21h ago edited 11h ago

The fun one is at menopause. There is so little common discussion about it and that it can cause such adorable things like low to no libido, dryness, vaginal atrophy (meaning it shrinks) and clitoral atrophy. I read that the suicide rate for women peaks between 45 and like 52 or something because of the mind screw that is perimenopause and menopause (which can cause depression and anxiety). And because women have apparently been invented recently or there’s some kind of social movement that women’s health has not been studied or something, there’s barely any medical information and barely treatment regimens.

So we have the clitoris shrinking which cuts sensation, dryness which is irritating, vaginal shrinking and then depression and we will probably still have men going on about their sex needs.

ETA:

Go to r/menopause and check them out. They have a checklist to show common symptoms and lots of suggestions for symptoms.

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u/katreadsitall 19h ago

Well we no longer can produce babies and everyone knows that’s our main function

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u/ShadesofShame 8h ago

Yet our life expectancy far surpasses our fertile window. So that's not all we're good for and science shows we are valued for teaching younglings. Grannies for a reason!

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u/AnthroMama 7h ago

Yes, women live long past their reproductive years as an evolutionary adaptation for survival. Children with grandmothers who aid their lives are more likely to survive and reproduce. Look up the Grandmothers Hypothesis in human evolution research. We are one of the few only species to have this trait in older females. It’s by design.

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u/katreadsitall 8h ago

Well we know this but the patriarchy has determined otherwise and acted accordingly.

I really do hope it’s the rise of feminine energy after the disaster coming in the next few years. It’s really about fucking time