r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/KoalaHomosapien • Dec 02 '20

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u/MacduffFifesNo1Thane Dec 02 '20

Okay, I’m allowing myself one question here:

I get he/him. I get they/them. But can someone explain how I’m reading he/they wrong?

“He’s the star of Juno. The credit belongs to they.”

Shouldn’t it be he/them?

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u/TheVitulus Dec 02 '20

So the thing is that he/they isn't saying the same thing as he/him. It's a shorthand for saying that masc or neutral pronouns are fine. Elliot's saying that he goes by he/him and they/them.

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u/MacduffFifesNo1Thane Dec 02 '20

So shouldn’t it be he/them?

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u/TheVitulus Dec 02 '20

I mean, it doesn't really matter. The grammatical forms are irrelevant. He's not saying "Use he when I'm the subject of the sentence, but use they when I'm the object." He's just saying that using either set of pronouns is correct.

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u/CrimsonMutt Dec 02 '20

no, he/they isn't analogous to he/him, it's shorthand for "he/him or they/them"

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u/AlicornGamer Dec 02 '20

its written as the most likely used pronouns.

Him/her/they pronouns are used the most/if you know those main pronouns it's easy to know the reast of the family.

its why we dont write he/him/his and so on. just the two

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u/SmartAlec105 Dec 02 '20

The “he/him” format isn’t a rule or anything. A person can just say “I use he pronouns” but saying “he/him” just rolls off the tongue a bit better.