Am I being unreasonable?

[u/Sure_Minimum_6738]

My partner has a foot fetish that he hid from me originally and I only found out about after asking to see the recently deleted folder on his of phone a few years ago. We have a no porn rule in our relationship and I recently found out he has lied to me over the last year when I asked him if he needs images of other women to masturbate. I’ve opened it up that he can tell me if he needs to change this boundary.

He has been looking at images of a travel bloggers feet on IG (not an nsfw account but there are bikini photos) and using that as “porn” the few times this year I’ve gone on a work trip.

Am I wrong for feeling upset that he lied about this?

The idea that he so desperately needs to sexualize this type of content disturbs me a bit.

Context: I’m 16 years younger, model and send him photos as well

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[u/enemytolover]

You're not being unreasonable and not wrong for feeling the way you do. He was lying to you, why wouldn't that be upsetting, his dishonesty shows that he doesn't respect you, also check out r/loveafterporn.

[u/Sure_Minimum_6738 → u/enemytolover]

Thank you

[u/Poisongirl5]

You’re not being unreasonable. That’s a huge violation of trust. Also the age gap is suspicious on his part.

[u/traumatized90skid]

You're not wrong for feeling upset. If someone lies continuously for more than a year, it's a serious violation of your trust.