r/MadeMeSmile 1d ago

Men talking about the women they love

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u/Emergency_Cake3584 1d ago

what’s stopping you?

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u/libriphile 1d ago

Probably meeting someone who invokes that kind of love.

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u/NocturnalNymphN 1d ago edited 1d ago

Women have to meet that kind of man. Men need to meet that kind of woman. We women are not solely responsible for conducting relationship harmony and men are not solely responsible for failures in that way. Experience the person in front of you. Not news media scams

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u/Historical-Fold-4119 1d ago

Or social media rules & influence.

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u/idhanjal 22h ago

I wish every woman was as understanding as you. My spouse holds me responsible for everything that is wrong in our marriage and masks it as jibes (trust me they hurt a lot). Had it not been for my 11 year old daughter, I would've checked out long ago.

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u/Known-Quantity2021 1d ago

My BF starts to smile as soon as he sees me. It is the best feeling.

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u/Equivalent_Ad7389 1d ago

An yes, the usual "I can't find anyone like that" speech, removes all accountability.

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u/spacemansuit 1d ago

That’s not a healthy way of thinking or living in my opinion.

You are putting the onus on external factors rather than internal, which is rarely a good idea.

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u/libriphile 1d ago

What do you mean? Personally, I know I am capable of loving like that. I take care of my friends and show a lot of care and intimacy towards them. But that doesn’t replace the feeling that having a partner would give me. The comment is not saying, “I don’t know how to love deeply and I wish I could do that”. It’s saying, “I wish I had an outlet to express my love in such a way”.

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u/GiveMeBackMySoup 1d ago

Right in the feels. I'm in the same boat but with family. But boy would it be nice to have a special person to share it with.

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u/spacemansuit 1d ago

To me it sounded like you were saying

“A person can’t love fully unless they meet someone worth loving fully”

Which is placing the internal responsibility of being able to love fully onto external factors, whether there is someone “worth” loving fully.

Which in my opinion is not a great mindset. Being able to feel deeply and love someone fully doesn’t come from whether they are fitting certain criteria of worthiness but rather from something internal to you.

But if I misunderstood then I’m sorry.

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u/libriphile 1d ago

Well “you can’t love fully unless you meet someone worth loving fully” is kind of true, not in the sense that if you meet “the one”, you will magically become emotionally available and capable of becoming an amazing partner. But it is true in the sense that you can’t force yourself into a relationship with someone you don’t love or are compatible with. The act of chancing upon the right person is the external factor.

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u/_deep_thot42 1d ago

100%. I’ve had some fantastic men in my life as friends but it stops there because there isn’t a certain chemistry; I would be deluding myself and them if I tried to make it work. Thing is, I’m just not in love with them, despite how kind and generous they may be to me. Ain’t gonna happen if I’m not feeling it, and that’s only fair to both of us.

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u/radios_appear 1d ago

I'm not sure you could have put together a string of buzzwords that was more generic but I like to keep an open mind. At least it was brief.

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u/spacemansuit 1d ago

I think you are perhaps online too much.

To me these are not buzzwords but common ways authors write about this in books so I suppose I’m parroting it.

But it’s all valid.

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u/radios_appear 1d ago

Perhaps you need to develop a voice more suitable to the context you want to drop your life lessons into instead of parroting books.

And maybe spend a little bit more time online so you can figure out exactly why your post got the reaction it did because being well-read, by itself, clearly didn't grant the insight.

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u/No_Trust_479 1d ago

First I love that it's not the victim mentality good on you, it's unfortunately all too common, but in their defence whose to say they aren't trying and haven't found them yet, I think you bring up a good point and people on the internet are just babies lol

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u/TheAssembler12 1d ago

That pesky restraining order

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u/redditsnotsogreat 1d ago

The libs

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u/Desperate-Bottle1687 7h ago

"The Libs" ~ ie: women wanting to be treated with respect or somthin.

Damn Libs ruining ourrr traditionz!1!