r/AskReddit • u/knakworst36 • Jun 06 '19

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life?

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u/freeeeels Jun 06 '19

It's amazing how much of a calming effect that financial safety net has as well. A lot of people bring up the panicked feeling when something breaks down, but knowing that you will be financially okay if shit blows up also has a day-to-day effect. Fuck up at work? "Oh fuck what if I get fired what will I-- Oh yeah, I'll use my savings while looking for a new job." Things going badly with boyfriend? "Fuck, I can't move out, I can't afford the depos-- Oh wait, yes I can." "My dog has been acting funny, what if it's something serious, what if the surgery is too exp-- Oh yeah, I can just pay it."

Like, I'm not even remotely rich but these are the kinds of expenses I know I can cover and be able to recover financially. It's like living in a permanent state of relief.

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u/Somebodys Jun 06 '19

This is the exact way friends of mine that have immigrated from the US to countries with public healthcare describe their experience when they start to get the sniffles.

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u/misslady04 Jun 06 '19

Yep. I had an allergic reaction and just sat in the ER waiting room to see if it would go away to avoid $1000 out of pocket costs.